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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:49:12 AM | Sometimes you can puch past it and put it behing you, but you'll never have the same trust for them again.
The part that really sucks is it will be very difficult to truely trust anyone in a relationship again. Not impossible but difficult because you'll always carry the betrayal with you, even when you switch partners. It's a hard thing to let go. Just my personal take. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/20/2007 10:04:21 AM | | i think it depends on the person . some people cheat cause they are unhappy in the relationships and end up cheating to have some fun back in there life, and than you get people who cheat just for the sex, men can have one nigth stands and it means totatly nothing to them ,because they dont view sex and love as the same thing. alot of woman do. when woman cheat it is more about feeling than sex. just cause you cheated once does not mean you will always cheat,i think if some one is to cheat on you ,you have to ask yourslf what made the person do it in the first place,and how could i not of seen it coming? | |
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AJ2273
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Joined: 3/14/2007
Msg: 358 | |
| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/20/2007 10:18:45 AM | | Not at all. If they leave you and say it is for their own time then a week later hook up with someone that is not as bad, but you still know where you stand with that person and even still then I could not trust that person after knowing that. What do you all think? Agree? Or no? | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:15:31 AM | I strongly believe, that once the trust has been broken, it never can be returned...
My Ex cheated on myself, more times than I've changed my socks q=o)
I forgave, forgave, and forgave, got to the end when all she got, was my middle finger.
If someone loves you so, then why would they feel a need to cheat?
Some would classify it as a mistake, sorry, I'd have to disagree... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:23:30 AM | NOPE. I made that mistake once, then again.. NOPE. lol..
Old line I heard from Scotty on StarTrek (hey- I see your rolling your eyes!!)
Trick me once.. shame on you.
Trick me twice... shame on me!
Live long and prosper!!
(the proceding was a joke.. no im not that much of a treky)  | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:50:42 AM | | I can't deal with cheating unless I don't know about it. Everyone thats ever cheated on me I've kicked to the curb. I also don't cheat. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/31/2007 2:33:29 PM | Sure you can, but first you need to hack them up into little pieces, but them in a strong hefty garbage bag, and toss them in the trash. If not, NO! they can't be trusted.
And please don't try that at home. | |
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jdctx
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Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 365 | |
| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/31/2007 2:36:41 PM | | Its a faint posibility that I could forgive and work it through, but it would be imposible to ever trust that person the same again as before.. I would be more keen to the signs | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 3/31/2007 3:13:35 PM |
i think it depends on the person . some people cheat cause they are unhappy in the relationships and end up cheating to have some fun back in there life, and than you get people who cheat just for the sex, men can have one nigth stands and it means totatly nothing to them ,because they dont view sex and love as the same thing. alot of woman do. when woman cheat it is more about feeling than sex. just cause you cheated once does not mean you will always cheat,i think if some one is to cheat on you ,you have to ask yourslf what made the person do it in the first place,and how could i not of seen it coming?
Thats one messed up double standard. Stereotyping is so wrong  | |
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| Of course you can
Posted: 3/31/2007 5:49:03 PM | Just understand the difference between your TRUSTING them, and their being TRUSTWORTHY.
One doesn't guarantee the other. What trusting does guarantee, is your allowing them to prove you wrong. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 4/16/2007 3:21:23 AM | | Every case is different. For 99.9% of people once trust is lost like that, getting it back is like trying to put the toothpaste back in the tube. But another side of the issue is understanding the motives of the cheater. There are infinite possibilities. Like how about where two people are in a long term relationship and the woman begins feeling like she's some kind of "friend with privileges" to her partner who is unable to make the kind of total committment the woman wants to have? What if his continued behavior of taking her for granted makes her feel unloved and deeply hurt. What if the only way to stop feeling her emotional pain of being unloved by him is to stop loving him and pull the plug on her emotional connection to him. Maybe cheating is the only way she can do that. Just saying.... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 4/16/2007 4:15:20 AM | When I was married, I did forgive my spouse. Unfortunately, he did cheat again. My parents told me "the first time - "shame on HIM", the second time - "shame on YOU". Even so, I don't regret forgiving.
However, that being said, I would not have enough invested with a boyfriend that I would forgive him.
Also - try not to judge someone who forgives or doesn't forgive. There is no right answer. It's not easy to decide what is best for ourselves and our families. Everyone does the best they can. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 4/16/2007 8:44:08 AM | your cheating heart
will make you weep
youll fool around
and no one keep
but sleep wont come
cause your consciences hurts
dont be a tramp
or a dude that flirts. | |
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