| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/1/2007 8:27:45 AM | | i must say i have cheated in the past and am now with the fella i cheated on my ex with. i always asked him how he cud trust me knowing that i'd cheated in the past and he said he just cud. people do change u know but i wudnt take someone bak if they cheated on me, even though i am a very weak person wen it comes to that kind of stuff xx | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/1/2007 8:37:06 AM | Been cheated on ...but we didnt break up for that reason
Been accused of cheating ... it felt 100's worse than being cheated on
I lost the best thing in my life for something i had no control over | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/1/2007 9:04:36 AM | | once a cheater always a cheat no matter what you do. it is like the old saying if you act like a dog then expect to get flea.but sooner or later you will get tried of being treating like you are missing out on life when the other is cheating. why should someone have there cake and cookies plus the milk too. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/1/2007 1:20:57 PM | I don't know if "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true. Nor do I want to find out. So I would likely leave a cheater.
For me, the deception is worse than them having sex with someone else.
Maybe the cheater would never cheat again. That's great. I am sure their next partner would appreciate it.
As a side note, cheating is primarily caused by problems in the marriage. Psychologists can predict with 100% accuracy which couples will have problems with cheating and which ones won't.
Also, in my opinion, there are times when cheating is understandable. If you cut your partner off of sex for months or years or decades and they cheat, can you blame them? | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/1/2007 1:50:59 PM |
can you trust some one once they cheat?
Trust is a precious thing, once broken it can never be reforged to what it once was.
I would say no. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:07:42 AM | | Some things are just deal breakers, and for me this is one of them. I don't think I'd have any second chances for a cheater. I think it's something that once you do it, you'll do it again. And I also figure that by the time you get caught, you've been doing it for awhile. I'd rather be by myself than with someone I don't trust. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:18:06 AM | How could you possibly look at a cheater in the same way? It wll always be in the back of your mind what he/she did. If they were selfish enough to betray you the first (or second or third) time, they'll be selfish enough to do it again. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:20:34 AM | | no all you are doing is giving them a passport to cheat cus there know there can get away with it m ex cheated on me i gave him another chance he did it again | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:24:08 AM | | when my ex cheated on me, he was constantly denying it, reversing the blame back on me, making me to be the foolish and insecure one...but my instincts were telling me otherwise...so when i eventually caught him out red handed, he put on the crocodile tears and played the victim...but there was no way in hell i could forgive him...but i remember thinking what hurt more was the lying and deception,not that i would have forgiven him if he had admitted it from the beginning, but it would have definately made it a less painful break up...not trusting your inner voice when you are blatantly being lied to, i think is more far more damaging than someone admitting to you that they cheated... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/14/2007 6:20:20 AM | | Cutting your partner off from sex is not an ok to cheat. You need to find out what is going on. If it is not repairable, why stay in a sexless relationship? My ex cut me off for about 5 years( "I'm too tired, I'm just not interested right now"). I stayed because I thought that after 18 years and 3 kids that it might be worth the effort to salvage the marriage. Funny thing, he was cheating on me. After I found that out, he was out the door. He is someone else's problem now and I have never been happier. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/16/2007 5:47:53 PM | | you can if you're into emotional pain. The best way I can say it is can a lleopard change his spots. But if you want them that much you'll rationalize that you can follow your heart see where it leads you | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/16/2007 9:01:33 PM | | I've always heard once a cheater,always a cheater,my ex is one,but there is something called forgiveness.And life moves on,I'm too old for cheaters.It depends on the person involved,did they tell you,or did you catch them.... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/20/2007 5:46:16 PM | | One never knows the relationship of the people posting on this site (woman who slept with a married man, child of a divorced couple whose marriage was broken up by adultery, and so on). Adultery leaves many victims! (wives, husbands. children, and others). I sometimes wonder when I read some of these posts if people who broke up another person's family might be on the same thread as the adult children of the family they broke up with their cheating. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:17:09 AM | | I totally agree with you....I just dont think that you can trust someone if they have cheated on you...Reason or not....Trust is something you earn over time....It has to be earnt, not just given.....X | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 10/2/2007 11:33:47 AM | | NO WAY ... history tends to repeat itself. I don't do second chances when it comes to cheating so I won't be around to find out if he changes his ways anyway. His loss .. cheaters never win! | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 10/2/2007 11:54:57 AM |
caringwithhumor
A real simple answer......NO!!!!! The old saying.....Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I second that & will add, "Those Who Don't Remember The Past, Are Condemned To Repeat It..." | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:58:54 PM | | If they cheat, no matter the circumstances-they have no respect for you or your relationship--if you forgive them, its telling that person no matter what you do, or how often, they can do whatever without the real threat of losing you--that is emotional abuse--I separated from my now exhusband-because of his drinking problem-didn't know about the affair that had been going on-actually his MOM told me--next day I was in the attny office-never looked back-explanations or excuses did not matter---DONE ! | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 10/27/2007 9:27:53 PM | of course they only did a very deliberate and trust breaking thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
u will never loolka t them the same.
actually theres variables
what the cheating meatn, what cheating means to you, their intent, if they will knowingly cheat again, if its not a big deal, its how u deal with it, and u cant use it against them if they did but it can be awfully mean rude and disgusting and the sad thing is so many ppl get away with it not that u shouldnt have ur fun or attraction etc. but non cheaters with cheaters is like they should be separated yaknow, thats the problem the dating world is so free and intermeshed nothing gets done. well should i finish my online exploitation yet? | |
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