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Posted: 6/3/2005 3:32:27 PM | I dont agreed with you people..
Without knowing a circumstances of cheating, you could not blame a guy...
Saying that Once a cheater is always a cheater is not true...... If this really in meaning for you than we all are cheater.
cause every one gambles although if you lose it does not mean that you are cheater.
Think of Paul Martin. He did something wrong in Scholarship case but he still deserves a chance. similarly in our life.
We have to be flexible. and we should give a second chance.  | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 3:34:18 PM | Here are some interesting statistics to ponder:
85% of WOMEN who feel they have a cheating spouse ARE correct.
50% of MEN who feel they have a cheating spouse ARE correct.
70% of MARRIED WOMEN do not know about their spouses' affair.
54% of MARRIED MEN do not know about their spouses' affair. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 3:34:26 PM | awaiting I can't speak from experience because I've never been cheated on that I'm aware of. That was never a problem in any of my relationships. I was with an abusive husband and believe me, men were the last thing on my mind after our divorce. I wanted time to just enjoy being free from the prison of being dominated, and get in touch with who I was again and rebuild trust in myself. WHen you're with someone who is constantly demeaning and treating you like a sack of garbage, well you have some personal recovery ahead. You don't intellectually believe it, but it still undermines your self worth.
I don't date anyone who's coming out of any semi serious relationship unless it's been a few years. I enjoyed that time spent alone (well with children around!) but with no man in my life. I didn't accept the first date until I felt like a whole, confident and happy woman again, I wouldn't do that to any man. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 3:35:52 PM | | i agree with you georgie. if i had it to do over again i would have walked too. everything i put up with that 12 years wasn't worth it. like they say, live and learn. that's why i would never give another person a second chance. i can forgive anyone, but it would definitely be over. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 3:44:17 PM | its great watching them try to change though... I think they start believing their own lies :) :)
but ladies - not all men are like that and you should not for a minute think that :) - Give someone all your trust and when they betray it take it away as quickly as you gave it..... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 3:53:29 PM | | that might be the first question out of my mouth when i meet someone than..... "were you cheated on before?" lol cuz I don't care for the baggage and the vented up issues along with it that alot of people still have...dang | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 5:22:47 PM | so it means althose guys who have cheated are bad...........
no matter what ever the circumstances are..........
I wish, You would say the same thing when you are about to hang..........
Have you ever got a situation in your relation ship where you are suppose to hide something to save your relation.....
some thing that you have done it accidently or non intentional.....
I would still say you have to give a second chance.........
Cause when you love some one. It means that love is everthing ...... | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 6/3/2005 5:32:08 PM | | h&h there is no excuse for cheating. once you break the bond of trust, there is no coming back. if you truly loved someone, you would never have cheated on them in the first place. i know it may have been a mistake, but it will be one that you will carry for the rest of your life. love is forgiving, but they never forget. look at the pain they went through when they found out. shattered their hopes and dreams. there are no second chances for that. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 5:40:29 PM | But How about that guy who was just trying to be nice. Trying to do love....
and He just screwed up cause of one wrong turn............
And I dont think so that he would have to live his rest of his life with this embarrasment that he made a wrong turn.........
He should be given a chance to prove his loyality.
Think the same if you committe a sin and God say that there would be no mercy would you still believe the Jesus and other prophets.......
C'mon....... Admitt it that we have to give them a second chance, yeah I do agree that there would not be a Third chance for them.
But Still They have a second chance........ | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 5:55:56 PM | | heart You gotta be kidding me, right? A mistake is answering true on a test when the answer was false. A mistake is giving back the wrong change if you're a cashier. A wrong turn, you would have the bold faced audacity to say that sleeping with a woman to give her "love" (translated into your language meaning your equipment) when you've committed yourself to someone else a wrong turn? What an insult to humanity. Noone deserves a second chance to commit a thoughtless and selfish act for not controlling his groin and thinking with the smaller brain. People who mess around when they're committed are totally deserving of all the shame and scorn that comes their way. Prove your loyalty? What loyalty, when you've just given obvious proof that loyalty isn't in your vocabulary. You know what it means, can read it from a dictionary but can't live it. And don't even mention God and Jesus, are you reading a bible that you wrote? Noone deserves a second chance to betray a commitment and destroy a viable relationship. If you have that little respect for another human that you feel anyone would deserve or be "due" or "owed" a second chance, then this obviously has not been done to you, OR the other more probable option is that you're probably a serial cheater, that crawls back to a scorned woman demanding a second chance and probably begging for a third. You've just marked yourself in this forum as one of the men that screws up the chance for a real loving man to be able to trust a real loving woman. In other words, you're the reason that women don't trust men. A serial cheater. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 5:58:27 PM | | Hey heart and hero...sorry I just had to go PUKE, why not think not rethink your nice to something more appropriate. I have a few suggestions.... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 6:04:18 PM | buscgirl
I never thought that some one would start blaming me as a cheater.........
I never got a chance to cheat or may be i never felt a need to cheat...
But i had given a second chance to many people who have cheated me...
And I have found 85% better results from them
I am an engineer and study a nature that exist around us.
we engineers believe strongly "Every Action has its Re-Action"
You girls are right till you have a re-action to the cheater. But if Cheaters Action is for Condolence I think you should Give him a Second Chance as an Re-Action.. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 6/3/2005 6:14:07 PM |
ha, In my 'study' I have found the ones who are adamentally against cheating, are the ones that do it the most.
I would say that I am agreeing with you at certain level but still there is uncertainity
what was I trying to Tell these girls that We humans make mistakes, sometimes these mistakes are termed as Cheating; We have to have a circumstances on behalf of which a cheating was committed.
And I personally studied a research of criminalogy which states
" That Crime/ Terror exist in our society because we never give criminals a second chance excluding some cricitical circumstances which are the reasons for being a crime"
This behaviour of Woman mostly create a psychological draw backs for some humans and become more dangerous then one can expect to be.. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 6:24:56 PM | heart If I in any way, read you wrong, I own my own actions and whatever I post. Committment in whatever form marriage, exclusive relationship, but any type of understood verbalized commitment involves trust of the most personal nature. I never cheated on a boyfriend, much less my husband. For me it's a matter of sacrificing my self respect and there's no man or any situation that I would give that up for. I have been 100% faithful in any committed relationship I've ever been involved with and always will be. Whether the relationship is going well or not, doesn't matter. When we're both unhappy and either one is considering whether or not to call an end, during that time, I'm as vulnerable as anyone, never said I wasn't human, been tempted? Well yes. Duh. But temptation only gives way to action if you dwell on it, and if I don't respect myself the other person who I at one time had some deep feelings for, I can put that aside and take the time to make a decision not born out of the heat of the moment, I avoid situations where I would subject myself to more blatant temptation, I am responsible for what I do. The thing is that you don't jump out of a serious involved relationship before all that is taken care of wrapped up and put behind you and you have a chance to think and learn.
Maybe I just spend too much time thinking, if so then I'm guilty. I don't make important decisions that affect my life, much less OTHER people's lives in haste. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 6/3/2005 6:47:36 PM | | I could not trust them at all.because once they cheat Im going to think everytime they leave the house or go out that they are cheating.once you cheat you break the trust.I dont get how some people cheat and then they start crying and begging the person to take them back and forgive them.I dont cheat on the person so I expect them not to cheat on me either.thats just selfish and wrong.but some people have an excuse about everything so oh well.but in my book its wrong. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2005 7:00:56 PM | | It's very simple. I work with engineers. Quit BSing it's as simple as this, if you can't keep track of your own pecker, and know where it is and what it's doing at all times...you're looking guilty as sin by protesting too much. If you can't control the little guy, he WILL control you. | |
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