Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 176 | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 7/14/2005 9:35:37 PM | Unless you both agree to have an open relationship, but I've never seen one of those work out.
Funny! I loved the look on my ex's face when I suggested that. It was a mix between a full-fledged faceplant and a 'I just ate fried worms' look.....
What's good for the goose...and all that jazz.
To answer the OP...hell no. A liar is a liar and a sneak is a sneak. There are very few things I'm black & white thinking on in life - this is one of those.
If you cheat, you'd better be sure to know, in the back of that little brain of yours, that I'm out there looking. I've got one foot out the door in that relationship even though I may act like nothing happened. I'll ambush you the way you ambushed me and tore my heart apart - and that's a promise. Only, I'll not only screw around, I'll screw around and leave you for him (and then some)....
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 7/14/2005 11:42:32 PM | Simple answer is NO.
Honest answer is it depends on the circumstances.
If, for example it was impossible for us to get together for a period of months, she got together with someone but didn't carry on a relationship with him....if she was honest and upfront with me after the fact, I probably could accept it and move on but only if I was totally in love with her.
If she went out and CHOSE to be with another man, if she went for one of my friends, if she fuc ked some "friend" of hers or a guy at work....I could potentially go on a killing spree - she'd be fine but I'd make her watch.
If I can't be there for her, it seems cruel to make her suffer and the same would go for me too, but to betray our love by having another relationship would drive me out of my mind. I don't understand the whole cheater's mindset....if I don't want to stay, I walk away. I really dont' get it?
I had a longterm gf ask me if I would consider it cheating if she had a female lover, I told her no, I can't give you what a woman can, I'm not cool with you having relationships with these women and I would really like it if you brought them home with you!!! It was just a hypothetical question though....damn! | |
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wh33t
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Joined: 7/10/2005
Msg: 180 | |
| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:43:59 AM | Can you trust someone once they cheat? I dont think its a question of can you, but should you? A person who is cheating can be the biggest ***hole, or he could actually be a nice guy who just became really confused about shit. A tough dip in a relationship, loneliness, plus some alcohol or a bad fight or something can always cause people to do things they regret. We all have moments in life where we get tested by things and we fail to pass to it. So I think instead of wondering if you can trust your partner again you should wonder if you should. That person cheated for a reason, find out what the reason is together and find out if your both still wanting to be with each other... maybe the attraction is gone, maybe some attention isn't being given or something, maybe you two are falling out etc...
You gotta give that person at least one chance to correct their mistake if you think there is something worth saving.
Unless of course they do it over and over again, in which case I'd say you probably say you'd be pretty dumb to take them back over and over and over again. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 7/15/2005 12:09:02 PM | Well..I looked back and my reply was gone.
Geeze.....after "trying" to read this one....I can see why. You make no sense at all. You obviously did not "do the homework."
Oh..that was @sparrow. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 7/15/2005 1:55:58 PM | Well This one gurl cheated on me, and wanted me back after she got tired with the other guy, but i lost a great amount of trust in her, and once u lose my trust it's pretty hard to get it back, however we are friends at that, i just can't picture me and her going back out. and as clechay as this sounds, " they do it once, it will happen again": so my words to you don't stick around waiting to get hurt, you can do a lot better. There's plenty of fish and i ocean not the sea and one day you will catch a keeper. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/11/2005 11:40:13 AM | Not once they've cheated on "me"...but the more complex situation would be....if they had cheated in the past.....
I know the saying, "The best predictor of future behavior is that of past behavior"....BUT...
"I" have cheated in the past......and yet I've always been in relationships where that was never an option for me. Perhaps it has something to do with "growing up" a bit!
Once a cheater always a cheater? Maybe in some circumstances, but certainly not all! | |
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jjj00
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 189 | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/14/2005 12:20:36 AM | | In my opinion never trust a person who has cheated on you. Once he/she has cheated on you they have already proven they cannot be trusted nor are they able to contribute to a stable relationship, maybe he/she isn't even ready to be in one. If I ever got cheated on I would not stand for it, because cheating is definately wrong but I would also have too much self respect to allow someone who has hurt me so much to remain in my life. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/29/2005 12:10:42 PM | | Love is NOT like baseball-- 3 strikes and your out. I believe once a cheat always a cheat. Id always be wondering,,,,,and i wont live my life that way. | |
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sal999
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Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 194 | |
| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/29/2005 2:29:59 PM | | Hardly, you cannot trust anyone who has lied to you or cheated, and once trust is out of the relationship whats the point of staying | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 195 | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/29/2005 3:44:55 PM | | No way!!!! Once a cheater always a cheater...cant believe that people cheat, its funny too, they cheat thinking the grass is greener, or something and then come running back!!! Do you know why they do this???????? Because you let them, they see the tattoo on the forehead that says SUCKER, and they play on it......In my opinion, I would never take back anyone who cheats, if someone doesnt want to be with me, tell me, and move on, why hurt others by cheating..................Rob | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/29/2005 4:02:25 PM | no i think once a cheater always a cheater but it all depends on the person ive never cheated on anyone but have been cheated on and its not right but was able to work it out but it happened again so that all up to you but once a cheater always a cheater believe that | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 199 | |
| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/29/2005 4:06:20 PM | I don't buy into that entirely.
I've never cheated, but I have been cheated on. I do believe that some people can change. Just not with the person they cheated on, there's already been damage done, so what's to stop from completely screwing it up?
If you've been cheated on; leave them.
If you have cheated...think about what you lost for one night in the sac with someone you're not even with. Stupid. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 8/29/2005 4:10:48 PM | I dont get whats so hard to understand, they have cheated once, they will do it again..period
as for being sensitive, maybe a little, tired of people who just cant be honest..if they want to pursue other avenues, that is great!!! Whats wrong with telling the person you are with first....mmmm.....wouldnt that be the mature thing to do?? | |
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