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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:27:28 PM | No, Absolutely not.
I refer you to download "Orange Juice Jones - Walking in the Rain." for advice. This is an ideal way for a male to deal with this potential problem.  | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:33:06 PM | forgiveness is the ultimate sacrifice someone can give.
but if you cheated on me id put you out in a second.
i wouldnt want to make love to someone that could have brought an std into the house. and the trust? gone | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/4/2006 7:37:03 PM | Before anyone is kicked out and all the pain and heartache of a costly divorce ensues, it would be important to at least try to make a collective effort to determine the cause and attempt a cure, professionally or with the help of loved ones. The lessons learned from that experience will either strengthen the damaged relationship or provide valuable lessons for future relationships.
Also, if you need to judge, then judge to all commitments:
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/4/2006 9:47:28 PM | No.
Someone in this thread mentioned to work on the relationship.
I used to believe that way too.
I forgave a cheating husband, who swore it would never happen again.
Two women ended up pregnant by him while we were "working on our relationship."
He claims it was all just a mistake.
He's right. It was.
It was a huge mistake on my part to try and forgive and mend our relationship. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/4/2006 11:22:48 PM | | It depends on the person and the circumstances. Don't paint everybody the same. People are human. Forgiveness is divine. That said,it would be a long,hard road back to the point of trusting that person,but it can be done,depending on whether you love that person enough to try. Most people won't or don't. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/5/2006 12:18:48 AM | | In all honesty cheating in my eyes is the most unforgivable screw up someone can do to me in a realtionship. I just got out of a seven year realationship that I ended due to him cheating on me. I still love him with all my heart. I won't lie. I just can never see me trusting him again. If he was to walk in the door an hour late from work I would always have the thought in the back of my head he was with another female. That in it self would lead to severe issues in the realtionship. One of the most important cornerstones in a realtionship is trust. Once that cornerstone is removed the building is more than likely going to colapse sooner or later. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/18/2006 6:44:22 AM | | i can honestly say i never been able to trust anyone after i been cheated on so many times. i always ask myself why?what did i do worng? how this happen? | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/18/2006 6:59:50 AM | mmmmmmmmm I doubt it, my mother went through this with my father and she said although she was able to forgive him for his affair she could never forget and it would nag at her wondering where he was when he was late, if he still saw her on the side, that sort of thing.
And my mom is one of the most trusting souls I know, and a heck of a lot more trusting than I am , so I'm guessing that although I am fairly easy to forgive someone , I wouldn't put my faith/trust back in them again barring some serious counselling. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/18/2006 7:10:44 AM | | so at my age with the amount of girlfriends I have had, I cheated on a woman 4 months after my divorce, 1st time in my life now im a -------once a cheater always a cheater,,,,, give me a break. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/18/2006 7:36:19 AM | | I say no. if a person has let you know once time that your feelings do not matter, they will hurt you again. Try to remember even if you are willing to forgive, will you ever really forget? | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:22:00 PM | | Yes. Infidelity is often a wake-up call that something within the marriage isn't working. If I'd invested myself in a marriage, I'd try to get to the root of it. If it was a dating relationship, I'm not sure I'd stick around. Maybe, but I'd be far less tolerant. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/22/2006 9:18:26 AM | | Absolutely not, trust is a major thing in a relationship once it has been broken i honestly think you will never trust that person again. But that is only my opinion | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/23/2006 5:52:45 PM | | it depends on the circumstances. everyone's situation is different. you cannot ask such a vague question because no two people are alike. that's like saying everybody likes strawberries. | |
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| can you trust some one once they cheat?
Posted: 9/23/2006 6:26:55 PM | I personally could never trust somone that has broken the trust I had in them by cheating. I would forgive them though-so that I didn't waste any of my energy on it. I'd prefer to never have any contact with them again-but I'd forgive in order to move on.
I can possibly see how some ppl could trust again. If they are willing to make a concerted effort to forgive their partner. We can choose to hold a grudge-or we can choose to forgive. We can choose to trust-or choose to not trust. The cheating partner would need to really work at earning back that trust and being completely honest and faithful. They would have to really appreciate the fact that the person forgave them and is willing to work things out.
re msg 13 by OTB: You say there are worse things a person could do!? I am almost afraid to ask....but what would those be? | |
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