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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 12/21/2007 8:47:02 AM | Uglybetty:
So when did men decide that persuing us was all it should take to date us? Attraction seems to be a conveniently forgotten trait for a LOT of men. Perhaps more men should wait for a green light before proceeding.
That's working on the assumption that most men know what a green light looks like.
The truth is... most don't.
No one ever sat any of us down and explained how this attraction stuff works. We're pretty much expected to sink or swim, from a guy's perspective.... so quite a few of us just try to grab ahold of anything that looks like it will float, and hope for the best.
Personally, I'm not happy with leaving these things to random chance.... but I'm pretty sure most guys aren't aware they have an option. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 12/21/2007 9:31:40 AM |
That's working on the assumption that most men know what a green light looks like.
The truth is... most don't.
I keep forgetting about the subtle women. For men dealing with those I would say if it's not clear she's interested, she's probably not. Disclaimer - in my case there's no confusion about it. I throw off quite the green light (sometimes between uses it collects dust and I have to wipe it down, but I digress).
No one ever sat any of us down and explained how this attraction stuff works. We're pretty much expected to sink or swim, from a guy's perspective.... so quite a few of us just try to grab ahold of anything that looks like it will float, and hope for the best.
Personally, I'm not happy with leaving these things to random chance.... but I'm pretty sure most guys aren't aware they have an option.
I hear ya...yeah start with that, just don't pursue anything that looks vague or can't be clearly seen. If all men did that, women would learn thru trial by fire to step up the declarations of interest. | |
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Joined: 9/15/2007
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 12/21/2007 10:26:53 AM |
^^^ Not bad... for an accountant.  Nobody's perfect. *chuckle*
I'm not an accountant, no offense to my boss but I just couldn't wake up every day and be all excited to crunch numbers. I'm a bookkeeper/admin assistant, and if it wasn't for my Word/Excel programs, I'd probably kill myself. Ok maybe that was a bit much.
I have a radio/DJ background of 22 years, and I took this job because it's close to home, easy, good benefits, and relatively stress free (for now) and because in my market, radio doesn't really pay the bills (unless your a morning/afternoon jock or the syndication gods bless you). | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 12/21/2007 2:03:58 PM | That's working on the assumption that most men know what a green light looks like.
The truth is... most don't.
I really don’t think that’s case.
I think many men know exactly what a green light looks like but for some reason, that seems to elude me, jump the gun at the first sign of interest and sabotage any natural attraction that may have been present.
Think of it as premature infatuation. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 12/21/2007 2:16:11 PM | ~ use a bigger hook if you don't like what your catching.
I hate taking sharks off the line ~ little sharks ~ bout 3 to 4 footers
pain in the ass. ~
some nights the fishing can be just too good. ~dar | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 12/22/2007 12:55:18 PM | Yes, attraction should be mutual. The ones you let down and react like an azz are the ones that don't take to rejection very well.
Then it only confirms that not only are you not physically attracted to them, but their character leaves little to be desired.
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 3/10/2008 10:38:54 AM | Don't take anything he say's to heart Tali, he's obviously way off base. If he or anyone checks out your website, they can see that you've got quite a bit of the grey matter going for you. Very well done, and interesting. Great Newfie jokes btw. :)
oh, and you don't give yourself enough credit in one of your earlier posts, you are way past average in looks, don't sell yourself short. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 3/10/2008 10:54:11 AM |
I really don’t think that’s case.
I think many men know exactly what a green light looks like but for some reason, that seems to elude me, jump the gun at the first sign of interest and sabotage any natural attraction that may have been present.
Think of it as premature infatuation.
I actually agree with this... | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:20:31 AM | | In my case, it doesn't take much for me to be physically attracted to a woman, but women, however, really seem to be more into looks than guys are, at least...well, attracted to me personally...even the AVERAGE Looking ones. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:56:07 AM | There definitely has to be some sort of attraction on both ends; that's what accounts for people being friends instead of something more. It really depends on how important looks are to you. I'd say that the majority of people (if being honest with themselves) would say that they look for people they are attracted to AND have something in common with. Long story short, I agree that you have to be attracted to someone and vice versa. If you want the relationship to progress there has to be some kind of attraction on both ends.
I agree with other people in this thread that say that people usually get hurt by the rejection and that's why they throw around the "shallow" comment. I really sucks to have to tell people that you aren't attracted to them, but you're not going to force yourself to date someone because you don't want to offend them or upset them, right? I've had that problem before, I met someone online, we met in person and I just didn't feel attracted to them. I felt like I was hanging out with a girl friend even after 4 dates, so I told him we should just be friends and he was pretty upset. It happens to all of us; some of us just take it better than others. I always just figure that it's better I find out earlier then after I get any serious feelings involved----I don't want to force anyone to be with me if they don't want to. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:05:02 PM | | Just be PICKIER about who you agree to meet and go out with. You are a beautiful girl. I understand you want that SPARK, just like I do. Either it's there or it isn't...the ZA-ZA-ZOOM. Don't say yes so easily. Be very, very selective. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 3/11/2008 8:33:10 AM | true, it should go both ways! ive had guys told me i wasnt their type then he insulted my appearance! that shows he was shallow, he couldnt let me down nicely. there are ways to let someone down nicely without them using 'the shallow card' or the 'u think ur all that card.'
ive had guys that said really nasty things to me and i gave them my opinion about them! if all they were gonna do was insult, do u think i wanted to see them again or be friends with them? hell no! not with an attitude like that. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 4/9/2008 1:07:21 PM |  Yes attraction should be both ways but that depends on what you look for when it comes down to it. Everyone is attracted to others for all sorts of reasons. You have to get to know someone in person for who they are, a computer don't cut it. Getting out for drinks, a meal, movies or even a walk is a start. If that someone you are interested in isn't suitable as a friend than a lover is out of the question. Find that one that can make you smile just by thinking of them and take it from there. | |
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| attraction should go both ways.right????
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:40:35 PM | people can be so rude,
i think u are above average in your looks department..and ithink it should be both ways, just thought id give my piece. | |
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