| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:19:19 PM | I ain't doing so with total strangers.. tell you that right now. Beyond that.. no problems at all.
so its not always guys on the look out for sex or "easy" women, maybe there are a few of you ladies out there looking for " easy" men !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or stupid ones !!!!!!!!
Pfff.. the stupid one's require too much work. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/10/2007 6:22:21 PM | | Sing it loud brother. I'm in the same boat you are. I like when they say they want to meet all kinds of great and wonderful people, yet out of those great and wonderful people, they will pick the hottest of the bunch to socialize with. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/10/2007 6:31:35 PM | Those women be the same as guys who confuse women on here(if that makes sense to ya). I have a retarded amount of wants on my profile so guys get the hint what I don't want.  Witch is a lot I won't put up with. But eh oh well at least if I ever do get a message(I be amazed if I do) they will know what not to pull. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:54:38 PM |
yes i could have said NO to all these women, yes i was flattered i was recieving the attention i got from these women and i just accepted the intimacy as normal.
Okay, what went so wrong, that was so terribly right? What any of the morons that frequent this place can learn from your experience? Can anyone say?
Most guys are ALL OVER these women. So the woman goes into defensive mode. I have to protect myself from this guy. This guy is sharp. This guy wants to sleep with me. He is up to something. I am not that easy. He's going to have to work for it. I've figured him out. I am so bored.
But what happens when the guy, for whatever reason, keeps pulling back. The woman goes, what's wrong with me. Why is he pulling back. Did I lose my touch. I like this guy but he has not looked at my cleave once. But he keeps looking at me so intently.
This is an over simplification and of course it does not happen at a conscious level. And I don't do women's characters that well. But you get my point. But it was something I learned the hard way. I would go out with a girl. I liked her, I would go all out, fail. I would go out with a woman, sort of liked her but didn't want to pursue, she would be into me like crazy. So then I would go out with a girl I liked, but acted like I did with the girl I sort of liked but was not into her, and bingo. They went nuts.
The moral of the story, for the men, stop being so desperate. For the ladies, keep getting rid of the pesky guys. And if you get one of the relaxed easy going dudes. Enjoy, if we didn't want to be with you, we wouldn't. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/11/2007 12:21:08 PM | OP, I agree with Bubble Eyes.
I think the answer to your question is simple...when the topic of sex -- direct discussion which is directly connected with the person you are contacting -- is introduced to a situation where no familiarity or relationship exists (and btw, "friends" is a relationship, "co-workers" is a relationship, "neighbors" is a relationship) so don't go all wiggy with me on that term) that offers a foundation for it, it makes women uncomfortable -- unless they're working a 900-number hotline and getting paid to service your fantasies. It would be the social equivalent of pawing a woman you just met publicly. Think about it, it's a boundary issue. When you leap out of the starting gates getting verbally fresh with someone, it's an affront.
If that's what you're doing online, what are you going to do if you ever MEET? may be what they're thinking. I know I do. Get to know the gal a little first, see if she's amenable to it, don't just jump into it -- THAT'S why they're slamming the door. And HARD. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:09:00 PM | Not really . .
I only _Rarely_ bring up the subject . . at all . .
I generally let ' her ' ask why I _Haven't_ brought it up . .
.. after chatting for hours . . or Days . .
It's because it's not the First thing I'm looking for . .
. . Unlike a _Majority_ of males, here . .
I can conduct an Adult Conversation . . Without the need to discuss Sex . . !!
..But..I can discuss Sex . . without  BLUSHING or making 'Assumptions', either . . !!! | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:45:54 PM | the woman should bring it up. i only like talking about things like that before sex with a man, because men run with it. sometimes they start jackin off and getting too carried away its disgusting and desperate. when a group of women talk about sex it doesn't get out of control.
when talking witha man about sex he usually drops a hint that he wouldn't mind having it with you...  | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/24/2007 2:58:37 PM | A 'Mature' conversation can start . . and end . . ANYwhere . .
Change the subject or pull the reins back a bit . . if you're uncomfortable with the intensity...
. . No problem. . !! | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/24/2007 3:07:46 PM | ^^^If only it were that easy. Once you start talking sex with a majority of men here, good luck trying to talk about anything else....ever.
I think there should be a rule in dating. In the first couple dates women shouldn't be allowed to ask men about their salaries or wealth, and men shouldn't allowed to ask women about their personal preferences sexually (or tell us theirs).
If the man brings his money up, or a woman brings her sex life up before the window closes, then it should null and void the rule, and anything goes.
That's fair.
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/24/2007 5:55:39 PM | | after i talk to a man for a while i have no problem discussing intimate things. i like to be very open about life in general. and when i am with a man in a dating relationship i am very open about intimacies. i want him to know what i like and vice versa i think that when men message u for the first time and immediately start getting too personal or downright nasty it's definitely time to SLAM the door! | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:48:57 PM | As long as I'm comfortable with a person, I have no trouble at all talking about sex.
What I've found is that, online guys want to start off just talking about sex, but in person, usually men are more uncomfortable than women talking about it. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/24/2007 11:04:59 PM | | Are you freakin' kidding me? You got no game grandpa. Blaming it on the ladies doesn't make you any less of a creep. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:48:53 PM |
if the very first message i get from a guy is an intimate question or comment... i think its all they want or have to offer. but if its someone i've known for a bit and we are friends... if i'm comfortable.. then let the conversation roll! i have no problem talkin about my intimate life with someone i feel i can trust with those details. or even talk about intimate situations.. once again.. gotta feel comfortable enough.
No offense, but you seem uptight just by this POST lol.
Look how often you mentioned "being comfortable, if I trust him, if I've known him for a while", etc. Well, thats MOST women. I think he's asking why all that needs to take place before a sexual question can be asked, or an intimate topic be DISCUSSED. Why can't women loosen up a bit more, and discuss the topic like adults just as they would any OTHER topic? | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/25/2007 10:58:19 PM | ^^^^^ Once you open up the can of worms with a male...especially a male online then you find you talk of little else, except sex.
It's easier to talk to someone you are comfortable with about sex. What you like and don't like, even if that someone is just a friend.
And yes, I've found most of the guys I associate with online have way more trouble talking about sex face to face than I do.
I reckon it's easier to shoot an email to a woman asking her if she's a cum guzzler than it is to ask her to her face.
I usually speak of sex in a matter-of-fact kind of way. I've found it puts most men off and they have to move on to other subjects or other women. Doesn't make me a difference which though!
Happy Fishing ;)
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:21:27 AM | I am not comfortable talking about sex with complete strangers. I am amazed some women are. To actually send an email to a man and ask him about him shooting at her so that he has to respond by asking her if she will guzzle it, my some women are awfully bold or hard up.
I am certainly glad that I do not experience emails of that nature. I am guessing it might have something to do with the way you present yourself or even how you answer posts might open yourself up for something unwanted.
I do not I try not to dis other posters and to help them when I can. I think that it is pretty low for someone to make fun of another poster especially one that may problems visually. Honey, I am sure "nothing can make you a difference." But hopefully something will make a difference in you and your sentences might make sense. Just trying to be helpful and I hope you will understand what I wrote. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:51:48 AM | Re editied for the sake of integrity
Why are SOME women so uptight about having an adult conversation about Intimate topics ??
Granted . . It's not the Only thing a guy, OR GIRL, needs to discuss . . but, when anything beyond
Kissing is brought up . . THERE ARE STILL TOO MANY Ladies tend to *SLAM* the door . . !
_Most_ of us are 'Adults' here . . but isn't 'Intimacy' JUST AS MUCH A part of creating a strong, lasting relationship AS COMPATIBILITY, LOVE, FAMILY , LIFESTYLE, AND AL THE REST. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 1:02:27 AM | Justfrozen....I am going to recommend that you re-read my post. No where in there do I state I write to men asking them about "shooting at me".
I was not making fun of the OP or the post above mine (above the first post I wrote on here), I was simply stating my opinion like every other person that has replied.
I find it confusing, off-putting and ridiculous that you would state that you try not to make fun of other people, and yet you are blasting me because of?????
I'm also going to draw your attention to the "edit" function. I had to read your post several times to even infer that you were refering to what I wrote.
Thanks!
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 1:31:18 AM | | Depends on how it's approached, I suppose. If it's the first and only thing you talk about, hit the road, Jack. You seem to be in it for one reason. If it's part of a conversation, then I agree with you. We're adults. It's an interesting topic. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 2:00:06 AM | | Have you thought they get uptight about it because it's none of your business? Intimacy belongs in serious relationship ,for me marriage , not in dating relationship. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 5:32:41 AM | Why can't women loosen up a bit more, and discuss the topic like adults just as they would any OTHER topic?
Because it's almost always brought up in a personal sense, and most topics aren't. Talking about sex GENERALLY? Not a problem. Telling you my personal sexual preferences and volunteering yours? None of your business, and not interested in your preferences...it's the equivalent of asking someone you don't know for a social security #, or women asking you how much you make and what you have in the bank in the first 10 minutes. Why is this so hard to understand? I realize men don't care if their sexual preferences are listed on a billboard in town, but we'd prefer it to be private information. It's on a need to know basis, unless we're actually interested in you enough to see any need for you to know, and then at that point you won't have to ask. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 2:45:42 PM | Cannot speak for everybody but there is a time and place for baring mind IMO.
A propos ...  is something I always like to contemplate about. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:10:47 PM | It's not that we are uptight but enough is enough! I get tired of the sex talk, its old.......
guys talk about it way too much and at the wrong time. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/27/2007 8:39:55 AM | some women are uptight, some not, some men are, some not. to generalize is beyond comprehension. ANYWAYzzzz,,,
perhaps its not that you bridge the conversation but when in the relationship (i.e. first chats and meetings) and how and how often. I know for me, when and how often a guy wants to talk about sex, and doesnt want to talk about much else, constantly redirecting the conversation back to sex,,,, this kinda stuff leads me to know he hasnt anything else on his mind, and nothing much else to bring to the table when it comes to actually having a relationship. for a lot of us gals, its a red flag, if in the first conversations/meetings the guy focuses on sex.
intimacy is definately a huge part of a strong lasting relationship, but true intimacy has nothing to do with sexual gratification. | |
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| Are women too Uptight . . ???
Posted: 12/28/2007 12:16:43 AM | They are full of it , thats why.
I was at the club in Scottsdale ,AZ. Me and my friend saw these two chicks.
He recognized them from some party few months back where they were stripers at that party and also had SEX for Money at that same party.
So, we go up and talk to them just playing stupid as we have no clue who they were.
Sure enough they told us how they find it disgusting talking about sex and how gusy aproach girl at the club and just want some ass , blahh blahh blahh..
Now imagine we were some dummies and bought that crap they were talking about, we would take that to nice dinners and plan on taking them to Mama , etc.
What I am saying, those are good 2 thirds of women, FULL of Crap and selling that crap to dummies that buy it.
A scientific proof is that women are actually hornier then guys especially if they are in their prime. then WTF. Why do they all have to act it up even if they might want it more then us.
I Am saying again, they r just full of IT. Lucky them there is plenty of dummies out there..
>>>>> To finish the story from the CLUB . well my friend , the European that he is , meaning very direct and UP forward ( love him for that ) told those two chick that he would give them 200 dollars each to come with us and chill at the Jaccuzi at his place,
Guess what, the Mambo jubmo crap story about how they are nice and blahhh blahh..
YES we both got laid,,,
The fact is , they are UPTIGHT as long as some DUMMY goes along with it and buys that crap, NOT ME..
Ladies , let me hear it. tell me how wrong I am and blahh blahh..the more you talk to more you know its TRUE>
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