| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:12:59 AM | | i agree.......what happened to some of us in the past is the past.........don't spend so much time comparing others to your past relationships and what "they" did to you......spend your time getting to know the person you are with or dating or meeting now.......... | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 6:27:22 AM | | Ambivalence follows disaster when the original desire still pulls us towards the goal we have come to fear. Men or women offer love but threaten pain as well. Approaching dating in a mixed-up way brings welcome comedy to an otherwise over-flowery rut. Sore spots make people scream in anger even as they hope for soft spots to make them squeal with delight. | |
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xpxpk
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Joined: 7/4/2005
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 7:00:25 AM | Hey, thanks for the vocabulary lesson, although I couldn't dind "misandry" in the dictionary.
There should be two new forum caragories: I Hate Men and I Hate Women. Or....maybe just one heading of Bashing. That way bashers of both gender can slag to their hearts content in their own little world and get all the validation they could ever ask for.
Now I am promoting basher discrimination. Where does it end? | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 7:32:15 AM | I don't see it as either. It's merely estrogen resisiting candor, expecting syncophants and expressing frustration within vituperative soliliquies. Testosterone rejecting political correctness, sophistry and feminist dogma will backlash. There are many women who want to blame men for not 'fitting the mold' cast by the women's rights radicals whereby the standards could only be met by a hermaphrodite! Being a Victim is popular and in style.
Just go down to the Broken Hearts forum! And who is to blame?... Mr. Happy and the Macadamia Brothers! The number of Soap Operas and Romance 'novels' on shelves is very telling. Ludicrous situations, impossible fairy tale romances and 'drama' has deluded the once happy-go-lucky and sexy American female into false sense of entitlement. Just come back down to Earth, things would be more enjoyable.  | |
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 8:54:41 AM | WAAAAAAAAAYYYYYY too MUCH information there, sddude.....
(And NO, I wasn't...*sigh*....but your "crispy" IS showing! And you've been so...FRESH lately I've noticed! Keep that up!)
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 9:36:55 AM | yA, YA, YA, GLASS IS A HALF FULL, I SEE. But, the glass fell on the ground and was
broken! What are we going to say now? WE BUY A NEW ONE? We clean it up and
forget about it? Or, we go learn how to make glasses and make us a nice new glass
again? That may one day fall and break again?  | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 9:44:02 AM | | i see alot of the haters on here. most all of us have had a fair share of bad deals. there are some out there who really got the shaft and probbaly deserve to complain, but this place is fairly negative. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 10:31:38 AM |
Or, we go learn how to make glasses and make us a nice new glass
again? That may one day fall and break again?
Well, we could always switch to paper cups.....
But on topic, it's one of the first things I noticed also, and in simplest terms, I just thought it odd that people who were searching for each other on a dating site would spend so much time damaging their chances by so painstakingly asserting how much they hate each other.
Well, it can be a strange world at times, no doubt. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 2:34:51 PM | I have to admit, in some of these threads, I have been a bit defensive and opinionated.
It's just that it's hard to not say anything in rebuttle to people who themselves post all these blatent demeaning remarks about others.
There are a couple members[i won't give names] who set the trap and there i go/baited in a way i didn't really want to be. and by others i don't want to associate with anyways.
So why do i do it? habit, lapse in judgement or self-control.......or maybe boredom.
I don't think that there's anything wrong with expressing your veiws, after all, isn't that one fundamental reason for these threads? Yet taking the bait hasn't changed other people's minds about issues. and I'm beginning to re-assess the way i respond to things because a negative-sounding person is someone i don't want to be.
Besides, I'd rather take the bait by someone who will become my life partner.
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 7/15/2005 2:43:47 PM | | Who cares? The forum will produce a variety of individuals shaped by their lifetime environments that make them what they are. To criticize and silence those who you don't like is called censorship. So, censor then. Find another forum. We cannot dictate to anybody with words alone. So all this is a waste of words, and becoming a repetitious post again. That seems to be the trend now, disagreement and repetition. Threads start to get boring after awhile. Thus some will likely be lost. I'm growing somewhat disenchanted with the repetitious BS anyway, so you'll be glad when I leave. Cynics are seldom liked, but neither are prophets of doom. But despair goes with luck, and some have far different lives in here. To condemn anybody is OK, but won't change the fact that those who disagree one way or another, whether positive or negative, by dictating they want change in others is a form of dictatorship. We don't have to like what we read. I hate newspapers. How much positive do you see in those rags compared to negatives. Mostly the headlines are about disasters, and other pages are much the same unless you just read the funnies. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 7:18:44 AM |
A lot of the time I think it is done, simply because it is easy
"You are not showing your Strong side, if you don't Bag people"
Probably in everyday life they would not do it.
But here there is the anonimity of cyberspace, so perhaps they feel they can let things go here
But even so, I still cannot understand it on a Dating Site
Agree. You only make yourself look bad when you bash those of the opposite sex. It points out the type of person you are when you demean and run down someone of the opposite sex, and it makes no sense on a dating site. What's the point? | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 7:40:41 AM | Yes I have seen some venom spewing peeps in the forums and I have to wonder why?
I have come to the conclusion that they really are not interested in finding someone, I think they just like to start sheeit and watch the mayhem unfold.
Trolls! plain and simple. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 8:06:42 AM | | I'll never understand people holding on to that level of hatred for years. So your spouse cheated on you in 1982, get over it already. Live in the now, no need to be posting threads about ancient history. If I spent my days counting all the wrongs I perceive that people did to me through out my life I'd be completely paralyzed mentally and physically. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 8:08:23 AM | I really don't see a great deal of "hatred" of the other sex here.
That's a pretty strong emotion... even "dislike" is.
Especially when it is towards all males or all females.
Nah, I don't see it often here.
Now and then a poster comes around to PoF forums who spews a lot of deep rooted hatred to all of the opposite sex.
They get noticed because they're loud and obnoxious.
What I do see are some hurting people who haven't quite gotten over "wrong done to me", (although they may think/say they have), and some of that distrust/anger/hurt/confusion shows through in being picky and a bit mean, now and then, to those of the other sex.
That's all it is.
Actual misogyny and misandry? Not really a lot of it here, in my opinion. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 8:20:01 AM | ^^^ "Actual misogyny and misandry? Not really a lot of it here, in my opinion."
I agree breath~....kind of the squeaky wheel syndrome....they tend to meander like a 'babbling brook' from thread to thread....overturning stones as they snake their way through. Eroding the banks, churning and riling up the muck such that the fish's visibilities have been impaired until they've gone and the water settles back into its clear, lucid eddys and currents.
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 8:22:30 AM |
I agree breath~....kind of the squeaky wheel syndrome....they tend to meander like a 'babbling brook' from thread to thread....overturning stones as they snake their way through. Eroding the banks, churning and riling up the muck such that the fish's visibilities have been impaired until they've gone and the water settles back into its clear, lucid eddys and currents.
I'm new and just trying to figure this out. Just spoilers then? | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 8:34:28 AM | A lot of people seem to think that by showing their dislike of the opposite sex, they are somehow showing how 'empowered' (oh god I hate that word, but it seems to fit here) they are...
In truth, nothing will so firmly entrench one into single life than this behaviour... | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 8/12/2008 9:06:15 AM | | ...what, am i not truly empowered by blaming my own personal dysfunctions and most deeply held internal conflicts on an entire class of human beings with different genitalia?? say it ain't so!! | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:15:25 PM | As they say, misery loves company so let's get together, build a company and make misery.
I can see if someone is going through a present situation to become a little bitter or jaded until they sort it all out and get back into a better place and state of mind. But to take things that happened years ago and use them to validate being a man/woman hater is not reasonable. I thought life was about making mistakes, learn from them and move on.
Holy Batman, if I lived in the past and thought about all the bad things, I'd hate everyone.
~Carrie | |
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