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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 9/12/2008 12:55:51 PM | In the last analysis, if we are to accept the psychological perspective, people who express hatred for others, who belittle and demean them, etc., are people who have serious issues of self esteem, and, I suppose, we should feel pity for them. I do find it hard to do though, as it seems that if one is so full of anger, one would want to know why and get some help. I find these people irritating in the extreme, as well as extremely tiresome and borish. I know I shouldn't let them bother me, as they are, indeed, ill.  | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 9/12/2008 3:40:21 PM | I can't stand the male/female bashing going on all of the time. But I do try to understand them. I believe Breath is correct. They are just at a level of hurt...and here processing. Atleast, I hope thats all it is.
I know when I first signed on for this little fishing trip, I was not over my last relationship. I tried to not sound bitter...but, I think sometimes it may have come across that way. I've learned and grown alot along the way.
Still...when I get "damned to hell" (done recently very covertly and passive/agressively)...I just scratch my head and wonder why "They" are here.
Certainly not trying to date! | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 9/12/2008 4:16:44 PM | I agree with you OP.
I may joke about men being x way but I don't realistically live my life fitting every man into a certain box.
And as you said, if you go around thinking all men/women are x way, then it might fulfill itself as you may just be subconsciously gravitating towards those kinds or you become extra sensitive and alert to noticing only those kinds. | |
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| What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here?
Posted: 9/16/2008 5:48:34 PM | | I'll never understand why people who have had nothing but bad experiences with the opposite sex seldom look at their own behaviour and choices and think about how that may be contributing to the problem. A friend of mine once said "when you have one bad relationship after another, and another...and the only common denominator is YOU." I don't know if anyone here had ever read the book "Opening Our Hearts To Men" by Susan Jeffers, but in it she wrote about her relationship experiences as well as those of her girlfriends. She said they put a lot of energy into putting down men, and lamenting how unappreciated they were by them. She said it was a lot easier to do that rather than admit they made poor choices in life partners. And that applies every bit as much to men as well. It's sad that some people never develop their capacity for self-awareness to recognize the problem for what it is. I've known a few such people, and I've tried to help them see things from a different perspective, but if they don't want to acknowledge things as they are, then you really can't help them. It's sad but at the end of the day, it's their problem, not mine. And they can deal with it or not. | |
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