| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 12/16/2007 10:15:54 PM | think it's more correct to say the part of her that I thought I knew or the person she presented herself as online.
People are sometimes able to misrepresent themselves for long periods of time when you know them in real life. The internet has given those who are decent communicators via analog and digital media the opportunity to level the playing field in the friend/lover world...at least as long as the step into real life isn't taken.
there is no premise of deceit mentioned for the OP topic, if there were, the entire thread discussion would be moot.
The premise is one of truthfulness - hence where the debate lies - whether the absence of the physical state matters or not.
Personally, I can't see how you can miss someone without meeting them.
Unless you are desperate!!!
latter point a ludicrous 2 dimensional statement
If you do get to know the "true" person, and not an online persona then that's the person you develop feelings for.
exactly, and that is where some people are adding the dimension of "what if they're untrue in their presentation" which then renders the discussion pointless.
If one conjures up more than the other person actually is, then that is one's own fault for bursting the bubble.
Define "know", define "person" - I don't need the flesh to "know" the "person", (although .... it wouldn't hurt ... :)
Is it love? IMO, no. Face to face will be the real determining factor.
you're stating that love cannot exist without the physical state - there are many types of love as defined by experts in the field. Does one castaway everything that has been built and experienced upon presentation of the person in real life - we're wandering down a path that isn't too appealing.
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 12/30/2007 12:01:43 PM | Yes... But to get all spiritual, I don't think that we are just our bodies...that's only one area we connect on as people, but not the only. Since it's the only one we "see", it's the only connection some people will take seriously. I don't think meeting somone online is desperation, or social masturbation, or whatever other people have posted. Times change, and this is just another way of meeting people, that's all. POF is the size of a city/town, and same thing, some people find each other, some don't.
I got online because two of my good friends found their partners online. Both are married, one couple has a child.
I miss someone I met online - not through this site, but another artist forum. I'm on one side of the world, he is on the other.
Maybe it just wasn't meant to be, maybe he just showed me exactly what I want, and that what I want does exist. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 12/30/2007 9:11:04 PM | Yeah, I can agree with a lot I've read on this topic.I'm sort of in the same situation with some one on this site.I miss her dearly,even though I have not meet her ,we had some good disussions, exchange emails, and made plans to meet up.Then for some reason PUFF! She stopped answering my emails.And at this point in the event I don't know why.But I do miss her a LOT.Trouble is, I don't know why.I know this will bother me for a while.I'll get over it. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 12/30/2007 10:28:39 PM | RE: First post.
I kinda get what you mean. But for me its not that I miss THEM per se, since we've never really met, but rather I'm sad about what I could be missing out on. Like some fantastic relationship. Cause you can just totally vibe with a girl online or long distance through letters and what not, but its still not really a relationship in my opinion. I just miss what coudl be. Ya, thats it. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:09:22 AM | yes indeed you can, as I do now. Meeting someone who makes your heart yearn is to be believed. weather you have met them in a note, over the phone or by eye to eye contact. it may be more than one can handle at times. To know someone is out there and you want to be near them and hold them and tell them face to face that you care for this person whom you only know by way of e-mails, IM's and phone calls. It is so possible and yet unreal. Course you do have to realize that in the most part, it is still just a want and a need. No matter how deeep in you, it is the want for another. The need to have someone by your side. Dont be fooled!
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:48:35 AM | Yes you can as i do, i met a real lady on this sight and i am driving 1200km round trip on this Wednesday to meet her after one week of conversations.......long conversations i might add, she makes me laugh and cry and i think she feels the same way.
If not i know i will have met a friend for life, although i will romance her till she loves me and wants to spend the rest of our lives as one.
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:53:58 AM | | I have been on here for quite awhile and I also have been playing online poker with friends for over 2 years now...Yes, I think when you are in touch with these people on a daily basis by email, phone, webcam, and chatting in the forums or at the poker tables we do have feelings for these people..A very good friend that I had been playing with on the tables, talking on the phone etc etc died after a year of this and I feel the loss everyday as alot of us do on the tables...Some of these people(as with him) I have never met but are still extremely close, we know alot about each others personal lives, we send cards and pictures for birthdays, holidays etc etc...I have known people that have become very involved on the poker tables and actually never met and then some that did meet and are now getting married. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/8/2008 10:23:56 AM | Yes... there have been posters who I never spoke to who have disappeared and I miss them and their p.o.v.
There are posters - of both genders - who I speak with and if they left I would miss them... and would hope they would say good bye.
I have friends who live in other cities, and our friendship is as important to me as the ones I see weekly. So, being IN your life physically does not make it more or less real.
My bf goes out of town for three days and I miss him. Before he and I met IRL we had developed real feelings for each other on-line. If it hadn't worked out once we met, it wouldn't have made that experience any different - although I would imagine we would have interpreted the experience of it differently with hindsight. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/10/2008 8:03:08 AM | You might not technically miss them, but want to be with them. Missing and wanting are easily confusable :-)
Like for instance my last potential relationship wanted to marry me without even meeting me. Ya know what it's been 3 months and she never met me and bailed out of 4 dates. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 12:21:57 PM |
msg. 125>>Yes. You can miss someone you have never met.
Anytime, we share, communicate . . . interact with another human being . . . we bond. We don't have to meet the person, nor touch the person.
It is not a fantasy for our mind has made the connection to bonding . . . so we will miss that sharing, communicating, bonding expereince.
Is it love? IMO, no. Face to face will be the real determining factor.
Oh yes, you can certainly miss someone who you've never met but with whom you've only communicated. My explanation agrees whole heartedly with the above quoted post.
Although it's a cyber-friendship, it's still a friendship - a bond of a different sort. It's a connection where barriors can come down to share thoughts just as one would do while journaling - only it's better because there's feedback.
You may not miss the person per se, you miss the communication. Yes, it's a real emotion - but on a different level. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:30:25 PM | | I agree i miss you John David , i fell in love with your pictures, your charm, your wit, your jokes, the lengthy talks discovering one another, we had so much in common it was truly amazin... so rare to find... I thank you.. i loved the flowers, i loved my favorite chocolates you sent me, i loved how thoughtful you were sending me a phone to keep it touch with one another at your expense.... i miss your calls, i miss your laughter, i miss our talks " pretty much " Yes you can miss someone you never met...... Sabinee i loved what you said , because i do miss him.... and i can't stop thinking about him.... | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:36:48 PM | no i can't...people i talk to online are just people online nothing more...its really weird when guys say they miss me or would love to date me...kinda scares me since we never met and never will and they pour out there heart???
i say if someone misses me just from talking online they need to go to the mental hospital and get checked out...cause its just retarded missing someone you never met... | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:44:22 PM | | Yes, most definitely. The reality is....you have met, have you not? Your mind and your spirit met...connected...loved. It's just the physical bodies that have not met...the least important...imo. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 9:01:34 PM | one more try at this, and if I crash again Im throwing this pc out
yes, I know what its like to miss someone u have never met.
I was typing at this one particular man here for a year and a half; I arranged transport to go see him, then all I got were weak excuses. He is insecure, but I care for him deeply.
cest la vie
im gonna send this now b4 I crash; will ome back in a minute to finish | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 9:30:43 PM | I agree with message #4...I've been that route 2 times...and I think we know just from online dating, you can talk till your blue in the face...it's all in the meet!...but as far as missing someone you've never met....you bet!...it happens...they are filling a void for real life...sounds harsh I know and I'm not belittleing the feelings for each other...and it it were truly serious, you'd meet and nothing would stop you...just my 2 cents worth too...life is one big crap shoot...good luck to everyone in what you are looking for.  | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/22/2008 9:55:59 PM | | yea,I let that happened to me once about 8 yrs ago when I was very nieve about talking to people online,basically you start to build it up in your mind,it starts to get filled in by what you want in someone,nothing to do with the reality of it ,HUGE mistake,it was such a silly thing to do,its kind of an elaborate version of wishful thinking really ,your letting your mind create an illusion of this phantom person and you start creating feelings toward that illusion.eventually it falls apart of its own volition.anyway, a very amateur thing to be doing really, by the way,anyone who wants an email, thats classic moves for someone who has no intention of meeting you,if he or she were interested,you'd share phone numbers ,make a coffee date and meet,the real world,thats all that counts.no jiberrish texting,emails,ims,get on the phone and hear their voice,make a date,and meet,thats how it goes when it's real,the rest is just intellectual horseshit,bye | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/25/2008 7:34:50 PM | [VIDEOMAN2007 on 12/31/2007 12 04 AMCan you miss someone you have never met?]
Indeed, especially after thinkin bout this person (not just thinking; actually, imagining and fantasizing) about his persona heard briefly over the telephone line.
Fantasies are nice; but I'm a gal into making things a reality...
time for a good cry I guess
as I listen to Walk On By... and yes, Bacharach is the composer... When Chelle gets the provergial bgt up her butt, she has to investigate, lol... | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:11:11 PM | Of course you can miss someone you never met.. I chatted with someone on here a couple of years back..we emailed for a while then we exchanged telephone #s and we talked on the phone almost everyday.. He got back together with an old g/f shortly after, and decided it would be best if we didn't meet... It didn't prevent us from talking on the phone, and I believe that we continued to feel comfortable with each other because there were no expectations.. (even though there was always some pressure to meet) somehow.. we had become close without ever seeing each other in person... Of course this couldn't continue.. he had someone, and it wasn't fair to her, so we stopped talking... (after 7 months or so)... Even though it was the right thing to do.. I felt like I lost a limb.. There was an empty pit in my stomach.. and I have to admit that I may have shed a tear or two when noone was looking.. I since then, met a wonderful man and we recently moved in together..
I don't think that there is a week that goes by though, where I don't still miss talking to the fish that got away...*smiles*.. I do however, hope that he is happy, and that things are wonderful and fantastic in his life...
It wasn't a fantasy, it was a very real person, and there were very real feelings.. you can't share some of your most private thoughts, or secrets with someone and NOT have some sort of connection.. JMO | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:33:18 AM | | I have alot of friends that I am very close with that I have never met and yes I do miss them if we have not talked for awhile..... | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:54:17 AM | Hmmm, I'd bet lots of religious people would say they miss God, in some sense...
Yes, of course you can miss someone you've never met in person. It doesn't take physical presence to create emotional closeness--or to feel a pang when that person is absent.
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:09:28 PM | Some of the greatest romances in history have been played out in the written word long before any physical contact was made...which was what made the "Love Letter" such an integral part of many relationships throughout history.
The medium for expressing these feelings may have changed but the feelings themselves have not, so I would have to say yes...I believe it is possible to miss someone before you've ever met them. | |
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