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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:23:52 PM | | Yes, I miss someone that I communicate with through IM. We have met in person twice, but we talk via IM all the time. When he is not available to chat and one or two days goes by without word from him, I really miss him. And I really hate it. When I feel this way, when I miss him like that, it makes me feel as though I am not being rational or logical. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:34:49 PM | Omg so here i sit texting the guy who im missing from POF and i wonder why I am missing him...then I jump on to see your post.......
So I get up the nerve to ask him.....tell him how I miss him
And............................ he replies " I miss you too"  | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:47:52 PM | | i can answer that one..i have been talking this lady for a coulpe of days and we have got to know each other pertty good..and now she have stoped talking to me..she want answer her ph when i call.....i guess i am free again to some lucky lady to take me as i am ..hi all grashooper the nick feed free to chat with me ..there is always more fish in the sea..don`t need bait just a nick ..lol.. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:27:55 AM | After i read the "Ripple Effect" by Redcassandra, and how "Each choice we make causes a ripple effect in our lives", and after i read that post, i knew she was a woman who can change the world with her ideas, and words, just like i want to change the world too, and yes, " I MISS HER SO MUCH EVERY DAY".
After i read Phynxfire's blog, and what she said with "Painted Pictures" on her site, i was touched, yes, "I MISS HER SO MUCH EVERY DAY".
I never met these people before, but yes, "I MISS THEM". Although i never get to talk to them sometimes because of time, but i think of them, and i "Miss Them".
Everyone has said one or two things on this post, i have been reading, but "EVERYONE" forgot to ask one question, you'll forgot to ask OP one question, which is,
(OP, WHAT KIND OF MISSING ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
DID YOU JUST MEET HIM/HER ONLINE, AND BECAME FRIENDS, AND THEN YOU'RE MISSING THE PERSON YOU NEVER MET?
OR DID YOU MEET HIM/HER ONLINE, AND BECAME FRIENDS, AND THEN, BECAME LOVER'S, AND THEN, YOU'RE MISSING HIM/HER, SOMEONE YOU NEVER MET BEFORE)?
I really miss chaldholna, a lady i met online from Afganistan 2yrs ago, and she had a boy friend, but we became so close, even to the extent that on the web cam, she would show me her room, what she was doing, and we had fun everyday, but i never heard from her again. till now, and i never met her before, and yes,"I MISS HER SO MUCH".
I miss Joe from Canada, i met her online, and we became good friends online, and she sent me video's of herself in the house, asking me how i was doing. She was 31yrs old, and she just stop talking, bcos my friend got my password, and he went to my mail, and secretly sent a message to her with my mail, telling her he would love to know her. She got confused, and blocked my mail till now.,YES, "I MISS HER SO MUCH". I never met her face to face, but i still think of "JOE" till today. Yes, i do.
So, i personally think it doesn't matter if you have met this person before or not, what matters is the feelings, the connection, and how well, you both connect and converse in-turn.......I miss everyone on this site, i never met you'll before, but my hopes and Romantic thoughts and ideas makes me one day closer to seeing everyone on POF.
I LOVE YOU ALL.
D'POET | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:51:22 AM | This same question asked by OP, is Originally the same question as , ("DOES DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP REALLY WORK")?
And if you say it's impossible for you to miss someone you never met, then it means you are also saying you don't believe in distance relationship. So, for those of you who have been saying, it's impossible for you to miss someone you never met, then, let me ask you this, 'Do you believe in distance relationship?
Common Pofer's (People)! we all miss everyone who comes into our lifes for one reason or another. And the only reason we miss them, is because we like them, and when we like them, it also means that we are Seven days closer to "Falling in Love"with them.
We're humans "For Crying Out Loud"! Let us all confess the truth to ourselves, and only then, we could find true love. Let me ask everyone this, (Tell me, Is there anyone here, who didn't miss the victims of "WTC September 11th"???????????????????? Even if you never met them before, or you never even spoke with them! | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:55:17 AM | | You definitely can! I have made friends on the net that I missed before I met them and then missed them even more after I had. I think we tend to share more about ourselves online at times because there is nothing to lose. Who are they going to tell and what are they going to do? We might tell them our deepest and darkest secrets which creates a stronger bond. Some of my closest friends have been made over the net. I love them dearly. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:15:37 AM | | Ive been chatting with a man who lives in a diff state via my chatsite for quite some time now. We have the same sence of humor, and we never run out of things to talk about. I know about his life and family, and he knows mine. Camming with him is a riot cuz we are always laughing about something and its so easy to just let go and be ourselves. Because of my goofy work and school schedule, we dont get to 'see' each other as much and i really do miss him. Its nice to come home after work and read lil offline messages from him.. We'll probably never meet 'in real life', but thats ok....he's still very special to me. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:20:52 PM | | I think you can miss someone you never met because of the dreams and fantasy of what could have been. In the real world it takes time to get to know someone with all types of communication which includes in person in public and at each others home as soon as safe feelings have occured. Then you have more reality information to base missing each other about not to mention being able to better filter out the attached matches. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:31:26 PM | red, i think sometimes the missing you speak of can be greater than for a real person because you have built your image up of them to be perhaps your ideal and perfect partner - and in fact it's a very deep missing because you will never find them - not that one you imagine someone else to be....because i think it is very often fantasy.
if only we could be more careful to try and not get too much of an image of someone before meeting in person.
my other thought is absolutely i think we can have pretty powerful relationships that take place completely on line - and i know, for me, when one who has had a particularly wonderful way of communicating with me ends (whether having met in person, or not), i can continue to miss that connection, whether real or imagined......
....until i remember it was perfect for exactly what it was....and missing is a futile emotion because it stops me from feeling the joy and appreciation for what is, or was, instead of what could have been. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:29:23 PM | umm red i never thought i would say this....there is someone that i miss even though he and i never met. this guy is from canada and is a good friend of my best friends. we met on another site, i'm sure if you seen some of my other posts you would know what site. anyway, what started out as innocent flirts with sending gift apps back and forth ended up getting to be a little more serious. i decided that i was going to use some of my small greeting card poems in them. he was sending me romantic nites together, spend the nite together apps, i sent him a romantic dinner app and told him that his daughter is included since it's a package deal....then came the diamond ring apps. i sent him an email in the site and he never replied so i asked my best friend what happened. i said that i was going to back off on sending them because i didn't want to be too pushy and she told me that if i back off then he's going to think that he scared me off. anyway, i received a phone call late one nite from him and we talked for hours. still sending flirts back and forth and a few calls later i find out that he's been feeling the butterflies inside. he told me himself and my best friend told me as well. he was supposed to call me yesterday but never did and i worry about him (he's been under the weather). he's always on my mind and when i don't hear from him i miss him even more.
at first i may have posted in here that you can miss the idea of a person but i'm starting to see things the other way now......the more he and i talk, the more i know about his feelings and about how he feels about me the more i miss him, the more i miss talking to him. now, with some personal problems he's not able to come stateside to meet me in person, not for a little less than a year (no, he's not in jail or married) and i'm not able to go to see him as of yet with my situation that bothers me even more. he and i both agreed that since we live in different countries (me in the usa and him in canada) that if someone should come along for the other person then they're not to wait but will remain good friends. all i can say is i hope he's okay and he calls me tonite......i miss him. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:48:24 PM | well in the world of online dating this is definity possible . maybe not really normal but i'm sure it does happen a fair bit .
there was one girl i meet online a year ago that was just so amazing ( she was a figure skater / pairs ice dance , very nice girl and attractive ) used to chat to her on msn alot. then she started dating a hockey player and we sort of drifted apart after that . we never meet in person either and yeah i sort of miss her a bit . if she became single again i'd jump at the oppurtuity but i don't think its going to happen anytime soon and she really likes her boyfriend as well . | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:34:02 PM | How is that possible? How can you miss someone you never saw or touched?
Here is my story on the question.
I have been talking to this one guy now for almost 6 years and we have never met in person. We have talked on the phone for hours about everything and nothing. Also we have done some talking on the web cam ( nothing perverterd ). Now a days if him and I miss a a couple of days from talking I miss him dearly. I think it is from our conversations of talking/sharing about everything from religon to politics and all that is between. We have often talked about meeting but something always gets in the way either myside or his side. Well that is my story. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:42:40 PM | Most of our life's experiences are just thoughts bouncing around in our
own heads. So, of course this is possible! Humans are largly known for
their irrational thinking and behavior! lol | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:55:51 PM | Yes and I still do miss him at times but I think it was meant to be what it was at the time and never to become anything more.
I think you can develop a very deep emotional bond with someone over the course of time that can be tremendously misssed once gone. I do however think that in many of the cases, we build up fantasies of how it would be if together but the reality likely will not be that way.
I think the hardest part is never knowing what might have been. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:34:42 AM | | Not only did I miss someone I was "love sick" for him. I couldn't sleep or eat. I tried to work his name into every conversation "You like pizza that's funny John likes pizza too." You're breathing, John likes breathing too." I drove everyone crazy. A mutual friend worked with him at a small hospital in WA state and I was living in MO at the time. We talked every day-including the first time-for no less then 4 hours at a stretch! We were crazy about one another. And then we met and the fireworks just weren't there. We have remained very good friends for the past 15 years and still enjoy talking with one another. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:36:06 AM | | Yes, you can miss someone you have never met. It can be in the form of friendship or other growing feelings. It may not come to fruition and it may not feel that way when you do meet. However, something is being given over email, text, phone that you enjoy. When it is taken away, you miss that. Same thing goes for people. I have enjoyed emailing and talking with people from POF where it has been just friends and then there are others that you speak to where it is a "what if" possibility. I have had the "what if" possibility and when the communicating stops, I do miss them. I miss the talks we had, the laughs we had, the enjoyment of the whole experience. However, I also realize for it to end sometimes in the manner it did (abruptly stopping), then maybe they were not who they really were representing and that I was missing the notion of that person. However, friends on here, yes, I miss them and tell them. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:34:42 AM | I don't think you have to meet someone in person in order to miss them. You can and do talk to people online. Get to know them, and not only enjoy your conversations, but also take comfort in them. It can be difficult to deal with sometimes when that's taken away. Especially if you don't know why it is that this individual all of a sudden stops talking to you.
If you don't know them in person, or haven't discussed what's happening in their life. You never know what it is that's happening. It could be something serious. I think if someone really cares about you, they'll let you know what's going on in their life. That's not always possible, and sometimes it's easy for someone to get the wrong impression. No matter how much you might want them to understand.
The worst is when someone you felt a great connection and chemistry with gets the wrong impression of you. I don't think you can change that, and sometimes the other person doesn't even care enough about you to try and make it work. It's a sad thing, but you can't always have everything the way you want it to be. I know for myself, I've found the only people I can really count on are family. Sometimes a friendship can develop to a point where they're like family. I'm lucky enough to have a great family in my life, and I think it's a mistake to try and put too much faith in anyone you talk to online. They can, will, and do disappoint you. I'm just glad I'm not so jaded that I would take the hypocrisy thrown in my face every now and then, and generalize it towards an entire gender.  | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:37:16 AM | | You can absolutely miss somebody you have never met....Because you do connect when you feel that way.....I know I have missed a couple I have never met, but had wished I had met....You may not have seen each other in reality but you imagine them constantly, you may not have touched physically, but mentally you touched.....And sometimes one you have never met can even touch your heart.....So the answer is YES.... | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:21:43 AM | | I feel you can because I totally fell in love with a guy I was talking to on the phone for almost 2 years, I cried for months when he decided to not call anymore. (long story) anyway I still cry when i think of him or see a pic or hear a song we had in common. | |
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| Can you miss someone you have never met?
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:34:17 AM | I think you can...
it's easy to fall in love with/ become very attached to a person you've built up inside your head isn't it?
I guess that's a given, now to explain it, well... that's a little harder. I think in your head a person naturally seems flawless... as it is much easier to connect over msn of a phone than in person. Think about it, in person how many things do you notice about a someone? all 5 senses are working overtime ;) They may say the exact same thing they'd say over the phone in the exact same intonation, but something simple such as their facial expression could give you a completely different feeling inside.
So to answer your question, yes I think you could definitely miss someone without having met them, and it could be a really strong feeling depending on how well you connected... but you might not experience that same feeling in person necessarily, because a lot more comes into play than their voice and their words :)
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