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Posted: 12/10/2007 4:20:47 PM | hey sucker, j k , hey there are alot of nice girls out there. take the blonde beauty from australia - if you were to get to know her, she would be your friend for FREE , and that's the way it should be. unconditional - say what you mean and mean what you say - don't play with people's hearts for your own selfish needs. happy fishin - catch a keeper! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 4:39:10 PM | YOU are! as You Feel...
YOU are so So SOOOOOOO in need of a break from her
oh wait,You could always start a website *USEME.com*
Im sure she will find You again | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 4:44:56 PM | | Best friend huh? Having sex with your best friend? Paying her rent,putting money in her checking account,paying her cellphone bill,and buying christmas gifts for her kids? And she's only just a friend? Wake the fuck up because you're her fool and this lady don't love you! She love your money!!! It's not her fault you went out spending money on her. She just accepted everything you offered her and she'd be a fool not to! Ladies,you all better become friends with this guy and he'll get your christmas gifts and basically everything else you want! A guy like you make it hard for a working man like me! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 5:38:19 PM | | The saddest result of all this is when a sweet, wonderful, loving woman actually comes into your life, you will be so gunshy, it will take her forever to convince you she loves you. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 6:09:03 PM | | I wouldn't call you an idiot, I would definitly learn form this experience. Some people think there're using you, when you're only doing what you want to do from the heart. So yeah take a break from the chick and if you find yourself still in love with her than you'll know you can't be her friend. Your gain, her Lost. Good Luck!! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 6:24:31 PM | | If you feel like a idiot you must be one.......man on man, what you let her do to you is so wrong......her friends male roommate had his way with her.....well im sure she was not fighting him off, you need to dish her and move on in life, think of all the money you will save to spend on someone who does appreicate it greatly. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 6:36:06 PM | Hello you all!
Well I feel most of you make too many assumptions.One of them is the hard gained money.Maybe the guy is from a rich fammily so money is there easy way.
I feel bad to see here so many insults and negative comments in wich regards her, especially from women.He said he offered her his help and convinced her not to take a job but go back to school.Why is she so guilty to have accepted it?It seems she fell for him...it was him to chicken-out.There is nothing so dark and evil about a man being the provider.She is using the money for school and kids afterall.Not his kids, but he offered and she seemed to love him in return.He became coward and tempted to let her down before completing his mission.What is she suppose to do?Celebrate the end of her studdies go look for a job without hard feelings?He made a promise than he gave signs that he might not keep.Who's in fault here?
I sent all my love top her!!She is raising kids while he is promissing and unpromissing things.Love ya, MOM!! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 7:09:21 PM | | She is not into you. Break off contact now and move on, block her on msn , facebook, myspace, etc. do not answer her phone calls, do not pass go do not give her another 200$. good luck. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 7:15:03 PM | | Where this guy said that he is looking for her love?He said he proposed to help her as friends.It seems to me she was more into falling in love and he got scared.From what is on here he seems to be the player not her.Except she acted very bad to his vacation anouncement.But wrily there is such as vacation when you commit to something? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 7:18:06 PM |
have always had strong feeling for her and she's known this since day one
sounds like he's always liked her, and she basically told him flat out that nothing was ever going to happen between them, so how does that look like she's falling for him?? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 7:26:19 PM | You should feel like an idiot. You were /are one ........ as we all know she has you wrappped around her finger. You will continue to pay her bills as she treats you this way and excuse her bad behavior bc of the so called "connection".
So sad people will put up with this c r ap..........GET IT TOGETHER! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 7:27:17 PM | | i dont understand why you should feel like an idiot. women play cards very well. i see that you have been played to look like one. there is wrong with you, mate. women get closer to you when they think they see some benefits. you are absolutely right. they take advantage of everything and they think randomly. i should say, you dump her and get on with your lives by doing something worthy. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 7:44:20 PM | | You seem to be kicking yourself because you don't want to decide, maybe. My questions would be whether she reminds you of someone, why is she this important to ya? There are other Best Friends to be found in the world, as you know. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 8:02:52 PM | Well you're not an idiot, maybe a sapp
You post was confusing ~ like your thinking might be confusing
most seem to agree ~ she not yours! how do you feel about that?
I'm a sapp too ~ hope springs eternal ~
but I'd suggest you widen your playing field ~ I find comfort in multiple ~ choises
and you will too ! ~ you are not in such a delicate state and banking on one woman whims and capacious moods swings.
They all say that they love you until one day ~~ they don't anymore ~~ supprise! wtf!!
Well ~ you this or that!! ~ we've all heard the tune! ~` I'd not give ~ completely up ~ but back burner it ~ somethings just turn out better at low heat ~ dar | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 8:07:32 PM | You don't even need to be best friends forever with her, honestly.
Sounds like she just intends to walk on you and take you for all that you're worth.
Not even a good friend, when it all boils down to it.
Leave her to her vices, stop trying to save her.
Save yourself. Find what makes YOU happy, and let her learn her own lessons. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 8:09:14 PM | If you were my son.... (close enough in age) I'd kick your ever livin' BUTT for allowing yourself to be used like that and then having the 'nads to ask WHY...
You KNOW why!
Now, you're georgeous, young, hopefully more intelligent that you appear in this scenario... keep your money in your pocket until you find a self respecting girl with something on the ball... then MAKE YOUR MOMMA HAPPY BY GETTING MARRIED TO THAT ONE AND GIVING HER GRANDKIDS! (You'll need the money then!)
LOL
HA! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 8:28:57 PM | i see that you have been played to look like one.
I’m so sick of player, being played, playing, etc,. ad nausem, on these forums I could just scream. It is as if no one has a mind, a psychological state, an inner life, goals or ambitions. If someone doesn't understand something, they've been "played." If you can't find the proper English word to describe something, you've been "played." If something goes against your particular moral code, you've been "played."
From Shakespeare to Jane Austen, we've been discussing the trails and tribulations of love and romance for hundreds of years without this insidious term. "Marc Anthony, kick Cleo to the curb, cause you been played, baby!" Act I, Scene I, the End.
It's ludicrous, trite, cliché and definitely an indicator of prole drift. Paul Fussell where are you? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 9:16:14 PM | To the originator of the Thread,
First your experience is not unique. Many guys have and will give as much as they can to help someone they truly love. Unfortunately you gave to someone that was thinking more about themselves than you.
My guess is that you thought she just needed a little help and she would pull it together and become the woman of your dreams. She probably never will get it together. That is how she will continue to live.
Forget about the money. It's done. Besides you're probably going to make more money now that she's not around. You don't need someone pulling you down. Stay away from all those needy woman. There are plenty of women that are taking care of their own bills. Women have the same ability as men to make money. You need to look for these women. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2007 10:27:47 PM | This is the 1st time I have ever posted anything ever in any kind of forum, and I am extremely surprised by the numerous responses. Every time i log on there are 30 more comments !!! I do not know proper forum etiquette and don't think i can answer all of your questions, but I want say that most of your responses have been very helpful in making me see this situation from outside my own head, Other responses were less then useful.
I will answer some of the questions out there but they may be off topic:
No, she is not on any of my profile pics.
No I am not rich, and I do not come from a wealthy family. In fact I was working in the mortgage industry until I got laid off a lil while ago. Severance pay is awesome !
She is not angry with me, she is extremely regretful for what she did.
I believe if you should marry your best friend.
There was never an ultimatum offered, I told her i know she will always see me as a friend and I am starting to want us to grow into more then that.I asked if we could spend less time together and take a little breather to see if these feeling fade, and she said she would rather think / consider it and then we left it at that and started our weekend. we know what happened next.
The saddest result of all this is when a sweet, wonderful, loving woman actually comes into your life, you will be so gun shy, it will take her forever to convince you she loves you.
No, the love of my life left for London to marry the fiance she neglected to mention already did that.
Again, thank you for all your responses Useful or not i read them all and took them to heart. I feel this has been a learning experience for me in dating as well as friendships. She will be cut off, but I am sure we will talk again and do a lot of repair work and boundary setup on our friendship.
In the mean time, who wants to pay for my ticket to fly to Australia? Things appear to be promising down under .. j/k :) | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 1:53:39 AM | She expects your action to follow her illusion.Nobody accepts that role,you will eshew it or break yourself somehow.
I limit games to cards-an honest living,poker.
I tell folks what is-some deal w/it...some ride away.
You did an idiotic thing-mabye...you're no idiot.
Put You first! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 1:56:28 AM | Let a lady find ya and make her happy as your dreams.
You too can have a durn near perfect life! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 4:04:23 AM | wow i need a man just like you lol
Shes a clever woman i'll give her that but basically a ho !
Your manipulating her with the cash and shes willing to play but you cant put a price on love.
You need to grow a spine im afraid. Cut her off financially and leave you to it. Bottom line is she dont respect you and i can be pretty sure from all ive read that she dont love you. Sorry to be harsh but im not gonna lie x | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 6:41:42 AM |
She is not angry with me, she is extremely regretful for what she did.
I believe if you should marry your best friend.
There was never an ultimatum offered, I told her i know she will always see me as a friend and I am starting to want us to grow into more then that.I asked if we could spend less time together and take a little breather to see if these feeling fade, and she said she would rather think / consider it and then we left it at that and started our weekend. we know what happened next.
She was angry with you, she may not be now.
I'm having trouble understanding how this whole support business came about. We have a woman with young, dependent children trying to better herself in school. Supposedly you, as a friend, offers to help her financially? She accepts, as a friend, and you change your mind because you are developing feelings for her that she can't reciprocate?
Has she ever been dishonest with you? Did she not trust and rely on your for help because you offered? Did she ingratiate herself into your life just for your money? | |
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