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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:05:09 PM | "You need to stop participating in those POF forums, those people on there have nothing at all going for them in life. I know you have more going for you than they do."
I received above in an email. It was from someone I met on here. I will not be dating him. Not sure why someone I don't know can tell me what I can or can't do, thought I divorced my husband... Not to mention he was telling me how he really felt about me.  I enjoy reading the forums and posting on them. Some people bring so much wisdom to the forums, I learn from them. Ok, I admit it, I love the good jokes.
You never have enough friends, even if they are all cyber.
I have dated guys on here and will hopefully date again. Just don't tell me that I have to stop doing the forums, geez, I don't smoke, I don't drink, I do swear... I need to vent somehow. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:38:45 PM |
I don't smoke, I don't drink, I do swear... I need to vent somehow
Ahem.
I'm trying very hard to "restrain" myself from a smart aleck response here.
You should reward me for good behavior. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:47:33 AM | trisha8.. it's not you.. it's the guys in Florida!
Bet I catch a lot of flack on that one but... it is the truth guys.. The men here are outnumbered by us ladies and they have some terrific egos because of it... A few years ago I met someone online.. we dated for a while and I sort of put my idea of where I wanted it to go.. his response was he wasn't ready.. so I sent him packing.. a year later he wanted to go out again (nice afternoon date at the gun range,lol.. it went fine) we always got along very well and enjoyed each others company.. I thought wow here is someone I could actually see myself with but... silly me I told him about POF and he signed up .. and was hit on by a bunch of ladies and on their favorites lists in no time at all.. so I said to him again that I thought we had possibilities.. and he said well he was still looking around (swelled head jerk! lol) time passed after the door hit his backside and he's tried to come back into my sphere again.. this is just an example of what we ladies experience in Florida... competition for the good ones is fierce.. if you aren't ready for an immediate sexual adventure there is another gal waiting to oblige him! Most of the men are too dumb to see.. they are getting trapped...like rabbits for a fur coat!
As for dating.. I'm very selective about who I will meet.. I want a man to pursue me.. afterall it feels good to know you are wanted and desired (and the one's I allow to pursue me..I pursue back too)... but the men in Florida have an attitude problem with women... they think they are all that and more... yes I date.. lucky guy who can get me to commit my time to him... and if I ever meet another one I feel comfortable telling I see possibilities with I'll do the same thing again.. because it's better to see how they react at that truth than to play games..
Dating only the keepers... that's the key to dating success... I want a longterm relationship not a flighty ego inflated sex mate... if that were the goal for me I'd get scr_wed everyday...lol! Women have it easy when it comes to sex... all we have to do is look interested and there will be some man there waiting... the important thing is to make sure when we are interested we choose very carefully who we show it too..
As for Florida guys.. sorry to the Real Men out there.. I mean no disrespect.. but there are a lot of little boys who never had much going for them back in the day who are now experiencing a second puberty...
Dating only Real men.. yes I do date.. lucky guys.... very lucky...! And they know it!
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Posted: 1/3/2008 5:03:42 AM | | LOL justfrozen.....the e-mail that you were sent that said "those people on there" . Was it sent from outer space and not someone on this site that isnt one of "those "people? LOL Or is he the only nonloser on here? ( IN HIS MIND) I would love to know what your answer was. Your such a feisty lady. You go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 5:05:49 AM | | I think people are only to make themselves feel good by seeing their picts on screen,an feeling superior to others, & chatting crap in the forums. you send mail to see it gets deleted, are you women so up yourselves instead of having the decency to reply to anything.or are you looking for perfection, an being messers. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 5:30:03 AM | | That is actually what I'm experiencing. I try to start conversations with people just to get ignored. This site has proven to be so much fun for me (not). I am about to give up on it. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 7:26:14 AM | msg #107......Your so new here. Please dont give up.If nothing else stay for the forums. As long as you look at it as entertainment and dont take things to seriously it can be fun.(sometimes not) All good things take time. If you expect to be here a month and already dating your expectations may be too high. Anyway, your here to meet the right one. Give him time to come across your profile | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:00:32 AM | I hear you freeheart7 but hang in there. Trying to start a conversation with someone online, is tough. Since I'm interested in meeting people and making friends in a new city, I'm notified when there is a POF event to go to. So, that's an advantage.
Meeting a gentleman and dating that could lead to a long term relationship would be a bonus. In addition, hopefully I'll make some good friends. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:29:58 AM |
Bet I catch a lot of flack on that one but... it is the truth guys.. The men here are outnumbered by us ladies and they have some terrific egos because of it... A few years ago I met someone online.. we dated for a while and I sort of put my idea of where I wanted it to go.. his response was he wasn't ready.. so I sent him packing.. a year later he wanted to go out again (nice afternoon date at the gun range,lol.. it went fine) we always got along very well and enjoyed each others company.. I thought wow here is someone I could actually see myself with but... silly me I told him about POF and he signed up .. and was hit on by a bunch of ladies and on their favorites lists in no time at all.. so I said to him again that I thought we had possibilities.. and he said well he was still looking around (swelled head jerk! lol) time passed after the door hit his backside and he's tried to come back into my sphere again.. this is just an example of what we ladies experience in Florida... competition for the good ones is fierce.. if you aren't ready for an immediate sexual adventure there is another gal waiting to oblige him! Most of the men are too dumb to see.. they are getting trapped...like rabbits for a fur coat!
As for dating.. I'm very selective about who I will meet.. I want a man to pursue me.. afterall it feels good to know you are wanted and desired (and the one's I allow to pursue me..I pursue back too)... but the men in Florida have an attitude problem with women... they think they are all that and more... yes I date.. lucky guy who can get me to commit my time to him... and if I ever meet another one I feel comfortable telling I see possibilities with I'll do the same thing again.. because it's better to see how they react at that truth than to play games..
Dating only the keepers... that's the key to dating success... I want a longterm relationship not a flighty ego inflated sex mate... if that were the goal for me I'd get scr_wed everyday...lol! Women have it easy when it comes to sex... all we have to do is look interested and there will be some man there waiting... the important thing is to make sure when we are interested we choose very carefully who we show it too..
As for Florida guys.. sorry to the Real Men out there.. I mean no disrespect.. but there are a lot of little boys who never had much going for them back in the day who are now experiencing a second puberty...
Dating only Real men.. yes I do date.. lucky guys.... very lucky...! And they know it!
Umm..you go in about six different directions w/ your post.
1) There are a shortage of men in Florida,
2) You met somebody who didn't do what you wanted and then you dumped him.
3) You met another guy and told him about this site.He decided to explore other options.
4) Men can't see that willing women are a trap.
5) You want a long-term relationship that's on YOUR terms (You said you want to be pursued)
6) Florida guys aren't REAL MEN (In your opinion)
I'm sure that you can see where some of these things would be mutually exclusive.
You may NOT see where some of these things make you sound difficult.
Everybody markets and sells themselves.If you market yourself as difficult,only people who want difficulty are going to seek you out.If they weren't looking for difficulty and you prove to be difficult...they'll look elsewhere.
What I'm saying is this:
You live in Florida.
You know how things go in Florida.
Either you "go w/ flow."
Or you don't.
But you can hardly complain if you don't the sell the house when you don't do what needs to be done to sell it. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:31:01 AM |
Bet I catch a lot of flack on that one but... it is the truth guys.. The men here are outnumbered by us ladies and they have some terrific egos because of it... A few years ago I met someone online.. we dated for a while and I sort of put my idea of where I wanted it to go.. his response was he wasn't ready.. so I sent him packing.. a year later he wanted to go out again (nice afternoon date at the gun range,lol.. it went fine) we always got along very well and enjoyed each others company.. I thought wow here is someone I could actually see myself with but... silly me I told him about POF and he signed up .. and was hit on by a bunch of ladies and on their favorites lists in no time at all.. so I said to him again that I thought we had possibilities.. and he said well he was still looking around (swelled head jerk! lol) time passed after the door hit his backside and he's tried to come back into my sphere again.. this is just an example of what we ladies experience in Florida... competition for the good ones is fierce.. if you aren't ready for an immediate sexual adventure there is another gal waiting to oblige him! Most of the men are too dumb to see.. they are getting trapped...like rabbits for a fur coat!
As for dating.. I'm very selective about who I will meet.. I want a man to pursue me.. afterall it feels good to know you are wanted and desired (and the one's I allow to pursue me..I pursue back too)... but the men in Florida have an attitude problem with women... they think they are all that and more... yes I date.. lucky guy who can get me to commit my time to him... and if I ever meet another one I feel comfortable telling I see possibilities with I'll do the same thing again.. because it's better to see how they react at that truth than to play games..
Dating only the keepers... that's the key to dating success... I want a longterm relationship not a flighty ego inflated sex mate... if that were the goal for me I'd get scr_wed everyday...lol! Women have it easy when it comes to sex... all we have to do is look interested and there will be some man there waiting... the important thing is to make sure when we are interested we choose very carefully who we show it too..
As for Florida guys.. sorry to the Real Men out there.. I mean no disrespect.. but there are a lot of little boys who never had much going for them back in the day who are now experiencing a second puberty...
Dating only Real men.. yes I do date.. lucky guys.... very lucky...! And they know it!
Umm..you go in about six different directions w/ your post.
1) There are a shortage of men in Florida,
2) You met somebody who didn't do what you wanted and then you dumped him.
3) You met another guy and told him about this site.He decided to explore other options.
4) Men can't see that willing women are a trap.
5) You want a long-term relationship that's on YOUR terms (You said you want to be pursued)
6) Florida guys aren't REAL MEN (In your opinion)
I'm sure that you can see where some of these things would be mutually exclusive.
You may NOT see where some of these things make you sound difficult.
Everybody markets and sells themselves.If you market yourself as difficult,only people who want difficulty are going to seek you out.If they weren't looking for difficulty and you prove to be difficult...they'll look elsewhere.
What I'm saying is this:
You live in Florida.
You know how things go in Florida.
Either you "go w/ flow."
Or you don't.
But you can hardly complain if you don't the sell the house when you don't do what needs to be done to sell it. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 8:35:34 AM |
That's all you get, though it was much appreciated, at least by me.
Okay since it is so out of character
Oh, that's great, I got a virtual kiss!
Now how do I get to second base?!
(I never thought I'd be a sex symbol in a geriatric clinic but what the hell, let's work with it.. I wish they'd add some x-rated icons) | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 10:20:31 AM | | Whether anyone will admitt it or not, there are a lot!! of Computer generated pictures and profiles on all these dating site. Some require both parties to be a member to respond (Yahoo personals) that sucks. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 10:31:05 AM |
My first kiss of the new year, was it good for you?
As I said, theres's a need for x-rated icons.
Hello?! Moderator to Aisle 8!
I read enough books that I don't need to read emails that are filled with crap and no substance
Exactly!
Who needs email like that when we've got the forums?!
It's been ages since I had this much fun on the Internet. Overall, the forums have been better than my recent dates. But I am concerned about the mental calcification/rigidity I've seen here. Is it a function of age? Or (I'm hoping) do people have a certain aspect of mind all through life? Perhaps it's a filtering associated with PoF or being single in middle life? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 12:17:53 PM | | NO........feisty and frisky are totally different. And you really must keep your emotions in check lol | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:59:14 PM | Sure....although I'm done. It just takes patience and flexibility once you find the one for you. I moved across the US to be with mine, and he was so good as to help me to bring my family with me....this consisted of an adult daughter and her two babies. After 4 months, they have finally been able to move out on their own again, so Al & I are alone like was originally planned. It took sacrifices on both of our parts to make it happen and we're lovin' life! Just hang in there!
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Posted: 1/3/2008 6:18:50 PM | Broward, you were not thinking of a song by Adam Ant were you???? It ends with What do you do???
Just asking. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2009 11:37:52 PM | | Wow......you are really robbing the cradle. Why would you want to date someone young enough to be your son Hawtmama??? | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 3:08:38 AM | I think some people just feel nervous about meeting up. There's still the old taboo attached to "people from the internet", and to be quite frank, it's understandable. But I'm sure there are some people on here who would be up for ACTUAL dating...as long as you build up a rapor and you both trust eachother.  | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 4:28:18 PM | | I'm in the same boat as you. I actually find most of these dating sites pretty depressing for that reason. Sending messages to people who I might have things in common with and they get deleted, even just brief friendly hellos, kind of shakes the self confidence to be honest. | |
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