| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 6/7/2009 6:19:27 PM | What some people are looking for and what some people expect only exists in their minds. Not in the real world, not in the cyber world. They have created a want/wish list that is impossible to be fufilled by real people. That list is built on playmate pictorials that are siliconed and airbrushed beyond belief or the list is built on romantic movies/novels where the big strong man will come and sweep her off her feet and carry her to his castle and she will never want for anything and they all live happily ever after. I read it in the forums daily. But on the other hand, I read profiles of normal people who have normal wishes and wants but making the connection is often missed because "they live too far away, they are out of my league, when I read the profile..they stated they are looking for this or that and I don't fit the bill" and they don't bother to contact--they don't bother to take a chance. I have cyber-met a bunch of great guys in other areas who indicated that if we lived closer they would like to ask me out. I wonder what is wrong with the women in their areas that they have not found these men. Those same men ask me about the men in my area. I don't get it. It is that difficult to find a man who is intelligent, cares about his health and finances and is active? I think so. You noticed I did not state looks. Average is fine, drooling handsome ..well I would consider it. Personality is a plus. Too many are seeking the impossible dream. Cougars looking for the young stud. The young stud looking for the sugarmama. The older man looking for the cute young thing. The cute young thing has her golden shovel ready for the dig. They are the minority. They are the egotists and always will be but regular joes and jills are still sitting..some afraid to make the right move.
A girl friend of mine sat down with her husband and ran through the list of single men that they knew and said they did not want to subject me to any of them. It was not that I am too good or they aren't, we just would not be a match because of certain things.
Everyone has a type but sometimes dating out of type can bring a lot of happiness. Change the benchmark. I am a 5'7 very active woman who dated a 5'3 medically retired man and the relationship was a wonderful 7 months. Lots of things eventually kept the relationship from continuing but I would not have had that special time if I had not decided to step outside the box.
Sadly, it appears as though some of us normal average people can't seem to connect in the real or cyber worlds because we don't fit the fantasy.. | |
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 6/8/2009 11:13:01 AM | | Yes, but I don't think anything serious will come out of this. Too many woman don't take it seriously and play mind games and have a taste test from every guy they can get a hold of. When you have a forum of people that lie and don't know what they want, confussion will always set in. besides..this sites free, that means every nut can play jokes....sad but true. | |
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toy09
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 6/9/2009 5:43:52 PM | | I'm beginning to think it's a total myth. I've conversed with a few woman back and forth but they haven't ended up in a date to this point. Then again, I haven't been on here all that long but sooner than later would be nice, haha. | |
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:26:27 PM | I've been on a few dates on here and except for one they all looked different than their pictures.
Ive also noticed that the women respond when their farther away.
I don't know what the deal is. And there's alot of back and forth email banter. I cut it off. I'm not into the game playing.
I'm about to hit the pickle stick and punch outta here as they say in F-16 jargon
Tell me I'm wrong here but I think alot of women are afraid and not sure. Whatever.
There's nothing wrong with me! | |
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 8/12/2009 10:20:27 AM | | When everyone tells the truth maybe you can have a relationship. All men are looking for one thing. We know what that is. With all the diseases running rampid why would someone put themselves in that position? I am going to try another State. lol | |
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 8/12/2009 11:23:53 AM | | As I had said in another forum post. Most men seem to window shop. I see alot of looking at profiles going on and less interactions. Or people in general are looking for the "perfect" person when in fact there is no such a thing. | |
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:20:20 PM | oO Kim Oo,
As I had said in another forum post. Most men seem to window shop. I see alot of looking at profiles going on and less interactions.
Nothing wrong with window shopping. Women window shop on here just as much. That's what a personals site is about -- window shop until you come across something you like!
I would say, though, that it isn't guys who are doing the damage here. I think it's just how the environment's set up. Women are outnumbered by men on here by a large margin. Any women who's an average Jane will have her ego soar, because guys will be showing tons of attention... granted, not fairy-tale-sweep-me-off-my-feet attention, but validating that many guys do find them attractive. Women have far more options than guys on here (pound for pound), so they tend to have a sampler-platter mentality... or maybe better put, a trade-in/trade-up mentality. Guys know this, and so therefore, they go out on a competitive barrage, hitting up many women and it has to become more of a strategic game for any average Joe to have a chance of landing a date with a particularly pretty woman.
In other words, this (free) site capitalizes the word "games" in "dating games". | |
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| Does Anyone actually Date Here?
Posted: 8/13/2009 12:02:10 PM | I think the main thing with online dating is that you have to be incredibly patient. Just because it appears that there are hundreds of single people listed that you like the look of, that doesnt mean its going to be any easier than it is anywhere else you might meet people. It still takes a lot of elements to make people connect, especially anyone 30 or more because we're all fantastically choosey! (and rightly so).
Oddly enough, a couple of years ago I tried a paid site and got loads more dates. I'm not sure why that is, I can only asume that at the time there was a lot less people, so everyone took a chance on their limited choice. | |
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