| Curvy Vs Slim
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:22:54 AM | | I have dated women from many different body types. Slim, athletic, average, curvy, a few pounds overweight etc. The only body types that are turn off to me are obesity and being extremely skinny. | |
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| Curvy Vs Slim
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:24:30 AM |
ery true there jason.........plus people dont look at who the person is..its whats inside that counts................ give everyone a chance..... u never know who you will find when you stop just looking at the shell and not whats inside
Easier said than done, some people have trouble looking past physical appearances, while some people don't care if you look like beyonce or mariah carey. Personally i think some of it may be how people are raised but everyones entitled to their opinion. Personally curvy to me is someone like thora birch, when she starred in ghost world. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 10:30:05 AM | the bigger the cushion..the harder the pushing........
i prefer slim | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 11:15:31 AM | the bigger the cushion..the harder the pushing........
surely that just makes you lazy? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:48:15 PM |
the bigger the cushion..the harder the pushing........
surely that just makes you lazy?
Tread gently on him love - at least he didn't claim it was due to some medical rationale, or his psychic told him it was unwise, and accepted it as a personal preference. He looks a bit fluffy himself - could be a case of two hefty folk take a mile o'****to connect and he's short on supply. 
Poster - Just teasing dude - you're allowed to like what you like as long as you don't try to convince the world you're above reproach and the rest of us are addlepated morons for not agreeing with you.
Laurabeth - some of us don't like bruising hips with the skeletal chicks - If you make it to this side o' the pond - let us know!  | |
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| Curvy Vs Slim
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:02:14 PM | General reply - Coming from the perspective of one who appeals to a select niche - (women who like hairy horny men with hair) I can appreciate those who clearly state their own predilections without trying to justify them.
Those who prefer bones should just say so and hook up with the waif types and those of us who prefer some meat on the bones should be equally free to profess our preferences without ridicule. Anyone who attempts to rationalize their preferences based on health & etc should be savaged (usually by myself) but those who accept that it is simply their preference and don't try to convince the rest of the world that that somehow makes them better than the rest of us should be relatively unmolested (as we expect to be by them).
I would rather be honestly rejected than deal with the fools who try to justify their own preferences - IMHO. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 11:26:04 PM | If skeletal chicks do it for him, fair game. i just think that there are other ways to express that rather than "the bigger the cushion the harder the pushing". It makes it sound as though thats the only reason why!
Although i got a question, if your boyfriend says you arent fat, do you believe him?! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 3:08:22 AM |
Although i got a question, if your boyfriend says you arent fat, do you believe him?!
I think we all know when w're fat (apart from the dillusional anorexics of course who see fat no matter what the mirror tells them), boyfriends trying to be sweet by telling you "no your bum dosent look big in that" are just trying to
a) keep the peace
b) make you get ready on time
c) not piss you off and give you self confidence...
My ex never called me fat but im the size of a house, its all relative :)
as for the man and his "makes pusing harder" comment, im pretty sure all the fatties like myself are happy we dont have to sleep with you also. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 3:36:38 AM |
i just think that there are other ways to express that rather than "the bigger the cushion the harder the pushing
Yes, I totally agree there are other ways to express this. These are the comments that I'm talking about!! Nobody wants to hear this drivel. Just like I don't like to be called a stick. Comments such as those ARE the basic reason some people have eating disorders.
When a guy I am dating makes detrimental comments about a woman's weight (big or small), my opinion of him goes down. Like stray said, there is nothing wrong with stating your preference, but insulting someone else to do so is cruel and reminds me of children. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 7:31:28 AM |
just think that there are other ways to express that rather than "the bigger the cushion the harder the pushing". It makes it sound as though thats the only reason why!
Don't you think there is a reason why guys like that say these things? They do it to get a rise out of people. Some people are ignorant because they know by doing that, they will get a rise out of certain people and that is what they want. Everybody has their "niches", as stray said, so if you niche is bigger women, so be it. If it is skeletons, so be it. I agree though, there should have been more tact when stating it, but some people just don't care about who they hurt, it is a fact of life. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 7:40:42 AM | | you have to like yourself and if that person can understand then what the problem | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 8:13:48 AM | | its not that there shouldnt be physical attraction,it is the extent of which you expect others to appear phisically and how you act towards them. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 8:50:36 AM |
Some people are ignorant because they know by doing that, they will get a rise out of certain people and that is what they want.
Sorry, but I think some are just ignorant - they are not playing games to get a rise out of anyone. They just don't know any better. Hence the reason they should be reading this thread and possibly trying to be kind to their fellow man/woman. Then these same people say they are looking for a kind-hearted person to date?!
Men just don't know what effect their words will have on certain women. This is because they are male and NOT female. Only through listening and really hearing can understanding be brought forth. One of the good reasons for these forums :)
If one really listens, you will hear and learn. I know I did. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 9:07:43 AM |
Men just don't know what effect their words will have on certain women. This is because they are male and NOT female. Only through listening and really hearing can understanding be brought forth. One of the good reasons for these forums :)
I say tread lightly on those words,, I works both ways,, it's "some" woman as well..
It really is how confident we are as a person, that will make us stand tall, and disregard what other say about us.. If our goal in life is to be accepted by all,, we will fail.. therefore, It really doesn't matter what other people think of us.. If they are ignorant, that is normally with out malice,, it is because they have lacked a skill of accepting people for who they are,, Now I would think,, it's up to the non ignorant people to help enlighten those people you feel are ignorant, in a nice way,, if not you become just a ignorant, because your unwilling to accept there fault of ignorance.. | |
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| Curvy Vs Slim
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:11:18 AM |
Sorry, but I think some are just ignorant - they are not playing games to get a rise out of anyone. They just don't know any better. Hence the reason they should be reading this thread and possibly trying to be kind to their fellow man/woman. Then these same people say they are looking for a kind-hearted person to date?!
Men just don't know what effect their words will have on certain women. This is because they are male and NOT female. Only through listening and really hearing can understanding be brought forth. One of the good reasons for these forums :)
If one really listens, you will hear and learn. I know I did.
Yes, I agree with you on all your points. The problem is that it just doesn't affect women, it also affects men as well. There are some men that can't handle being told they are fat or bald or whatever, just like women can't handle it either. I think it is ignorant to sit there and call some fat, or a loser, or anything for that matter. Most of the time, all it is to the people calling them names is their way of boosting their self esteem while putting others down. My advice is just don't listen to them. I have been told a lot of things in my day by ignorant women, but I don't listen to them. You know the facts now, well, alot of those ignorant women who called me names, well, lets just say they aren't 110 pounds anymore and don't look like models anymore. So, you see, time has a way of healing all wounds and if you burn your bridges, pretty soon you won't have anywhere to cross. A lot of these women are now finding that out as they get older and are still single that maybe they should have been nicer, but what can you say??? | |
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| Curvy Vs Slim
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:10:45 AM | | curvy gets thrown around way too much. So either marilyn monroe can be curvy, or that fat, stupid woman from The View who isn't sure if the world is round or not. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 10:15:57 AM | well men who make comments like that are ***holes, then. i dont mind giving them a "rise". hell, it makes ME feel better! Im more intelligent than ignorant people!
Fair enough on the boyfriend comment... | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 12:52:45 PM | | This average size girl wears a size 14 | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 1:07:11 PM | | Very interesting. People who refer to themselves as curvy, bbw, etc seem to not mind too much tossing out terms like skinny, skeletal, Barbi, stick. guess there are alot of nasty chunky munkies as well. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 1:09:36 PM | | ^^^^^ I mind. I have slim friends and very skinny friends and big friends and everything in between. The great thing is, we are all friends because we are people before we are anything else. The guys drawn to my slim friends are welcome to them, and they feel the same about the guys drawn to me. It's not a competition. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 2:02:09 PM | | Glad someone else minds. Every time I see these "poor bbw" posts, they're slinging around the same kind of derogatory stuff. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 2:47:35 PM |
Very interesting. People who refer to themselves as curvy, bbw, etc seem to not mind too much tossing out terms like skinny, skeletal, Barbi, stick. guess there are alot of nasty chunky munkies as well.
I mind. Size is just size. I don't see it as a reason to be hurtful to another. Some are small, some are big and most are somewhere in the middle. I hate seeing people go on about unhealthy, lazy fat people as much as I hate seeing people go on about how that bony chick needs to eat a sandwich. Any time someone makes a gross generalization about someone based on the tiniest bit of information.. I mind.
Not much I can do about it except not contribute to doing it and saying I mind when it comes up. | |
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| Curvy Vs Slim
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:47:38 PM | I look at the entire package of a person when I meet them. But generally speaking, I tend to prefer a curvy, fluffy woman. There's more to hold, there's typically a lot less attitude in their personalities, and whats not to like about bigger breasts (which exist on most bigger women)! 
Lets face it, we all have things about ourselves that we dont like. Im too damn skinny and I know it. Ive been trying to gain weight my whole life but I just cant. So I have to deal with the other extreme all the time...women looking at me as less of a man because Im not broad-shouldered and muscular. The thing is, its just a body. Skin & bones. Thats not WHO we are. And as we get older, we're ALL going to sag in places we dont like. Thats just a part of being human.
If people would spend more time looking on the inside rather than on the outside, maybe there wouldnt be so many nice, single people out here on these forums everyday wondering why we're still without a partner to hold at night.
Just my 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 12:03:32 AM | | it all depends on a person perspective of slim, and curvy.. everyone will have different tastes.. i prefer small petite girls, but not anorexic...small, petite, with shape still....a woman's curves tend to define a woman...just as a mans defines his.... | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 6:24:11 AM | | give me a women with curves any day. i prefer a women with something to hug. | |
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