| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:55:03 PM | I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask for a lot in a partner.
But there is a distinction, specifically for single unattached people who are actively looking for a relationship.
If you ask for a lot of a partner and you attract enough of the opposite sex to probably get it, then good for you.
If you ask for a lot of a partner and you don't attract enough of the opposite sex to probably get it, then you are probably an idiot.
I don't think this issue is gender specific. There are men out there who don't have a clue about what they are doing and what level of woman they can likely succeed with in dating. Then there are women out there who don't have a clue about what they are doing and what level of man they can likely succeed with in dating.
Here is a simple formula for men and women.
Women, think about a "looks" scale from 1 - 10, and then go ahead and rate yourself honestly and privately on what you think men rate you as out in the world.
Now subtract 4 from any number you came up with, this is probably where most men, on the average across the board, will rate you on the looks meter.
Men, think about the raw number of $200,000 a year in salary, also using a 1 - 10 scale starting at 10, and go ahead and subtract 1.5 for each increment of $30,000 until you get to your current yearly salary at your job. Now add 2 if you are 6 feet tall or over. Minus 5 if you are 5'6 or under. Minus 3 for each child you have as a single parent. Minus 10 if you pay any combination of child support and/or alimony. Minus 1 for each divorce you have. Minus 3 if you are obese. Add 2 if you own your own house. Minus 456 if you live at home with your parents. Add 10, 750 if you are famous. Add only 10,749 if you are famous but a convicted felon. Minus 4 if you are over the age of 45. Add 1 if you are Caucasian or add .75 if you are Latino or add .50 if you are African American or minus 2.5 if you are Asian American or from the Middle East.
This is probably where most women will rate you on the desirability meter from 1-10. Some men, maybe one percent, will be above 10 and they can pretty much have sex with whomever they want. Some men will be under 10, some far under, and they can pretty much only watch porn on the Internet and eat frozen pizza.
Someone come and tell me I'm wrong. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:16:35 PM |
Someone come and tell me I'm wrong.
Hey! Not bad... it was a bit tricky working all that math, but I came out ok. The +750 for being famous got me over the hump....
You did miss a couple of criteria that women require in men, though: available credit, shoes, and the car he drives. Apparently teeth are important too.
Good post...
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:48:37 PM | Experience has shown me that women expect much and offer little in return, and usually, the more she thinks she deserves from a man, the less she has or is willing to offer in return.
I could never figure out why women think men owe them something. For what? Sex? Doesn't that make them "working girls"? I said "experience". Not "good experience". And am I even on the subject? I stopped and made dinner and came back.
Oh! Yes, I think women get caught up searching for the perfect man when the best they are going to do is right under there noses. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:31:18 PM |
Women, think about a "looks" scale from 1 - 10, and then go ahead and rate yourself honestly and privately on what you think men rate you as out in the world.
Now subtract 4 from any number you came up with, this is probably where most men, on the average across the board, will rate you on the looks meter.
Thats a little harsh. Suggest you check the "Rate my Picture " section. You'll find men are quite generous.
Add 10, 750 if you are famous.
Does posting on POF forums make you famous? My score is now 10754!
Some men will be under 10, some far under, and they can pretty much only watch porn on the Internet and eat frozen pizza.
while drinking beer
Hey- I just got another great first date idea.
I think everyone here is too fussy- and thus - we are here. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:07:54 AM |
If you're on the internet on a dating site, you might want to lower your standards a smidge.
To true…to true my friend, I don’t think many of us have a vast amount of clout/power when it comes to the dating world. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:10:41 PM | This is too funny.
MOST (attractive) women are looking for the perfect bad boy with a portfolio, unless they're 56-76 yrs. old perhaps.
I know some women even at 52 yrs. old (cougars) still looking for Mr. perfect bad boy with portfolio.
Sure,.....they all say they want a "nice" guy, but dump them after 3 to 6 months.
Please, .....let's all cut the BULLchit.
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:29:49 PM | ive dated plenty of guys who didnt have it all and i ended up bored with them and we had to break up. its not bad to have high standards for yourself so long as its realistic. obviously if an unnattractive girl is looking to date a guy who looks likea supermodel or if a highschool droppout wants a guy with a PHd then she is kidding herself, but its not wrong to want a guy who is as good as you are. Maybe YOU are the one who wants it all and you are setting your standards way higher than they should. I have a big feeling that you y ourself sets pretty high standards for yourself and that is why you are not getting any positive responses. There is a difference between setting a realistic high standard and just being plain delusional.
you say you are not an adonis, so stop hitting on aphrodites. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:03:22 PM | "
are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4 03 PM
I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask for a lot in a partner.
But there is a distinction, specifically for single unattached people who are actively looking for a relationship.
If you ask for a lot of a partner and you attract enough of the opposite sex to probably get it, then good for you.
If you ask for a lot of a partner and you don't attract enough of the opposite sex to probably get it, then you are probably an idiot.
I don't think this issue is gender specific. There are men out there who don't have a clue about what they are doing and what level of woman they can likely succeed with in dating. Then there are women out there who don't have a clue about what they are doing and what level of man they can likely succeed with in dating.
Here is a simple formula for men and women.
Women, think about a "looks" scale from 1 - 10, and then go ahead and rate yourself honestly and privately on what you think men rate you as out in the world.
Now subtract 4 from any number you came up with, this is probably where most men, on the average across the board, will rate you on the looks meter.
um most women arent vain and would probably rate themselves a lot lower than guys would rate them. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 7/3/2008 12:46:32 AM | Wow, what alot of banter... anyone how clumps all women or all men into one undesirable category of 'expecting too much' or 'never' this or 'always' that is surely never going to be successful on any dating site until they have a good dose of self-discovery and a bit of maturity. Jeez, wouldn't it be so much simpler if we were all the exact same and could couple up right of the assembly line .....
I second the opinion stating that each individual has what is perfect for them... and why should anyone settle for something that is wrong for them, that is what divorce is made of. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:55:08 PM | | "...several studies have shown,that in heterexexual dating,males "trade" occupational status for physical attractiveness,in females, and vice vera." It has alot to do with your social function also.bleh.i'm hungry nevermind, i'm gonna eat. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:06:21 PM | This is just the tip of the iceberg my unjaded as of yet counterpart. Wait it gets worse. Women are always looking for this in every man they meet. They only settle when they are old or have developed self-esteem issues. Unlike you I am jaded, very very jaded. I have been thru this game too many times. Women are not the enemy but they are problem with this whole "dating" issue of being single. They think that every man is just looking for sex, money, or something that they have and will take away. There is no greater paraniona out there than a women with issues. So they go looking for "Mr. Perfect" but there is no man that will ever fit that ideal so they settle and make the man they are with pay for it for the whole time they are together. Beware young Skwalker for you too will get jaded after running the gaunlet so many times. Have fun and remember to duck.
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:07:40 PM | When someone complains that the opposite sex is looking for perfection, it shows me they have no idea what pros and cons they have going for them.
When someone doesn't want you, it has nothing to do with the other person looking for perfection. They just don't want you.
Not wanting you doesn't automatically mean they're flawed, picky or unrealistic.
The things that will prove that they are being unrealistic are; what they want doesn't exist yet they still believe it does, or what they want does exist but doesn't want them back. That's being unrealistic and you have no way of determining if that is true. You're not omniscient.
Preferring to believe someone is unrealistic rather than they don't think you're as great as you think you are reeks of insecurity. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:08:34 PM | | i guess they have been really messed up by other guys im just looking for a lady who can just put the past aside and start fresh its hard i know how hard it is to find someone i just wish a woman didnt wish so much in a relationshiop some guys dont have degrees and fancy cars and homes and can travel at a moments notice.anyway im not offending woman here just repling a question. | |
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| are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:23:10 AM | | I disagree... I think too many settle for losers just so they can say they're in a 'relationship' for the sake of it. More and more women lack the self confidence to be 'independent' anymore and they need to lean on a man OR feel the need to exercise their motherly instinct by babying these loser men, who have yet to grow up because they're a momma's boy, in order to feel like they're accomplishing something or being supportive of their man. | |
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