| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/13/2008 11:04:11 PM | | I don't understand why so many people think that they have to find one person to be everything to them, that they must share every single activity with one person for that person to be acceptable to them. I don't think it's very common. In fact, none of my friends shares the enjoyment of EVERYTHING that I do. Cultivate a selection of friends; find someone compatible to do each activity with. If you find someone who enjoys more than one of your preferences, great. But to expect to find one woman who will participate with you in every activity is not realistic. You can spend your overly active saturday afternoons with one person, and your hot saturday nights with another. Believe me, if you spend every single minute with one person, eventually she's going to get on your nerves. Remember, if you want her to accompany you on ALL of your escapades, she will rightfully expect you to go with her to the manicure/pedicurist, shopping for dresses/jewelry/shoes/makeup/hairdresser etc. when the time comes, and oh, eventually it will come; will you bail out at that point on her? Not to mention you will be expected to be enthusiastic about learning about all those things just as you expect her to be interested and active in all your activities. Just sayin'. | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:16:35 AM | Kinda funy allot of wot u said i live...hmmmm
i am looked at as crazy and wyld from my friends ....grls look at me like i am in mature
i am abit .....but i like to push it to see wot i can do.....like i have always said to everyone.... when i am 60 to 80 feet in the air doing an inverted superman on my KX250 ...and i know the landing is not goin to be good.....the rush is unmatchable.....
no drug ....no woman.....nothing ever matches it...I LIVE FOR THAT.....
and it seems only grls half my age understand my thoughts and could deal with the injuries that come with it.....however a few do get into the other things i find a rush...
Offroading ..Paintball....and yes Rock climbing..... I wish after being single since 2002
someone would like this stuff.....
Peace all | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:15:40 PM | Dude, take it from someone that gave up a lot to be with a woman (new job, moved to a new state, gave up live theatre, long distance running, etc), it's not worth it. Even though I grew tremendously as a person, I took on a massive set of changes to be with her and in the end I matured past her and we ended it. The cool thing is that my net worth grew by a factor of 20 times so it was definitely worth it from a financial and freedom perspective which is not a bad trade off.
Be true to yourself, fit women in as your life style permits, weigh out the pros/cons someone will come along, like abc here, she seems like a good fit for you, perhaps you should consider moving to where those types will be like Colorado, California, perhaps Washington state even... | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:16:44 PM | | What kind of women are you dating that you'd have to give up your exploits for simply because THEY aren't into joining you? | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:20:58 PM | ^^ As a neophite Washingtonian, I could not help noticing the "even" part, as in "Washington state even". Why so? WA state is a heaven for active types. And a dating heaven for women... not so much for men.
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:51:22 PM | As if I'd stop rollerderby if some guy I was dating didn't like it???? don't be crazy man! ;)
Just make the Saturday night worth the wait if she didn't want to go with you in the day... ya know what I mean? ;) | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:13:18 AM | come on!!!!!! Do not ever give up what you were born loving for anyone, ever, ever, ever. I swear that would be a total deal breaker. I will be honest with you, im not as 'out there' with extreme sports as you are but am willing to try anything once...and who better than to try it with than a guy you are totally in to??? I would never make you give up what you love and I would expect the same back.
I think that compromise is all thats needed - sheesh, hiking, biking is lame-o simple stuff that any lazy fat ass chick can do!! If she isnt into that stuff tell her to go knit a scarf and find a computer geek...she just isnt for you.
Your hobbies, are awesome and they make you unique and interesting. You will find a girl that is a bit edgier than the ones that 'arent into it'.
Keep looking and dont give up your passions | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:40:07 PM | | If you "tone down" your activities for anyone (friend, SO, mother (lol)) you aren't being true to yourself. If a SO was into something that I wasn't into, I'd support them by going to watch, cheer them on, & take pictures! Then after, go for drink or meal, and talk about it :-) If it's important for them to participate, but I wasn't into it, it would be important for me to go watch them kick some ass! | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:46:37 PM | I pondered reading your posting and I thought as a 40 year old woman when I believe as long as you are honest up front...you will never need to change in the future.
In relationships, people have a tendency to give-up what is important to them as an individual...a few months into the relationship people will change back into who they really are...
Please keep in mind....some Saturdays...you may be willing to give up...and that's okay...
Stay true to who you are now and someone will appreciate that in the long run...don't change for anyone but sacrifice when necessary..
Lisa | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:19:54 PM | Saturday is just one day of the week. No need to give it up. Although it is nice to give it up once in a while if something special is planned. You can always date every other day of the week. I would never give up something I truly loved and was an intrinsic part of who I was and someone who loved me would never ask me to... and neither should you.
I don't look it but I'm a total adrenaline junky. I might not be good at these things or do them well but they are fun and give such a great natural high. If it's too much for me, I'm just as content sitting back and watching or going off to do my own thing. I would think most people that are really interested in you would feel the same way. Accepting and willing to share it or off doing their own thing. You don't have to do everything together or have all of the exact same likes. | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:47:37 PM | I just turned 34 and have the same dilemma... I grew up skateboarding and snowboarding, and I'm looking to do more kitesurfing and learn wakeboarding and wakeskating this summer. I even still teach little kids skateboarding lessons.
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I wouldn't expect anyone to try that stuff. Sure, it would be cool to find someone who did any one of those things - but I have no expectations of it.
I'd be open minded enough to at least accept someone else's girly hobbies... if not even try them myself, in some sort of couples-context.
...if someone else judged me, and thought I shouldn't do the things I love, where I'd be open-minded and even willing to try there things, I'd say that's simply a bad match - someone I wouldn't really want in my life, or I'd just end up feeling restrained.
You wouldn't want that, would you? | |
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| I'm 39 and women hate Extreme Sports
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:13:50 AM | Don't change for anyone, there are plenty of women out there that participate in some of all of the sports you are suggesting.
Your sports listed: repelling, rock climbing, whitewater rafting, Level 5 Geocaching, hikeing, biking, sky diving, scuba/snrokleing
I would try rock climbing although I am terrified of heights, I would prefer hiking
i can't wait for the day when I finally get to try whitewater rafting
Geochaing, I've recently heard of, it sounds fun
I'm already an avid road biker ((I bike every Thursday night and Saturday morning and wouldnt' change that for anyone) , I also do have a mountain bike and am willing to kick my own butt on the trails
Scuba I'm told I can't for medical reason, but I can try snorkeling.
That leaves repelling and skydiving.... those I just won't do, back the the heights thing.
So you see, it is possible to find enough in common, then you could incorporate some of her activities into yours and then you won't feel like you've missed out on anything. | |
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