| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/23/2007 9:26:35 PM | I have a rule about having no rules about dating....
But then I called myself a hypocrite... crap. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:10:33 AM | | My rules are if the first date was a nightmare,move on. If it went fairly well then give the guy a second chance. If he blows it the second time he is done. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:46:21 AM | This is intersting... I haven't had very much dating experience... I didn't really date before my last two boyfriends and only went on a few dates or would just hang out with either of them. I haven't ever been on a bad date yet, but if I think from the first it wont work and I wouldn't like spending time with this person then I don't see the point in dragging it on for 2 more dates. Luckily, my most recent date was awesome and I had a wonderful time.  I would love to go out again, but he hasn't asked yet... I am thinking of asking him out, but I haven't done it before so...I wait. It was only 4 days ago though so.... I am keeping my fingers crossed. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/25/2007 2:00:22 PM | I fond 99% of women dont get past a first date with me.
I am very fussy ! | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/25/2007 2:18:45 PM | | I don't think people should go out on 2-3 dates with someone that they clearly aren't interested in. However I do think that many people are too quick to dismiss someone. Many people have stated on various threads that they tell within 10 minutes if they are interested in the other person. The only times I would dismiss a man that quickly is if I'm not physically attracted to him, he is overtly rude, or I found out something about him that is a dealbreaker such as he is married. Sometimes I will know by the end of the first date that I'm not interested in a man. Other times it might take me 2-3 dates to figure out if I'm interested in him or not. I might want to learn more things about him before I make any decision. There is no set rules or criteria. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/25/2007 4:24:35 PM | | Possibly two. I did that recently with someone from POF when the first date didn't go so well. However, if it's not going well, then why three? Everyone has their own methods of dating survival, I guess! | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/26/2007 10:22:24 AM | | The Reality....That is funny!!!! No...we went out again on August 1st. weekend!! | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/26/2007 3:41:32 PM | | I do a two-date rule. I always give two dates, if they want to (sometimes THEY don't have the same rules; that's okay by me). I am pretty sure that I can size someone up for dating potential fairly precisely after two dates, but not necessarily after just one. If I'm in a bad mood that first date, they may suffer the consequences. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/26/2007 7:33:35 PM | Unless the first date was a disaster (he was drunk, smelled bad...etc) I would go on another date, as I know that I have not always shined on a first date...
You never know what happened that day to put someone not at their best... | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/27/2007 3:07:31 AM | I personally thnk, you need to go by your gut, trust your instinks, if something says RUN d it lol and if something says stay do that, I think its sensitive and intutive of you to realize that "nerves play a huge role on first dates.. bravo!!
so much these days I dont see any emotional connecting going on, I mean aS WELL AS IN MY OWN LIFE OUT THERE IN THE DATING WORLD.
its almost like were all searching for something non exzistant!! and now Im totally off subject lol..
take care | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/27/2007 4:13:39 AM | I find that I usually won't agree to a 2nd date when a 1st date is just mediocre, although he seemed like a nice guy. It's mostly the result of my just not wanting to lead that person on nor waste more of their time and money. It's hard to end the dating with a person after accepting a 2nd or 3rd date without myself feeling quilty that I should of not encouraged their continued interest in me when I wasn't really feeling interest in them after the 1st date. As it is I end up feeling quilty over the time and money they wasted for the 1st date. I have been known on more than one occasion to try to get over that guilty feeling by asking them to come early to a POF party so that I could buy them dinner as a way to pay them back. I'm not after free dinners after all, I'm after my one someone special  .
Ironically though, the man who became my second husband was one of those where the first date was just mediocre yet I continued to date him as he seemed to be a nice guy. We actually ended up falling in love, getting married, sharing our lives for 7 years. Guess I wasn't in guilt mode back then..strange. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 11/27/2007 7:47:13 AM | wow, a 3 date rule, thats way faster than i wanna go. I have to have time to think it out
what all i had learned so far.
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:47:41 PM | | my friends and i have talked a lot about the three date rule...but not as many of you are discussing it...we talk about the three date rule as if you haven't had sex with the girl by or on the third date you should stop seeing her...i was just curious about everyone's opinion on that if that's a fair rule...or if you have to apply it on a case by case basis depending on the girl...and women...what do you think of that "rule"? | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:16:54 PM | Why would anyone voluntarily agree on a first date to sign up for an extended period of mediocrity
I guess you can't read? people get nervous on first dates, if there is mutual attraction.
People are just stupid these days. everything doesnt go 100% smoothly like James Bond in a movie, or a fairy tale, real life isn't hollywood.
Remember in the old days people actually lived in communities where you would get to know people over time. theres no way you can find out if there is a connection much less get comfortable with a person over 30 minutes of coffee. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:05:32 PM | | depends on the situation, i have known after one date i wasnt into the guy. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:40:49 AM | | I think it's a good idea...so many people go on a first date and then you never hear from them again. Some people think that if there aren't INSTANT skyrockets and fireworks, then there's nothing there. I think it takes seeing someone a few times to find out if there's a good match or not, because like you said, sometimes there are jitters on a first date that by the second or third date, you've relaxed out of. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:31:12 AM | Re the Opost
I do not have a three or a two or a one or a 20th date rule.
I approach dating on a case by case basis. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:14:05 AM | OP: I agree with niick and few other posters. It really is on case by case basis.
I'll elaborate. If your date doesn't do anything offensive, keep seeing him.
You never know. He might be the one to bring you chicken soup when you've got a cold and you'll see a side of him that will make you fall for him head over heels.
Weed out those, who deserve a red flag, not for lack of sparks.
I had plenty of sparks with my ex-husband. Girl, sometimes sparks lead to explosions and outrageously expensive divorce. Not so sparkly then.
Nice, quiet guys are best for long term relationships, and that unassuming personality takes time to show itself.
:-)
Remember, you want a life together, not a great date.
Choose based on qualities that make it happen, be it on 20th or 200th date. | |
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| Three Date Rule?
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:48:05 AM | My 3 date rule:
If they are not cooking and cleaning for me by the third date, there is no fourth date. | |
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