| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 10:15:25 AM | Got a few for ya:
“I'm a virgin”/ the reaction will either speak volumes, or be good for a laugh.
“Tell me how long it's been for you, while I count”/ don't mention if you're counting seconds, min, days, guys, then tell him to hush part way through like you're having trouble counting.
“Got a calculator I can borrow?”
“Long enough to know I don't have anything catching. BTW when were YOU checked last?”
This ones a good idea even if he dosen't ask.
“Thats funny, I was just about to ask for your references too”
As the waiter comes by ask him or her “Hon, how long HAS it been?”
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 10:34:54 AM | Many men would be untruthful about saying how long they have been without, simply because we are all supposed to be "breeders" who's natural instinct to mate with as many as possible steers us into many beds. How much further from the truth can it be? 
We seem weak or maybe even gay if we say how long. I am not weak or gay and have never been sorry about sometimes saying "no" to a woman. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 10:47:47 AM | | If someone is making the decision to enter into a relationship based on your sexual encounters - they are NOT worth having in your life anyway!! You should be accepted based on your merit - not sexual experience! Be exactly who you are - do not answer such a personal question to a relative stranger. That special someone will come along and not worry about past partners - or experience - or pulling down your panties on a first date!!! | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:24:22 AM | I don't know why other men really has to know how long it's been when it's really not important...WHY?!!!  | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:41:52 AM | Abby, your post reminds me of one guy who claimed his marriage was dead ... blah blah blah ... and he did dare to ask such a delicate question and got the answer.
I don't pry into peoples intimate agenda, I prefer when they say things on their own accord - when feeling comfortable with each other BUT in the case of the guy in question I fired back with the same question and nearly fainted. He got leg over just 4 days ago, with his wife, of course. 
Yep, I too did wonder why he asked such a question?! To "create appetite"  or to see if the competition was strong?
What a twisted mind?!
Anyway, *sex after so long a time* could feel like a *shock to the system* but spontaneous, well "brewed" ... and with profound feelings these *shocks* come across as very pleasurable and memorable | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:46:06 AM | | The first man I met on this site asked me fairly quickly how long since I'd been intimate. I answered him honestly and I got a totally different response than what you say. He thought I'd must be some lonely, horny woman who would jump into bed with him at the first chance. The lesson learned here is don't answer the question when anyone asks you the last time you've been intimate. Think about it, why are they asking you that? What is the purpose in the question? It's too personal a question to be asked on the 1st date and really none of their business and has no bearing on where the relationship will go. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:10:41 PM | too personal a question to be asked on the 1st date and really none of their business
was joking at first but this thread is slowly convincing me that "none of your business" really is a red flag answer. The major point of the thing is sex. Hello, yes, I'm somewhat interested if a woman is willing and capable of sex. if she's not, I'd like to know that before "investing" a lot of time.
What's the point of dragging the thing out? To lure a man into investing enough time and energy so that he has a "commitment" regardless of sex? | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:37:36 PM | He thought I'd must be some lonely, horny woman who would jump into bed with him at the first chance. The lesson learned here is don't answer the question when anyone asks you the last time you've been intimate.
Exactly.
They want to know what the "Exploit Potential" is, how easy it would be to sack someone. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:44:57 PM | OP, tell them that you can't quite recall how long it's been since you last had sex, but you DO remember not having sex with the last guy who asked you that question.
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:53:01 PM | | If men disappear because of the lack of sexual activity then it is probably for the best. I certainly do not want to be with a woman who is experiencing an active sexual life. Being smart does not mean your frigid | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 4:16:35 PM | Just because a women doesn't have sex with a man, doesn't mean that she isn't getting any. If you are using some sort of toy for masturbation you have no fear of your gash healing over and becoming a born again virgin.
If these guys vanish from radar after the first date because they figure they aren't going to get any, they are not worth your time! Go with your gut feeling, and be true to yourself. At the end of the day if you still like what you see in the mirror then thats all that matters. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 4:39:17 PM | Thank you, I too associate sex with caring. Without the magic the sex is just work and a waste of time. You guys that just want sex go find a hooker or are you too cheap, that way you won't have to ask, you will know it is a sure thing. There are apparently sites for you where the women on them are looking for sex only, go find them.
When I have sex it will be with my mind and body. And by the way I do love sex, anyway I remember I do, (LOL) and when I do again it will be with someone special.
And don't ask how long ago. Because it will be the last conversation we have. If I am with you for any length of time it means I like you and it maybe going in the direction we both want it to go. If I am there I like you, If I let you hold my hand I like you, If we are hugging I like you, If I let you kiss me I like you. the rest will follow in good time and if it doesn't we still had a good time. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/15/2007 5:03:56 PM | you should always get respect and a true gentleman does not ask you that | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 2:22:24 AM | When I have sex it will be with my mind and body.
In other words, sex is going to be sucky, a duty to be reluctantly performed.
Heck, I'm glad to get crossed off that list!
I love playing pool but I sure don't reserve my games for "that special one", I play people better than me, worse than me, ruder than me, taller than me. I like to play pool. I'm not buying into the line that "I like sex but I never have any" excuse. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:45:54 AM |
This is where the problem begins, when men ask how long has it been since I have been intimate sexually, they seemed stunned by my reply.
I would NEVER answer that question ! That is none of his business and I would probably just flat out tell him that also - or would turn it around and say how long has it been for YOU ? Or something like - not long enough that I have forgotten how - I cant understand why anyone would ask that of someone actually | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 10:49:34 AM |
I cant understand why anyone would ask that of someone actually
Because they don't want to be drawn into a relationship with a woman who apparently believes she likes sex but not enough to actually have any?
Oh, come on.
I can't even believe this discussion. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 11:23:27 AM |
when men ask how long has it been since I have been intimate sexually, they seemed stunned by my reply.
Tell the truth...
You had some great sex 15 minutes before they picked you up and since they are so stupid for asking such a question, they are never going to know how great it is with you... | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 2:27:05 PM | Abby
Fill us in a little on this becasue I've bot a problem with it.
1/ Most men wouldn't ask how long becasue it's not important
2/ Most men would have some rreservations about the REASON .
3/ Most men would not make any assumptions and just vanish. They would ask you why.
Having said all that the most important question is not if you have sex with men youve just met. Once again it doesn't matter.
The imortant question is if you do enjoy sex when you have it.? Or are you just doing it to oblidge the men? | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 3:04:51 PM | yep
That is a good point crayonzz with the opposite of frigid. Affection can go a long way! | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/16/2007 5:23:14 PM | carol
Are you talking about
-sex
- good sex
- orgasm or
- fabulous sex.????
And how long is long | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/17/2007 4:52:41 AM | I like to get to know someone first before I share that part of a relationship with someone. A physical relationship is just part of the package. I find that when you like someone enough to take that next step with you will have a much better relationship in the long run.
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:59:21 AM |
who apparently believes she likes sex but not enough to actually have any?
I don't BELIEVE I like sex - I love sex and intimacy, just because I haven't found that in a while doesn't mean anything and again, is none of anyone's business. Personally, I would think that a guy would ask that only if they wanted to find out if a woman was sleeping around at this time. | |
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| Sex after so long a time
Posted: 12/17/2007 8:20:13 AM | I love sex and intimacy
There is it.
You felt a need to qualify "sex" with "intimacy".
That says it all - "sucky sex".
I would think that a guy would ask that only if they wanted to find out if a woman was sleeping around at this time.
It's interesting to me that when the topic has come up for me, it's been the woman that initiated it, perhaps as a precursor to why the sex was going to suck.
Wow.
Most of the women my age don't actually like sex, as near as I can tell.
They say they do, apparently because you can't nab a man by saying otherwise.
Man, this really sucks.
But it makes it a lot easier to make decisions.
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