| When photos lie
Posted: 12/16/2007 1:49:59 AM | Let sleeping, and beaten to death. dogs lie ....
Scroll through 25 profiles here with multiple photos. How many can you find where it is difficult to
believe that all are of the same person ?
Yes, some folks “lie” with old photos. Some “adjust” them. And some just suck with a camera or
scanner.
BUT .....the thing that we all have to accept is that sometimes WE lie. Our imaginations “fill in the
blanks” and flesh out what we THINK another person is going to look like and are then disappointed
when our imagined personas do not match-up with the Real Life versions.
I have met/dated women who are both better and worse than what i thought their pictures showed .
But ALL of them look different. POF does not allow the space for large jpg files.
The photos here are clues, just like the profiles, about who you can meet. They are not going to be
perfect representations in 3D.
Why don’t we see threads like “ (S)He claimed (s)he liked to “have fun” in her/his profile and (s)he LIED! I brought my jigsaw puzzle to our date and they refused to play with me !
Everyone knows puzzles are FUN!”
( PS: I will guarantee, in writing, i am 100% as ugly AND sarcastic in Real Life as i appear here.
Double your money back if i am lying!
As to the Fraus song parodies....... this is the 2nd one i have seen her post, and the only thing that
stopped the first one playing in my head was the 2nd one. Very funny! | |
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| When photos lie
Posted: 12/16/2007 2:06:12 AM |
Observation : 'LARGE' foks should Never wear Prints - Solids Only
I love prints and wear them all the time and always will no matter what anyone thinks. As for my pictures ,well two are only a couple days old so they can't be anymore recent. | |
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| When photos lie
Posted: 12/16/2007 2:20:32 AM | You know. Being working with graphics for quite awhile now, I kinda agree with the orignal poster. but in all defense, the over all dimensions of the picture you see in the profiles doesnt help them either. So you can have a GOOD HIGH RES pic taken with a GOOD digital camera and pop them up in your profile and then they turn to mush!
My pictures in my profile , the close ups of my face are done with an INTEL webcam just not to long ago. The ones of my music gear, (were taken back in 2004 and my music gear changed since then hehe so it isnt up to date so I DO apologize for the deception of not having RECENT pictures of "my gear" hehe), they were taken with a pretty good digital camera. As you can see they dont look any different in quality then the Webcam shots!
And whats even funnier is if you have a tall thin picture of your self and use that.. the thumbnails stretch them out to a specific SQUARE image size 75x75 , which makes the tall thin pictures look short and chubby... so to avoid that it is best to use more squared images.. hehehe
And what about those "women" who use pictures from catalogues?! cause catalogues
usually have more then one picture of the same model wearing different cloths. Hey i have seen it on here plenty of times hehe! it is so obvious. the way the scanner picks up the print of the catalogue pictures. Heck one time they didnt even take the page number out of the pictures hehehe! | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 5:28:02 AM | | the only thing that really bothers me is when the pic isn't recent.. | |
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| When photos lie
Posted: 12/16/2007 6:03:06 AM | | well i have to agree to a point .. but sometimes like myself i am straight up my pics are of my face which i think is a good thing i dont lie im a chubby gal and i am honest about that but .. as the one person said when u take a full length shot form a distance and use it as a main photo people only see a silquet of what u are and base oppionions on that if they cant really see the face they will say ok decent body ... buti dont know what her face looks like ... so i start with a face and then show other pics if need be ... im a cute chubby girl and im n ot afraid to admit it !!! | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 10:03:57 AM | | this topic falls into "The vague reality" section of the dating handbook currently in the works...look for it soon...hahhahaha | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 3:09:00 PM | | I imagine pretty soon video clips might be available on sites like this, then the real fun begins! | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 4:03:32 PM | I met one guy who's pics were SO deceptive that I think he noticed the disappointment dripping off my face when I met him. I couldn't hide my shock.
His pictures made him look light skinned. He had a million and a half pictures, and the skin tone was a consistent color. He would bite down in every pic to define his jaw. He'd pout. His eyes appeared lighter.
THE WORST:
He took every picture from the same sort of angle to REDUCE the width between his eyes, making the bridge of his nose smaller. Seriously!
All of these deceptions were systematic and present in every picture, even with pictures with other people, even VIDEO! He sent what I'm guessing were pre-taken photos from his phone all the time to me as image texts, so it appeared that he always looked like this. While I knew when I met him the pictures were of him, I was just... utterly... amazed. First thing I did after the meeting was over was run home and look at his pics. Focusing on the distance between your EYES - who would have thought! And boy does that change the way your face looks.
When he tried to pout and bite down to define his jaw in person, I nearly died! He did it ALL NIGHT! And he'd try to hold his face looking down a little, and at a 3/4 angle!!
I didn't know men could be that vain. Honestly, I think this guy could have rivaled LBJ on the systematic deception front  | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 4:24:23 PM | Anyway, as for me, I'm never happy with pics I take. I have one of those credit card sized cameras - it's actually the smallest camera on the market, so it always gives a fish-eye effect (wide angle lens). That effect is never flattering, especially for body shots.
So I have a video I've done, as well as a webcam (it's part of my monitor, so it can't be placed in a flattering position). At least this way people can see me moving (and hear voice)! After all this, I don't think there can be much doubt in someone's mind of how I look. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2007 8:37:29 PM | I wonder if anyone will trade me a Canon 5D for one of my kidneys?
Is that what a Kidney is selling for now?
Well, I have no knowledge of photography and yet my pics look like me.
^^BG^^ | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 11:18:19 AM | | First off, all my pictures are real and recent. But Love the guys that show only head shots, because they can't show how heavy they really are. Or the guys that hide behind sunglasses or or close their eyes., Or they hide themselves in shadows. When I see pictures like that. It raises red flags with me. He is trying to cover his face. Why? Probably married or involved with another woman. Why else would someone obscure their face. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:20:48 PM | Here's what's funny, though:
I had one guy say, "Wow, you certainly don't do your pictures justice!" [He and I dated for a while]
And another--same pictures--say, "Hm, isn't it funny how different people are in photos and in real life?" [He and I split the bill at our one and only lunch]
So--YET AGAIN--the picture is all well and good, but sometimes people build up in their heads this idea of what the person is going to ACT like as well a how they look. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:30:07 PM | The only thing I ask about photos "How recent is your photo?" Especially if it is one of those touched-up glamor shots. I look for natural settings, and the consistancy of the person. Different colored hair, different hair lengths all trigger the question "What is your hair color and style now?"
I understand people might lack knowledge on how to come up with a good photo.
I have to admit, the woman I dated was much prettier than her pictures showed.
I have not run into any out-right deception yet. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:39:36 PM | | You have too much time! R U single ? | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 12:56:24 PM | | I emailed a guy a couple times that had prefer not to say on his profile where it asked about body type. He had one head shot and the main picture of a guy with a full six pack. When he avoided a question I asked, I flat out said are they photos of you. He said they weren't and weren't even of the same man. I emailed and asked him if he really wanted to meet someone on this site because of the fake photos, but he didn't reply. I guess some people get knocked for being truthful and give up and put up fake photos. It is a shame people feel that way. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 1:05:54 PM |
You really ought to be shot by a pro who knows photography
and then we hear the "beware of the woman with the Glamor Shot photo"...
A photo ought to be something that gives you an idea whether you'd lie to meet the person. Let's face it, everyone has "turn offs" as far as physical appearance and facial features. I guess the photo ought to be clear enough to compare to those down at the Post Office,so one can be sure they aren't going to meet somebody on the FBI's "favorites list ".
Not everyone has time, money or access to pro photographers or pro quality equipment. Some photograph better than they look, others don't. Sometimes it's just not feasible to have new photos done every few months. Photos are a guideline. Of course using extremely old or very "doctored" pictures is not a good idea. Using photos of somebody else entirely is just WRONG.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 1:23:41 PM | My personal favorite is the ones that pose next to a HOT car that isnt theres...t hehe kathi | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 3:29:38 PM | People will never be happy with these freaking photos-
my pics- taken in the bathroom last Wednesday at work with my
camera phone- Its a picture- the person, you need to look at the person.
Get to know the person.
curlygrl~ | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 9:48:28 PM | | Dont forget that most people see what they want to see. LMAO even though I state im 5 ft 6 in my profile, I still get the whole, 'I imagined you as being taller' comment sometimes. Ive also heard from people that I look taller than I am in person. Go figure. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 10:35:58 PM | Hey.....let's face it....people can be anything they want on here..pictures, words, age, location, job, etc.
But when it comes to looks, I am here to tell you that one of the best looking men I had ever dated couldn't take a good picture to save his life. But I have also met some men who became more handsome the more we talked and he smiled....and I have met some very good looking men who got really ugly fast the first second they opened their mouth!!!  | |
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Posted: 12/18/2007 12:25:54 AM | | Alot of profile pics are holiday snaps, that and weddings are when you have pics taken most...We all look better relaxed and tanned or suited up ...i hate having my pic taken and so dont have many ..Often when on here ime hungover or in my scruffs with no make-up, and i say as much, but i sure aint gonna post a pic of me like that.....just as i wouldnt go on a night out without putting on the slap and tryin to look good....Best foot forward!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 4:47:41 PM | I'm new to this site, and I have noticed a couple of things about some of the members photos that are intentionally or unintentionally deceiving to me, and it's a turn off.
1. More than one person in the photo, usually an attractive and unattractive person.
2. Face shot only, with a grainy camera.
3. Too dark, overexposed or excessively blurry.
I think it is OK to cut out the background, or brighten the photo if it is too dark, as long as it does not change your complexion.
Just my two cents... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 5:01:59 PM | i just laughed when i saw this thread cause i just see it all the time! the one i see the most i think is the ones where the women are heavy-set, so they take the overhead pic or from whatever angle they can and manipulate themselves into a position to where they actually look slimmer than they really are, then say "average" on their profile as if something like 5'5 and 150lbs is "average".
i mean if someone doesn't like how their body looks, do something about it! don't go hiding it and thinking that someone isn't going to be annoyed when you said average and turned out to have your belly sticking out further than your chest! i'm not all about looks in the least bit, but to me, i need an attraction on all levels, which includes physical as well. i get overweight women all the time that think someone who's profession (personal training) is to get people in shape are going to want someone on the opposite end of the spectrum! that's like a crackhead going after a police officer!
if a person can't accept themselves for who they are, they're going to have a hell of a time finding anyone else who will! i mean i don't care if someone is a fitness model, let alone even works out. that doesn't impress me nearly as much as personality. but when you intentionally try to deceive me, your chances go right down the drain with that one. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 5:12:58 PM | i wonder about this internet thing, it's fraught (is that how its spelled? somebody help me here--lol) with deception and lies from both male and female..its a good thing people don't take this sh%t seriously or they'd be really pi$$ed!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 12:41:42 AM | i do AND don't agree with the OP's post.
yes there are camera tricks. when i'm not taking candids of my friends at a bar, i do know how to use an SLR. however, tricks is one term that can be used, but staging a shot is another.
let me give this example. go out and buy a copy of ralph or FHM. have a look at the photos in those magazines for a moment. the people and shots were not taken on a whim, hours of staging took place for those shots to happen - the model had to be made up, the lighting had to be prepped, objects in the room had to be kept to a minimum or at least blurred using a larger focal width, etc. (haven't even TOUCHED on the amount of photoshopping which goes on, or the amount of 'dud' shots which end up in the recycle bin). point being, the model didn't just walk into the room off of the street and say "hey, let's do this!".
had the model actually walked off of the street, with no makeup and the shots were taken without any lighting or additional prep-work and just uploaded straight off of the camera without even being parsed through photoshop, would anyone look at them?
put simply, the profile photo is a person's primary selling tool. better the photo, the better the responses normally are. no-one is going to use their drivers licence photo on as their profile shot, despite how honestly harsh the shot can be. same principles apply if buying a used car out of the trader. if the photo showed a clapped-out old banger, probably wouldn't get much interest, but if it was polished, detailed, and had a photo taken from such an angle it made it look awesome, then the photo will probably be more appreciated and maybe get a few buyers.
i do agree about the "flashed out" pics, old pics and webcam pics. i do make it a point to make sure my pics are current. however, given that i work for an offset printer, i can tell you that not everyone takes good photos and can say that a good portion of my day is devoted to spotting (removing hair, dust and scratches from scans), and colour correcting pics. we don't do what the tabloid mags do and airbrush them, but can do it if asked to.
however, i think most people are in tune to the "tricks" which are being employed in the photos described by the OP and would make up their own minds accordingly, so don't see it as a huge problem. | |
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