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| why internet dating is unfair for men
Posted: 9/3/2009 7:53:40 PM | | You can't be serious...unfair to men...walk a day in the shoes of any women out there, you'll find out what unfair is all about...guys want us to look 25 years old even though we tell you in our profiles that we are 50+...men want thin, even though they have 30 - 50 pounds of extra flesh they refer to as muscle atheltic built...if they only used the same mirror on themselves that they judge women through... maybe it has to be a meeting in the middle...so give the ladies a chance...GUYS!!! Once again...it's not always about the GUY!!! | |
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| why internet dating is unfair for men
Posted: 9/4/2009 6:34:42 AM | This is a very interesting and entertaining thread. Internet Dating is actually a Godsend in the sense of you're not bar or club hopping. Now, onto the subjective aspects as many of you have mentioned in your posts.
It's been my experience that folks are not "settling" in their dating choices; most have been married and "know" what they're looking for. Sure there are some shallow people that want Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Christie Brinkley or Cindy Crawford. But I believe they're in the minority.
There are other mitigating circumstances too; "unfinished business" which varies from being separated to not being divorced long enough is very BIG in my humble opinion.
We're all human and handle situations differently; a lot of folks use a broad brush to paint people in general. It's human nature, a lot of people have never learned to not expect people feel, act, and behave as they do. Most say they don't have expectations, but they really do because if you don't meet certain criteria (expectations?) then you're undatable.
I'm here because after 22 years my wife wouldn't accept me with all of my warts. And we both got tired of the same old argument. Yes we went to counseling and I tried to meet her expectations but at the end of the day it was not enough. So now, so I've been told, since I'm separated (read married) that's my Scarlet Letter on POF. After that, I'll have to "heal from the effects of divorce" and then maybe before I begin collecting Social Security I'll be deemed datable. LOL!
I'm actually enjoying this site, it's a sociology major's dream come true.
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| why internet dating is unfair for men
Posted: 9/10/2009 3:30:11 AM | Ive been off and on here for about a year. Still looking, Looks are not every thing. I do think it is very important to be attracted to someone,However i do tend to like reading the profiles more then staring at the pics. Looking for love is difficult. Most of my emails consist of Hello sexy,Wanna have fun tonight? So im wondering is my profile being read or is it just my pic being stared at? we all want the same thing, And i think it wont happen unless we stop searching for itgood luck to all may you find what your searching for. | |
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| why internet dating is unfair for men
Posted: 10/8/2009 11:13:43 PM | ...lol, man get over it! Dating's always been unfair for men. We usually make the initial approach, we pay (In so many ways etc.
BUT! ... put yourself in a pair of pumps for a minute guys & think about it from the woman's pov! She's meeting some usually huge guy (I'm an amateur bodybuilder ladies, & personal trainer, if any of ya like beefcake? Yes, a shameless self promotion, i admit ;).
I have heard so many dating horror stories from women I'm sometimes surprised (& thankful) most of them aren't Lesbians! (not that there's anything wrong with that).
Plus let's face it, we cheat more, drink, fight, fart! Then there's the serious nut-jobs, unless a woman has back up (& sometimes even then) she could be in some serious shit, so let's stop crying and start smiling, hopefully at the very next lady that catches your eye guys. Time to 'man-up' fellas. | |
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| why internet dating is unfair for men
Posted: 11/14/2009 11:30:27 AM | | After many attempts at using match.com and yahoo personals I have to say it is always the same people. I am sure it is as unfair on both sides of the fence for womena nd men alike. The one thing that is a problem seems to be height. I have no issues getting attention from women face to face, but at 5'5 put that info in an online profile and you get nothing. You rarely come up in a womans search options. All the women 5'0 tall want men atleast 5'10 or taller. I joined plenty of fish a few weeks ago and it is no different. have sent out severla well written emails and they just delete them or do not reply. I think I have only gotten one message sent to me and she was 80 miles away. Bottom line is the internet is a dating critch and has turned this generation into a bunch of people that do not know how to socialize the way my generation did becasue we had to, there was no computer screen to hide behind. Life and the worls would be better if we did not have all this technology where interaction is concerned. Our children are losing touch. The last girl I dated sent me a text to break up. A text, give me a break, dated for months and I get a text. Talk about a lack of respect! What is this world coming to? | |
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