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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/21/2007 4:10:41 AM | Waiting for your number to come up at the bank while sitting in the chairs and couches they have for that can work! But then what kind of people wait for 30 or 40 minutes at the bank? Married women and seniors. Yesterday, a man gave me his number when he decided to not wait for 50 more numbers to be serviced, I thought WTF, why did he choose me over the ladies waiting, later, I was waiting for a taxi and an old man stopped and asked me where I was going, to give me a ride. Dang! I was shocked! Do I look so pity worthy or something weird or were their intentions "weird", this is not the US mind you, or the spirit of Xmas, dang, the world has gotten weird or I have been in the forums for too frigging long!!! lol lol lol All the women I run into IRL are either married or engaged to be married, or seem too tired (or both). And women in admin jobs (the bank, the market) seem too jaded by working conditions - work pressure to be in the mood for flirting, except for some not so happily married ones! The offline world is not that condusive to dating/flirting these days, even in places outside the US, Canada and the UK. And if you smile or look happy too much, then they take you for a ..... or a ..... (because you interfere with their misery, "what gives you the right Mister to be happy, can't you see we are miserable, RESPECT our misery, Mister")! Looking happy, even when you do it because you believe in the value of smiling and being upbeat in the face of gloom, makes people dislike you IRL, envy, misery is more tolerated by jaded societies (ie most societies/countries, these days). Online is not that much better either! O tempora!!!! I keep on smiling IRL and online, but not to get dates, I doubt that, but out of "ideology"/cosmotheory! Merry Xmas 
PS. Once upon a time, what made Americans different IMO was their naivite to be zestful and postive minded even in the face of uncertainty. These days, they are just as pessimistic as Europeans, IMO.
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/21/2007 4:39:10 AM | Good Place To Meet:
Home Improvement Stores like Home Depot & Lowe's. Bought a house and go in both a lot and could sure use some helpful advice when I'm standing there, scratching my head, trying to figure out which one to buy of whatever I came in there for. Always so many choices and prices and have no idea which one I really need and naturally there's never a "store associate" around when you need one. 
Not A Good Place To Be Hit On:
OB/GYN office! Some guy on here thought it was a great place to meet (sure hope he was joking) but personally I'd think the guy was some kind of weirdo and be wondering why he was there in the first place (would likely think he was there with his PG girlfriend or wife?) Definately not a turn-on for me! 
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/21/2007 4:45:22 AM | UNfortunately, I have seen those that went from the "other more tradiatonal ways of meeting other singles" to the internet. lol
Yeah, some even find the internet better, because they dont' want to have to deal with a guy talking to them that htey don't like....because there's no real life delete or ignore o rblock key. :p | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/21/2007 10:04:55 PM | | Personally, whenever I'm out and about at the grocery store, book store, computer store or home improvement store I'm there to buy the stuff I need or want and get out and get on to whatever it is I'd rather be doing. If I wanted to be social I'd go find a bar or a club, or even the Internet. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 7:08:45 AM |
Personally, whenever I'm out and about at the grocery store, book store, computer store or home improvement store I'm there to buy the stuff I need or want and get out and get on to whatever it is I'd rather be doing. If I wanted to be social I'd go find a bar or a club, or even the Internet.
Steve Pilot - I finally highly unusual to hear this statement from a man.
I usually hear it from a woman.
And quite frankly, the places you listed (esp. the bookstore) are alot better than the bar, club and ESP the internet.
You m ight want to switch around your priorities than be reclusive (with the internet...at least go to a POF party, or find something) And, you should even know, bars and clubs suck big time. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 9:39:01 AM | | Ok I've read a few responses as to where to meet someone other then the internet and local bar/club scene. I see a lot of favorites is grocery stores, walmart, dance lessons, parks, and other social events. All sound like logical places. But lets be realistic here. How many ladies, out in a public place like this, would be a little or a bit apprehensive and defensive if a complete stranger followed you around for a bit then approached you? Especially in this day and age when there is so much mistrust. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 11:48:43 AM |
Don't overlook "meetup groups" like meetup. c o m
This could be a good suggestion, although I joined meetup and the one 'nightlife' group in my are only has functions on friday nights, when I'm already busy. They also tend to pick douchey college bars which I would hate.
So after 3 months on the site, all I get is a TON of emails from people I've never met about this or that event I'm not attending. 115 emails in one day once.
It can be great, but make sure its for you before you go signing up for anything that sounds half good. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 10:35:25 PM | I was thinkin about this very thing earlier this afternoon...where does one go to meet people....for whatever reason? Where I live, there are so few options it seems, unless a person happens to live in a larger metro area. I have a brother in law who has a tough time meeting people, and I imagine I will too once I get my divorce.
LOL, Amberlynn...
.i've heard walmart can be a good place to meet people I was thinkin that just this afternoon!!!
Percentile Index...
Networking through friends, family, and colleagues.
Attend social events, and get involved in the community. are you kidding me? first off, there isn't much in some areas in the way of social events or community functions, although hopefully OP lives in a massively more populated place than I do. Then there is the suggestion of friends, family , and colleagues and networking......LMAO..I know you mean well, but I wonder how many looked at that and thought NOT IN THIS LIFE EVER! lol. Now, maybe you have a different way of looking at that than I do, but to me your use of "networking" here is what people here refer to as "fixin' up" or "setting you up" with a date. Now, while I'm not opposed to someone sayin something like," hey, so and so is single, have you thought about that? ", I still would be cautious about asking those I work with if they know of anyone...thus inviting them into my personal arena...and when it comes to family and friends??? Uh Uh...not gonna happen. Maybe the OP has family and friends who are not quite as overbearing...bulldozer mentality...as I do, but they would be the LAST people on earth I'd ever ask suggestions of because they don't give suggestions, they give orders, lol. Nope, I prefer to keep anything that has to do with my relationships out of their range of interference. Makes for a more peaceful existence, at least for me.
LMAO @ ousu...too funny!!!
Wow, ORCAANNA...never heard of PWP groups before...I'll have to tell my brother in law about that. I already suggested the church thing to him and he wasn't interested. Said it seemed kinda sacreligious to him, lol.
OMG belly!  that is hilarious! But most likely true, lol.
Know what you mean lela...I'm on the shy side myself when it comes to stuff like that.
Great suggestions ya'll, I can't even think of more that haven't been listed....and as for the dance thing...that's good too, OP. Most women like to dance. I wish I still danced, lol, but that's another story altogether. Still, ladies in school usually go every chance they get, so that's a great opportunity. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 11:06:18 PM | Of course a woman (and a man) is spooked by someone who walks up to them in a supermarket, mall, grocery store, etc and tries to flirt with them. It has to do with the social "systemics" of the times.
In the old days, people tended to run into other people more than once. Thus any contact developed over many casual/incidental meets in the realm of normal daily life. Only players tried to get a date on the first time they met someone. Only the bars and discos were places that such "fast food" behavior was tolerated. And that is why they have become synonymous with "meat markets".
In the old days, people had friends, they socialised in co-ed groups, consisting of single and married people, groups were open to newcomers and a newcomer to a group had the opportunity to get to know other singles in the group and vice-versa. And the lead to a date invitations happened sort of "naturally"!
What has happened to those socialising groups these days in most western countries? That social phenomenon, which has many reasons/causes, is IMO at the root of the problems IRL "meeting new people" that has made via online initial contacts so popular. The reality is that IRL meeting new people goes against the governing SOCIAL (not sexual) dynamics of the times. They are possible, but they are harder to achieve and need very well developed EQ, to be both natural, un-threatening and effective (not a waste of time).
The best way always was and is: through friends. But friends have stopped making introductions for many years now. The reasons are social in their nature, IMO, and maybe a sociologist can explain them (not a psychologist or a dating guru, IMO).
Thus the best places to meet people other than online is via work situations and in countries where that is considered NO, NO, the internet is IMO by far the only game in town. But issues related to "safety", ie knowing where the other person is coming from are rampant, compared to the old times of socialising groups when you knew a thing or two re the person via the social milieu. Now it is, to paraphrase Frank's song, "strangers in the Net, exchanging mails..., relying on profiles...."
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 11:12:10 PM | | OH HEY!!!! Brain fart, people! lol....I was reading through the things I had on my favorites lists back when I was homeschooling and found something I'd forgotten about completely. ..the tourism site for my state!!! It has a calendar of events page that lets you know what is coming up in every area as far as big events (and alot of them are free except the gas to get there) and usually has two months worth posted, so plenty of time to plan in advance around work or even for dates once you meet someone, although I had in mind the fact that there would be alot of people attending these events, therefore increasing the number of singles to meet in one spot! I'm sure other states have similar pages, might wanna check 'em out! | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/22/2007 11:23:47 PM | I know this is going to sound weird but when I was married I would get approached in the grocery store by single men all the time. Especially if it was after six pm. If I had been single it would have been great but I wasn't. So I thought if I was ever single that would be a nice place to meet someone. But where I live now the majority of single men are over the age of seventy.
Short Legs is correct, Home Depot and Lowes is a great place to meet single men and women. I also think if you join clubs and organizations that interest you, you will meet someone like minded. Green Peace, Amnesty International, Habitat for Humanity. A lot of the papers will list things going on in your community, even if you don't meet the gorrilla of your dreams you can do some good for your community.
Where I live we get a community paper every month that lists clubs and things of interest. There is a paper here called the Creative Loafer, it lists singles groups and meeting times. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:37:49 AM | (and a man)
Nick2020
Negative on the "Man" part.
A man that is "spooked" by a woman that approaches him at a bookstore or or grocery store is either.
1. Has social issues
2. Is gay
'Nuff said. 
Where I live...women are definately wierded out by men approaching them....probably because it's a small town and single women are reclusive.
It's a small/growing town.
Anyways, we do have events and f unctions...and have bit "Fleamarket Extravaganzas"
However, you only see FAMILES as these events.....you'll see "hot moms" but they are pushing baby strollers, with the dady hving the 5 year old on his shoulders.
Youll NEVER see single women out and about....they "stay in" , so unfortunately they are just doing THEMSELVES a disservice by not "Getting out of the house" to these local communty events.
SO what do they do? THey stay inside on a Sat night, hanging out on lame Dating sites. lol
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:44:46 AM | Or has been and read horror stories about women predators and psycho murderers on POFF forums or women who think all men are that and are out to even the score!!!
Seriously: I was merely trying to formulate it in a PC - gender neutral way! And the fellow poster saw an opportunity to make a post!!! 
PS. I see that the fellow poster has added to his post:
"it's a small/growing town., etc etc etc"
Well to be honest, I always thought that people from small towns are a tad weird, see eg "Easy Rider". Behind the small town niceties, especially remote towns, lurk some pretty scary/spooky psychotic psyches ("Dogville", "The Hills have Eyes", "The Village", "Payton Place", lol lol). Not the best of places for us city folks, accustomed in urban jungles!!! lol lol
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:46:19 AM | | meeting someone in life usually happens when ur least expecting it, that can be just about anywhere u go in ur everyday life, the car park, supermarket, work, even in your home area, someone u never even thought about before etc. i actually think the more u look the less you find!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:46:46 AM | | The gym is a great place. Only problem for me is i know these people and although they are wonderfully sweet and kindhearted i have known them so long i see them as just friends. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:49:57 AM | i see them as just friends.
LAME!!
Well, see that's probably why you're still single....you come up with excuses not to date anyone. And you "Friendzone" them.
I bet just about every single one of those guys in the gym want to ...well..do whatever with ya. .. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:01:22 AM | Typical response from someone who is jealous of others for being good looking. I am single because i choose to be . I have many options and for a number of years chose to not date at all.Don't vilify others or try to make them like how you are because the people i am talking about i know . You don't know them.
What a typical jealous and spiteful "nice guy" response.
I have already addressed why i have joined this site in my profile. Since you want specifics. Wow what a bitter ,angry hateful little man you are. I must get about 60 of you guys everyday telling me how wonderful you are .Jealousy will eat you alive if you let it.So your ugly ,get over it and accept that you did not win the genetic lottery . | |
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