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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:11:54 AM | Get over yourself.
Ah...the ol' "Single cause I choose to be" response....typical of one who seems to have issues dating. Such a platitude.
If you're single because you choose to be, then why are you on a dating site, when you could date any of those "Sweet and kindhearted" right there at the gym? Grab a bite after a work out?
I find it ironic that you find a gym to be a GREAT place, but yet you won't date anyone there.
Come on , it's not like dating co-workers. You are severely limiting yourself by having this "policy" of not dating gym patrons.
I find women, more and more opting to do the online dating thing unfortunately......theres women I met from other social groups (yes...groups that meet in real life) that resorted to online dating for some reason.
One woman claimed to have plenty male friends in these social gatherings,but has this policy of not dating ANY of these single and available men...so she's resorted to online dating, and meeting complete strangers as opposed to dating those she's familiar with.
Is this is what we're becoming? Are we finding online dating to be the BETTER option than meeting people face to face in real life - ie the gym, the bus, community functions? Chance encounters...I guess women feel better by hitting the delete key instead of having to actually listen to a guy talk to her, right?
I have already addressed why i am joining this site now in my profile.
You just NOW, made this change....If you did....then...wow, didn't know I could be such an influence. Of course you still have 'Long term' there. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:54:34 AM | nick2020
chill out. is this just an angry rant or or are you angry all of the time? change your perspective and you may change your life. a good place to meet someone over the holidays... do some volunteer work, give out gifts & food to the sick & poor. i'm sure they do that in greece. plus it feels good to help people. naturally brings up those seratonine levels in your brain. makes you want to smile on the inside & out. everyone knows someone who knows someone else who has a nice single friend even the sick & poor ... | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:08:45 AM | "nick2020
chill out. is this just an angry rant or or are you angry all of the time?"
Would the esteemed and ad hominem practising fellow poster care to specify which post or posts prompted her kind personal remark and why?
As per her personal recommendations re activities for me, I did not ask for them and they are so out of location!
Thank you sooo much!
Cheers
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 10:06:17 AM |
meeting someone in life usually happens when ur least expecting it, that can be just about anywhere u go in ur everyday life, the car park, supermarket, work, even in your home area, someone u never even thought about before etc. i actually think the more u look the less you find!!!!!!!!!
Exactly...just be happy, enjoy life, do things that you want to do, and you'll meet people without trying. There are people almost everywhere you'd go in the course of a day. If you see one you like, say something. Pretty simple.
LAME!!
Well, see that's probably why you're still single....you come up with excuses not to date anyone. And you "Friendzone" them.
I bet just about every single one of those guys in the gym want to ...well..do whatever with ya. ..
Wow, someone struck a nerve...how did what she say even begin to insult you or reference you in any way? You had a pretty strong reaction to that. People being "friendzoned"? Perhaps they are ok with being friends too, you really don't know what goes on at her gym.
First of all, going to the gym doesn't guarantee you'll see something you like. And secondly, you DO know most people actually go to the gym to....well, work out? I've been going to my gym for a few years, and to be honest, I don't see a lot of guys I have any attraction to. Sure, people are in better shape, and more health conscious, and there are some great bodies there, but not many guy I'd date.
Even if you do see someone you like, it's not wise to start bothering them in the middle of a routine. Most are there to do what they have to do and get out.
If you're single because you choose to be, then why are you on a dating site, when you could date any of those "Sweet and kindhearted" right there at the gym? Grab a bite after a work out?
If she's single because she chooses to be, then she doesn't want to date anyone anywhere - online OR at the gym. All part of wanting to stay single. Hate to point out the obvious.
And yes, those of us who are single by choice do have dating issues - we don't want to have to deal with tolerating the schedule and esteem status of another person in order to date, usually. I'd date if I actually met someone who I like enough to want to fit into my life, but until I do there's really no point. Single is better.
I really think it wakes some guys up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat to know that there are women out there who could date easily but just choose not to. For so long women were all thought to be trying to find someone to complete us. The concept that we have dating options we don't choose to use is just foreign to most guys I guess (tho some men agree and actually do the same themselves). Well, guys, get used to it! | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 11:51:07 AM | I really think it wakes some guys up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat to know that there are women out there who could date easily but just choose not to. For so long women were all thought to be trying to find someone to complete us. The concept that we have dating options we don't choose to use is just foreign to most guys I guess (tho some men agree and actually do the same themselves). Well, guys, get used to it!
I need to start giving out little kittens with a bow on it, and deliver it in a basket for some women...and label it, "Here's your new Cat lady kit".
And these women wonder why they are still single...oh, but they are "Single and looking" on a website...go figure
Talk about a contradiction.
You ever even been asked out by a man in your gym at all, and if you do, what do yo usay to them?
You said she's single becuase she chooses to be? ither ONLINE or at the gym umm she's on here, right? (POF that is)
I don't bother people in the middle of a routinen, but I have talked with people at the gym between rou tines. I know how to be polite, and when's the right time to do things. ie getting a drink a water at the fountain...cooling off at the front desk...or just casually shooting the breeze after a work out.
I have seen peopel conversing while using the treadmills aside each other. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:05:41 PM |
I need to start giving out little kittens with a bow on it, and deliver it in a basket for some women...and label it, "Here's your new Cat lady kit".
How cats got such a bad rep is beyond me, but at least cats give you space once in awhile, and don't demand as much attention as dogs (and some men) do. But this isn't about pets, this is about women who are fine with being single.
And these women wonder why they are still single...oh, but they are "Single and looking" on a website...go figure
Talk about a contradiction.
What women wonder why they're still single, the ones that are single by choice? Not really. We know why we are - and get this - we're fine with it!
You ever even been asked out by a man in your gym at all, and if you do, what do yo usay to them?
Like I said already, I am not really into a majority of the men at my gym. If they can get me away from the ipod and magazine/book and not on a cardio machine, they're welcome to try, but typically I'd rather talk to them if I have any interest. It works better for me.
You said she's single becuase she chooses to be? ither ONLINE or at the gym umm she's on here, right? (POF that is)
No, SHE said she was single by choice - I guess you missed it. I just repeated it.
I don't bother people in the middle of a routinen, but I have talked with people at the gym between rou tines. I know how to be polite, and when's the right time to do things. ie getting a drink a water at the fountain...cooling off at the front desk...or just casually shooting the breeze after a work out.
Yeah me too - if I see something I like, but mostly the workout is the main reason to be there, and meeting someone you like is just a backdrop (just like most places we go).
I have seen peopel conversing while using the treadmills aside each other.
Yes, me too - mostly people that show up together, or know each other. The majority of people at my gym wear ipods, so they can't talk to anyone. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:12:10 PM |
Yes, me too - mostly people that show up together, or know each other. The majority of people at my gym wear ipods, so they can't talk to anyone.
It's unfortunate that people actually prefer to be anti-social these days. (non-social that is) and unfriendly.
Remember the days when people actually did NOT have a problem with you saying hello to them.
It's not only the gym though..its everywhere I heard women say things like, if they are at a store, bookstore, or whatever....that they are "in there and want to get out of there"
They dont want some guy talking to them in the grocery store line
Women have made themselves so unapproachable these days, it's pretty bad now....this is not only exclusive to the gym though. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:25:01 PM |
It's unfortunate that people actually prefer to be anti-social these days. (non-social that is) and unfriendly.
Remember the days when people actually did NOT have a problem with you saying hello to them.
It's not only the gym though..its everywhere I heard women say things like, if they are at a store, bookstore, or whatever....that they are "in there and want to get out of there"
They dont want some guy talking to them in the grocery store line
Women have made themselves so unapproachable these days, it's pretty bad now....this is not only exclusive to the gym though.
We all still say hello at the gym, instructors, patrons, people walking in or out of locker rooms and classes and to and from the parking lot, but a majority of us want to just get to the routines and get done. Personally, once I am motivated to work out, chatting will just kill my zone...and when I am done working out and 600 calories in, I am really just too skanky to feel like being social.
But anywhere else I go is different. I like to take my time and browse places I go to, and relax in restaurants and all that so I do chat a lot with people - to me it has nothing to do with romance.
As I posted in another thread tho its hard to chat with men as a woman without fear of them taking it wrong and not enjoying it as general conversation so we only tend to talk to men we're into. It's conditioning but it's the way it is... | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:32:21 PM |
Exactly...just be happy, enjoy life, do things that you want to do, and you'll meet people without trying. There are people almost everywhere you'd go in the course of a day. If you see one you like, say something. Pretty simple.
I got tired of being mistaken for a hooker. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:42:17 PM | It's pretty funny how a thread that started out asking what are some good places to meet people other then the internet turned into a debate on women who are single by choice.
I also think it's pretty ironic that a woman who's single by choice would be even using POF. Seriously, doesn't that strike you as odd? | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:47:17 PM | Sex addicts annonymous...
Forget the gym, people dont want to be disturbed there and are already on the defense, and sadly they're are a lot of weirdos there. They're are plenty of hot chicks out there just stay away from the ones with attitudes and are single by choice...lol
for normal people try: Book stores, market, church, friends parties, networking and social events, starbucks... Always friends of friends which come pre-approved. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:00:57 PM | Forget it Betty he has concrete in his ears and is also slightly retarded. He can't understand what is being said to him. Being single by choice is a foreign concept for men like him. They can't understand why anyone would take a break from dating to just live their life free of entanglements.
Imagine being single and being on a dating site . Why that's just so strange . I mean the whole point of dating sites are not for people who are single are they. I guess it's only for people who wont show their pictures because they are married and afraid of being discovered or morbidly obese ,housebound and so bitter and angry that they must take pot shots at strangers on the internet.
For the last time get out of mommys basement and turn off the darn star wars dvds before you wear them out. 
I already addressed why i was single before and why i don't want to be anymore. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:31:33 PM | POF isn't strickly a dating site. Obviously it has forums. So you don't have to be on here for dating only.
Sometimes forums teach a lot about the other sex and how some can be so bitter, negative and down right mean, to make someone "choose" not to even bother dating.
I read through the "bashing" part of the forum and just because Annika stated she knows alot of guys at the gym but looks at them as friends, by no means makes her a bad person. Then the other OP (male) starts in on her. Totally uncalled for and does not show a very good side on his part. It is amazing how one simple statement can turn into such drama on here. Wonder why dating is so damn difficult these days. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:47:05 PM |
I have been single for three years now by choice . After breaking up with my last boyfriend i decided that it would be nice to have my life all to myself for awhile without having anyone to answer too. I must admit that for a long time it was great ,but now i am looking forward to finding someone special and a total cutie to love and to love me.Definately i would love to get married some day and to share my life with someone .Will it ever happen ,well i really don't know ,but it is something i want .
I refuse to write it out again. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:15:00 PM | They're are plenty of hot chicks out there just stay away from the ones with attitudes and are single by choice...lol
Exactly....lol. "Single by choice" is such a platitude. And what's with the over use of bikini photos...I think she is just on here for the attention if anything. ..so perhaps she's not really serious about finding anyone.....just enjoys the attention.
Alot of women have pretty much limited the options to approaching them in public....name the venue...and they don't want to be approached.
I also think it's pretty ironic that a woman who's single by choice would be even using POF. Seriously, doesn't that strike you as odd?
Again, I'll reiterate - such a contradiction.
It is amazing how one simple statement can turn into such drama on here. Wonder why dating is so damn difficult these days.
Well, she represents the category of single women that has really limited themselves to whatever venues are available. And, she does mention "long term" in her profile...so obviously she's "Single AND looking". | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:26:07 PM | I wish people would read post before making themselves look like idiots. Boy the frustrations are really showing with some of the men in here. Talking about me in my bathing suit on the beach lets everyone know how bad you want me. I suppose you have copied it and are now using it as a screen saver.I will copy and paste my post again for poor retards who have no reading comprehension skills.
have been single for three years now by choice . After breaking up with my last boyfriend i decided that it would be nice to have my life all to myself for awhile without having anyone to answer too. I must admit that for a long time it was great ,but now i am looking forward to finding someone special and a total cutie to love and to love me.Definately i would love to get married some day and to share my life with someone .Will it ever happen ,well i really don't know ,but it is something i want .
Now i guess i have to go through it for the people who can't understand as well as others. I HAVE been single , the operative word is HAVE , it was by choice because i have those choices available to me which men who live in mommys basement don't have.It WAS nice to have my life to myself in that time , operative word is WAS . I am NOW looking , operative word is NOW. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:35:50 PM | OP, I don't remember if I posted in this thread before or not, but the best place, IME, is in an upscale grocery store, at the salad bar. It's easy to start a conversation, natural to exchange business cards, and not at all awkward to suggest meeting after work for a quick drink to "finish the conversation". When I've needed just to "date to date", and wanted to meet someone NOW, it's possible to make that sort of "quick hit" day almost any work day.
Check out lines at the gas station works too. It's almost always easy to start a conversation about gas prices, and not that difficult to segue to suggesting a meeting after work, if she works nearby. I met my ex wife (19 year marriage) that way. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:12:59 PM | Best place to meet some one other then the Internet? How about lecture series events at local universities and schools?? I go to those a lot, and I meet some really great people that way!!
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:43:28 PM | Seems some of the best opportunities for meeting new people is when I'm on a date...what's up with that?
I've taken bridge classes, cooking classes.....any thing of personal interest and met nice people. I'm in a college town...and there is always something going on.....one being the Texas Hold Em games..they are all over ...at bars, restaurants...all kinds of places and they attract all ages...not just the college kids.
I think a smile and a good attitude opens all sorts of doors!
One other place I've struck up good conversations with strangers is the wine store.
Ask other peoples opinions or suggestions.......good opportunities.
Becca | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:47:54 PM | Well to be out of topic like a lot other posters with the debate above ... and to clarify what I think 'single by choice' means ... just not being desperate as online dating sometimes entails but more of a picky/looking for something that you haven't found ... I may get 2 guys at the gym, 1 at the grocery store and 3 at the bar but neither is completely what I'm looking for... so I am available for someone more compatible ... now this may go to some debate on women being too picky (blah blah) but hey it's our choice and as long as you're not complaining about being single it's all good.
Also, just because someone is on POF does not mean they have to be SERIOUS about finding someone ... you can always browse, read forums or just not even log in till you do get an interesting message ... some people have just been so burned that they leash out on anything. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:29:13 AM |
now this may go to some debate on women being too picky (blah blah) but hey it's our choice and as long as you're not complaining about being single it's all good.
That's the problem with people who date these....if you would, pick up a copy of the "Unconnected Generation" , it talks about how single people have these long laundry lists of unrealistic expectations.
And, it will come to pass, sooner or later, that women DO say, at one point sooner later, "Why can't I meet a nice guy" or "decent guy" or whatever. Because they are always passing them up...not giving them a shot...probably becuase they are not over 6 feet tall, or are balding or just too "average" looking in appearance. There's a theory that 80% of single women only persue 20% of the single men.
I go to singles parties or gatherings, and it's funn y, because most of the guys there are under 6 feet tall, not really "Hunks", doughy physique (non-muscular), etc....and alot of women take a look around, and are typically the ones to leave early or never come back, because theyd idn't like the selection of men there.
"Dang, nothing but ugly men here....how bout I just take off early?" | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/26/2007 5:03:48 AM |
And, it will come to pass, sooner or later, that women DO say, at one point sooner later, "Why can't I meet a nice guy" or "decent guy" or whatever. Because they are always passing them up...not giving them a shot...probably becuase they are not over 6 feet tall, or are balding or just too "average" looking in appearance. There's a theory that 80% of single women only persue 20% of the single men.
Some women actually realize that we may not find what does it for us, and are more than prepared to be single for life, and we're fine with that. It might make a few men feel better to say we'll complain about it someday, but a lot of us like our single lives, and we're used to em. There isn't really a deadline on finding a man, it's totally optional for a lot of women to do so - nice but not a necessity, sort of like a fireplace or an inground pool; we'll enjoy it if it's there, but if it's not, we're not up at night thinking it's missing.
I go to singles parties or gatherings, and it's funn y, because most of the guys there are under 6 feet tall, not really "Hunks", doughy physique (non-muscular), etc....and alot of women take a look around, and are typically the ones to leave early or never come back, because theyd idn't like the selection of men there.
I never REALLY got the singles party thing, sort of like a nightclub or party atmosphere but with a different mindset...to me it always seemed forced. I DJ'd many of them over the years, and there's a certain vibe about parties to me that makes it feel like more of a meat market than a basic nightclub. People trying too hard or something. If you're there to just be around other singles, than fine - but a lot go there expecting to pair off...just not a good mindset to me. It should be a natural thing, not an expectation or something you try to make happen.
Expectation IS the mother of dissapointment. People need to learn to relax and just meet people in the course of their everyday lives. It's hard to balance not expecting anything with being open to new opportunities, but if you can master it, not a lot really bothers you. | |
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| Best place to meet some one other then the Internet
Posted: 12/26/2007 5:29:03 AM | Thanks UB.
i had been wondering about that about 'parties'. they seem like an approach and simultaneously sort of make my skin crawl.
the lectures and book clubs also sound like good ones. community service is also good, but since that comes with my job, i dont use it.
Also wondering...
IF POF created forum sections for "Haters" and "Centers of the Universe", I wonder if these threads could progress a bit more, well, progressively. | |
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