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Posted: 11/7/2009 9:38:26 PM | "Why is it that most of the guys who are critical of the subject at hand are guys in their 40's ?? Is it because women their age are having fun with the younger guys? Is it because they aren't too successful with the younger females? "
you are generalizing and what kind of fun, I am sure the fella is having a riot too if that's what she wants
I don't see too many couples on the streets where the man is younger, it is unnatural /freaky.
I am not sure who would want to try to be successful with anyone much younger regardless of gender unless it was just dating or bordering intimate encounter anyway
personally, cougars are a dead turn off, anything seeking more than a few years younger strike me as unstable or immoral but each to their own I guess... I can see anyone with class taking them seriously in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 6:57:08 AM | This is stupid. Older men with younger women has been socially acceptable for centuries. And it is not for everyone, just as all younger women do not necessarily seek an older man...
The problems arise if the younger man wants to have children and the woman does not or cannot. BUT he could very well find a gal his own age who can't have kids for medical reasons/or who doesn't want them for professional reasons. The other problem is that often the younger man is looking just for an experienced sex partner which is insulting when we clearly state on our profiles that we are looking for more substantial relationships. But if the 2 can past those issues...whatever. What's good for the gander is good for the goose.
It's an individual choice that is no one else's business but the ones involved.
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Posted: 11/8/2009 8:36:15 AM | I don't want just a sexual relationship with anyone.
The younger men who contact me in their 30's think
that I will run over and do them without even knowing
their name just because they are younger. I would love
to slap them. You wouldn't believe the messages I get:
"so when can I come over for sex?" is usually all they write... | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 5:19:54 PM | roglol1973, What you describe is exactly what I'm careful about with younger guys. They have to be equally as responsible as me, and employed for me to consider dating or an LTR. But age isn't everything, my ex was a problem drinker and we were about the same age. So to me, someone not obsessed with alcohol, drugs is important irrespective of age. So many factors are more important than age. We get waaaaaaaaaay to caught up in our "criteria" and lose the humanity of the people we message with.
Even so, chances are that a man who is much more than 10 yrs my junior will not have enough in common with me, or be emotionally ready for an adult relationship - as in ready to settle down some. So, even though a date doesn't have to be "forever," I say why date someone who would not be LTR material, if an LTR is what you want?
And, for me, it is.  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 7:45:50 PM | | How fun ! A cougar. Which is a predator . . but you cant call her a child molester even if the guy is young enuf to be her son cuz child molester only applies to males in this society. (Look up the teacher Mary Kay who molested a 12 year old student) and then was allowed to marry him when he was 18 and 2 kids later. The woman gets so many things from being a cougar . . to mooch off the guy, sex, AIDS, and have her vanity of being past her prime and getting old removed. Then when even the young guys reject her she will be bitter and cry that guys and men are mean to her. Her bitterness and heartache will be well earned. Same goes for guys but we dont get the chance . . . . we get sent to prison for 50 years if we do what the females do. Think about it . .. then think about it twice . . . . . then just be happy if your not in the drama. I learned and managed to avoid it all. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 9:13:37 PM | Barby, that's the point. Most younger guys are not interested in a LTA with an older woman. They are typically looking for short time fun. Most women are wired for a relationship, whether admitted or not. It's a losing game the Coug cannot win in the long run. Now some have accepted the have fun thing and can live with it.
I'm on a site which men and women are on who are starting over. I can't tell you how many threads cougs start like. OMG! a young guy asked me out!!! can this be real? he's sooooooooooooooc cute!! Then two weeks later they are on there crying about being used. It's sickening sometimes i see it over and over. Many of us men are not fools either. We have little interest in 20 something women, we're smarter than that. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 4:20:45 AM | | It has to be whatever suits the 2 people involved..... you can't just make one rule for everyone and say its ok, or it's not ok. The same with younger women/ older men. Personally, I feel if it's just for sex, then there must be some kind of chemistry there between them for them to have a good sex life. If it's a relationship, then you have to be more careful. My friend married a man 15 years younger than her, and in the beginning it was good, but as time went on, the age difference definitely came out, and they ended the marriage in disaster. That's not saying it can't work, because I feel it can. I'm just saying if you are planning to make a real relationship out of it, you will have to work at the differences. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 4:29:59 AM | How do I feel?
Oh oooh ooooooooooooooooooooooooh oh my god dont stop ooooooooooooooh
Thats how I feel. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 4:14:32 PM | | Well I have had younger men, and I can tell you, a lot of them have disappointed me big time | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 4:54:33 PM | I say to each their own, but sitting back and watching in a club (people watching in clubs is sooooo entertaining), the cougars are pretty sad to watch. The ones who purposefully are going out of their way to attract the younger guys...and the same thing applies to the men who are attempting to attract the younger women. The younger guys are obviously out for sex from a woman they deem to have all kinds of sexual experience and will show and do things to them that they won't or can't get from younger women. Just because they think that, doesn't necessarily make it true, but that's the perception.
Young guys are pretty much hormonal thinking and will get what they can. I'm not saying every young guy - that would just be stupid...but the ones who go after some of these older women in the clubs are a different breed. Frankly, I find the women who are actively seeking the younger guy, at least in this type of setting, pretty pathetic. They have a certain look of desperation about them. They don't generally dress age appropriate. It's not that a number of them don't have very nice bodies. Half the time I'll see them from behind first and think how nice they look because the body suits the clothing...and then they turn around and it's like either the face of The Joker from so much plastic surgery, or it's the face of the old Sea Hag from the Popeye cartoons. Who am I to judge though...they're both out to prove or get something to stroke their egos...or just to stroke whatever they feel like stroking physically. The guys may also be looking for someone to provide them with material perks, just as some young women will do with older men.
The above is a different sort of scenario, however, than two people who actually find themselves well suited to each other, for various reasons that go beyond sex. There are a number of young men who are more mature than their age, and there are a number of women who are younger at heart and in actions and even looks than other women their age. It's unusual to find this though. I'd wager to say that the majority of people seeking others or being drawn to others of an extreme age difference tend to suffer from some form of emotional problems, the examples of which are likely many and not singular at all.
At any rate, it's their life to live and their own skin they have to be comfortable in. It's just not for me. My guy is only 6 years younger than myself. At this stage, that's not considered a difference at all, but that's probably as big of a difference I'd ever be comfortable with - again for many reasons. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 5:13:49 PM |
"so when can I come over for sex?" is usually all they write...
Old guys do the same thing. I had a man my age write to me this morning, wanting to come to my town and spend a couple of nights with me. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 5:17:39 PM | I had a man my age write to me this morning, wanting to come to my town and spend a couple of nights with me.
Which proves there are just plain downright pigs at any age (of both genders - but you do find this more so prevelant with males - some women may wish for it but don't even attempt to contact in that way). | |
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