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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 12/21/2007 6:07:31 PM |
Do you feel I overreacted and went overboard here? Yes.
Starting this thread is further overreaction.
You met someone online. Tried to plan a meeting with her. It didn't work out.
That sort of situation happens to many people. But only the very immature and selfish people go into a public forum to start a thread bashing the other person as a result.
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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:17:02 PM | I'm with the majority here. I also think your expectations were unrealistic.
I look at a first meeting as just that, a first meeting. My expectations are that I'm going to meet someone for coffee and see how it goes. Most of the time there will be no date, because there are only so many people with whom you click, and that's fine.
I don't consider a first meeting as any kind of huge commitment, it's just a meeting. You see how you like the other person and then go from there. I've had first meetings that were done in a half hour because we realized there was nothing there.
The people who said "go with the flow" have it right.
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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:37:33 PM | | Mr C, you are over the top with expectations here. While I don't like being "pencilled in" nor being another "beep" to which they scroll down their blackberry...I do not see things your way. This was an initial meet & greet. This lady was on the fly, very busy it seems , and she did in fact take the time to pencil you in for a first meeting. You should be thankful for that much. I'm afraid to imagine what you thought the meeting would look like. Obviously she didn't think you were worth the investment so no further contact and your behaviour just proved her instincts were right. Take it easy and have fun and put some light heartedness into this. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 2:55:17 PM | Total over-reacting ..sounds little like controlling...your emails to her were already suspicious and I feel that she was being honest about being new to this and that this was a meet and greet thing..you should never expect anything more than that. At least she was for-warning you ..some ppl lie and then pressed for time...they show up late and out of sorts...mind is on work and can't relax enough to enjoy the "meeting". You should have found the time to meet her instead of spending time and energy in mind-bending stressful emails to her...she was probaly thankful that you didn't meet with her after that nasty attitude! | |
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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:00:28 PM | Personally,. I think its an AWFUL lot of "Hooey" over an actual "Non-meeting,.. & non-event".. Advice: take a deep breath, ...bring the next batter up and throw the pitch.. whether the last batter struck out, popped out to center or left field, or fouled out to the catcher,. they are STILL out, Next Batter up!...(don't get caught with spit balls!)   | |
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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:15:16 PM | Hi, well Im new to this too, alot of people seem to have experience within this medium.
I read the tips on meeting people? ok If you read them it suggests you agree to meet for an hour , that way theres no obligation if you just dont connect, and you can take coffee... to a date if you really click.
Im assuming you didnt know this info, it seems to me she did..
personally I think, you way overeacted, and had too much emotional stuff towards her before you had even met for coffee.
maybe you were both nervous as well.
Maybe try relaxing, and hey.. at least you met a woman who was prepared to meet you in person.. thats great..
but i dont blame her for not responding, it sounds like she was honest/direct in her intent.
maybe read the tips on meeting etc, heck and if you find out anymore info, re this medium please let me know. im learning too
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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:38:28 PM |
You may not like what I have to say OP, but I will do my best to be nice about it...lol
The message flow strikes me as you being an anal-retentive, demanding, overbearing, snob. Mind you, this is strictly opinion.. mine. When making dates, be it for coffee or otherwise, there are two involved, not one. You do have to take what her wishes are into account. If you don't like them you can always move along to another person.
Talk about control freak....... so glad he doesn't go for my type......... I'd run the other way if I sense this one coming...........gawd...what an escape she had!!! | |
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| Penciling in a possible relationship? Scheduling romance?
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:42:56 PM | There's nothing wrong woth 'Penciling in' a potential Romance . .
I leaned pretty Hard on My pencil . . !!!
Mostly, because it involves a considerable Distance . . and I'm Proud of the Lady for
Not sweeping me aside, initially . . just for Distance's sake . . !!!
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Hopefully . . she'll have the chance, some day, to G l o a t over her catch . . !!!
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Posted: 1/8/2008 12:01:33 AM | This may be offensive coming from a 25 year old... (but that doesn't make it wrong) :) ....
I think you think too much. And, you speak your mind too much.
I think you should go with the flow and not speak so much---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I gotta agree with the 25 yo and anyone else who said same thing already. Old man, chill out, just meet the chick and have a good time. don't start criticiing your new date before you meet her! If after 3 to 6 weeks of dating she is always frantic and it still bothers you, then tell her. If you was sending those message to me, I would have cancelled too. And, If you show up and a chicks not there, oh well, ENJOY THE SCENERY. No big loss eh? Now you see..... | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 8:28:17 PM | OP, I have to agree with those who find your attitude rigid and over-bearing. I too would have walked away when faced with the type of dialogue and pressure from someone I have not even met. Lighten up and things will work out better
winebuddy, you can be on my blackberry anytime  | |
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