| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 2:52:22 AM |
PS- I find it ironic that there are 5 pages on why it's great to be single & votes to delete this thread, whuich is the opposite topic. Perhaps it is a reflection on many of the posters- they'd rather be single, LOL! No wonder I am cutting back on this forum!!!
I'd love to be in a relationship again, but not for it's own sake.
With the right woman it would be great. I miss the day-to-day intimacy of sharing my life with someone, I miss that voyage of discovery of finding out about a gorgeous interesting woman and being allowed to get close to her.
Humans are social animals after all. | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:51:48 AM | | I echo smilinglaughing simple words and add: to wake up on special days (like Christmas) with someone you DO care about and share that time with him/her. A very special feeling of intimacy not shared with all. | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:10:03 AM | | I agree! It would have been so much nicer to have woken up with someone to snuggle with this morning and enjoy the holiday with! | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:58:35 AM | | I'd love to be in a relationship right now. That special some0ne , that together we can be dependent on each other for the special things in life. The comfort when things are not going well. The warmth of a smile directed my way. Just the idea of knowing someone understands me better than anyone else in the world, and accepts me anyway. The sense of peace in knowing when you are out in the cruel hard world someone is waiting to tell you how great you are, and everything is OK. | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:33:11 AM |
I agree! It would have been so much nicer to have woken up with someone to snuggle with this morning and enjoy the holiday with!
I love that, I love waking up in the morning with thta woman I care about. Not just sex, but the intimacy and closeness that goes with it.
The alternative of one night stands & liasons with people who are basically strangers is just horrendous. | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:17:49 AM | " I'd love to be in a relationship again, but not for it's own sake. " ASidneyMale said it all.
On this Christmas morning.. I'm alone in my home.. comfortable in my jammies drinking my coffee... it would be amazing if I find that partner who can be here with me.. not just filling space or thinking about what this, what that.. blah blah blah.. but is totally relaxed and willing just to chill without all that stuff going in their head.. or making it happen in mine. So I've found that seeking this elusive man is my goal. I meet some terrific guys here on POF and think of all my girlfriends who'd be perfect for them... alas still looking for the guy who'd be perfect for me.
So be truthful when you send your list of Yeahs and Nays to another Fish..on what you are looking for... Laid back, or fussy..adventureous or cautious, Not looking at what people think or caring too much what others think... the true things that make or break a realtionship.. the meeting of minds as well as spirit.. Can you accept this? Can you accept that? these are the things that will eventually make or break a relationship. So a relationship is great when it bends.. but if it starts out brittle it will eventually break. I believe we are all old enough..to know what we need and don't need in our lives.. and we believe we will have that in our lives..our choice.
I still believe in love and think we all better when we have it in our lives.
The Dreamer, But not ever Desperate..
Merry Christmas...
Girlflower | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 9:50:09 PM |
ASidneyMale said it all.
Wow, don't think I've ever been mentioned in despatches before! lol
There are plenty of good, interesting people out there, the trick is to sort through the just as many bad, uninteresting ones to find them.
I believe in love also. | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/25/2007 10:43:03 PM | 59 years old and in relationship. as i just said on the x-mas post, it's great to be able to take theraflu, try not to cough on the vegetables, have him smoke the turkey and when i'm too sick to walk, he offers to get the car. i see the tv show of his choice and dam--n... i wait to open presents in the morning (his preference). mundane, peaceful, argumentative, stalemate, snuggling, safe, sharing, arbitrating, teasing, protecting, tolerating, annoying, supporting each other even when we don't agree....my best friend....kachoo!!! more theraflu.....
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:13:57 AM | Alone and "alone" just aren't the same, lol! I was "alone" today, but fully accompanied. He's on my mind, and I know I'm on his: sweet!
And someday, soon. . . . .
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| Grrreat being in a relationship
Posted: 9/1/2008 4:19:55 PM | Hi firstlight and all other readers:
You said "Show us how you are not really a hater of the opposite sex, tell us how you are proactive about meeting someone". So true. we are here to meet someone. each may have a different need but personally, I think the company of the opposite sex creates a balance that I need and enjoy.
I had a long marriage and loved being married. sadly it did not make it to the finish line but we are friends. a year after we split up, I contacted a match maker and went with a wonderful man for 11 1/2 years. great memories.
I believe in what you refer to as "an intimate loving relationship". what could be better?
Peppie | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 9/1/2008 5:13:34 PM | I'll do the cooking ..he can do the dishes...I'll do the laundry...he can cut the grass....I'll clean the house.....he can clean the cars....I'll go to the grocery store .......he can carry them in.......I'll feed the plants....he can feed the dogs ....I'll rub his back.....he can rub my feet.....We'll pay the bills....We'll go for a walk....We'll cuddle up and enjoy a movie.....We'll go to visit friends....We'll go to church....We'll go to the kids house for Sunday dinner......We'll go to bed and make love all night long.....only to get up the next day and do it all over again .....Sounds great to me | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 9/1/2008 5:42:08 PM | My guy4now and me, we're sure enjoying what we got. We don't live together and have not made any long range plans, but there's this:
someone to talk to EVERY DAY and share how you're doing
someone to drive you home from a medical procedure
someone to share your deepest wishes and fears, a little at a time, as you feel ready
someone to listen to your aggravations and you know they will still be there for you
someone to feel better after you are with them or even phone them
someone to eat the most humble meal with and enjoy every bite
someone to tease and joke with, knowing none of it will be misinterpreted
someone to get a reassuring pat or hug from
someone who will drop everything to rescue you if you ask - but you wouldn't, because you care too much to take advantage
someone you feel entirely natural around
Now, I'm a veteran of the dating wars, but I agree with the OP's premise that we shouldn't forget what we're all in this for. And we shouldn't forget that it can be very, very good - even if that hasn't happened in a while.
JMO | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 9/3/2008 2:19:33 PM | Wow thats a lot of questions!!!!
not a hater: not sure if i can prove it but common sense ( i know its not all that common) says hate does not feel good and hating half the world's population seems a lot of work to me.
proactive: i send out e mails regularly to women i have not met. i answer all e mails i am sent. i dont do the bar thing but will go to other social gatherings, church etc.
how i wish: well being stuck on the edge of a move i am pretty concerned about that right now. let me get settled next spring and i can be more open on that one. i dont want to get into something and then have to end it because of distance and there is nothing short of the voice of god or sudden death going to keep this old parrothead stuck away from the beach and the sunshine any longer. | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 9/3/2008 5:59:39 PM | I agree with gulfptgirl who said:
It would be "us against the world" instead of "me against the world".
But I also like being able to make plans with someone about the things were going to do, place's we want to go....As it is now being as single as one can be it's minute to minute and alone they add up to a lot of quiet no fun times.... | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:50:13 AM | It's great being in a HEALTHY relationship
I've seen too many, and have the experience of being in a dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship......and there are those (the majority, really) who would rather be in a "relationship" because of the way it "looks to the outside world", rather than how it actually feels and functions.
And that is NOT cool.... | |
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| Why it's great being in a relationship
Posted: 9/4/2008 4:46:17 AM | | Long story short.. My boyfriend of three years passed away this year in January. I personally think I've done pretty darn good as far as coping.. but.. as I read through these posts I now realize that I haven't taken the time to reflect on what I miss. I put up a barrier and went on with life. This thread has made me take a look at the past.. realize just what I had. I knew that I had a good thing at the time.. but now after reading here I realize that I had THE BEST and now its gone. I yearn for what I had and pray that someday someone will come along and make those special moments with me again.Thanks for sharing all your thoughts with me. | |
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