| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/21/2007 3:39:09 PM | Your best bet is go with the flow..........B.O.B...Battery operated boyfriend | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/22/2007 5:53:28 PM | ''Battery operated boyfriend''.........just don't chip your teeth.
Alternatively......try internet dating.....that'll do the trick for sure. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/22/2007 6:02:17 PM |
You know, I'm pretty dissapointed in the responses here.
This woman is going through a very serious problem that affects a lot of women her age.
While yes, it might seem like a good opener for a joke or off comment, at least show a little respect and try and give some real advice.
Oh puh-leeeeez!
Like you didn't think for just a second this original post might have been some serious bait. Apparently it's not, but at first, it really looked like that.
I myself have had the issue she speaks of following my own divorce. But I'd be careful about putting it out there on a forum because you just KNOW the kind of responses you're going to get. Read back through . . . what the OP got could have been predicted with psychic-level accuracy. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/22/2007 7:08:32 PM | Well.....welcome to every healthy normal man's world........
Is is so nice to see the other gender face what many of us have gone through for years and and years and been told to "get over it"....... So.....I am telling you to get over it......play with yourself, use your toys, run, workout, exhaust yourself with work, family, friends and activities.
When the time is right and the person is also, you will get your relief and enjoy it very much, and then be very very careful because it just might be used as a tool to get you to do what they want and need from you......Can you take out the garbage now, and walk the dogs, and I might be in the mood to let you have me......lmao.......
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/22/2007 9:38:01 PM | | While I find mine quite distracting much of the time... there's no way in hell I'd ever want it slowed. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:44:56 AM | I hear ya OP and I think the answer is SUBLIMATION.
Through exercise, reading as a distraction, creative expression (a very good one), or something that you know distracts you and takes your mind off the drive. It won't kill it but it will reduce it. And endorphins are released in doing activities that feel good. Sex releases a lot, so without sex you've got to find other endorphin sources.
And hang in there, you'll be free soon. Um, but then you'll have another can of worms :) | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:53:24 AM |
My problem is that I feel like a dog in heat. I think about sex 24/7, I dream about sex, and every man I see I want to screw.
Welcome to the wonderful world of men.
Seriously, sorry to hear about your plight. I can empathize.
I often asked myself (and my friend who was at the time majoring in genetics) how to lower my drive. He didn't know either. Until I hit 26, it was very frequent self relief.
I recommend you find a trustworthy, repeat partner for sex while you continue your quest for prince charming. Trust me, the FB will understand and take no issue. As this thread demonstrates, many men would gladly accommodate your urgent needs. Also, PoF recommends 2 sites for the FB: somespamsite and Fling (both require dot Com after their name).
Good luck! | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:26:12 AM | Mssg 24 : I simply *Confirm*
Give the Herb a 'GO' and see if it helps OP
*Good Luck* , ~Best Wishes~ to You
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:07:13 AM | This is for vro312. You are right, it was a mistake to post this here, I know that now. I was feeling a little desperate and I made a mistake. That said, some of the advice has been great. It has made me feel much better to know that I am relatively normal and there is hope down the road. Although your advice was NOT helpful to me, your sarcasm was funny and made me smile. I am human and I make mistakes and then I sit back and laugh at my mistakes. If I don't, my friends usually point them out and laugh at me anyways.
So, I am calmer, I have had dozens of invitations to "help" with my problem ,I have had a couple laughs, and I learned some lessons. Not bad for my first (and possibly last) post. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:15:04 AM | ^^^^^^
Thanks. And best of luck to you . . . it really does get better. I think it's something about a divorce that compounds the desire. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 11:43:44 AM | dancegirl,
Don't let the brutal honesty here scare you off. We all make mistakes. Welcome to the human race :)
Yes you're normal. But remember this: weird is good, so is a little bit crazy. Anyone who says otherwise just isn't "in touch with their inner self" (to quote some silly self help guru).
Yep, post-divorce gives you the ya-yas. I just hope that your post doesn't result in you getting a slew of studs offering their services to sex you up and soothe your inner beast. Well, that is unless it's what you need. In that case, choose well | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:33:06 PM |
I have had a couple laughs, and I learned some lessons. Not bad for my first (and possibly last) post.
Hey! If ya had a couple O Laughs ? Then Why oh WHY , wouuuuld dis possibly be yer 'LAST Post'?
I know, dis 'playground' Can get/be quite 'schoolyard ruff' - at times.
BUT? I know , as im sure Many Others do - That...~Laughter~ IS such a Tonic!
If we doNT laugh , at ourSELVES? Oh boy , some of us are gonna be in for some real 'trouble' - no?
"Chin UP" fellow 'forumer' As another 'put it' ... we're All HUman , in here
(or, that we 'know of' )
I 'say' - Take / Try the Herb suggested , 'come back' , Start AnOther thread , tell all.........
If it DID 'work/help'
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/24/2007 9:15:11 AM | have you ever heard of a FLESHLIGHT......It might help in this time of need..it just might lower it too.....lol
google it | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:14:33 AM | | well lowering it,is less alcohol for starters.your previous relationship went stale,and your full of the idea of more experience and cant wait to get out there.once the novelty isnt there anymore,youll hopefully settle with one particular person and devote your time to them and them only | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:01:39 PM | | OP ,Now you know what its like to be an average man, by our teens we have drive that would kill and older man,yet all we get for our constant restraint is how bad we men still are.You are a classic example of one that always wants it yet wants to be a good girl,so you have to man up and just take it,you don't see us going to a shrink or taking herbs,we deal with it.We are the same right now except for one thing,most the men want to personally shake your hand right now and give you there card and all the woman we continue to refrain from and continue to be a gentleman around still takes pot shots at us for thinking about sex so much.How would you like to be brow beat right now because your body says go 24/7,you wouldn't like it would you,you'd probably get mad wouldn't you,and you'd probably be deserving of being mad if those opposite sex kept knocking you down for something you are trying as hard as you can to handle.I am sorry you are feeling the pain wish I could say it gets alot better,but at 49 I see it doesn't,lets see been dealing with the constant cravings now for 34 years,how do I handle it.....I just do,I haven't the luxury of not | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:22:11 PM | Hmm. Nope, sorry men, you aren't the only gender to have strong desires! Too bad there isn't some easily identified thing - we all have dark hair or we all have specific colored eyes... then we'd all find each other and everything would be grand....
You've gotten some great advice here, and I'm going to buy the herb as soon as the stores open after Christmas! I hope you have a good group of friends you can depend on, they'll be a great help if you lose your objectivity.
And when you DO find someone you chose to become close to, well, he'll be in for one heck of a treat Have fun, and good luck! | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/24/2007 6:09:33 PM | | Woman from Venus men are from Mars,is proved once again. First off when you become older what are you saving it from,you ladies agree to just alieve the urges with toys when there is nothing wrong with a human.Its hard to fathom the possible social implications you strangle yourselves with. I wish just once someone would be kind enough and thoughtful enough to just use me for sex and one could only hope she would continue this abuse for 4-5 years,the older I get the more I realize what a normal behavior sex is .Its hard to imagine that it just ends up being that ladies will turn to toys rather than be with a man,thats some crazy stuff.So many of the apparently sweet ,wholesome ladies I dated turned out to be the nastiest creatures ever thrown into a bedroom,its sad they put on a false show,its sad that ladies conform to such a screwed up belief. You know in other countries our practice is viewed as if we are all a bunch of prudes,in the countries that don't frown on nudity and view sex as natural,their percentages of rape and incest ,youth pregnancies and such is a mere drop compared to our country ,same reason as why some of our least likely ladies run off with the worst a**hole badboys they can find,because its taboo and dangerous,in other countries that have there beliefs other than ours their kids are more apt to not do things just to shock their parents. Telling her to run to a toy ,run to a vibrator only purpetuates the thought that her craving is bad and wrong and that anyway but the natural way is right.Once again at your age what are you saving it for,oh and contrary to alot of your beliefs out there it was never intended to be used as a tool or rather carrot to hang over a mans head, think deep down alot of you ladies love the power it gives you | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/24/2007 6:14:06 PM | | oops ,damn,forgot your divorce wasn't final,ok the speech was for the rest of you,you know who you are,spread the word | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:29:46 PM | | A friend's girlfriend once told me, "divorce makes you horny." Then I went through my own. Then I spoke to other women that went through the same thing. It seems to be fairly common. It could have as much to do with a reaction to the turmoil that's going on as one's age. I would say talk to both your primary doctor, and maybe see a psychologist, counselor, or psychiatrist. It's a difficult thing to get through and having the hormones going nuts can really confuse things I think. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/28/2007 10:56:36 AM | My only advice is to stop drinking all together because alcohol raises a womans testosterone levels so this is compounding your problem.
I'm sure you'll make it through OK.
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/28/2007 11:24:18 AM | This also has happened to me. My marriage fell apart when I was 38 and the last 4 years have been a roller coaster of hormones. Some anti depressants will reduce your sex drive. Though they did not affect me much. I also know what you are saying about your daughter. I have a teenage son, and no way in hell am I going to become the new sleazy desperate housewife. I have taken things into my own hands...so to speak. I do date, but it is very quiet and private. It's not as often as needed or wanted, but "I get out" every couple of months...LOL
Good luck...It will get easier as you come to terms with your new overcharged body and devise ways to deal with it. Go talk to your doctor..it is very very common in women our age. When it is all over, you are going to love this new aspect.. FINALLY I AM GLAD TO BE A WOMAN!!)) | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/28/2007 11:34:37 AM | i had this problem since my 1st time and it does not get any better if you kep giving in to it.
try this for a giggle ...
............. try going thro the altherbet a-z without relating it 2 sex in any way 15yrs of this game no1 can complete it..... coz u cant go fr A to B without finding a word/object that CAN NOT relates to sex in any way!!!! once /if you do mange tofind a word beging with A , then ,and only then u can go to letter B and so on .....
good luck | |
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