| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 1/9/2008 1:05:37 PM | Speaking for my half of the team, naked pictures of Janet Reno pretty much kills my sex drive for a few days ...
Maybe there's some equivalent? 
You age and new-found freedom adds up to a normal, healthy desire for companionship and sex. So -- Bob to the rescue, perhaps?
Whatever you do, avoid a relationship of any stripe for a little while. You need to have your head together first, lest your blood chemistry do the talking for you! | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 1/9/2008 3:30:04 PM |
I'm pretty dissapointed in the responses here.
This woman is going through a very serious problem that affects a lot of women her age.
While yes, it might seem like a good opener for a joke or off comment, at least show a little respect and try and give some real advice.
Im sorry if my comment dissapoints you.. In the future Ill show more respect and leave comments that meet your approval | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:58:48 PM | Ummmmm, okay, and you're a guy? The days of the 'touchy-feely-man-queer' are over bro, you need to grow a pair. I wish that my worst problem in life was being horny all the time.  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:49:12 PM | I understand exactly how you feel.....
MY doctor told me I have the sexual drive of a man in heat....HAHA
It's like it the movie 40 yr old virgin he didn't think about not having sex until they brought it up. Then everywhere he looked there was a sexy girl....
Or the movie 40 days and 40 nights. .................
I knew just how he felt. What was it Fonz said to Richie about the divorce women...
If she is used to having a chocolate shake everyday and then dosen't get one anymore she wants the CHOCOLATE SHAKE.....
But I have done much better then thought I would not having sex. The longer I go with out the easier it seems to be.
So I guess its try to do other things to take your mind off sex until you can have it again with someone who will respect and deserve you....
Of course this is not an easy thing to do and takes time....
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 1/21/2008 8:50:00 PM | | This is punishment for telling all those 17 year old boys NO when you were 16! Now you know what we went through for about 20 years. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 5:46:46 AM | Hi dancer, Im not surprised at some of the lewd, immature
or attacking posts you got for this post, maybe you would have got some better replies from a womens 'health' site, but just ignore them hun.. Yes what you are describing does happen, usually because you have 'mentally left' a relationship, where you held a lot of who the real you was inside..or you did not recieve the emotional needs, which cause allsorts of internal hurt and anger.. the 'real' you then pops out with a vengance!.. It is a shock when this happens and unlike males, no slow build up over the years, just wham, overnight.. If this is what you are dealing with its not pleasant, and offers of sex worthless, or using a vibrator etc..as you cant actually get any relief from orgasm, as the feeling is straight back, its constant, usually stronger.. If this is 'you' then try limit self relief to minimum that you can.. take advice from your doctor.. Its not uncommon, he wont faint, he will know what drugs are best for you..talking therapies are a help with this as there are reasons in there why this 'popped'..it will reduce.. Hope this helped x | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:36:55 AM | hey i do know how you feel trust me ,but its all about control ,yes being in the situation you are in doesnt help for sure but take one day at a time ,you feel this way because your world has been shaking up and you feel that you need to feel like a woman who is wanted by all men ,trust me you probably are and could have what you want any time.
you can have friends with benefits ,they do exist but walk slowly into that area it may bite you back!.
anyway be strong ,judge well and things will be what you need someday | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 1:11:52 PM | | I felt like you at around age 14 I am 38 and I still feel that way oh well and are you free next saturday. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:53:22 PM | You don't need to lower your sex drive, you just need to find an outlet for it. Preferably a vibe that plugs INTO an outlet.
Bear in mind that if you look at divorce cases you will see that the ones petitioned initially by men 90% are over lack of sex.
Also your subconscious (because you're on the way to a divorce) is going to mess with you by telling your body that it's time to Get Some ESPECIALLY at your particular age...
I'd suggest a friend with benefits...it'll get you past the divorce and it's far easier to deal with life when you are well-fawked and happy. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:24:58 PM | | Wasn't there a thread here a while back about life-like robots designed for sex? We gotta get those! | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 2/24/2008 5:30:34 AM | There are a few natural suppressants you can try if nothing else works...
Herbal:
Hops
Skullcap
Willlow
Sage
You might want to also look into meditation. It helps with lots of issues like these.
If you pray, now would be a good time... for strength, clarity, control...
Hope these help!  | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 8:09:42 PM | OP, here are some things that have worked for me:
1) NO CHOCOLATE. Ever.
2) Starve your eyes of sexual imagery and deprive your mind of the hold sex has on you. "If you feed a stray, it stays."
3) Learn what your food triggers are and avoid them. For me, it's high-fat foods. It's crazy, but that makes me horny. This also applies to other triggers. Do certain styles of music put you in the mood? If so, avoid them.
On a much more serious note, if you don't even know why you're getting a divorce ("maybe that's why...") you have a lot of soul-searching to do. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 2/25/2008 1:29:28 PM | | Workout, if you workout hard enough you will be too tired to think of sex. :P | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 2/25/2008 2:56:36 PM | | I've noticed that what you're going through is rather common for women around 40 particularly when going through a divorce. What you need to do in my book is embrace those emotions but use them to make you feel better. For instance go to a gym and work out. Not only will you feel good, but more sexy after working out. Now if you are fully separated, you're not living with your ex, I don't see anything wrong with channelling those feelings into a rump with a real person. Just be realistic about a couple of things. One, under no circumstance have sex without protection, even if it makes you look like an easy woman, carry protection. Second, realize that you can do a bounce back into a strange relationship that has to do more with bouncing than with a fresh start. So enjoy. | |
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Joined: 2/22/2008
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 2/28/2008 8:52:04 PM | "Workout, if you workout hard enough you will be too tired to think of sex. :P"
OP, I did find and do find that this advice helps only if UN-ATTRACTIVE ppl are at the gym working out ... otherwise... DEAR GOD!!!
It gets so much worse.. ESPECIALLY after seeing all that you hit the jacuzzi and you find them all in there.. ohhh... Godd...
Good thing they got separate shower rooms... with somewhat of the privacy... cold water tooo ... | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 7:42:38 AM |
nly if UN-ATTRACTIVE ppl are at the gym working out
Where is such a gym? My gym has its share of ugly people, but then there's everything else in between. Actually, when I am doing my interval training and I am going all out, sometimes I will stare into a couple of rows ahead where some well shaped buttocks trounces up and down on a machine, and I say to my self, "What's your motivation." Then take a deep breath and go harder. Hehehe. It works for me. | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 8:14:44 AM | | Sounds like a compulsion that suddenly reared its head. Could be a physical reason for it - something wrong going on in the brain. Talk to a doctor. | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 10:41:42 AM | OP...
It is said that after about three months of no sex, your body will "reset" and you are able to refocus your energies into other pursuits... the edge will finally come off of your "jones" and you are able to relax in mind and body. When you are having lots of sex, your body actually craves it more. Your natural "feel-good" seratonin levels are much higher when you are having (good) sex and exercise. When you stop having lots of sex, the decrease in production can wreak havoc on you.
It is like withdrawl from a drug.
So, if you are accustomed to frequent intercourse, there could be a light at the end of the treadmill (ever heard of a "runner's high?").
Now, if you are finding that relief is not forthcoming in your case, particularly after trying the herbal remedies and increase in exercise that have been suggested here in this thread, traditional medication and therapy are also available.
Depression or mania (or bi-polarism) can be triggered by stress (more likely if you are at risk due to family history, etc...), and you have a lot going on in your life right now. Both can lead to extreme behavior. One way or another just be safe! You can check out the definitions on Wikipedia or google "DSM-IV" for the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders for more information on mood disorders. It could help you decide if you want to pursue medical intervention.
Hopefully, you just need a good FWB!
Good Luck!
JadeMuse
P.S.
One possible side-effect of some anti-depressants or mood-stabilizers can be the inability to orgasm. Just be aware. J. | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 5:30:11 PM | Three months with no sex...obviously you've not met someone fresh out of Boot Camp...13 weeks without nookie...what do you think the FIRST thing on their mind is???
There's nothing wrong with the OP's drive...it's that she needs someone who can match it!!! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 7:15:22 AM | ^^^^^
BigShrek...
It isn't quite the same thing...
Sex isn't exactly a taboo subject on bivouac!
Military guys & girls dangle that sex carrot constantly while in boot camp...
It is like people lost in the mountains (or in prison, for that matter) aching for a steak and a hot shower when they finally get back home.
They egg each other on about this girl, or that guy, and show pictures of the one waiting on the outside for them. They pass around porn mags.
They tell stories about some contortionist they met and how they will never quite figure out what it was they were "doing back there," but they still feel a little funny in the tummy whenever the circus is in town. It is a constant barrage of "I am gonna get me some tail when I get outta here" self-perpetuating frenzy!
Now, multiply that by the number of bunk-mates in your average barracks and you've got mob-mentality swarming around a bunch of horny, post-adolescents on a mission!
Add some alcohol and it is enough to make the ladies a little nervous.  
Hopefully, the OP is getting whatever it is she needs, but she is probably doing this "stretch" on her own. She has the solitude to refocus, if she wants. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 3/5/2008 11:44:13 AM | Wow sister..I feel your pain. My body just "woke up" a couple of months ago too, and I have to stay really busy- physically and mentally- to fight every urge and surge. I bought a bike, started walking a lot, swimming and riding horses!! Stay BUSY and it will help. And, be careful about who you party (drink) with. Good luck-it's nice to know I'm not the only one.
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medana
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Joined: 12/8/2005
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 3/5/2008 1:07:14 PM | masturbation baby doll, helping a woman with stress since the beginnings of time
u would be amazed the amount of sex toys one can experiment with out ther, makes for a lot of fun in figuring them out * wink wink wink
it's even better after chatting with a total cutie
he he he
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zonea
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Joined: 2/14/2008
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:10:42 PM | | Lady Jag, I am not sure what you meant by not being bale to get into the "mommy mode" if you're constantly thinking of sex. I disagree. Sex and mothering are 2 different things, mutually exclusive. One doesn't affect the other. | |
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