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Posted: 3/9/2008 10:40:24 PM | Believe it or not, there is a problem that some women have: Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persistent_Genital_Arousal_Disorder
Most would think that this "isn't a problem." But ut's a real life affliction which some ladies have a serious problems dealing with...
When I first heard of it, I thought it would mean bliss for someone...but it's not really.
Have a look at the url I posted... | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 3/10/2008 10:05:40 AM | | Hi. I am starting a single travel fraternity funrunners.com , not a dating deal just a single deal, our own concerts ,trips, sports, etc | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 3/10/2008 10:32:20 AM | if you are stressed ?? it can cause it
i had the same problem when i was stressed
Sex can have great stress management benefits
allso takeing anti-depresents lower your sex drive  | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 4:02:40 PM | It probably isn't unusual for something like a divorce to stir up previously-forgotten or repressed feelings. That in and of itself can be scary.
I hear you about wanting to avoid casual sex in order to set an example for your child. Protecting yourself emotionally is just as important. That drawer full of toys might not completely fill the bill, and I know that solo-sex after a breakup of any kind can feel pretty lonely. But at least when you go that route, you're guaranteed to be playing with someone who respects you and your feelings.
Counseling and possibly medication might be a solution. Just make certain that the therapist *listens* to you and your concerns. And while I know that going through a rough patch sometimes requires drastic solutions, avoid if you can those medications which impair sexual functioning *unnecessarily*. I would also say that if you've got friends with whom you're close enough to discuss deeply personal issues, you might want to avail yourself of their company as much as that's possible. I believe that unmet emotional needs can sometimes manifest themselves as physical ones. Having them met might help to mitigate the seemingly runaway sexual feelings. Do you have friends or relatives you can get hugs from? Can you afford to get a regular massage?
Hang in there. I think you're going to get through this OK, and I hope that this posting sees you in a better place than you were last fall. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 5:09:14 PM | Get tons of excercise, dance your ass off, physically exhaust yourself non stop and use your toys when needed.
Don't lower the drive, embrace it and just keep in under control with the above until you are ready to be with someone new.
Physical excercise can do wonders. You may have had a delayed prime due to being in an unhappy marriage? Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 3:01:10 PM | | You can't lower your sex drive and good luck, I'm 53 and mine's stronger than it was at 40. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:30:37 PM | You will find that this increased sexual appetite will began to wane. It will kind of come and go, but it will not stay like this constantly for the next 6 months. Do something physical, like exercise, and do something intellectual to occupy your mind.
Sherry | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 3:16:38 PM | | Hey! I am going through the same thing as you are....sounds like you are experiencing a "sexual peak" which affects women between 30s and 40s. Psychologically and physically, you are preparing yourself so you'll look good for the next guy; hence, your sex drive get so high that you can't control it. Ask your doctor for help....he may give you a medication to "lower your sexual peak." Type in keyword "sexual peak" on the internet and you will have your answers. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 11:40:23 PM | I have your solution!
Contact me and we can hook up
Ok no but seriously, I thought only guys (myself especially included) dealt with this problem. Not sure what to tell you execpt take lots of cold showers and clear your mind  | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 2:49:08 PM | | I too am very sexual and it is sometimes a turn off to the opposite. It is on my mind all the time - too much according to some. lol It is also something that is very hard to bring up when dating as it may scare some and has. Others think you are full of crap. When looking I need someone who can at least try to be sympathic towards it and enjoy also. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 2:56:56 PM | | I wish I could say meeting me would help reduce your cravings, but sadly believe it would have the opposite effect. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 9/25/2008 3:48:36 PM | | Don't fight your nature! It can cause some phisical or mental disorders. Try to find man or men who can satisfy your appetite. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 4:03:22 PM | | I am totally with you OP. Although I didn't just wake up horny, it's hard when you feel this way and don't have an outlet. You are in total control. You are completely normal. Don't stifle or lower it. You will end up having the time of your life, once you are ready. (and still remain respectable) | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 10:12:16 PM | | I had the exact same problem for a year after I filed...I could've humped a tree or my 90 year-old neighbor it was so bad. I think it is hormones and emotions joining forces...hang in there...buy a vibrator...enjoy yourself and relax... | |
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Posted: 9/26/2008 8:42:14 AM | | oh I've been there.....ok who am I kidding.. still there. Before I was ready for anything serious again I found a good FWB. He'd visit me every Tuesday while my children were at their fathers for the night. It kept me sane during the week and allowed me to better focus on what I needed to do for me and my children to get through all the other "stuff" that divorce brings. Knowing when I was going to "get it" next kept me from obsessing over it during the rest of the week. Toys did nothing for me, never did and still don't. I think the sense of "freedom" and independance I felt when I left my ex had a lot to do with it. | |
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Posted: 9/26/2008 9:42:23 AM | Aha, I have an absolutely lovely story to relate. It concerns an unnamed police officer who was admitted to Methodist Hospital's ER many years ago in Houston. The patient had a self-inflicted injury to his left testicle, more specifically, it was removed with a knife. The attending doc inquired as to why the man did this to himself. His reply was that it irritated him that his sex drive was so high, so he reasoned that this would help lower it. The doc frowned, and said, no, actually your other testicle will swell in size and pretty much take over the function of the missing one.
True story. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 11:47:19 PM | 1) this is a Frankenthread, the OP is long gone I'm sure
2) it was probably also just an advertisement | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 6:50:14 AM | i know the cure to lower a high sex drive...
live alone
have no friends that you hang out with
dont bother to go to clubs/bars
just live your life around only you and all the things ( hobbys) that u like to do. the more u focus on you the less dependant u become on other people for things...even sex.
now the only downside to this is that u wont be having sex at all...lol...which im sure your not looking for either. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2008 1:27:13 PM | | I have the same problem. Well, maybe not quite that drastic but I finally know what they mean about "women in their 30's". I am horny all the time and while I would like to find someone to date and care about, I would be happy for the time being if I could find someone to have sex with! The problem is that I'm picky and won't have sex with just anyone and there is that chance that I'd fall for him or vice versa. Also having to worry about STD's and such is depressing. It really sux... Let's put it this way, I HAD a drawer full of battery opperated friends but they have since died. Now, that really sux! Also, the human touch and interaction does make it so much more enjoyable and I really miss it. I just figure that when I do meet someone that I'm attracted to and want to date, we are really going to have fun! | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 10:41:00 AM | Yea, I wish my ex let me know she was-it seemed like all she wanted to do was go next door or visit her sister instead of letting me know it was jump the bones time... normal is my vote-from experience-toy time, anyone??! | |
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