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Posted: 12/20/2007 4:20:14 AM | Having an analytical brain, I analyze all the time. The only thing that's changed is the tools I've used.
Systems analysis is what I do and I can say having feedback is essential for any evaluation to be effective and produce a reason to change.
Measuring and recording data provides information that can help improve the process and create new systems.
In self evaluating I consider that all my observations are internal and there is much information I cannot get with out the help of external sources, namely, how others view me. So, I get out to find out. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 4:38:25 AM | I feel that I am constantly a work in process....I have character defects everyone does but I want to be the best I can be.....Self Evaluation is about growth, spiritual, mental and physical and education. It isn't always a problem sometimes I want to reach higher and just be better. And yes at this age we have experience and notice things that should be noticed and we evaluate....that is growth. And I can tell you that by examing my growth in all areas has made me a better and happier person. Mentally I am stronger, Physically I am stronger, Spiritually I am working on that one and Education is constant since my mind craves it. I have seen to many people that lack the ability to even see what's in front of them and their lives are in constant turmoil and they are always confused about why it happens to them. They always blame someone else for state of problems because they don't have the self awareness or desire to figure out what they could be doing wrong. Some are stagnant their only desire is to watch TV someone Else's made up lives. I choose to live and I choose to be a work in progress.......hopefully I am better because of it.
Jingles,,,,,,,Blue | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 4:43:47 AM | I try to take my inventory daily, & sometimes I overdue, othertimes I forget. I try to be accountable. I am learning when situations arise, oftentimes I have engaged in unbecoming behaviors & I can only change myself, not the other person.
I guess we all do some self analysis, some too much, some too little, some focus on the wromng things...who am I to judge. God did not die & give me His/Her job
Ok, I'm still trying to earn those wings | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 10:30:22 AM | cocytus, your profile says your are "tolerant".  seriously though, often the great profiles are written by the poster's friends and often a "lesser" one, if you spend time getting to know people as humans, will reveal an old soul. some find it hard to "market" themselves and are more into just DOING. the forums begin to reveal a lot of that and if you make friends with people, you get to appreciate them even more. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 4:15:32 PM | | I was hot & heavy with self evaluation until I turned 50. I finally sat my happy ass down and figured "ok, you're 50, now is the time to write the 2nd book about your life". I have chosen to live by Clark Gable's motto "frankly my dear, I don't give a damn". I have quit worrying about pleasing others, much less what others think. At the end of the day, everyone is truly wrapped up in their own lives, that they won't have the time of day to worry about Suecat51. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 4:59:31 PM | | well, i worry all the time suecat51. so if you'd like, i'll save some for you too! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 9:57:19 PM | I quit evaluating myself years ago. I found that everyone around me was more than WILLING to evaluate me at the drop of a hat.  | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 4:02:05 AM |
cocytus, your profile says your are "tolerant". seriously though, often the great profiles are written by the poster's friends and often a "lesser" one, if you spend time getting to know people as humans, will reveal an old soul. some find it hard to "market" themselves and are more into just DOING. the forums begin to reveal a lot of that and if you make friends with people, you get to appreciate them even more.
I am tolerant...raspberry crumblecake...more tolerant than most.
But even tolerance has limits.
When I hear or read something that appears to me that somebody is being self-indulgent or is not using critical thinking processes I comment upon it.
I'm also willing to become friends w/ people...if they are willing to become friends with me.
That means taking the good w/ the bad...something that people on these forums seem to be unwilling to do.
I have my opinion and thoughts...they have theirs...hopefully if friendship is desired it will be achieved.
I have no idea what you mean by "old soul."
Is that a "New Age" reference?
Season's Greetings. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 4:34:01 AM | I have to admit, I no longer self evaluate.(in large portions) I KNOW who I am, and I LIKE who I am. Sounds easy enough doesn't it? But it was any thing but easy getting here.
I have taught myself the "tricks of the trade" of being human, and although at times, I may have to give myself a swift kick in butt to come back around, I do the kickin and get right back on track. IMO, people doubt themselves thru OTHER peoples opinions. This to me is WRONG. I am the ONLY one who truely knows me, so why would I let someone else who DOESN'T know me make a difference in me,(to the negitive that is). If someone can influence me in a POSITIVE way, I'm all for it.
I'm smart, maybe not as smart as some, but smart enough for me. I'm funny, I'm honest to a fault, and that is COMPLETELY ok with me, and I am loyal to those who appricate me for who I am and NOT for what/how they would make me.
So having all this in my court, I really have nothing to RE evaluate, unless of course you count my spelling... | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 4:38:54 AM |
I KNOW who I am, and I LIKE who I am.
I hear ya claypot and I concur.
I spend much more time trying to figure other people out.
Futile I know, but what can I say? | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 10:49:53 AM | cocytus,
i believe old soul, correct me if i am wrong anyone, comes from the hindu religion. the assumption behind it, whether you believe in many lives or just one, would be that s/he has learned life's lessons and carries forth wisdom. sounds like you had a bad experience or more than one on pof. i think forum exchanges are difficult w/o body language and knowing someone better. most of my friends who i have gotten to know, many via the forums, are better known via email and phone. one of them, i thought, had indirectly insulted me once. when she saw how i saw it, we talked for several days on the phone. but we did not hack it out publically. many are WAYYYYYY different from me. but humanity comes with different perspectives. i guess i found that out via my own self evaluation.
by the way, self evaluations also come with listing one's good points. also there is the mirror concept--what you see in someone else that affects you, be it good or bad, is often a reflection of something in yourself. i've resisted that notion, until i dug really deep and at least saw the "potential" in myself--again a link with generic humanity. otherwise called "the human condition". | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 11:18:08 AM | Like AngelicBlondie, I take my inventory every day and, if I have harmed anyone, make amends. When young I was much impressed with what I thought I knew about how people work and why they do the things they do. As I grew older, I became more impressed by how little one can ever know about another person and how much work it is to know anything useful about one's self. When things go astray I may spend a few moments attempting to understand why and whether there is any thing I did that I might have done differently. Other than that, I try to stay in the present and take the next step with as much care as I can muster.
I am less afraid than I used to be, less interested in dissecting my relationships to see why they tick or tock, humble in the face of the mystery of what cannot be understood or controlled. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 6:43:25 PM | IMO:
Self evaluation is invaluable.
For if we did not, then it is conceivable that one would just tromp through and over other people completely oblivious to the harm he/she is leaving behind in their own wake of self importance. And it would end in being a very lonely existence.
Although I don't do it daily, I do try, on a regular basis, to practice the following:
God, grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change:
(that would be other people)
the COURAGE to change the things I can:
(that would be me)
And the WISDOM to know the difference.
(that would be a blessing.)
There is much which can be said for putting this into practice. It isn't about getting all self absorbed, for if one did that they would miss out on the serenity they would find in other people. It isn't about getting all co-dependant for if one did that they would lose the opportunity to learn courage through becoming a better individual. This life is about gaining wisdom as we grow older that we may pass on something of value to the generation coming up behind us. And IF along the way, we find just ONE person whom we can love and who will love us until we die, then we will have had a successful life.
And that's all I got to say about that. Now go take on the day!!! | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 9:30:05 PM | Yes, we think too much........when you can free yourself from analyzing everything that happens, life is so much nicer! I've recently started doing that. Like when you meet someone for coffee and it seems to go well and then you never hear from them again. Boy, it can take up a whole night thinking about that one!
Peace and joy work better in an uncluttered mind. Really. Let it go.......
Zip  | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 11:29:04 AM | | ah, the serenity prayer. where i always get caught up is the "wisdom to know the difference" --so i just go at it, one day at a time. if that doesn't work there is always: KISS ( keep it simple stupid). or if you don't want to be hard on yourself calling yourself stupid, there is: sassy, silly, siren, sweetthing, sweetiepie..... | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 12:14:55 PM | You have common sense!!!!
I give you this award!!!  | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 1:13:08 PM | I can only put my best foot forward . .
. . and H o p e that a nice Lady will find my Sincerity attractive . . 
. .  Suprises Happen !! . . | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 1:24:21 PM | !! OOooOOoooo . . A F A N . . !!
*BLUSH!!* | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 4:49:23 PM | | I discovered at a very young age who I was. So my evaluations are of the world around me and how I best fit in at any particular time in my life. I find it much simpler that way. I will admit that I have made my share of mistakes but none of them were fatal to myself or others so life goes on. I don't rest on my laurels because I have none nor needed any. If my life has meaning to others that is as good as it gets but that is their perception and not mine. My time is not wasted because it is mine and I choose what and how I spend that currency, it is after all, all we have. Sometimes people try to make life difficult because you choose a path but if it's the right path the worse thing is stepping off of it because there is nothing more tragic and boring than some remorseful old fart talking about what they should have done. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 11:40:58 PM | It was Socrates himself who said that "the unexamined life is not worth living". The well-known inscription at the Oracle at Delphi advises "Know Thyself" - but it also cautions "Nothing in Excess"...
A little self-awareness is a wonderful thing, and it's a gift that we fail to give ourselves at our own peril. But while there's time for quiet reflection in virtually every single day (mostly at the end, I find), constant navel-gazing is just another form of narcissism... | |
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Posted: 12/23/2007 12:14:25 PM | you might just have more time now to think about things. The frenzy of raising kids is behind, or simply you have learned how to put some time aside for yourself so have some time to think.
Over evaluation is like worrying. They don;t really help you accomplish a lot.
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Posted: 1/10/2008 1:12:57 AM | Perhaps as we get older we become more reflective.
But for me, once a neurotic, always a neurotic. I'm a quirky guy. I am an artist and writer. Without my "crazy" slant on life, I wouldn't be successful as I've been. There's a lot of shoulda-couldas in my life. But that doesn't matter anymore. I live for tomorrow.
I don't dissect my past relationships. I feel I've done nothing wrong. I am a very complex person. I'm not exactly Mr. Sunshine. But since I work in comedy, I think that you have to have been through a certain amount of pain to understand the truth of comedy. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 3:14:31 AM | | There's a big difference in being self-analytical and overly-self-analytical. I have a tendency to be the latter rather than the former..unfortunately. I rely on others to point out..I'm doing it again! | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 10:11:04 AM | | i am trying to let go of my over- abundance of ego everyday... and let more humility come into my life everday- makes me feel more humble and humane, and connected. | |
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