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Posted: 12/24/2007 11:56:31 AM | "I agree with you OP. The majority of people just spend endless time doing absolutely nothing. I do say that is their right, but why bother being here if thats all that is intended?"
"I would like to correspond with people, exchange phone numbers and meet"
Good Gets Better I'm not picking on you, just jumping off a couple things you mentioned.
Ok people, those of you that are always saying that no one answers your emails and so on. Its very simple. They are not interested back, move on. Its not that hard to do.
It does not mean the person isn't serious or is just playing around on here. I simpley means that it is not you they are looking for.
You wanting to meet someone or talk to someone doe not automatically make them want to meet you. There are all kinds of things people have on thier list of what they are looking for and you probably just didn't match up. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 12:11:28 PM | Piquebu he accuses women of having expectations that are to high yet does not see that maybe he is the one with too high expectations. He says he is having no luck on this site after two years. He wants to know why . I gave him my opinion.
As for not knowing who he is messaging , well i think i have a pretty good idea . Men like him message me many times a day. You may want a fat out of shape man piquebu but i don't I don't work as hard as i do on my fitness only to want to end up with the pillsbury doughboy. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 12:37:31 PM | Good grief, Louise. Someone needs to send her the book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Wait til she gets my age and let's see how she's handling the dating scene as I am positive she's going to be single a very, very, very long time.
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Posted: 12/24/2007 2:42:40 PM | God what an aggogant little tramp annikagirl. LOL You really think your hot stuff huh?? And who told you that?? Your looking glass that you just can't tear yourself away from. TRust me your not all that hot. But your definatly immature. But then your only 25 y/o and still trying to " prove yourself a man" still. We'll see how well YOU handle the heat the 1st thread you start. HO HO HOOOOO Merry Christmassss | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 3:29:57 PM | | You are very transparent annikagirl. The way you pose...give me a break. Then you have the nerve to put others down. I would rather date someone who is pudgy with substance than someone vain and shallow. You really should watch what you say and try to consider other people's feelings....there is such a thing as karma. You will attract what you put out there. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 3:40:57 PM | OOOW so much jealousy and frustrations.  
So many prefer not to say devineadvisor does your wife know you are here . Oh and yes i am all that hot and you and i know it. People are so totally full of it. You like to act like (especially men) like it's the inside that counts and that you would still go for the chubby girl ,but we all know it's not true. How many friends of mine have been looked through and passed over by men spouting the same garbage . When i got very hurt in a car accident and could not exercise for months i gained over 50 pounds and men looked right through me like i did not exist. Men are all about looks and everyone knows it. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 4:40:07 PM | Well, it's Christmas Eve and I've had a few glasses of wine and I'm on my way to being totally cracked.
Annikagirl, you have been on here 4 whole days and are already on 73 favorites lists. I salute you
Don't worry about karma, because it is a bunch of crapola (shhhh!)
You're right, men are all about looks except that my definition of what looks good in a woman has vastly expanded from when I was a young duffer. It would be nice to see some women who have "viewed me" who do not look like they could be my mother or at least my aunt. 
Now where is that bottle? Amazingly, I can still spell well and write trite. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 5:35:37 PM | | I happen to be a women....a 44 year old woman. And believe me....I have no doubts that I am attractive....still at my age. But, I do think attitude has a lot to do with it. I might not be blonde and have a rock hard body ....but, I don't look like anyones mother or even their aunt. I was once heavier, after having my daughter...but still men would find me attractive. Believe me one day you will be older and you might have children and gain weight...then all you will have is your personality to fall back on. All I can say is good luck and try to build on something else other than apperances ...both on yourself and others. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 5:59:40 PM |
When i got very hurt in a car accident and could not exercise for months i gained over 50 pounds and men looked right through me like i did not exist. Men are all about looks and everyone knows it.
I understand your hurt at that time, and now maybe you are proud that you got back in shape and want some revenge...., but try not to kick someone when they are down.
life has a way of paying you back for such things..... besides I don't think the OP would have been one of those guys that looked right passed you...I just have a feeling about it. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 6:19:15 PM | To Annikagirl, after reading your responses to this and other questions asked on this forum, I want to wish you a very Merry Christmas. Tomorrow is another day I so look forward to reading more and of course it won't be Christmas.
Happy Holidays to everyone | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 8:18:30 PM | You're right, annikagirl. There are so many posts by guys complaining about how they aren't getting responses from women on this site and they are going to quit because they are so tired of it all; blah, blah, blah.......but they are only trying to contact the hotties and passing over the other women.
I've been through the same experience as you with the weight gain/loss thing. It's amazing how gaining a few pounds can make a person invisible. Then when you loose the weight the men become friendly again. I've heard previously overweight men complain of the same thing. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 8:43:56 PM | Its human nature - we all want the best that we can get - whether its a job or a romantic partner, and nobody wants to settle for less than they are worth. And yes looks matter - though I would hardly consider burnsy the pillsbury doughboy.
I think that what most people are ignoring is the fact that men e-mail everybody - not just the hotties - but also the "averagers". Only the uglies/oldies are getting ignored. What you are hearing is the angst caused by a 6-1 ratio of men to women on this site.... | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 9:15:17 PM | | Okay if your so hot what are you doing here. Sums it up seems you cant find a man either or you wouldnt be here. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 9:17:01 PM |
Only the uglies/oldies are getting ignored. What you are hearing is the angst caused by a 6-1 ratio of men to women on this site....
You're wrong. Us ugly oldies are NOT ignored. And the owner of this site says the ratio is something like 1.7 men/1 woman. If makes you feel better to think the competition is stiffer, go ahead and believe it.
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Posted: 12/24/2007 10:59:38 PM |
As for not knowing who he is messaging , well i think i have a pretty good idea .
In other words: "Does not KNOW".
Oh and yes i am all that hot and you and i know it.
May the new year bring you absolutely nothing. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 11:28:51 PM | Okay if your so hot what are you doing here. Sums it up seems you cant find a man either or you would be here.
I have been here 4 days . I have just started dating again after a 3 year hiatus . This is only one avenue i am using to meet people.
I think that what most people are ignoring is the fact that men e-mail everybody - not just the hottest - but also the "averagers".
I know others on this site and from their experiences that is just not true.They rarely get emails ,are not ugly and initiate contact themselves . Mostly the men are not even polite enough to send a thanks but no thanks. At least i can say i always reply to all initial messages sent to me. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 11:33:55 PM | IMO this site is way different then IRL. Yes its "easier" to talk to someone on here but its night and day from then on. If i could talk to 10 people on here and 10 people in real life I would be surprised if half responded on this site. I guess it depends on the person but once you find someone to talk to IRL it seems much easier/more sucessful. I'm sure my profile sucks or whatever and that may be a reason ( don't really care) but the point is it seems way different to me.
btw this is my first post! I'm bored and waiting to go to my family's house haha. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 11:41:23 PM | Imergoot (msg: "Why not just post a fake pic.....preferably some model type guy. Trust me, you'll get TONNES more responses )...
What's the point in that? So you can hide online from now on and never meet anyone? Or do you think your such a great catch that the person won't mind that you've been lying to them the entire time, once they actually get to see you?....
Sounds like the OP is asking for some legitimate help not ways to play games......
OP, it's difficult on here because the site is free, which means boat loads more chances to be ignored...I finally stopped trying on here myself for that reason, it's not really personal it's just soooo many people signed on here... | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 11:43:39 PM |
Piquebu he accuses women of having expectations that are to high yet does not see that maybe he is the one with too high expectations. He says he is having no luck on this site after two years. He wants to know why . I gave him my opinion.
As for not knowing who he is messaging , well i think i have a pretty good idea . Men like him message me many times a day. You may want a fat out of shape man piquebu but i don't I don't work as hard as i do on my fitness only to want to end up with the pillsbury doughboy.
Wow, again spoken as if you have no idea who you're talking to. And after only a short time on this site, you've got it all figured out.
Do you realize this guy was asking a general question of why he can't get to the next stage of contact on this site and somehow (as in other posts), you've managed to make his question all about YOU?? I don't think the title of this post was, "Why can't I, Joe Average, get a girl like Annika?" Save the venom for the "beneath you" guys in your in box.
Second, pudgy is not the same thing as fat/out of shape/pillsbury doughboy. Each time you mention him, you make him fatter. Hell, at this rate, you'll eventually describe the OP as morbidly obese.
Shocker, you're not the only woman who gets an inbox full of message from guys she wouldn't consider dating. I go to the gym at least five times a week for a minimum hour each time, and I have a job in recreation, so I would not consider dating someone who spends all day on the couch, either. To not appear to be a hypocrite, I'll admit that I delete almost every guy (who's not my type) who adds me as a favorite. Shallow? *shrug*
However, if a guy on the forums happens to be unattractive, overweight, etc. and asks a question, I don't think the first words out of my mouth would be, "Gawd! Look at you! You don't deserve to live, let alone date! I'm hot and you're NOT. Maybe the world would be better if only ugly people like you only hooked up with each other, or went away altogether!" I mean, what would I expect a person to DO with this kind of advice?
Peace, sister! Use your hotness for good and not evil. Forums exist primarily to help people - not drive them to stick their heads in the oven.
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Posted: 12/24/2007 11:57:37 PM | I posted this on another thread and most of it is relevant to this topic .
No i have gone to university and graduated despite having a learning disability so yes i am educated. It was very hard for me to get through that but i did not give up . How do you define success ? Does it mean having a lot of money? If that's how you define it then yes i have more money then i could ever spend in my lifetime .That's not how i define success though .
I work even though i don't need to because i enjoy my job , working with the customers and i love my coworkers . I support 4 children in very poor countries so they can go to school , have a safe home to live in , clothes to wear and the chance to see a doctor . I [donate food weekly to the food bank as well as clothing and give my support for free lunches for children in school who can't afford it.I even have enough concern for the environment to drive a hybrid .This is how i define success not by what my grandparents left me.
Men are all about the outside . I have found this out the hard way . When i was 19 i was hurt badly in a car accident and could not exercise for months . I gained over 50 pounds and promptly became invisible to men.I learned that men don't care about what's on the inside so long as the packaging is good.
I see this lesson repeated all the time as i watch good friends of mine passed over ,pushed aside and completely ignore. One example is a good friend of mine who has a profile on here too is completely ignored . If she gets one message a month it's a good month. Now she is the type of person who is perpetually optimistic . She see the glass as half full . She is full of kindness ,compassion and will do anything for a loved one. She may be a little chubby but it's all in the right places and looks good . She is cute and vivacious yet i have seen her literally pushed aside by men coming to talk to me.
Women have an inferiority complex because of how men treat them. Even the ugliest ,baldest , shortest and toothless guy sees himself above the average woman and that to date one is a sacrifice they are rarely willing to make and when they do they never let you forget it.
Wow, again spoken as if you have no idea who you're talking to. And after only a short time on this site, you've got it all figured out.
I am speaking to the person with the user name piquebu and i have been watching these forums for over a year now without participating.I know all the regulars and who they portray themselves to be on here.
I do not nor have i ever thought that i was the only woman on here to get 80 plus messages a day . I do have extremely high self esteem however that cannot be brought down by anyone or anything .Many people see this as arrogance i see it as self confidence.
I did not say to the op "gawd look at you ,you don't deserve to live let alone date" . I was however very honest a quality which most people say they admire but in actuality don't .I did not say the op was the pillsbury doughboy i said i don't want to end up with the pillsbury doughboy. There is a difference.
Looking at your photos i would say that you are shooting way to high . Most guys on here do that. They see a very attractive girl and they all flock to her without really considering if she would be interested.
You are a little pudgy and average in looks so you should probably look for the same in a woman.
This was my post .Not me telling him he should die. Oh the horror suggesting to an average man that giving an average woman a chance is a great idea.He will be much happier and not alone. He may even find the love of his life with a wonderful person who rocks his world.
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Posted: 12/25/2007 12:10:12 AM | | what does your post have to do with the price of tea in china? Men are pigs.....we know that...LOL. I am just kidding. But, honestly...you just seem really full of yourself. I can tell you even average women get e-mails. I used to think it was because I was hot. Until I posted no picture at all and still received e-mail. Who wants tons of e-mails....i said in a previous thread it distracts from people with real potential. Anyways, if it works for you, and that is what you desire than go for it. But, the way you came across was putting him down. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2007 12:16:50 AM |
"However, if a guy on the forums happens to be unattractive, overweight, etc. and asks a question, I don't think the first words out of my mouth would be, "Gawd! Look at you! You don't deserve to live, let alone date! I'm hot and you're NOT. Maybe the world would be better if only ugly people like you only hooked up with each other, or went away altogether!" I mean, what would I expect a person to DO with this kind of advice? "
The above paragraph was written to prove a point of a person asking for advice only to receive harsh words in return. I'm pretty sure I didn't falsely represent it as a direct quote. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2007 12:25:10 AM | At least she says what a large majority of women her age/looks really thinks....
Beats acting/lying
Not sure why everyone is so surprised to hear it.
Thats all I'm going to say about that, I'm out! | |
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