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Posted: 12/21/2007 6:06:44 PM |
some women just want you to feel and not say much about the relationship
I find most women are the opposite. They want their partner to talk more about their feelings. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 6:21:53 PM | Well, to peg me down in terms of my thinking I did mention political philosophy, but I am not one to talk about politics all the time. I am just aware of Greek philosophy, some Roman, Rousseau, Locke, a little Voltaire, Montesquieu, Michael Polanyi, Yogic philosophy, Buddhism, some Christian theology, and sometimes look at a tree and just think isn't that cool that tree is giving me oxygen and I can breathe, isn't it cool that Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone, and I can talk to someone who is in Dublin, Ireland or Dublin, Texas? That's grand. I may repeat myself sometimes in terms of asking a woman about how she is with a man. I think that partially stems from a woman, in the past, not really presenting herself properly and showing only her flattering qualities. I don't really care B.S., but I do like talking. I definitely pause, am a good listener, am a good friend, and I can be silent for a long time and hear what someone has to say. And, I am not a wishy washy male. I say what I mean, I just might say it twice. I don't do it to annoy. I like to sometimes make sure I am getting a feel for who I am dealing with. I definitely know how to make up my mind and set my mind on something or someone. That's not an issue.... I wouldn't mind a woman someone similar in terms of expressing herself... With my last relationship, I did overanalyze, but it was hard to avoid that, she barely communicated, and I had no idea where I stood. Many would do that if the person has too many closed channels. If a girl opens up to me and just tells me about her that's cool...
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Posted: 12/21/2007 6:22:33 PM | Well, my ex boyfriend over-analyzed everything! It did actually drive me a bit crazy.... I love to have intellgent conversations though.... So I am looking for a nice happy medium... LOL Let's see if I can't find it.. | |
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Savona
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Joined: 1/28/2007
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| Males who think a lot...
Posted: 12/21/2007 7:43:31 PM |
Well, to peg me down in terms of my thinking I did mention political philosophy, but I am not one to talk about politics all the time. I am just aware of Greek philosophy, some Roman, Rousseau, Locke, a little Voltaire, Montesquieu, Michael Polanyi, Yogic philosophy, Buddhism, some Christian theology, and sometimes look at a tree and just think isn't that cool that tree is giving me oxygen and I can breathe, isn't it cool that Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone, and I can talk to someone who is in Dublin, Ireland or Dublin, Texas? That's grand. I may repeat myself sometimes in terms of asking a woman about how she is with a man. I think that partially stems from a woman, in the past, not really presenting herself properly and showing only her flattering qualities. I don't really care B.S., but I do like talking. I definitely pause, am a good listener, am a good friend, and I can be silent for a long time and hear what someone has to say. And, I am not a wishy washy male. I say what I mean, I just might say it twice. I don't do it to annoy. I like to sometimes make sure I am getting a feel for who I am dealing with. I definitely know how to make up my mind and set my mind on something or someone. That's not an issue.... I wouldn't mind a woman someone similar in terms of expressing herself... With my last relationship, I did overanalyze, but it was hard to avoid that, she barely communicated, and I had no idea where I stood. Many would do that if the person has too many closed channels. If a girl opens up to me and just tells me about her that's cool...
OP I just can't sugar coat it ....
read what you wrote oh my gosh...
after 28 posts you could not stop talking about yourself long enough to resond to even one post althought there have been 28 other peoples opinions.
We have taken the time to answer your origional post and yet ...
you can not shut up long enough about yourself to acknowledge that there is even one other poster on this thread.
Maybe you just like to read your own material or perhaps you are just trolling for attention ... but none the less, clearly you are not the least interesrested in anything anyone else has to say.
Just curious, could that be your problem?
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Posted: 12/21/2007 7:52:52 PM | well said Sovana...hahaha...
and the sad thing is, he is not even aware of it....
OP your last post has attention-seeking tone...rather than caring/listening others opinion ...you just advertise yourself...
and that is exactly it...if you overanalyze things, you turn too much to yourself because you live within your thoughts...and thats why you need to change.... | |
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Posted: 12/21/2007 9:18:52 PM | Well, you know what Steve Martin said about being a Philosophy major - you learn just enought to screw yourelf up for the rest of your life.
Seriously - there isn't a woman alive who doesn't find intelligence attractive. I seem to draw engineers from the universe and there is no one more analytical than these men. That can be great under the right circumstance.
Along the vein of "a time for every purpose" just remember when not to over analyze a situation. Woman love an intellectual man as long as he knows when to go on "autopilot" and just enjoy the moment. I can't think of anything sexier than a brilliant guy who is obviously so taken with you that he functions on, shall we say, his more basic instincts? Rest assured, when you're with the right one, you won't think about the next step - you'll just be thrilled to be in her presence and thanking the heavens for your good fortune.
So, don't change, just relax and enjoy! God bless!  | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 5:28:14 AM | | Males who think a lot! AWESOME..just love a thinking man.. but i am floored when once the thought process is over he is able to act on the things he thought of and bring them..it to fruitation in a postive manner. Some people be them male or female do nothing but think.. and rareeeeeeeeeeeeely act on the things thought of. They just more or less think things to Death. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 5:40:38 AM | Iron fish...over analyse is..examples:
Text convo..
guy..'hello, how are you this morning?'
girl..is in a meeting, phone is in her bag
guy..and hour later 'are you ok?'
girl..is still in a meeting..unaware of messages
guy..sends an email as well 'did I do something wrong?'
girl..returns to desk, sees email, then sees messages. Replies to email 'no, I was in a meeting..bit busy today is all'
guy..'are you sure you are ok? you sound a bit off with me'
girl..'no, just busy. I'll get back to you when I can'
guy..'no, somethings up isn't it? I can tell, what have I done that is wrong? Tell me'
girl..is in another meeting or has gone to lunch
guy..mails again 'ok, so you're not replying, what did I do wrong? Why haven't you replied to my texts from earlier? Have you gone off me?'
girl...thinks...aaarrrgggh!
Well that's one example I've experienced.
Over analysis of a relationship from a guy can lead to a girl having to do so much reassuring..that it can drive you round the bend. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 5:42:42 AM | | When you spend so much time 'thinking' that it cuts into your 'doing' - you are spending too much time thinking...... | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 5:53:12 AM | | I am one that will ask a lot of questions, for me it is a way of really getting to know someone. I have no problems with questions being asked. Even though I can be very analytical I am also very feeling person. Life is about finding the right balance for each of us. The only thing I think you may want to be careful about is overanalyzing-I try to watch that about myself. In your case because you stated " I was having trust issues", I just hope if you have had this in the past you are not analyzing every person you may meet and putting this mistrust from prior relationships onto them. That has happened with someone I met and it is very frustrating, it kinda clouds their mind from what is exactly in front of you and you expect everyone as not being upfront when they have been and you may miss out . Good luck to you. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 10:27:17 AM |
guy..'hello, how are you this morning?'
girl..is in a meeting, phone is in her bag
guy..and hour later 'are you ok?'
girl..is still in a meeting..unaware of messages
guy..sends an email as well 'did I do something wrong?'
girl..returns to desk, sees email, then sees messages. Replies to email 'no, I was in a meeting..bit busy today is all'
guy..'are you sure you are ok? you sound a bit off with me'
girl..'no, just busy. I'll get back to you when I can'
guy..'no, somethings up isn't it? I can tell, what have I done that is wrong? Tell me'
girl..is in another meeting or has gone to lunch
guy..mails again 'ok, so you're not replying, what did I do wrong? Why haven't you replied to my texts from earlier? Have you gone off me?'
girl...thinks...aaarrrgggh!
Yuck, that's just needy and based on feelings, not logic. The logical, analytical person would text, "Ok, seems like a bad time for you. Call me when you get a chance." The logical person would then get on with their life.
Thinkers operate on facts and patterns where feelers go off on tangents about what they are feeling. A feeling is nothing but an unrationalized thought. I think we are confusing people who want to ruminate on their feelings with true analytical thinkers who can detach themselves from their issues. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 10:27:46 AM | | I like men who have a sense of humor about their fondness for grey spaghetti. For other people's mind/head as well as their own. It can go so far as feeling like I'm talking to a disembodied head with no heart, guts, spine, or balls. A complete package and portrait of a whole person is extraordinary. There is also the origin of thought. Like it is great that he is so self aware but be just as aware he was not the first to think of that or like that. To know he is not the first, and there is nothing new under the sun. To provide a bibliography of its roots and History is a big plus. Abstract thinking is just one facet of contrived metaphysics and so on. How well does he stack up in EQ and SQ are just as important as IQ. Mind, body, and spirit. "Those gifted in spirit will always meet with violent opposition from mediocre minds." - Albert Einstein | |
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Posted: 12/23/2007 3:14:11 AM | Savona, could your being overly judgemental be your problem.
I responded to feel alive's post. I can't respond to 28 opinions. That's impossible, and it wasn't necessary to be impolite. If you can't be polite about things, then just don't respond. It is not true that I am not interested in what people have to say.
I was responding to feel alive and his interests. He talked about his, and I was explain where I was coming from. I believe you said you can't put in your mind that you may want to be someone's friend. People do that all the time. You are not always sure before you enter something and might want to be cautious for both person's sakes.
Anyway, I was never rude to you, so I am not sure why you thought it was necessary to be so rude to me.
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Posted: 12/23/2007 3:31:25 AM | Lilwmn456, I definitely understand where you're coming. I mean people just communicate differently. I do ask questions of the person, because I am dealing with a stranger. I was being cautious. It's normal. I am definitely a feeler, and I am a good listener. I care about myself, but I am not self-centred like some have implied.
Definitely, I agree with you, you have to be fair to any woman you bring into the picture and give her a fair shake and treat her right. I did that, she found that she liked the way I am, and put a certain conversation in proper context. Analyzing things like that phone conversation some poster post isn't my style. That would be annoying.
I did talk about myself in posts. I talked about my interests in respect to connecting that with people of the opposite sex. I, actually, don't really talk about those topics much except with my best friend somewhat and an older female friend. I don't philosophize all the time. I just ask questions, like to discuss, communicate, and make sure I know where someone is coming from and I do prefer to be safe than sorry.
Triciacat, you are right. You can only be yourself.
Iron.... Of course, thinking without acting is pretty useless.
I appreciate most of the input on POF. Thanks for your feedback.... And understand, I do read the posts, I just can't repond to 28 of them. Who can? | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 7:19:27 PM |
guy..'hello, how are you this morning?'
girl..is in a meeting, phone is in her bag
guy..and hour later 'are you ok?'
girl..is still in a meeting..unaware of messages
guy..sends an email as well 'did I do something wrong?'
girl..returns to desk, sees email, then sees messages. Replies to email 'no, I was in a meeting..bit busy today is all'
guy..'are you sure you are ok? you sound a bit off with me'
girl..'no, just busy. I'll get back to you when I can'
guy..'no, somethings up isn't it? I can tell, what have I done that is wrong? Tell me'
girl..is in another meeting or has gone to lunch
guy..mails again 'ok, so you're not replying, what did I do wrong? Why haven't you replied to my texts from earlier? Have you gone off me?'
girl...thinks...aaarrrgggh!
I can't stand guys or women like this! You just hit my life to a T. I am an over analyzer on many scales, but I also know when to just chill out.
Nothing drives me crazier then a friend or significant other calling me for instnace 5 minutes after I got off the phone with them to say why aren't you here when you said 5 minutes and I am in traffic, or god forbid I am going to use the restroom, or your example which fits more then any in a meeting or business call.
People need to know that if you are at work, you are WORKING, not jsut waiting with baited breathe with nothing to do, even if you wrok from home such as I do.
Guys and gals alike who may over analyze a relationship, moment, or situation, need to just ask themselves this, " I know this person, right, ... yes! " " Ok, so why am I stressing over something so trivial as he, or she has not called me back in the time frame as limited as I wanted them to."
Chances are if you do this your heart rate, stress levels, lines on your face, and ultimately your helath and realtionship all will benfit and you will be happier and be a much better Mate, friends, or peer period.
Sorry I went off the deep end, that is my downfall!
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