| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/29/2007 10:09:23 AM | We are all here but no one looks at us as the "boyfriend" type. Once a nice guy approach a girl/woman we are between finding the right words to say (with butterflies in our stomach) and trying not to offend you. The problem with that is that if we get lucky and at least talk to them, Women end up having too much trust in us and instead of going out with that guy, they just keep everything as just close friends. Us nice and true guys have never gone past the best friend rule. But we are the one that have to defend you when the guy you fall for breaks your heart. The normal words after you spilled your broken beans (all cried out talking to them) are I wish there were more guys like you but never say the true words "I want to go out with you". Thats were the honest ones go crazy and the nice ones turn evil. So if you are truely asking why there aren't any true honest guys around now, Take a look in your past and at a few of your guy friends and ask. You might find more than what you think  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/29/2007 10:47:27 AM |
"if you keep finding yourself in the same dysfunctional relationships, it's YOU (or me) not 'them'."
But, can we help who we're attracted to?
Of course you can help who you're attracted to. If you don't like the results of your actions, change your actions... it's simple, at least in concept. Of course, DOING such things can take a lot of work in introspection, something most people avoid at all costs.
James, Port Orchard, Washington, USA (don't hold this one against me), Earth | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/29/2007 10:36:05 PM | Good Lord...Come on peeps- does no one have a sense of humor anymore??? He did this...She did that.....Life is short kid's....no one is perfect...the guy on the "white horse" is probably gay & will steal your shoes....."Where have all the true.......blah blah blah".........where you go is up to you......the people you open up your hearts to.....are liable to steal them.......or win you over...your choice?!?!? Still looking for him....I swear if I just blink...may miss him ..but I keep lookin'?!? Maybe I need proffesional help......  L~ | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:21:19 AM | Maybe the True and Honest people on both sides have become so rare these days that none of us can find each other.
It's a shame men and women don't seem to speak the same language! At least if we did then maybe we could all figure out what we wanted from each other!
Sigh.... | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/30/2007 7:58:37 AM | Yeah we still exist but if we're not good looking or don't have enough money we're not your type. Then again we men do the same thing to women. It's called being realistic as rude as it may seem at times. You aren't going to want to be with someone you're not attratced to...
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 9:42:52 AM | They NO LONGER EXIST....no by MY standards, anyway....
Kepp looking though, there might be one hiding under a rock from all the FEMALE blowout of dishonesty that exists as well..... | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 9:43:04 AM | Truthfully your question is biased.
Your search may be hindered by your search locations, or your stare of mind.
Keep this in mind, what to respect, you will attract. It's a law of nature. If you truely want a good man for relationship, you have to change yourself enough to see them. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 9:55:31 AM | Dizzykitty:
Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone? They are all married to b*tches and cannot escape the marriage clause.
so true..... but when you are a nice girl...you get stepped on..... the b*tches got it going on for them..........
no more ms nice girl for me.............. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 10:05:35 AM |
Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
they only want and go after the bold and the beautiful b*tches.......after the disillusionment, they are no longer true and honest....they just become boors.............and expect all the other women they meet to pay for their lapse in good judgement.......
ditto for true and honest women too............. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 10:36:42 AM | | They are out there...hiding along with the true and honest girls... who have all gotten their hearts broken, egos bruised, and their ability to look, just one more time, mashed down to the cynical level of not trusting anyone anytime. There is also the possibility that when we come across a "frog", we waste all of our time trying to turn him into a prince, or fooling ourselves that he really IS a prince, he just needs some TLC. Frogs do not turn into princes, and it is rare to find one in his 40's or above who has the ability to, or even cares to. One must learn to see the frogs early on, and reject them. Now I don't mean the men/women who are not on a 10 scale, or even an 8, nor those who are on the heavier side, or the ones who may not flutter your heart when you first see them on the street. The frogs are those who neglect to tell you they are married, they are looking for a good time only (ie sex on demand), they have addictions to alcohol/drugs/women/gambling/cigarettes/etc etc. or they are head over heels in love with a married woman and they are just killing time with you until she decides to leave her deadbeat husband... Yeah, I've heard it all, yeah I'm a little cynical but fighting hard to remain my positive,optimistic self. I've learned to love myself, take care of myself, and live life to the fullest, with or without a partner to do it with. I do not need a man in my life to make me happy. I AM happy with who I am and what I have to offer.I'm not willing to compromise my "must haves" just to "have" a companion. I'm tired of Kissing Frogs ... the lily pond is crowded. Why is it, however, that the good healthy loving and caring individuals, find themselves with frogs... ?? Do we seek out those who "need us" ... thinking with just a little love they'll change? Are we an easy mark because we are loving and caring and kind? Opposites attract.....oh were it that positives attracted positives... I've heard the best way to find like minded individuals is to join a organization that is in YOUR interest. Seattle had a singles club that's sole purpose was to bring together like minded individuals. They cleaned parks, they cleaned up the streams, they volunteered and by doing so, met people who were just as interested as they were in the welfare of others. Would anyone be interested in this type of organization? | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 10:41:30 AM | | So why are the nice men/women attracted to the ****es and sob's of the world? Is it we want something we don't have .. ie ****iness or attitude? I see the same thing..we put up with that we would not tolerate from a coworker, or friend, we tolerate in a mate... not anymore... I demand the respect I deserve. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 12:06:27 PM | They're everywhere, just take a good look around you. They're at work, at the gym, at the beach, out riding their quads, gone fishing, or busy fixing their kid's bikes. They could live on the other side of the world, 1,500 miles away, or just down the street. Or they could be looking for a woman just like you, so don't think it is never going to happen. Just keep on fishing! Happy New Year everyone! 
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:06:28 PM | There's an old saying that women are really attracted to the Ba*tards. Speaking for myself , I just cannot act that way. It's selfish and uncaring.
If 'Nice Guys' finish last, you better start looking for a loser
Nice Guy and boring ( from first looks anyway ) or Exciting and a Ba*tard . It's your choice | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:09:22 PM | "I'm so not reading the whole thread but my answer to the topic, they are hanging with all of the biatches; seems to be how it works."
I think the word is PRINCESS | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:41:44 PM | You seem like a warm caring person who knows what they want and wants a a good person to be in a relationship with. I do have to ask if you are a very picky person? For example my friend is a very pretty lady who has a heart of gold and always tells me she can't find a true and honest guy......................Who has a six pack, who is 6'5, who drives a really nice car, who has blue eyes and blonde hair, who looks as if they should be in GQ magazine. IMO in relationships and life you have to give alittle to get alittle. If this is your example of a "True & Honest Guy" then you will be looking for awhile. If your one of those people who wants a real care true and honest guy then you will find him eventually.
PS: For what's it's worth if we didn't so far away and were closer in age I would mesage you.  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:51:52 PM | Honest??? You jest.
Talk about the pot caling the kettle black.
1/ Guy doesn't all back at the promised time!
HOnest girl
- Gee Iwish he wsan't just so damn busy even if all the hard work is making the big bucks.
Dishonest girl
- Typical male. He doesn't give a damn about me.
2/ Guy has actually beaten her up.
Honest girl
- I must have been a total idiot picking up with a creep like that. Paticularily when there are so many other nice guys around.
Dishonest girl.
- Typical male ALL men are baa baa baarstards. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:26:01 AM | You may find this hard to believe, but I am almost a mirror version of you.....almost. My experience with women has always been that they never liked me for being honest and true, let alone expressing my feelings of interest. I call myself "The Most Hated Man On The Planet", due to the fact that I have never met a woman that didn't reject me for not being some irresponsible jerk, or thinking with my penis 24/7, or not being able to lie to them at the drop of a hat, unlike the other guys that do jerk them around. Why men and women are not allowed to be honest towards one another is somewhat beyond me, but I do know some kind dark stigma, or rift has been created from the cause of it. I also know that people like us are in some way or another damaged by this phenomena, and such damage affects us in ways that differ in each person, however, it is only tip of iceberg. Before I take my leave, here is something that I heard from once from a famous dead guy that helped me develop my intelligence, " Everyone has a longing to be loved. Everyone wants to know weither or not if they are lovable". That guy's name is Fred Rogers, and I am also glad to have replied to your posting, and I welcome any questions or messages you may have for me.
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/1/2008 4:37:40 AM | | with honesty comes acceptance and that's hard for a lot of people.....kind of like what we write in these forums.....can men/women accept your previous life experiences that make you the person that you are! | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/1/2008 9:39:44 AM | You may not be attracted to honest and true guys. Face it, there are a great many true and honest out there, the problem is they generally don't come off as "exciting" or "mysterious" because they tell the truth about themselves and don't feed a woman a line of BS to impress her or get her into bed. Many women are taken in by the BSer types, and find them attractive and exciting, and find the honest types boring and predictable. With that, it's little wonder so many women complain that they cannot find honest men. Most of those honest guys aren't going to come on strong with well-rehearsed lines and impressive "achievements" they never did, so they don't show up on your radar.
What are you looking for, honest and true - or exciting and mysterious and unpredictable? The two types are often not found in the same package.
Just my take on things. | |
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