| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:27:18 AM | I agree here with u soulmate on a lot of things and about being negative and pessimistic..and how that is what u will attract. But im still confused about how sticking something on a mirror will help...dont get me wrong im willing to give that a try. U never know til u do and besides I think im all out of resources hahaha...but I do also think that ppl are who they are and no matter what even if they just change for a little while..they will always be who they are deep down inside is what im talking about someones heart and soul. And im not saying if ur a rude mean person that u cant change and be nice im just saying youll always have an attitude :) So the mirror thing might not have a positive outcome unless that outcome is souly for u. And I also think that we shouldnt look for a mirror image of ourselves or someone close to being exactly like we are and we shouldnt change just to fit other ppl. Forgive me if im getting off track, but there will never be someone "just like u" we are all so very diferent and in so many ways we would spend an entire lifetime and then some..the best thing is to look for someone that u can blend with. Btw hello everyone im new to the forums so im just planning on jumping around joining conversations...hope u dont mind. And if nothing in here made since..sorry bout that. But I think I just needed to say that.
And where is the nice guy party? Did I miss it?  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:43:16 AM | | change... that makes me laugh... the only things that can be changed about a person is things that are learned... but things that make up the basis of that person can't be changed. If a person is violent that is probably just what they are... it's nearly impossible to change that... control it yes, but not change it. I use to be really bad about slipping into my comfort zone all the time... that was learned... I changed that... but I can't change the fact that I like to be known... for people to look and know I exist...I crave it...not really attention, but that people look at me... even a glance to show they know I exist... no matter how hard I try that is just me I can't change that... I can't trace it back to anything particular, but I suppose it has something to do with the constant moving in my youth... I hate it really, but it's not something I can help. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 2:54:36 AM | Unfortunately as I have discovered from personal experiance and my close friend's experiances people create false personas to get what they want. Once they get what they wanted they ditch and run. This being a free site makes it so easy for con artists to scam others especially if not in the same locality. Even in another country as how would you know what they are saying is true or not? There are plenty of genuine people out there like me who because of this do wonder, "why bother?" The reason is simple, sometimes you have to go through a few barrels to find one good apple. And for some more details just message me. Just don't be too hasty to give things up whether verbally, physically or electronically. Good Luck! | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:56:24 AM | | U know cueil..theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. Wanting ppl to know/see u exist. I think everyone wants that to some degree and if they say they dont they are complete liars. There are tons of ppl that get walked by every day and feel that ppl dont know they exist or are alive and breathing. That can really lower someones mood or even seriously depress them. So keep on keeping on..get noticed. And ur right about the violent thing most of the time that is really hard to change..but u shouldnt really knock changing..u never know might change some even if its just a small bit...change is good if its for the better. Well I hope that makes some sense. =] Im really trying here.... | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 2:57:05 AM | | free or pay it doesn't matter... I've had the same problem on pay sites as on free sites | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 3:04:11 AM | Right bondgyrl...Thats a great positive outlook to have. True ppl do change personas to fit other ppl..when they really shouldnt..but that doesnt mean they wont. I guess its a thing u have to be on a constant lookout for which is really sad. Everybody wants to fit in with everyone...and some think hey well if im like this maybe they will like me more...wrong..they are gonna like u or not like u no matter what. Ppl lie tell u things and then turn around and its completely diferent..and it makes u wonder..why lie in the first place. Be honest its the only way ur ever gonna get anywhere that will amount to anything "worth it". But out of all these bad apples u might run into.. some day there will be an apple worth making apple pie with hahaha =] Thats a bad way to put it ..what I mean to say..is ur right dont give up there is someone out there for everyone...its true..I havnt found "him" yet but sure am looking forward to it. hopefully i dont grow old and die before then  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:05:04 PM | | I'm nice also but it doesn't pay. People take advantage of you and you for granted when you are nice. Then they try to come back when its too late, You have to be a **** it seems with guys. That's not how I was brought up though. I think dating sucks,I rather be married and in love.Is there any nice men left? | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:35:38 PM | Hi nice to meet you.
herm0sa_nina
ok the theory of sticking it on your mirror is merly. a place where you might see it everday. but reflects seeing youself/knowing yourself.
until we know who we are, we cant see anyone else.. but project..
but same theory ,, says make a board wiff pics of what you want in life.. like holding hands with a guy/laughing etc. basically its working on theory the law of attraction which if your interested you can google or utube.
the mirroe thing is not about attracting a mirror image of you but becoming conciouis of you..ie everyone has a higher self and lower self.. alot of poeople see them selves as their higher selves yet see/judge as others as lower self.
basically becoming concious seeing who we are. helps us be less demanding of others.
consciousness.
but power of word=creation.. it works.
but like i say always check things out. you never know where it might lead you.
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/7/2008 12:09:31 PM | Ok.....Im back after reading most of the threads. All of you have had great input...thanks. Its nice to get that input to see how others are feeling about this. Guys...thanks. I have seen how it looks on your end ...and its sad to know that you have changed some of your ways of thinking because of the way you have been treated in the past from relationships too...and I am sorry that you had to run into ladies like that and go thru what you did. And girls... I know alot of you have been thru the same. I myself am not looking for that perfect person. No one is perfect.... We can try to be the best we can and be a good person I feel, but not perfect. My thoughts of a true and honest person is someone sincere...who you can just relax and be comfortable around each other and know you don't have to wonder if he is being that "True and honest" guy or girl. Guys...I am not putting you down or saying your not out there. I myself have been thru alot of bull crap and don't want to go thru that again. All I am asking is to find that one person that we can share the same interests and life with no BS in the middle. Be happy and be ourselves. I'm an easy going person without drama. My kids are grown..Im free to do whatever I want or go where ever I want in my line of work. Im a country girl who is looking for the simple life. Im about one of the lowest mantances wemon you can find...lol. Which some guys worry about that kinda stuff. I'm as country as they get I guess you could say. But in that time I can be a lady too.
We all have our questions as what is a true and honest guy or girl.... I am not looking for that "Bad Boy" as some put it. and yes.....that does come with some guys..and hey..thats cool, But it is "what is in the heart" that I am looking for. And Im not going to lie here.... physical attraction is a plus but not a big deal. I mean guys...how would some of you like to be looking into the eyes of someone who doesn't attract you? I mean really?? Even tho we don't want to admit it sometimes...its there!! Like it or not.
Thanks again for your input...I'll be reading on. Have a wonderful new year all...  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/7/2008 12:17:33 PM | Jim..you are so right. Too bad we can't just bump into each other huh??lol
As we get older.... we see that person in our minds..and wish upon a star...and hope it was that easy. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:29:11 PM | SO glad to see someone else agrees with me with regards to putting pictures of their kids on here: WHAT are they thinking? Bad enough that people have more pics of their pets on their profile than of themself
RED SASHA, you're SO my type!!!
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:43:42 PM | | I adore men...most are incredibly 'affectionate and romantic...they are also as truthful and honest as women! You just haven't met the right one yet honey! They're out there! And, after viewing your profile, it is obvious you have alot to offer! Hang in there! | |
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Posted: 1/14/2008 5:41:22 PM | Bondygyrl, I agree that people often put the best foot forward as much as possible and ommitting as much as possible anything that can be a potential problem, and then you have the wrong impression of the person. We can get deceived even if that's not the person's intention. It's not about this site. People often do that in general. I am not sure about the idea of envisioning qualities of your mate and all of a sudden she manifests herself. It might be theoretically possible, but soulmate brought that up and it hasn't happened to her unless she hasn't told us. I think it's easier to have no expectations, to not really care that much, and just go with the flow. You shouldn't expect much from someone you're dating or relationships unless someone has proven to you after a while that they are worth your time... That's my take on the whole thing.... People can pull off the nicest nice guy or girl routines or tell you they are church, synagogue, or ashram girls and then do something to shatter you.
Take your time with the opposite sex. Dating can go very wrong sometimes if you are not careful. The law of attraction might work. I think I've attracted certain kinds of women in my life when I reflected upon that... You do have to watch your thoughts.. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2008 6:00:49 PM | Put it in writing is what I say, like in your profile. If you are overweight,
say so, if you have kids under eighteen say so, if your divorced is not yet
finalized say so......in other words be honest.
I really and truly like to believe (most people), that is the only way to go,
because if you are suspicious of everyone, well that won't carry you too far.
But be ever careful, how much or whom you believe, for within the word
believe is also the word 'lie'.
Just my 2cents worth.
Brazos, Sol | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/14/2008 11:39:12 PM | | hey hey guys ease up on us ladies, not all of us are horrible. I have to say that there are a fair few who have no problem with tearing out your souls but the same can be said about the males. Living an a small town the most honest and true people are the pnes who will come out and say I just need to get laid and thats all.. If someone out there has any ideas about where those honest guys that are not wanting a one night stand are let me know I will take notes, lol. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/14/2008 11:45:10 PM | Oh, we are here right under your noses.........you just all seem to prefer the "bad boy" types for some reason. We really are no fun to you, and are not much of a challenge, so we're boring to you...........Just the facts, M'aam...............
I'm honest, true, and never cheated OR abused anyone that I was with..............& what has that gotten me? Used and abused, still single after almost 5 long years............Cheers. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/17/2008 4:18:48 AM | Luckii, I would be one of those guys that are honest and do not look for a one night stand. I'm very physical, and like the passion as much as the next person, but it is for that one person that you want to be with, and not many 'conquests'.
Sorry that you had to experence what you have.
What you deserve will come to you. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/21/2008 8:06:30 PM | uncmike,
thanks for the thought. I just keep getting the one night stand line out here.. lol. I guess I should be greatful that I get any attention buy its so hard to be greatful when you think the guys a pig. Passion is wonderful as long as ( at least for me) it is with the one person I am with. I guess times cganges and I was left behind. I see a lot of the one night stands going on and mosr people here look at you strange if you say your not into that. So, I guess for me I dont just want honest, I want a passionate loyalist. Too much to ask for?? | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:59:23 PM | Luckii,
that's not too much to ask for either!
A one night stand has nothing to offer, it means that you shared a high level of passion with someone who wont see tomorrow.
If you have been left behind, then sweetie, I will stay behind and keep you company.
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 1/22/2008 8:47:26 AM | | I wish that honesty and sincereity was part of the dating vocabulary----they have been replace with hunter, player and misrepresentation. I suggest that those who are hunters and intend to mislead have the nerve to be upfront the beginning. If you just want a booty call---say it!!!! Ladies----I have decided to launch a campaign against the idiot men of the world----when they ask me for my boob size---I say "if your penis is at least 10" long and 2" wide--the I will tell you my boob size" They absolutely shut up!!! | |
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