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 Zeanah59
Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 26
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Yep...was hit on twice from another dating site. Luckily, they were not very good at it. They both claimed they were American business men on a job out of the country. They even posted a picture of a handsome American man. They also started out very strong on all their "undying love" for me, which threw up a definite red flag. The broken English also gave me a clue that something was up.
When I cornered them and asked questions and they knew i was suspicious, they disappeared off the face of the earth.

I also had a male friend who was scammed by women on yahoo. These were even from his state. Women who were in need of money and their bills being payed. He fell for it several times because he has a big heart. After they got money out of him, they lost interest. One woman even slept with him once and then dangled the sex again card in his face. He kept giving her money and she kept him at bay sexually. In other words, she gave him a taste of herself sexually and used it to get money, then split. This happened to him to many times before he finally beleived he was being used. They were all out of his league physically...real hot beauty's. His friends kept telling him he was being used and to see what they do when he refuses to pay out. In every case...they dumped him immediately. After he told the one woman off big time and literally told her what she was, she later called him to bail her son out of jail and then to buy her kids Christmas gifts...amazing how low people will go!

Sorry some of you got taken. Don't beat yourself up to bad. Some of us have been taken emotionally and maybe not $$$, but it feels just as bad. You just learn and move on. It usually means that you just have a big and giving heart...that's not a bad thing! Now you know and you can take care of yourself better.
 Sandal2651
Joined: 2/26/2007
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Posted: 12/25/2007 3:55:23 AM
I have been conned as well on another site. I have a $9,500.00 check that looks as funny as it is. This guy is suppose to be in Nigeria working as a computer expert or a construction engineer who doesn't have enough money to get his ticket home which will cost $1200.00. Big stories from him. IM on him is tude john and his suppose to be name is John Morgan and he is suppose to be from Bozeman, Montana and he is dark skinned more like hispanics. He's very good at it. Didn't get any money out of me and he sure tried. He also needed money for food, hotel bill and all sorts of S.H.I.T. I GET FED UP WITH THE BS AND GET OFF THE SITES FOR AWHILE AND ALWAYS COME BACK FOR MORE. LOL
 SeekingLancelot
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 12/25/2007 5:30:10 AM
Oggers
Thanks for the welcome! Very nice of you!

Happy Holidays
 SeekingLancelot
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 12/25/2007 5:32:19 AM
Rowdysheis,
Has changing your profile worked or do you still get some that still try to scam you? Le me know; I want to get them off my back too.
 womanofsubstance
Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 12/25/2007 5:53:29 AM
wow i cant believe this happens, i never had that problem. I would never lend money to a guy from the net or anyone i didnt know for a long period of time to gather wether there trustworthy. Its a huge turn off for a guy to ask for money from a woman yuck
 RANDOM NONSENSE
Joined: 11/13/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 12/25/2007 4:04:22 PM
"Rose Allen" sent me a christmas greeting onYahoo IM this morning. I pressed the ignore icon and deleted it. I didn't bother reading it because It could contain a virous or Malware, or something else. Plus I said some very spitefull remarks. Obviously I don't want a seasons greetings if I start cussing that person out.
 ms98663
Joined: 11/5/2005
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Posted: 1/19/2008 11:18:36 AM
Well , I may as well jump on the band wagon..I met someone on here Dec 10, his name his Marcus..all was going well, or so I thought..He had to leave the country on business to Ghana..I rcv'd numerous emails on a daily basis, but the airlines had lost his luggage and his laptop, which he desperatly needed for his project there..He even sent a dozen long stemmed red rose, a teddy bear and chocolate..that's when I knew , something was up...he asked me to overnight him a laptop from the states because he just was not able to find the kind he needed...said the money was not the issue, he had the cash on him..I suggest he get online with a computer company and ahve them overnight it..that suggestion was of course dismissed, this request for my help went on for days, becoming more agressive..I even suggested the Embassy might be able to assist..so, I decided to play a bit, asked him to wire me the funds and I would be happy to send the laptop, sorry Marcus says Ghana doesn't allow wires to go out...then how in the hell was I suppose to send something in..I told him I smelled a big ole' rat, and sorry, can't help you, but thanks for the roses..I haven't gheard from him in 2 days..and like the others, he deleted his profile within 1 week of intial contact..
 lovemuffin58
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:31:59 PM
Too bad some of the men on here aren't who they say they are, the very first one I ended up liking, ended up being married, he lied about his age and said he didn't smoke, the smoking didn't bother me. But being married did. And the age thing he said he did by accident and he didn't know how to change it. But when you see him on a few other sites and he lied on those also about the age, a misake on three profiles I think not. He must have thought I'd be a dumb blonde and not check him out. He made that kind of hard too because he used a different last name on his email address.
Makes it real hard to trust on here. But we still keep trying.
 soft as a lioness
Joined: 11/2/2007
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:17:18 PM
Hi I met a lady in the car park and we chatted fr a while. She was very exited becuase her new lover is coming from Italy to meat her. He has fallen in love with her.

I thought mmm i might have a coffee with her. We swaped phone numbers. She is a mature woman and after talking to her for a while I realised or suspected she is being conned. After a few calls sure enough so far she has sent him eight thousand dollars due to his riduculas stories, He now has a package at a (whatever) of gold and diamonds that he is going to come out to australia with and he is going to build a wounderfull house for her. But worse I spoke to her last night and ,Oh dear he has lost his cheque book so he needs her to send 12,000 thousand dollars. Well now she has put the brakes on. (huray) I am there for her and poining out reality each time. She is begining to come down. He has done a good job at conning her. He told her to borrow the money. When he does not do what he sends discusting emails that are very abusive.

In order to under stand how people get conned these are very cleaver people and nobody should ever be blamesd for they are the victim. This woam is prepared to start to test him out now then she may block him but is not sure as he know all her identity. Personaly I think to make a sight that will expose such scammers.

I will support her wheli she is going through this but so far she has lost alot, how many more out there has he conned.

Donna
 boricua_lady
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:58:58 PM

I met someone on this sight posing as a pretty ladie. Things were going great till she asked for money. I messaged her back and said no. In fact I cussed her out. I thought I found true love and got this S.H.I.T.? People suck. Has anyone on here been scammed for money or have people attempted to do so? I am eager for your responses. Her profile looked legitimate. It didn't raise any concerns in my mind. I was just thinking wow! I got a response! This is great! Low and behold whoever was behind those nice pictures wanted money. You can never be to carefull.


It's called the internet people. Don't seem so shocked. Am I the only person here who has been actively on the net (in various venues, I only started trying dating sites a couple of years ago) for 13 or so years??? Scammers are EVERYWHERE. Sometimes they are telemarketers, sometimes they are people sending out snail mail, sometimes they are right in your face in person, sometimes they contact you over IM, sometimes they send you fraudulent e-mails, and sometimes they are targeting people on dating sites (and various other networking type sites\message boards, newsgroups, email lists).

Crime\scam artists\misleading advertising has been around since the dawn of time and why are we so surprised when criminals\dishonest people\con artists keep up with technology? I'm actually amazed at how many people fall for these scam e-mails and hoax virus warnings, etc. For goodness sakes, most pop up ads are simply a company trying to trick you into clicking on their ad so they can hustle your browser to their site.

"You are a winner!! Click here to get your prize!" "Get your free laptop now!" "Take a free survey and we'll give you a free HD Widescreen TV!" "Shoot the ducks with your mouse and win a valuable prize!" "There is an error in your computer! Click here to fix it now!" *this one comes complete with fake "OK" and "Cancel" buttons as well as a fake "X" in the upper right hand corner just below the ACTUAL "X" that will truly close that window. Clicking anywhere but the actual close button will send you to their site anyhow. Wuarez sites, identity theft, malicious java scripts, the list goes on and on.

Just like you wouldn't walk alone down a dark alley at 3am in a crime ridden part of town, don't surf the net with blinders on. Educate yourself!! There are plenty of sites out there that can tell you if that e-mail warning, offer, plea for help, whatever, are real or not. They even have proprietary search engines to help you look for keywords that will help bring up the information you need. I'd list some of the more helpful sites here but I've noticed in e-mails any attempt at listing a site address (in my case in all innocence) gets blocked out automatically by this sites software so all I can say is do your homework.

The net is full of more valuable information than it is with people and\or sites that intend you harm in some way. Utilize the tool you have in front of you to protect yourself. (inbetween searching for love that is) ie; Be your own advocate, investigator, researcher, and arm yourself with knowledge. It's the best weapon you have when it comes to protecting yourself on the World Wide Web.

~Darlene~
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:08:00 PM
any person that thinks that its a good thing to give money to a person they dont know and have never seen deserves to get ripped off.

The world is what it is. There are many scammers. Never give up any money. If she looks too good to be true, it probably is.
 PURE-Energy
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 37
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:36:53 PM
The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the 8th Dimension

I get these messages from women that will send me a few messages and then they will send me there privet e-mail address,so I can get more privet with them ,a few e- mails will come down the line ,and then all of a sudden I get an e-mail saying,go here and you can see my video,when i get to that addy; I, find out it's one of those PORN sites where a person can pay $5-$-10 or higher too chat with women that is naked -------------

God i just hate that -Hell i'll never fall for that crap,and NO woman will ever Scam me out of my monies that I have scraped and saved for 30 some years..









do i need a hair cut?? out Snake
 wylder1
Joined: 5/20/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:16:11 PM
Fair comment, Darlene.

But is there danger cynicism might lead to complacency if we simply shrug and say,
"whatever..."?

I understand your sense of frustration and acceptance. And although it seems the
Nigerian/Russian/Japanese/Brooklyn (all documented on a Sydney University sociology essay that has used 'free' dating sites such as this for research) emotional scam phenomenon is a challenge.

The problem extends beyond 'free' dating sites, as you suggest. Real estate salespeople, sSome US&A ‘banks and finance institutions have been tainted with all this, as have a couple of Canadian pharmaceuticals retailers and predictably a plethora of California based 'clairvoyants'.

Ebay and its cohort PayPal aren't immune, but they've given some attention to ways of either reducing the problem or at least elevating awareness among customers.

I'm relatively new to the Internet dating site jungle but after a few weeks I realise the
'free' sites must be more risky than the 'pay' sites. I've not decided yet whether to remain
with this or any other site. There's risk of it all devaluing into 'chat' rooms and that could be a 'black hole' time waster.

On the other hand places like PoF and Connecting Singles seem worthwhile. A trial at least. And the mods seem alert to the scam problem. CS uses some sort of algorythm to inhibit anyone with an .ru address, but so far the pesky yahoo email addresses remain a pain.

The undergrad study looks like concluding a range of depressing summaries, the most relevant here being to avoid all freemail hotmail addresses and yahoo email addresses. There's also the practical problem of official will to act. The US&A embassy in Lagos is aware of those like "Christ Scott of New Jersey" who apparently has a legit US&A passport "she" shows on emails asking for help to escape Nigeria. The US&A State Department isn't interested. Difficult to police. Hard to pursue.

Like the reported class action against PayPal/Ebay a couple of years ago.

So please share details. Raise awareness. It helps us be forewarned.


- W.




It's called the internet people. Don't seem so shocked. Am I the only person here who has been actively on the net (in various venues, I only started trying dating sites a couple of years ago) for 13 or so years??? Scammers are EVERYWHERE...(pr)...
 tinatoronto2000
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 39
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:25:12 PM
How about men who are married or got girlfriend and sending messages....
 Camry_07
Joined: 11/17/2007
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Posted: 6/23/2008 1:04:13 PM
Hi just happen to two time oby i must be dum, i was so loney as i lost my ture love 7yr's go and i did fel in love oh this when gone for mo's telling me how much that thay love and you will be my Queen and i full for it pleas trust me love but them the scammed me for money i said i did have money so thay told me to go hell at a other time 3yr's later the same thing full for it agian he said he was on a buisse trip and he want my address so i give it to i got some rose frome him them he want two pictuer that he could look at them befor he go to sleep so i did i just hope he donen't use the pictuer's any thing bad it scare me yes thay left me broken heart never agian . i be carefull next time if thar is a next
 floridian407
Joined: 4/12/2006
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Posted: 6/23/2008 10:55:50 PM
I've talked to people, at least one from this site, said he was in Florida, and wanting money. No idea if he's still here, he was rude and obnoxious though. I have encountered scammers on other social and dating sites, too. Yahoo seems to have a plethora, they all {the scammers,not everyone on Yahoo, I do have some real people friends there as well.} say they come from the UK, Canada or the U.S.A. and are currently working in Ghana, Nigeria or elsewhere in West Africa. Like another poster mentioned, I just would like to meet real people. Its been awhile, getting tired of all the scammers nonsense, but would like to relocate the anti/stop spammers group and report these scoundrels on Yahoo,but they've changed their group name...Never met anyone on Singlesnet, was beginning to think their site as well as some others mainly had bots instead of real people and profiles....Glad to know I'm not the only one encountering this nonsense, though....Here's to meeting real people and stopping scammers in their tracks!<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
 betterlate
Joined: 12/22/2006
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Posted: 6/24/2008 12:49:03 AM
Several years ago on Yahooie I got an email from a very handsome man from North Carolina, he was smart, funny, and was not rushing to fall in love with me. I was very nervous when he wanted my address so I gave him my sisters (and her husbands) address because he wanted to send flowers... so he said... well I got flowers, gifts like you wouldnt believe... I demanded that they stop and attempted to return them to the north carolina address, they came back no such address several weeks later.

He did say he fell in love after a few months of phone calls and IMs, I started falling for the guy on the phone, not the guy in the photos, they did not seem to match. Well in the forth month, he announced a trip to Germany, he would be gone ten days for business and that with the time difference he soul miss talking to me, yada yada. I got so many deliveries (at my sisters house) speakers, music, t shirts (from germany) and things that were very convincing.. then came the scam... he was going to Africa Ghanna actually to meet with the company headquarters but his top of the line sony computer crashed and he didnt have enough room on his credit cards to replace it and wanted to know if he could send the crashed one so I could begin gettting it repaired for him, get a new one too and fly them over to him so we could spend a week together by the ocean while he wrapped up the business deal of a lifetime. I did some checking on the things he was saying and took notes, then asked questions, the answers did not match, so I began messing with him, I was mad, hurt and wanted revenge... so I told him to forget the crashed computer that I put a new top of the line computer in the mail to a lovely hotel and that all he had to do is pick it up and he could pay me back later. I had him running around all over northwest Africa for weeks, then I finally told him off, what I had found out and how upset I had been... you know? I really feel like he did care, otherwise he was a darned good actor, I know our governement could put a stop to that, heck they read our emails and listen to our phone calls anyway...
I was really hurt, I felt like a dunce and when the florist called and said the flowers and gifts were purchased with a stolen credit card I felt terrible for the person that he stole it from, you cant return flowers but I did return everything else, the huge speakers, t-shirts, music, jewelry and sun glasses... oh well... I guess it is just part of the internet we all must be careful with our hearts
 quietcowboy
Joined: 12/25/2007
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Posted: 8/11/2008 10:47:04 AM
I just received my second Russian Bride Scam since I joined POF(how can I be so lucky!). I don't think that is POF fault at all - from what I read on all of the anti-scam sites they target all of the dating websites. Both of the scams sent pictures - this "women" were drop dead gorgeous, 26 yrs old(so they say), living in a small town in Russian, first experience with internet dating, were coming to America soon(its small place,so they go anywhere in the US love dictates), needed someone to show them around, etc.

First they will message you POF asking you to contact them at their email address. Their profiles will not say anything about they are from Russian(which isn't allowed). Their POF profiles will dissappear(not sure why or how) soon after you receive their message. If you message them by email rarely will they read/answer your questions. If you google parts of their messages you will more than likely find dozens of very similar(sometimes exact copies) of their letters on anti-scam websites. More often than not, you can find the exact pictures they send of them on a "blacklist" on the anti-scam sites too!

Not sure why, but the whole thing has caught an interest for me, so if you think you might be involved in one message me and I will tell you more of what I've found.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 8/11/2008 12:49:14 PM
first of all falling in love with messages is lame in my mind. You can be somewhat attracted to someone but you need to spend time with them. Just dont fall in love with a photo.

Of course there are scammers on this site and many others.
 sillydogs2
Joined: 10/25/2007
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Posted: 8/11/2008 1:08:19 PM
Hi, i met a guy on here, even invited him to my home. He got here and said he had had an accident on the way here, did have a dented fender and hood on his vehicle. That was ok, said he would have it fixed when he got back to marble falls, after he went home, got this awful sounding message on my answering machine, i thought someone had died, it said to call him, he had terrible news...So i called, after 7 pm when i had free minutes on my cell phone..Seems that he couldnt get his car fixed, had to come up with 500.00 deductible, everybody has this, but he said, wow i didnt know this, and i dont have it. I told him i couldnt and wouldnt lend him money, didnt know him that well, and i was thinking, that dent had rust on it, so it wasnt new. I kept talking to him, and he came up with he has 20,000 dollars of credit card debt, could i help him out, still didnt have his car fixed.
After awhile, his interest in me waned, no money , no honey, hey i wasnt born yesterday, so after a couple of weeks more, of asking me for money, he wrote me a letter on pof, saying his true love had come back from new york, and they were getting married. I told him i didnt care, and he was a deadbeat and quit writing to me, or calling me, guess this was a scam for him and his whatever to get money, new one to me.
He wrote back saying he was not a liar, i hd to block him on here, on my telephone, cell phone, and my regular email address, was getting hateful nasty messages. so see there are a lot of scams out there. He said he loved me, and more, but after i said no money, he changed his mind, too bad , so sad. Going to be a lot more careful about talking to people, but no silly gal here, i am ok, and who knows about him?? Hope the rest of you gals, if you hear from this so called lonely man, who wants a perty woman , beware, nothing but lies and troubles
Sheila
 eyelets
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/11/2008 1:11:37 PM
hi,, i know exactly where you are coming from..i met a guy too and he was all so nice and full of promises, to come here and be with me..make a life here with me and all that..til one day i started feeling uneasy about him when he would ask about my bank and all that, and the next thing i see is he is asking me for money and wanting my bank information to put in money in my account for me to take out and send to him via Western Union..i checked it out with the police and they stopped it..boy was i fooled by men like that...now i am not saying all men are like it althought there are some a&(&(& les and there are some nice guys...like yourself, wish you could find someone decent.,and honest
 johnpaul78
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 47
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Posted: 8/11/2008 7:30:57 PM
ha ha... i'm not laughing at anyone here, but i find it disturbing that anyone would just offer anyone on here money or access to their accounts.. i recently got a message from a girl saying she liked me and wanted to have a relationship, but she was stranded in west africa (of all places) with her girlfriend and they had no money to get back home. whe was eagerly awaiting our meeting, but just needed some money to get home.. eagerly awaiting our meeting..??? i never spoke to this girl or even seen her page before that email. be serious....
 TrueBlues59
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2008 7:53:52 PM
"u dint"? Are you typing on a keyboard? or a cell phone? How about *you* get over it and learn to spell an entire word, eh?

Rip offs should rot in hell. There shouldn't be any one saying things like "GET the hell over it!!"...

Give me a freaking break.
 taylor97526
Joined: 11/17/2006
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Posted: 8/11/2008 8:04:34 PM
get that crap a lot on singlesnet.com
They post a picture of some fox but nothing else matches up. Then the real person emerges and she's in Nirobi or Africa,
have never had anyone on POF ask for money. I wonder how many lonely people out there fall for this scam.
 quietcowboy
Joined: 12/25/2007
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Posted: 8/12/2008 9:38:57 AM
I wonder how many lonely people out there fall for this scam.


Judging from the information posted on the anti-scam site lots of people for these scams. The ones that have contacted me send very touching letters and photos, but I quit believing in the tooth fairy along time ago. I think it might be easy for a person to take the bait. Posted below is the last letter(and second letter) from a scammer that contacted me through PoF. Her pics were very innocent(and quite lovely too). Probably 3 or 4 more letters will follow, one of which will request the name&symbols for my local international airport which "she" will use to make reservation for "her" trip here. She will then sent me a copy of "her" ticket information and visa. When "she" goes to the airport there will be some problems with her Visa or "her" airline ticket and as much as "she" hates to ask me for it(because "she" is a very self sufficient woman), "she" will need money via Western Union,etc sent to a "travel office" in Moscow(or possibly somewhere else in Russian). The money will need to be sent immediately.

Hello!!!
This is me again! I decided to send you more info about me. Sorry I don't have much time to write now because my sister is waiting for me. We will go home together. It is my first time I try to correspondence with man in internet world. I do hope you will be enough patient to understand my writing. I want you to know that I have only good intentions and I don`t have big secrets. The thing is that I will work abroad for three or six months or so and I would like to meet a nice man to be my guide or just be good friend to spend time with. I think that it is hard enough to live in foreign town without friends and also I have never been abroad. I am from so small town here in Russia,I am afraid to be lost. I want to see the real life and it is impossible to see without person who knows all sides of the life. It doesn`t matter what age is he or what is his eyes color, I just want to know that he is kind and open-hearted inside. Last time many girls all over the world also want to start a new life abroad, so many of them used a special program for young people who wants to work abroad. I also decided to do so and to use it. This program just helps to register documents and gives suitable work in your area. I already started to register documents and now I need to decide in which city I want to work.
I`m 26 years old and I`m not afraid of work (I will work as a dance teacher). You know, I`m a professional dancer, I dance in group on festivals, wedding celebrations etc. But when I will arrive (I will travel alone) I will work as a dance teacher (instructor), I have an international certificate. I think it is the right way for me, I am lost here, and I think that I look pretty enough to find a better place. I never been abroad so I decided to find a friend abroad and make his city to be my destination. I want to repeat the same way,it is my only chance to change my life. I am full of plans and different dreams. My hair is blonde and I have grey eyes. I think I'm somewhat pretty, but first of all I want to be beautiful inside. I do hope that you will be not disappointed to meet me in the real life if we meet. I will leave my town in a few days or so (I can't tell you everything exactly right now) and I would like to be sure that I have a man who is waiting for me there. I will work all day and I would like to find a man to spend all free time together to get to know each other better. If you have any interest to meet me I will be more then happy to meet you too. Sorry I really have to go now. My sister is waiting for me and I have to go!

Bye-bye!!!!

Your Ekaterina (For short you can call me Katy)

P.S. Forgot to say I'm sending a pic with my sister, my father and me.
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