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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:51:58 AM | "NOBODY wants to find a new mate and HAVE TO SUPPORT that person!"
When I see that a man wants a "financially secure woman" I look at that as reading: A woman that can take care of herself & her own homelife = NOT needy, or in debt up to her eyeballs or wanting a sugar daddy! I would also hope that the same person is "financially secure" as well! Face it, a LOT of us have child support to pay or have our own children who we support. There are tons of women who think that the MAN should support the woman...how old fashioned that way of thinking is! I personally would love to add to my profile that I'm looking for a fiancially secure person, BUT it would come out looking like I want someone to support me....NOT the case! I would expect that the man I got involved with would be "financially secure" as far as with paying any support he owes to his ex, being able to handle his own finances (not be in debt up to his eyeballs with the expectations of me taking over part of his debt) and NOT EXPECT ME to support them! These days, when two people decide to live together (in a marriage or not), it should be relationship based on an EQUAL basis.
"Neither one of them should have to support the other person! "
IF I ever got to the point of living with someone else again (be it whether I was living with a man or a woman), my expenses would change...as far as...SHARING the living expenses! Right now, I pay for everything, but if I SHARED accomodations with someone else, my expenses would decrease, therefore, I would have more money available for my kids, or me, or for both of us to have some fun! | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:18:25 AM | Maybe those guys are trying to avoid golddiggers? I can't blame them, I've run into my fair share of them. Women who don't give a darn about you, they are cold and mean and cruel and are just after your money. 
On the other hand, why complain about men demanding financially secure women when I've seen tons of women demanding financially secure men? If you are a poor guy, most women won't even talk to you, like money is the most important thing to them.
For me, I don't care if a woman is poor(as long as she is not the golddigger type), I'd still give her a fair chance. I just wish women were the same way, and would not put down a guy just because he is poor(as long as he is not the golddigger type). | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:54:29 AM | It's simple really. I would never date a woman I met at a laundrymat. Why? If she can't afford a washer or dryer how the heck is she gonna take care of me?
Kidding of course | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/20/2008 3:56:26 PM | I agree w/ you about the Debt part, And to PoeticBliss: NOT EVERYONE on here has debt. I own my own home, I own my cars, DO I charge - YES, but no more than I can afford to pay when the bill comes in every 30 days....
I fought long and hard to get an education - more than 1, & had to struggle, more than some. But remember - with work comes rewards. And one of them is Financial freedom... | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:33:59 AM | If I were dating, I would want to only get involved with someone who is an equal, not someone doing much better financially than I am, or someone doing much worse. In my experience, being with a woman who spends money like no tomorrow is hell, especially when she starts to use you to plug the holes in her finances which arise due to her spending habits. Likewise, I think a relationship with a much richer woman would be difficult, even if she loved me, because her family and friends would put a lot of pressure on her to only get involved with someone of her class or above.
To be fair though, I would not date until I myself was secure financially and in a stable career. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:05:54 AM | | Lots of guys look for financially secure women so that if they get into a common law relationship or marriage they don't have to financially contribute. Also another kind of guy is the lazy unemployed slob looking for a financially secure woman for a free ride. Both are unacceptable to me. If I live with a guy he must financially contribute to the household and do his share as will I. I don't tolerate any less. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 5/21/2008 10:05:22 AM | There are a lot of husbands right now who've quit their jobs
and let their high-income wives support them, and the wife may
not be able to do much about it because if she files for divorce,
he'll get half her stuff.
Also, if the wife has a much higher income than her husband,
she won't as easily be able stay home and raise her children. | |
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