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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 12:04:51 PM | Now who defined financially secured anyway? My idea is someone that can take care of their expenses and can weather a setback. For someone at my age I would hope they have thought about their retirement plans but realistically if I find someone that suits me it is not a point I would concern myself with.
It is no secret many people live beyond their means and are unwilling to make hard choices for their future. I think men or women asking for someone to be financially secure is just one more thing that you can use to see if you have a similar view of life.
Now can we all start talking about the Victoria Secret part of the post. I am not sure how high heels helps out in bed, maybe the same way that cowboy boots do. I am here to be enlightened.
Oh and mizbex your posts and your profile do something to me. So many miles away. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 12:07:49 PM | ""God help the woman who gets ill and becomes disabled... who will then live in fear that her husband (the man who is supposed to love her ) kicks her to the curb because she then becomes "an inconvenience" to him. She then becomes a bottom-feeder.
God help the man who loses his job; and barely makes it on his own after becoming permanently disabled. He is then, no longer, worthy of love or his wife's esteem?""
That is the first true thing you have posted here, OP. The divorce rate after a partner becomes Disabled is astronomical, above 90%. "In sickness and in health" are thrown by the wayside quickly. I have a lifelong disability and am lucky enough to be able to support myself with a decent middle-class income. "Financially secure" to me means my partner will also have a decent middle-class income and not have alot of debt. Not looking to Be or Find a gold-digger... | |
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| Why do men request anyone other than OPie????
Posted: 12/24/2007 12:15:26 PM | I don't have to read the thread to know someone else has touched on this, so I'll simply second them: When a boy says he wants a girl who is unlike OPie in some way, he is doing OPie a favor. Now she doesn't have to spend any time on a boy who won't be interested.
OPie, I will say it for all the boys whose preferences exclude you somehow: You are welcome!
Cheers!
Vulf 
Oh, and chicks with cash are HAWT! | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 12:44:12 PM |
Can you give me one example of any right that men have that women don't? (USA and Canada please)
Um,the right to pee standing up???
OK OK I'll try to be serious.
Look, what the so called "Women's Movement " was SUPPOSED to accomplish was to give women the OPTION to pursue a career without having a gender based occupation rammed down their throats. It was meant to remove some of the social barriers that made it very difficult for a woman to CHOOSE pursuing a career first and a family second,or to opt out of the whole, or any part of the whole husband and children thing. It was never actually meant to invalidate women who chose not to pursue a vocation or career.It sort of had that effect,though
Personally, I would not WANT my socioeconomic security to depend on the goodwill of a man.
OP, I'm sure there are men out there who are fine with a woman who brings other valuable assets to a relationship in lieu of a salary. I suggest that you will be better served looking elsewhere than online dating sites though.
Cindy O | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 1:18:49 PM | | Or, why don't we put it this way? If my writing was suddenly discovered and I made slightly less than JK Rollings, I bet you wouldn't be on the next streetcar saying "Oh, this is just too much, I couldn't take this from you." | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 2:08:46 PM |
Um,the right to pee standing up???
I protest! I CAN pee standing up, I just can't aim like a man can.
To all the people who are protesting that money should have nothing to do with love, date a homeless man or woman.
No? Why?
Because they are dirty? Let 'em take a shower in your house.
Mentally unstable? Not all of them are, and there people with money who are crazy.
What are the other reasons?
Become a lesbian?
If I hooked up with a woman, she would need to have a job and be financially stable. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 2:23:25 PM | David Lewis;
I wrote
If you're working alongside someone
(male or female) doing the same job one assumes you
are equally qualified, why then is it a privilege to earn
the same money?
in reply to your statement
You're correct but equal pay for equal work is not a right.
It's a privilege that must be earned.
From what I've observed, having a competitive advantage
(a certain type of genitalia, skin color, knowledge, skill,
talent, courage, or good looks) does not automatically
entitle one to more money.
No-one said anything about more money. Equal pay for equal work isn't a privilege. Surely you earn the right to equal pay by qualifying for the job in the first place. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 2:45:29 PM | The reality is that the men asking this are or have a phobia of being taken advantage of or being pursued simply for their money. More then likely do to a bad past experience or two. First question I would suggest asking those men are... do you pay child support and are you bitter about it  . Or maybe the man is just looking to take advantage of a woman with money because he doesn't have any himself. Or maybe he is a cheap skate and doesn't want to fork up any money on a woman when dating her, always preferring to go dutch. I don't think there is anything wrong with either a man or woman looking for this situation. But when they advertise it, it does send a message and suggests some kind of money and trust issues in my opinion. I don't car how much money a woman makes or what she has in savings. All I care about is that she is willing to live within what I have or can provide at the time. Money is everything and sure as hell won't buy you happiness. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 3:06:21 PM | Gumm- No, i dont pay support, and yes im bitter about it..... turns out the kid i WAS payin support for, including all the dr bills, AINT MINE!!
dont have anything to begin with? Hardly, while im not LOADED, im not collecting any gov't benefits either, by federal standards, im moderate middle class (you do the research to figure out what i make)
im one that doesnt beleive in a prenup, or didnt, im actually questioning my beliefs on that now, but for the moment still feel like if im willing to get that involved with someone then there should be no restrictions financially either..... hence the need for a woman willing to pull her own weight in that aspect of the relationship as well as all the others.
Im lookin for a mutual, 2 sided relationship, i dont need a dependant, nor would i burden someone by being their dependant. maybe some year we can work together to make mutual dependants....now THATS what im talkin about. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:35:01 PM |
To all the people who are protesting that money should have nothing to do with love, date a homeless man or woman.
Are you trying to imply that all homeless people are without money?
I'd beg to differ.
Quite a few homeless people have plenty of money, they just choose to live that way.
An example of what I mean?
http://www.myeyewitnessnews.com/news/local/story.aspx?content_id=be3cf701-929d-46bf-abc3-ce1b27a92d4f
Appearances can be deceiving. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:41:44 PM | If you're making less money than a man who is doing exactly
the same job you're doing, please explain to me how you can
achieve wage parity without making more money.
tillytoo wrote: No-one said anything about more money.
Equal pay for equal work isn't a privilege. Surely you earn
the right to equal pay by qualifying for the job in the first
place. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:01:55 PM |
"Gee, I feel hungry so maybe I'll accept that date with the dweeb who's been asking me out. There'll NEVER be a second date, but at least I got that free lunch on the first date."
I'm really sorry this happens to you, iago lives. Maybe you shoud pursue women who are at least financially independent enough that they can afford to buy themselves lunch if they're hungry, and emotionally secure enough to prefer it to wasting time with a dweeb. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2007 10:43:09 PM | Well, then hun, stop going out with women. We're OK with that, really. That kind of bitterness and misogyny is so unattractive, I would be surprised if you could get anyone to date you for any reason other than a free meal.
I don't see how you can get "stuck" paying. You're the one opening your wallet, hoping she'll open her legs. How is that "stuck"? It's being a sucker, maybe, but that's your choice. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/25/2007 12:19:11 AM | To all the people who are protesting that money should have nothing to do with love, date a homeless man or woman.
Do you know of any good looking homeless women? Who clean up real good. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/25/2007 2:50:29 AM | str wrote
and emotionally secure enough to prefer it to wasting time with a dweeb.
Hiway wrote
And maybe you women should start paying your way dweeb or not.TRust me us men get stuck paying for you women B1tch or not.
str wrote
That kind of bitterness and misogyny is so unattractive
Hmm, when we call some guys dweebs, that's OK. Notice even the guys do it. But when we call some women b1tches, that's bitterness and misogyny. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/25/2007 11:17:56 AM | ^^^^ Yeah, even some guys do it. It was iago lives ( a guy) who said it first, I was only quoting him. And it isn't the word "b1tch" that makes Hi-Wayman bitter and misogynistic. It's the substance and tone of this & many of his other posts. He seems to be a bitter person who feels somehow wronged by women in general.
Perhaps you should read more than just the last 2 posts of the thread before you jump in. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:31:22 PM | Just seems to me that there an awful lots of WHINERS on here who basically want to be parented and not pay for anything... hence the astronomical amount of deadbeats dads we have out there.
Point in case.. lots of folks complain they have to pay .... but thats what respoonsibility is all about ... not about finding a sugar-mama, or sugar-daddy.
Just a bone to throw out so I can see who chews! lol | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:57:23 PM |
Point in case.. lots of folks complain they have to pay .... but thats what respoonsibility is all about ... not about finding a sugar-mama, or sugar-daddy. I thought it was about finding someone who is financially secure... and not a burden to the relationship?
Just a thought...  | |
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