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Iowa44
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 6:14:59 PM | I am 45 and I think there is a certain age (possibly 30 )where women assume if a man isn't married or living with someone that there is something wrong with him.Even tho I am decent looking and have a large net worth ,since I have never been married women seem to think I never will,and will go out with guys that have been married and divorced several times first.
Since I don't have kids I am more likely to look for younger women who I could still have a family with,the 13 year difference you mentioned is a stretch but is possible if you have similar goals. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 6:17:11 PM | | Depends on what they are looking for and what they have to offer. Sean Connery is still pretty hot and he's ancient. The tubby short guy at the 7/11 might be my age but I'd rather be with an old guy who is healthy and has a good job and a full head of hair. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 6:32:52 PM | I think the OP is hung up on age issues.
And like anything else ~ it's a issue only if you perceive it so.
It can be a devastating , deal breaker ~ to "you" the perceiver. Your thoughts are yours.
I perfer to contemplate my present and future with the richness of my past ~making the best with all that I've been blessed with rather then sqander time over a glass half full. It's never been about where you are going, but all about the journey. We all going to the same place.
But your minutes here are yours to do with as you wish ~
My daughter's use to say," Daddy ! get real this is the 90"s!
I say, "Get real, this is Now!" ~ the only time that you know you got. Spend it as you wish.
Maketable? ~ give me a break ~ get a life ~dar | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 6:42:13 PM | I've been thinking on this one for a while tonight and I've come to the conclusion that the OP sounds a bit like me till a little over a year ago. I was only interested in the 25 to 35 crowd mostly due to the fact that I wanted kids. Then I fell in love with a 39 year old woman who already had kids and wasn't going to have more.
That relationship didn't last but it did teach me that I had been unrealistic. The women over 35 weren't unmarketable, I was simply too picky and unrealistic. Funny thing about widening my horizons, it seems to have opened a lot more doors that I had long considered closed and locked. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 6:48:23 PM | well firstly when reading your profile you show a preference for men younger than yourself as you will go as low as 26 ( 7 years younger ) and as old as 38 ( 5 years older ) yet claim you want someone around your own age - would then it be best to specify and age limit of say 2 years either side of your own age ?
perhaps you really have no idea what you want ? as your profile and post are a mass of contradictions
there are may many many single hetro men that have neither been married or have kids that are good decent men in the 30-40 age bracket
just keep this in mind -- these men are generally very smart and clued in, as such they are no longer wet behind the ears or purely driven to get their rocks off like they may have in their younger days - what i am trying to say is that many now are very discerning. combine this with societies attitude to men in this bracket ( thats a whole other topic already covered in other threads ) as such these men tend to be reserved about the commitment side of things.
so ask yourself this --- what is he going to see in you --- what do you bring to the table so to speak | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:03:28 PM |
Are MEN marketable after age 30?? How about 40? I had a man on another site, chasing me, begging me to go out with him... I'm 33, he was 46. For me, that was TOO OLD.
No, it's not. Not even close to too old. You're way off, my dear. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:05:16 PM |
Depends on what they are looking for and what they have to offer. Sean Connery is still pretty hot and he's ancient. The tubby short guy at the 7/11 might be my age but I'd rather be with an old guy who is healthy and has a good job and a full head of hair.
Right. It's about health, fitness, and appearance. How do you dress? How do you take care of yourself? If you look great, age is almost irrelevant. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:05:19 PM | I happen to know quite a few men over the age of 40 who are hot, virile, confident, accomplished..the list goes on. They are out there | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:06:51 PM | Again: this is opinion.
PREFERENCES.
She felt that man was too old for her. That's her feelings, that's her preference...
................ and she's allowed to feel that way. Without being talked down on and made fun of. Goodness gracious me-oh-my.
I think that would be too old for me as well. I am still hoping to meet anice man to settle down and have a family with. I think age needs to be taken into consideration when having kids is coming into the picture.
There is no reason for people to be all self righteous with their feelings. To each their own.
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Iowa44
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Joined: 7/19/2006
Msg: 36 | |
| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:18:06 PM | | Forgot to add this to my other post;I am on this site because I think I am marketable,,but I will admit there is alot of junk on ebay that somebody is trying to sell too. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:37:25 PM | | OP, I feel for you. You are at that age in which your biological clock starts screaming children, commitment, serious stuff. Younger men are boring, older men, albeit attractive, some have issues from previous relationships, are single thus coming across predators, or sometimes sounding desperate. With that said, there are also guys that are older with a plethora of experience, not only in the bedroom, but in relationships. Your problem is going to be how to attract one of those rare characters. Because first of all, they do not feel they need to sell themselves to you or your bored type. Second, because they are fit and are driven by other pursuits they tend to attract either girls that are under 29 or women pushing in the 40 that are so fit, that usually go out with early 30 guys but are tired of them. Now, don't get me wrong. We want commitment, we want a cool girl. But we are not desperate for the likes of you. Being older has some incredible benefits. Too bad, you may never find out. And only nibble on the desperate ones. Again with that attitude. I feel for you. Stick to your age. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:38:39 PM | [And if you want to talk not "marketable", I'm starting to see more and more guys in their late thirties or early forties who are grandfathers. YIKES!]
Interesting, So now being a grandfather makes us "more" unmarketable, I Guess I didn't really look at this site as a meat market but I'm begining to think that's just what it is. So sad : (
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:23:35 PM | Hi There,wow great question.Well I think age is just a number,being mature is another.
I would have to agree that yes after 30 some people have had the life and now are just starting over,it all depends on the person on weather they can let go of the emotional baggage.My aspect on life is we all have a pass and it weather we dwell on it,or not because it is the future that holds the anwsers.Too close yourself off from going down a path, is a lost that will never be brought back thats why it is called a learning experience,you learn from it and don't make the same mistake twice and to have a positive attitude on knowing what you want and what you bring to the table,only you hold the key to your life.So my anwser to you, is yes Gentlemen in there 30's are marketable it is just where you shop for them.Good Luck beautiful in your seach and hope you find the happiness your looking for. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:37:23 PM | OutMind:
Listen. Don't try to pretend you know me, or know what I am about... because, you don't. I have all the right in the world to have my preferences, wants, and desires, just like every damn person on here, YOURSELF INCLUDED.
I made this thread, because of the "Are women over 30 marketable" thread that someone started. Maybe now you know how we feel, when someone talks about us like we're a product on the shelf of a local super market.
BTW... you say a man who would be with me, is "desperate" ... ?? You're one to talk. Really. Shame on for judging people you don't even know. You don't know a thing about me that matters. Truly.
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:41:17 PM | Well, heck, Sparkle, if you were going to be pissed off you could have just stayed on the original thread! 
"Desperate" is in the eyes of the pursued, er, I mean, beholder.
we're a product on the shelf of a local super market.
Heck, if you were a product at the supermarket, I could order what I wanted for a responsible price! Barcodes, barcodes, where is your barcode? | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:42:31 PM | I didn't read every response but I can tell you that somewhere around age 45 I became invisible to women. When my last relationship ended it took me a while to grasp that I could no longer get a woman's attention.
Part of that has to be I've gone from driving a nice car and wearing white collar clothing to driving a heap and wearing a ball cap and outdoor work clothes... I look like I don't have much of an income.
It's a hell of a filter because in my experience income trumps health, romance, love... everything, when it comes to attracting women. I can accept that but it's dis-heartening.
As for women being 'marketable' at any age, I can tell you some of the MOST attractive women I know are in their 40's and 50's.
At 33 you're in your prime. I'm with you on wanting someone close to your age but if you rule out men over a certain age you'll miss some people who are exactly what you want. Age in years isn't such a good measure anymore... it's much easier to stay young than it used to be if you make good choices. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:42:57 PM | Good post, blueeyedstranger07. Many good points, life experience...some refer to as baggage. It's how it's dealt with, a life made with someone else that is no longer, due to choices made by oneself or choices made by a partner.
Relationships don't always last and for many reasons. I think failure is a severe word and too widely used IMO. An ending of a relationship is often the best for all involved and either a chance to wallow in pity and label it a failure or take the lessons learned, as every day we're above ground there's something to learn if we just look for it.
IMO the mindset and outlook of whatever point we're at in our lives, whatever we've experienced or not, the good, the bad, it's how we've let it mold us to be the person we are now.
"Don't try to pretend you know me, or know what I am about... because, you don't." No he doesn't, he was stating his opinion. I don't know you either, you don't know me. I don't think the same, though, my opinion which is all it is IS different.
I think it's a good topic, and like other posters, I've shared my own views.
He threw out a "hot button" word...desperate. Who really knows who is...I'd venture to guess only the individuals know how they feel and who's desperate and who's not.
Personally, having read a few of your other posts, it's not a word I'd associate with you. Just my own opinion.
Finding someone you'd like to get to know and spend time with is difficult for anyone. IMO, it may be more difficult for those like you who have so many desirable qualities. Beauty...I don't think anyone would contest that. Intelligent, articulate I'm only commenting on what I've seen here. And like it or not, consider the context of where someone's coming from when reading what they write.
If it were my son, I'd be happy as punch if he were dating you.
I've been blessed that both my sons date women with class....and smart as heck. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:47:49 PM | A lot of good points made there OutMind
as always very rational logical thoughts
New name dude. What's up, have not heard from you in a while. Holidays treading you good? Good points though. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:53:13 PM | message for the op i'm over forty never married no kids but i wouldn't touchy your prima donna ass with someones elses hands. with what you are spouting here and in the other thread its a small wonder you find no one who suits ya,its impossible,if older guys bother ya just don't reply block em or whatever it is high maintenance self-help book reading chicks do.As for me,theres a gal out there somewhere who will like me for me and not try to mash me into the frame of their "dream" man,i say dream all you want,one never knows it might happen,meantime I will continue to look and do my bexst to dodge women like you on my way to the pond,jeeez o pete ohh yea MERRY CHRISTMAS ,HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR,its been a great year and hopefiully next year will be awesome for everyone | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:56:10 PM | Oh lawdy...now we sellin men....how much do they go fer? Lol....and do they have a money back guarantee????    | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:08:43 PM | | Hmmm, sounds a little Duce Bigalow european giggalo in here, I better fetch my satin chaps and ass-plug cufflinks;) I'm 31 now, and I think I might be able to sell quite well in a red light district window, lol. I'm not 35, so I can't speculate on that, but I still have hopes and dreams of marrige. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:10:05 PM | | you seem to be the only one here , that can spell , so why bother , the rest need to go back to the third grade and start over ! | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:18:50 PM |
In fact most of them, just want a FWB -- have kids and don't want anymore, are divorced and don't even want to hear the 'M' word anymore.
Can you blame us? Over 50% of marriages end in divorce and almost always the man has to pay spousal support and has limited access to the kids. The kids might not even be his (women are more likely to cheat than men in a marriage), but he'll still have to pay child support. Why would any man in his right mind want to risk that again? And do you women realize how clingy you can be? No wonder why so many men are looking for FWB. I think this is the backlash from all the women who want selective equality. You know the type. To get half the respect of a man a woman has to work twice as hard...fortunately it's easy, and by the way honey, can you throw out the trash? It's too icky for me. | |
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