| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:08:38 AM | Hey, I'm gonna be a marketable man until I'm a dead man. 30 or 130. I will still be able to get the heart of some women. There are so many over 40 botox free women
that according to looks are beautiful. But it's whats in your heart that counts.
I'm no prize package but my mommy said I'm charming. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:13:09 AM | In my opinion, I think most men are marketable after 30. They basically have established just about everything in life. They have their own place, a car, and know what they want in a relationship and most of all, their minds are set for their retirement..... Nice, catch? You bet! That's marketable
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:36:27 AM | southeast florida, im a male over 50, havent been married and no kids....no debts, never lied, cheated or stole.....not an addict and not a bum.... get almost no reaction on plenty of fish.....i think its a regional situation. there is a lot of crap in the singles world here and people think you are guilty till proven innocent. inner city mentality in a subtropical setting. but thats life, its the same for everyone i guess. best thing to do is get in best physical shape possible and take it from there. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:00:56 AM | basically have established just about everything in life. They have their own place, a car
No, they have RE established themselves after the divorce all but wiped them out.
their minds are set for their retirement but their finances aren't, because the ex got half his pension/retirement funds. Between 30/45, most likely is still paying child support.
and know what they want in a relationship
Sex,with as little OTHER involvement as possible.
Granted, there are men over 30 who have avoided marriage or LTRs that created emotional/financial issues. Some of them simply postponed pairing up in order to solidly establish a career or business. But if he's postponed it too long then I think you have another case of fear LEARNED by observation...anybody remember that thread titled "Men on a marriage strike?"
Not trying to come off as overly negative, but felt obliged to point out the down side of unattached mature men.
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:17:32 AM |
Sex,with as little OTHER involvement as possible.
I disagree with this phrase "as little other involvement".
I think "reasonable involvement" is more accurate.  | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:17:37 AM | It's so crazy that this thread is still going on and on... Seems much more logical to ask "Are men marketable BEFORE 30?" or people, in general... Your 30's are probably THE best years you get. You're getting established, have gained some wisdom from past experience, and haven't likely begun the physical decline yet (in fact some people don't even bloom until their 30's!) Now, on the other hand, very few 20 somethings have achieved the maturity, responsibility and self-awareness that it takes to actually be a good partner and parent. Sure, lots of them manage it but many of them not very well! I think many don't even become "marketable" (what a word, huh?) until about 28 or so, very few before 25.
After 30? Come on! Some people have crazy notions about age. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:17:51 AM | | Just because a woman wears makeup , or people like to wear nice clothes , does not mean that they are marketing themselves. Some people just like to wear nice things , and some women like to wear makeup , just as some don't. It has nothing to do with marketing. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:17:58 AM |
Sex,with as little OTHER involvement as possible.
I disagree with this phrase "as little other involvement".
I think "reasonable involvement" is more accurate. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:31:27 AM | Listen. Don't try to pretend you know me, or know what I am about... because, you don't. I have all the right in the world to have my preferences, wants, and desires, just like every damn person on here, YOURSELF INCLUDED.
I made this thread, because of the "Are women over 30 marketable" thread that someone started. Maybe now you know how we feel, when someone talks about us like we're a product on the shelf of a local super market.
BTW... you say a man who would be with me, is "desperate" ... ?? You're one to talk. Really. Shame on for judging people you don't even know. You don't know a thing about me that matters. Truly. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:29:18 PM |
Just because a woman wears makeup , or people like to wear nice clothes , does not mean that they are marketing themselves. Some people just like to wear nice things , and some women like to wear makeup , just as some don't. It has nothing to do with marketing.
Why do women wear make up? They may not know it consciously, but they are do in it to create the image of a sexually fertile young female. That is how we have arrived at principles of beauty that are constant in ALL cultures. Same thing applies to the males. Nice closes advertise that such person cares about proper grooming, is somehow successful and cares about his health.
All this is basic programing that we all have inside. It allowed primitive men to distinguish and determine a healthy, reproductively capable female. Same thing for females. So all this is going on whether you think you're doing it or not. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:42:07 PM | | above is a good reminder of the human condition. we all want to attracted, to attractive people and be attractive ourselves. well put. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:04:17 PM | Every person who's giving the OP any flack over her preferences, requirements or whatever the heck you care to call it are being hypocritical. Noone, I repeat NOONE doesn't make choices in who they spend time with or date based on absolutely no criteria whatsoever.
It doesn't matter what the criteria is....age....drug use (that's a zinger, huh) if you wouldn't date any member of the opposite sex on the planet, then you have preferences or requirements yourself.
At least she's open and admits it even though she gets heat for it. The friggin hypocritical whining, trying to sell (in her case an older man) by arguing (real effective...*snicker*) or play a guilt trip on her (another thing that really works..NOT) all the threads, the hand wringing and angst are such a waste of energy.
Everyone makes choices, be grown ups, leave her be and let her make hers!!  | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:28:17 PM | i agree with buscgirl.............. cause if someone on here honestly has no deal breakers, then i want to know. i am willing to bet my house my car and my dog that there is not one person on here who is totally deal-breaker-free. if you say you are, then i say... what if the person is bisexual? would you still date them? how about if they have an STD? how about if they are swingers? transgender? will ya still date em? i bet some people have some far more prejudice nit picky deal breakers then age. i see people on here all the time complaining about how they don't date people who are 'separated', they have to be single all the way. are separated people marketable? how about people with kids? are they marketable?? i could go on and on. people givign the op any crap for having preferences, needs to STFU pronto cause it's really ignorant and unfair and pretty crappy to boot.
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:45:24 PM | I won't attempt to market myself in this thread. That would be like trying to sell a Hatori Hanzo sword on Ebay.  | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/27/2007 11:05:07 AM | | I sure hope so. I feel great at 33. Though one can long for the peak fitness he was at 19 or 21, everything else is much better now. And really, as long as you do something each day, you don't go downhill much, and you will probably make up ground on the competition. I've got so much more to offer now than at 25. And hey, let's be honest....if you want it to last "forever" the later you start, the better your chances, right? Cheers. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/27/2007 12:04:54 PM | | Men in their 90's seem to be able to pair up and even get married. Over the 14 years I have been single I have noticed no difference in my marketability and I am now 57. For demographic reasons alone the odds actually improve for males as they age. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/27/2007 1:38:05 PM |
Are MEN marketable after age 30?? How about 40?
Yes, SparkintheDark, we are. A few women are going to be pickier, but in general, one of the few advantages we men have in the dating world is slower diminution of value with age. Do you really need to ask such obvious questions??? | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/27/2007 2:26:52 PM | More marketable?
Not sure...
But as we get older, we move slower so I guess we're certainly easier to catch.
Seriously, an older man hs a lot of advantages over a young one.
1... Usually (but not always ) more financially secure.
2... More concerned with the relationship than hanging with buddies getting drunk
3... Usually more understanding of the partners concerns and needs
4... We've learned a lot from all the mistakes we made.
5... Less likely to be looking for miss "perfect"
6... Better life skills, (ie cooking, cleaning, handyman)
7... Better social skills, (ie. dancing, conversing, empathizing)
8... Better sexual skills (I'm not filling in this set of brackets)
9... More secure emotionally
10..Less likely to cheat. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/30/2007 4:20:36 PM | I made this thread, because of the "Are women over 30 marketable" thread that someone started. Maybe now you know how we feel, when someone talks about us like we're a product on the shelf of a local super market.
Until one gets to know someone in particular and the conversation begins, we are ALL sort of like a product on the shelf of a local super market. Dating boards, and singles venues, are an "open market".
There is a lid for virtually every pot, but the thing about online dating is to adjust to one's "available market". Your wish list is irrelevant, if no one matching it is interested in what you have to offer. On the other hand, those who are insecure, and value themselves too little, may well "offer" below their "market value".
We've all seen the ubiquitous "nice guy" or "nice girl" threads, where someone overvalues a quality that isn't worth much "to the market" he/she is pursuing, unless he/she is also physically attractive to the ones he/she is approaching. It doesn't mean anything, that you think some quality of yours is "wonderful", unless you find someone of the opposite sex who values that quality as highly as you do. Finding your "natural market" is half the battle in adjusting to the reality of online dating.
Are men over 30 marketable? Of course, to women who are interested in what they have to offer, and vice versa. It's not "personal", during the initial selection process. It's based on "buyers and sellers", who find each other, and agree to the "deal". | |
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