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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:52:07 AM | I think you misunderstood. I said average women,not beautiful women. The average women is not good enough for the average man. The average man is always off chasing after the beautiful hotties,which they will never catch, while us very plain average women get no one unless we start going for the mentally retarded and crazy men who stand on street corners and scream at passerbys.
You are not speaking about plain janes or average women at all perfectguy4u . You are talking about beautiful hot women. And why would beautiful women go after average guys anyway. They are beautiful after all and can get a man as hot as they are.
Average plain guys must be in possession of man mirrors. It shows them as being 6'4 ,ripped, a full head of hair and stunningly handsome ,when in actuality they are 5'6,a beer belly ,bald etc...Now i have nothing against bald ,chubby guys at all. I like them actually.I have no delusions about myself. I am perfectly aware that i am the plainest of the plain . I don't expect mr hot body or mr money bags .Don't expect from someone else what you can't offer . | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:05:45 AM | "...The average women is not good enough for the average man. The average man is always off chasing after the beautiful hotties,which they will never catch, while us very plain average women get no one unless we start going for the mentally retarded and crazy men who stand on street corners and scream at passerbys...."
Oh my, average man, average woman, who wants who and who does not want who, and for what, how good looking is the average man and how good looking is the average woman? What kind of personality and attitudes and expectations they have?
Whose "market" is it, really? Is there a market or many local, looks based, personality based and "goals" based ones?
What does "very plein average woman" mean? What is wrong with crazy men is these crazy times? One of them could be Nick Nolte (as in the character in "Down and Out in Beverly Hills").
And at the core of the topic, who has the time to parallel date? Not people with demanding 9:00-21:00, work at home during weekends jobs or goals!!! Do people take sabbatical from work to multi date? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:23:09 AM | | A date (rendez-vous in French) is a planned (ie not accidental) meeting of two people. Where they meet, for how long, why etc etc is TBA. So per se, a date does not mean "dating". And is there really such thing as online dating or is it better called online "introductions" or "connections making"? In French I think they call it "rencontres" (meeting someone). | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:30:03 AM | What in Gods name is wrong with you perfectguy4u. The mentally retarded and crazy people who shriek at strangers is in your book a choice. I don't know what kind of average women you have been have been hanging around ,but none that i know are like that.
I think you are in fact chasing after really hot women who turn you down ,then you bitterly call them average women.As for my definiton of dating more then one person ,well i have already described it ,but i will again. First date is something like coffee for maybe up to an hour or maybe lunch. You decide you think this is a really nice guy and would like to see him again so you go out to dinner and a movie .So this takes maybe a few hours.Third date would only happen if i really liked this person and was attracted to them so anything after a third date is when we would discuss seeing each other exclusively.
This is not about having a guy whose day is monday ,another is tuesday and so on and so forth. If i am not interested in someone there will be no third date and certainly no fourth date. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:30:41 AM | Who cares? I date more than one woman at a time, and most of the women I've been out with also date more than one man at a time. It just doesn't matter much until a particular relationship becomes serious. Until then, it's just a friendship anyway.
My advice, lighten up man :)
Mark
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:36:37 AM | There are many people who "shriek" at strangers on the streets, the mass media, talk radio, online forums, political declarations, etc these days? Does that mean they are what some posters said they are? Or is it the way they are dressed that matters? They are not dateable by the average man or woman? But they are so many that they may actually constitute "the average person" nowadays!
PS. Plus, Ulysses disguised himself as an old and ragged man in order to reclaim Penelope from the suitors! He was not dateable? | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:39:32 AM | | What's wrong with you perfectguy4u is the fact that you think anyone would seriously think that mentally retarted and crazy people are a choice to date.Would you date a woman who screams at people in the subway that aliens are implanting things in her brain? What kind of a choice is that? | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:52:58 AM | A single woman or man can be friends with or date as many people as they want to! The first person you meet isn't automatically going to be the best or the right person for you. Their are literally billions of people in this world. And you will meet many people in your lifetime. Why limit yourself to just one person, when there are many people for you to meet and talk to.
Also just one person is not going to be right for you, there are other people that could be good for you as well, if you got to know them.
Don't be close minded and think you should only know one person or date and that's all. Get to know other people as well! | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:58:57 AM |
What does "very plein average woman" mean?
Well first of all i don't remember writing plain as plein ,but hey whatever lol. What does a very plain average women mean?Sort of ugly. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:04:00 AM | | Staying on topic here and not chatting. Would you still go on a date with crazy lady who screams about aliens if she had a date with another guy the next day?Personally if i had only gone on one maybe two dates with someone and knew they had a date with someone else lined up sometime soon ,i would not care. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:10:21 AM |
I think the reason why some guys have a problem with a woman they are dating goin gout with OTHER guys is because, and I can bank on this......that he has NO other "girlfriends" to go out with BUT her....
See, she is his ONLY option at the time, she was probably the first date in 6 months he's ever had and has a different set of expections...it does make sense though.
Where does this one guy you got your stats from live, Alaska?
Most men I know are doing the same, dating more than one, deciding who they click better with or who they are more into (where do you think women learned this skill from?) - they just like to be the only ones with options. It's a rare guy that's been having a hard time dating for six months, unles he's turning down women or EXTREMELY marriage minded - or has issues that are preventing him from dating normally.
I talked to a guy in my circle of friends once who told me he was dating 4 women and sleeping with one twice a week because she was good in bed, but he wasn't considering her seriously. When I remarked that she was probably dating on the days he didn't see her, he got an attitude and said "she better not be, if I find out she is, she's history!"
Um, WTF? It's a basic "do as I say not as I do" type topic. Men have been dating more than one woman for YEARS. They just like to say they aren't and tell us we're horrible for doing so (I suspect so we don't catch on and start enjoying it, boys club and all). | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:22:39 AM | What a really interesting subject......
How about when a woman asks two guys to marry her within a day of each other, that takes multiple dating to a new level. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:46:33 AM |
Where do you get your stats? The Dallas Cowboy's? I don't know of any men who are dating more than one woman.
Perhaps it's my area, I do live awfully close to some of the NE Patriots. Seriously tho, I don't know any men who aren't dating a lot unless they don't want to be, or don't have the option. Those who don't want to be are getting over an ex, extremely picky, or don't want to settle down. Those who don't have the option are either unusually shy, bitter about women, have low self esteem or something similar - issues which prevent him from holding down one or more dates.
Men who have the options and want to date, date more than one. And why wouldn't they? That's fine.
I assume all men I meet are talking with or dating more than one woman, how else can they find one that works for them? You can't go to Best Buy for a stereo and just buy whatever they tell you you should have. You check your budget against your options and you don't buy what you don't need. It's just shopping around, Smokey Robinson and the miracles sang about it in the 60s. It's nothing new.
How rare is 18 months? What about 60 months? Mind you, these men are not in prison or in a coma. I'll tell you, six months is nothing for men, it's very common to find that, and longer.
I don't know many men who go that long, so since you do - why is it that men would purposely not date for 60 months?
Incorrect, most men have been dating zero women, some for years at a time. I know that some of the blame surely lies with the men who date four women simultaneously (as you mentioned above) but much of it lies with women who allow themselves to be deceived into being attracted to only one type of (usually) unkeepable man.
Most men where? Not where I live. Location again, probably. Who's deceiving women into being into a certain guy - oh do mean preference and attraction and not dating men you're not into cause you're bored? Never heard it described as "deception" before, but there's a first for everything. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:00:35 AM |
So, you are saying that you would date a retard if you knew that he would have other women interested in him after you dated him?
No one would date someone who has the mental level of a child in the second grade.I find your question extremely foolish.I have nothing against someone who is mentally retarted,but no person of normal intelligence would date them.It would be like dating a seven year old kid. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:07:00 AM | Women date multiple guys at once for several reasons, one being it's simply fun and liberating!
Yet, the woman needs to take responsibility in doing so if she wants to be respected and this requires some maturity on her part. It's really important for the woman to stay focused on the man she is with during a date and to let him know she is interested in HIM. One of the main ways to let a man know she is interested is by staying in the moment and actively listening to him. That way she will remember the conversations and won't screw up and get her facts wrong about you. I think for a man, it's especially horrible when you think you are being listened to and then you find out your date was somewhere else mentally. We women babble to each other all the time, so if we are just talking to chat and don't catch something someone has said it's not a big deal.
It sounds like the GIRL you are dating is distracted and not focused on you. I bet she gets her facts wrong with the other guys she is dating as well, and that you are not the only one. I am curious, would you have a problem with a woman dating other men if she was into YOU when you are together and you knew she liked you? It sounds reasonable doesn't it? Tell the girl you are dating your thoughts and see how she reacts. If she cares, she will appreciate you telling her and if she doesn't care, she will probably turn it around on you. Either way this will give you information in determining if she is worth continuing to date.  | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:21:57 AM |
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I have nothing against someone who is mentally retarted,but no person of normal intelligence would date them.
So a retard is only capable of attracting other retards? That is a little prejudicial, don't you think? | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:25:11 AM | [url]Where does this one guy you got your stats from live, Alaska?[/url]
Not exactly, but some men aren't "casanova" enough, I suppose to have the liberty or the desirability to have THAT many women available at their disposal. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:43:26 AM |
You said it yourself, it's all about "options". But if most of the "options" go to only the men who have tons of "options" already, whats the point?
Men that have options are men that are confident, want to date and are in the game. It takes a certain amount of desire and self inventory to be a part of things. Those who don't want to go after what they want won't get anywhere, obviously. So men with no options aren't that worried about it - are they?
No men are guaranteed a certain amount of options. The ones who have more options, do because they're out there making an effort, socializing and being proactive.
Not exactly, but some men aren't "casanova" enough, I suppose to have the liberty or the desirability to have THAT many women available at their disposal.
I rest my case. And BTW, there's a difference between appreciating women and being social and being a player - you can be a Casanova and up your odds without being deceptive about it.
You know, the media and advertisers have a very detrimental effect on women (and "male attraction and preference") as well.
The media and advertisers have been around forever, before TV it was print ads, and the basic premise hasn't changed; I think that's a convenient excuse when it comes to dealing with the fact that you may not be everyone's cup of tea. Some guys aren't into me, and the media has nothing to do with it. And the media geared towards men is MUCH more sexual than women. Men I have dated have television sets and read magazines and I am FAR from the women they print/film, so it has nothing to do with anyone that likes/dislikes me.
Men who aren't into me - just aren't into me. Since I don't want to be with anyone who's not into me, I categorize them as not for me. It's kind of a wash, and I don't give it a second thought.
Yaaaawwwnn...
In my experience,most guys wouldn't date a woman that dates a number of other guys for long.
Especially if there was no sex involved.
Basically you'd be taking somebody out for a free meal whenever THEY wanted to go.
Because you KNOW that a woman that dates a lot of men isn't planning on paying.
At that would benefit a guy...how?
Not all women who date more than one expect them to pay. I have a lot of friends who make plenty of money, they either go dutch, take turns paying checks and usually don't date expensively. It doesn't always have to be a five star restauarant, most of us would rather grab appetizers and drinks after work. For us, the real dating begins when we find the one we like and want to get to know.
My friends and I avoid men who always try to pay for everything (or at least make sure they understand the situation with an offer or two of splitting the bill), there's usually a silent obligation expected from that type of situation. Some men don't expect anything, but it's best not to even go down that road.
To my way of thinking,it's a non-issue.
Most guys want an exclusive relationship from a woman...
At least on HER end...
Sorry, Ladies...but those are the breaks.
LOL...well at least you're honest. As I said, men want all of us to sit by the phone and wait for them to decide, but have the nerve to have a problem with us when they find out we weren't by the phone. Kind of hypocritical, but whatever.
If we wanted all men to wait around for us to decide, it'd get mighty hostile for us, wouldn't it? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:43:29 AM | Yaaaawwwnn...
In my experience,most guys wouldn't date a woman that dates a number of other guys for long.
Especially if there was no sex involved.
Basically you'd be taking somebody out for a free meal whenever THEY wanted to go.
Because you KNOW that a woman that dates a lot of men isn't planning on paying.
At that would benefit a guy...how?
To my way of thinking,it's a non-issue.
Most guys want an exclusive relationship from a woman...
At least on HER end...
Sorry, Ladies...but those are the breaks.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:46:51 AM | | And what about the women out there like me who pay our own way cocytus?If you feel that sex is the only thing in a relationship then i feel sorry for you. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:51:40 AM |
And what about the women out there like me who pay our own way cocytus?If you feel that sex is the only thing in a relationship then i feel sorry for you.
Obviously,I don't think that sex is the only thing in a relationship.
But if a woman is dating several different men there is no "relationship" is there?
Also,I have YET to meet a woman that dates more than one guy that will pay for both or pay for her own.While this may happen,I think it's so rare that it's not even worth mentioning.
Woman may not like it..and maybe it's not "fair"...but most guys won't stay involved where they aren't the "main man" as it were in a dating situation.
A few might...most won't. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:52:53 AM | I must agree with beauty_marked, Its called keeping your options open. When your shopping for shoes you don't just buy the first pair that you try on right?
They keep trying them on untill they find one that fits and is the most comfortable.
Men do it too...
BadBoy~ | |
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