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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:21:37 AM | No, I know tons of men who are confident and want to date who don't have options. And what do you mean by "in the game"? Because I have contemplated dealing cocaine for this very reason, but I would want to be sure that it would work because that is one of the riskiest industries to be in right now.
"In The Game" means out and about and meeting people, getting involved in community, being around people, doing any self improvement it takes for them to be content with themselves if they're not already, being positive and broadening their social network - anything but sitting home wanting to date but doing nothing to up their odds or make any contact.
You are leaving out more than a few qualifiers there! I am sure that the men with options must also be wealthy, or famous, or very attractive or really funny or all of these!
Some are wealthy, but money isn't what makes them popular with all women, just women who want money. Unless you want women who could care less about you and want you to hand them gifts and cash, that's irrelevant.
Some are famous, but fame isn't what makes them popular with all women, just starfvckers. Unless you want women who want you not because they like you but because you're in some TV show or movie or you sing or you're on a sports team, it's irrelevant.
Some are attractive, but....well you get my drift.
Quality women want a man THEY are attracted to, who is employed but not necessarily rich, socially skilled, but not necessarily famous, really funny but not necessarily doing stand up, nice but not a doormat, confident but not arrogant. It's about balance. Women who chase the extremes aren't into the guy but the brass ring. Why would you care about women like that anyway? | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:27:10 AM | OK...I didn't go through all 12 pages. Just 11, 12, and the original post.
I don't see anything wrong with men or women going out with multiple people provided they didn't establish exclusivity with any of them. They're just dating around, getting to know people, and seeing who they click with on a deeper level for a possible relationship.
Now I think it is wrong to date multiple people when it's been a very lengthy amount of time and maybe some of those multiple people think that things are now an exclusive relationship. Hence why people need to be out there and clear on things.
Now for the arguments on if men or women have it better in dating, I think the biggest issue is that neither side really has it "better". What do we see out there? Loads of guys who can't seem to get dates all that often because women are constantly passing them up...when maybe the rest of us would think they are attractive and charming. We also see loads of women who talk to death of how every guy they get involved with ends up just wanting sex and nothing more.
Do you see a pattern here?
The problem really is in how many men will freely give sex out to women all over the place they meet...even if these women aren't in the high enough standard they set for "girlfriend potential". These women, after getting laid by what they consider an "upper echelon" male, now believe they can tame one of those guys into a relationship, thus casting away loads of ideal men simply because they are now seen as "average" to her.
PLUS...people have a horrid idea in their heads that relationships and especially marriage are the "dead end" in life. That we believe sex and going out with the opposite gender is only fun and exciting when it's flings and non-committed relations. Hence why there is a whole generation of people who are just plain scared to date, commit, or get close to people.
People need to look in the mirror and first ask themselves if they are really the man or woman that the people they desire would want IN A RELATIONSHIP...NOT JUST SEX. Meaning would the uber hottie I saw at the bar really want me as her boyfriend? Or the woman asking herself if that handsome wealthy playboy would really want her as his girlfriend.
Second, people need to then ask themselves "what am I NOT doing that's causing me to not meet people?" And I'm not talking just about getting on dating sites or joining meetup groups. Do you go to the store looking like a mess? Do you go around in life with a phone at your ear all the time or iPod headphones on? Do you go out with your friends to a social affair, but never make yourself open to meeting people and thus spend the whole night with the people you came with? Do you take chances? Like holding eye contact and smiling at that guy you think is cute (as opposed to a quick glance)...or walking up and talking to that girl you made eye contact with?
It's funny how much we think it's all supposed to come easily at a bar or on a dating site, but there are so many things people do that make themselves unapproachable and undateable. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:28:17 AM | Men date more than one woman at the same time, so women can date more than one man as well. What's the big deal?
You can be attracted to more than one person. That's why it is called dating!
One can go out with whoever appeals to you.!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:07:39 AM | Hi..you should ask why do SOME women date more than one man at a time....Dating is dating...be it one or more is ok...BUT she should be open and honest about it if asked. AND she should not be physical with any of the men until she makes her decision...to me it is wrong to see more than one at a time but we all are differnt ...and thank GOD for that! You should date more than one and not be physical until you decide and see why SOME women do......FYI, SOME men do it also. Good luck...love yourself enough not to care so much...know you are a catch and move on if you are involved with a woman who is seeing you and others....if it bothers you, it is a red flag...RUN!!  | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:09:49 AM | WOW...deaf date deaf people and blind usually date blind...you go with someone who understands you for the most part...no one is better than anyone...God created us all equal..and no one on here has any right to judge anyone else..ever.... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:16:44 AM |
Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
How dare women do the same thing that men do! Don't they know that they should be sitting at home by the phone, hoping that a man will call. Oh, and there should always be a roast in the oven. Just in case. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:32:08 AM | LOL...yeah for someone with the SN ***PerfectGuy4U*** you don't really get the concept of it - sounds to me like you're not interested in anything but your opinion, but what the heck, it's lunchtime.
Now we're getting somewhere! How does one broaden their social network though?
Make friends/aquaintances with people. Simple, go places where people frequent and talk to them...activity groups, charities, the store, the park, the gym, anywhere you see people in places you like to go. It's not real complicated. Here's good too, long as it's not the only thing you're doing. Meet people as friends and make friends with their friends, the more people you know, hang out with and talk to the more people you have to work with.
IOW - women want the perfect man.
Yes, but each woman finds something different to be perfect, so ideally, perfect "for her" - which is why I brought up your SN.
I know it may sound odd, but I actually do care for people, even those who don't care for me.
Caring for mankind generally is noble and admirable, but why do you care what the ones do who wouldn't date you unless you had a certain net worth or a certain upper crust bunch of friends? I'd think you would want to avoid those who care what you have and find those who care who you are. Then again, a lot of men do want the chick that just wants material things, so perhaps those women really are your target. In that case, it's real easy - just have the thing they want, or get it.
You say women are attracted to certain things, so I guess I'm just not rich enough yet! I don't think I could ever become famous, and attractive is a relative term and it alone will not garner the attention of a woman. How much money is enough, would you estimate?
In my case enough that he can take care of himself, as I do. I don't want a guy's money, I just don't want to have to have one cost me mine. Be famous for being a good person and leave a legacy of charity and goodwill behind...famous doesn't always mean Hollywood. We're all attractive to someone - but if your attitude sucks, yeah you'll get tossed aside. Luckily you can adjust that. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:39:26 AM | 1. get to know a few people a little at a time and don't rush into a relationship with the first person you meet
2. make sure you've found someone is right for you
3. we have options - and so do you.
4. just because YOU "choose" us doesn't mean we've "chosen" you
5. where's the fire?
6. have you heard of "comparison shopping"?
7. one date does not a commitment make.
8. OMG I went out with someone last night, that's the end of my social life.
9. what if we never hear from you again?
10. cause guys see multiple women at once.
It's called "dating". Not "instant bonding". You have this process confused with superglue. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 5:39:49 PM | Becasue too often it has happened to them... they think they are the only one he is seeng only to fnd out that he is seeing many people at the same time... so she thinks "hell my am I not doing it then".... I too have found this confusng and frustrating... so what recomend is communicate your needs and desire for this woman clearly... if YOU want to be seeng ONLY her and expect / need the same then communcate this with her...
Always remember that dating is hard and confusng for ALLLLL :-)
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:39:03 PM | | I agree men do it too why cant we? guys sleep around they are called MEN ! women do it we are called sluts..........................double standard going on....................guys ive dated dont want to be commited ( scared little boys) ... women are like that also. It makes it diffiucult for those of us(men and women) who want someone to cuddle with and make a commitment to with that person. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:06:47 AM | | This is not about sleeping around equineladie this is about dating. Having sex and going out for a movie,dinner and good conversation is not sex. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:25:24 AM |
I agree men do it too why cant we? guys sleep around they are called MEN ! women do it we are called sluts..........................double standard going on....................guys ive dated dont want to be commited ( scared little boys) ... women are like that also. It makes it diffiucult for those of us(men and women) who want someone to cuddle with and make a commitment to with that person.
Umm..equineladie...Most WOMEN don't have a high opinion of women that date multiple men at the same time.
They may watch "Sex and the City"...but they wouldn't be friends w/ women who acted like those women.
Or at least,GOOD friends that is....
Am I right? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:55:42 AM | Any of the women or men that are jealous of women being able to go on dates with different gentlemen, would not want to be friends with them probably. That is what I would think..
Frankly I wish that I could go on alot of dates with different people. I am currently not dating, but if I was I wouldn't mind one bit.
Anyone that has multiple dates God bless you! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:06:00 AM | Not all Men do it ,as has been mentioned above a few times...
Too hard for me to keep straight.. So Mabel as you love Lobster let's go to Red Lobster... Oppps you told me a few times you are alergic to it..
So if I don't do it, I would only be interested in women that don't also | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:44:01 AM |
How about when a woman asks two guys to marry her within a day of each other, that takes multiple dating to a new level.
hehe. I guess I am old fashioned in SOME ways. I still do think that a man should do the asking of THAT kind  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:48:33 AM |
Not all women who date more than one expect them to pay. I have a lot of friends who make plenty of money, they either go dutch, take turns paying checks and usually don't date expensively. It doesn't always have to be a five star restauarant, most of us would rather grab appetizers and drinks after work. For us, the real dating begins when we find the one we like and want to get to know.
thank you! " For us, the real dating begins when we find the one we like and want to get to know."  | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 9:26:01 AM |
You are leaving out more than a few qualifiers there! I am sure that the men with options must also be wealthy, or famous, or very attractive or really funny or all of these!
well if making decent living (maybe above the median) is "wealthy"..if having a few friends and neighbors who know him is "famous"....if being in shape for his age/body type and not a couch potato is "very attractive".. then yeah, those are all but unattainable qualifiers | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/3/2008 1:37:24 PM |
So why do women date multiple men at once? Why can't you date one guy at a time? It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it.
What's not to get? They obviously haven't found what they want so they're shopping around. Men do the same thing there isn't anything wrong with playing the field. You sound like you have a problem with women not wanting to commit to you. You need to take dating in stride. Establish a friendship first and don't get possessive. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/13/2008 8:07:01 PM |  In case you haven't figured it out women play the field just as much as me do. Sounds to me like someone needs to listen to "Tom Leykis" Radio Show & become a member of "Leykis 101". I am a graduate student. So bo ho ho to u! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/13/2008 10:14:37 PM | LMAO, belly you crack me up!
Sorry, can't help ya on this one...I've only ever dated one guy at a time. Never was one to go from this one to that one to the other one. Only one at a time, til they decide to move on. Just me, I guess. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/13/2008 10:42:46 PM | | because we have too, it keeps us from being caught off guard,because face it ..u men are flaky 1 minute u like us then the next minute u like our sister...lol its cool to date more than one as long as your only having sex with the main guy your with,for me i prefer dating only 1 at a time and i used to do that but due to the way i was burnt some months ago ,i got to look out for myself,and thats be real GUYs always do it ,and men will drop u at the drop of a dime and have so many stupid double standards so this is why we do it | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/14/2008 12:49:52 AM | "because we have too"
^^ erm.. speak for yourself dear...lol
"for me i prefer dating only 1 at a time and i used to do that but due to the way i was burnt some months ago"
^^ Ok, so you had a bad experience by dating only one man and now you decided that all men are "flaky" and now you date mutliple people...
Not sure thats the positive way to deal with what happened as all men are not the same, but each to their own. | |
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