| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/23/2008 11:58:34 PM | | Because we can...kidding. Well if you haven't truly found the "one" but were fortunate enough to have met a few that have a quality you like about each one of them...but not one has it all...you enjoy the company of each and the character, strengths and interests each have to offer...until you finally settle with just one. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:09:00 AM | | it is wrong for both sexes to string anyone along, if people want to do that they can, but they should say to anyone that they meet, that they are looking for friends with benifits, either physically, emotionally, or just someone to just party with and use at a whim. thats what i think it comes down to. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:15:57 AM | | I can' t say that I agree with alot of the replies, but from my experience it is difficult to date several at the time. I have dated women who have dated other guys and it didn' t sit well with me if I found out they were having sex, the reason is why date if you have what you need? but it IS just a date, now if you have had several dates then you should have by that time discussed being exclusive. If you haven' t shame on you.I guess it comes back to what is an ideal first date? What are your expectations on that date? You want to have sex? Chances are if you do have sex then you really didn' t want to get to know them in the first place you just wanted some sex. If that was the case what do you care if she is dating someone else? Do you think that you are so special that you "broke" down her defenses and that you are the ONLY guy to ever do so? Don' t fool yourself. Again don' t misunderstand, I guess there could be cases where the chemistry was overwhelming and nature takes it' s course and things happen, but if that happens then you should talk about where this friendship is going.... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:53:03 AM | | jorel...there is no stringing along...if they ask if you're dating other people...you tell them the truth...then it's up to them to decide if they want to continue seeing you...but generally it is just hanging out and enjoying each others company...but sorry to disappoint...sex is not necessarily in the picture. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 4:43:05 AM | "Just Me 88" the thing is that the person doesn't say they just wan to enjoy each others company, they make it seem like they are trying to take there relationship ti maybe a different state, maybe more, its still stringing the other person along if you make it seem like they are the only person that they are dealing with. and as for the sex part, clearly you didn't read the other 2 parts that I named off way to follow what I write. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 4:52:17 AM | | Probably the same reason guys date more than one woman at a time. I'm sorry you guys are not any better than us women, so why shouldn't we do the same as you? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 4:55:41 AM | | Because it would be less expensive.....? Now really --- if the option exists, most would exercise it. It would be rather counter-intuitive if someone didn't --- now wouldn't it...?. I really hate these silly self-evident questions that I somehow still find a need to respond to. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 5:06:42 AM | O.k, I read a few of the first replies and it's obvious that they're more hell bent on shin kicking the OP, and upholding "women's lib" rather than seeing easy to see that the OP is hurting from dealing with a few ladies who "just weren't that into him". So let's cut him some slack on the fact that he's getting frustrated with the fact that he's trying to play by the rules of old fashioned dating.
OP, Hang in there, and realize that just because you're a nice guy and a gentleman, doesn't mean a woman isn't going to think you're a troll, or find you interesting enough to bang/date/make a boyfriend/or take home to mom. You're dating! If you're looking to find someone who's going to be sympathetic to your feelings before you even get to know her, try looking for the shy quiet types. Also, whining isn't sexy in anyone's eyes.   | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 5:13:05 AM | "its still stringing the other person along if you make it seem like they are the only person that they are dealing with."
we get strung along ONLY if we allow ourselves.
connections/interests/relationships should be entered with both eyes open and hopefully a clear head and heart. I know that the initial heat and blush of chemistry (lust) if it's felt can cloud our judgment sometimes, but really, we need to NOT assume anything.
early on, it's important to bring up the question of whether they date only one-at-a-time, or if they leave their options open and not concentrate on only one until they feel fairly sure that this "one" is worth the pursuit.
it's only a DATE!!!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 8:53:31 AM | Okay, this probably isn't politically incorrect, but........
Why do women date multiple guys? Why shouldn't they? Same for men. Personally I wish I understood when "dating" went from "having fun with someone" to "being in an exclusive relationship". Why are people in such a rush to grab on to someone they have just met? Are they that insecure, afraid someone will steal their partner away if they see more than one person.
For me, dating is about meeting different people, with different opinions, life experiences. Dating doesn't come with a lock and key, nor should it. The more you interact with different people in a dating environment, the more you begin to understand yourself and what you truly desire from a partner.
The only caveat, if you are not going to be exclusive from the second date, you need to be up front about it. As long as you aren't lying to anyone, or leading anyone on, I see nothing wrong with dating the field. Nor would I have a problem with a woman I was interested in doing the same. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:21:33 AM | its still stringing the other person along if you make it seem like they are the only person that they are dealing with
Huh, how can it be stringing along when you clearly state you are dating other people ?!?!!?! And no there is no trying to take it to another level when they have been told there are also others in the picture and that they are not the only one your seeing, besides your just hanging out. If over time you are finding you are liking one person more, then you may stop seeing the other guys and develop something more with that one guy. The sex was in reference to other posters who assumed that, and there's no "using" the other person for anything...you actually like/enjoy their company that's why you do not want to stop seeing/dating them. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:28:58 PM | Maybe I have the wrong take on dating. I thought dating was social, a way to get to know someone. I even looked it up in the dictionary to see if I'm off base, then I looked it up in the urban dictionary it said it's an "acceptable form of prostitution" hahaha! Gotta love the urban dictionary.
There are so many heartbreak threads, putting everything into one person before they have proven to be the right one might be part of the problem. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:33:29 PM | | I date more than one guy at a time because well, it seems as if I can never get past a second date with any of them. So why limit my options and be left with nothing? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 2:37:48 PM | | me personaly , it doesn't matter if a woman dates one or multi at once, as long as everyone is on the same page, how u going to know unless u get to know several people and as far as sex i love sex as much as the next person but i dont let it stop me from having a good time with that person just cause she may not want to have sex, main reason i go out on a date is cause i dont like going to dinner alone and to the movies by myself. to me the conversation, having fun with that person. is the best part. and if u dont ever see each other again in the dating since is fine as long as u are honest with that person so many people on here play the mind game (wither its on the pretense of not hurting them) of not telling them the truth that there wasn't any sparks, its not just one sided both male/female do this. and thats the only part that bothers me. i'd rather u tell me straight up that we didn't hit it off then duck and dodge me, just like i'am going to tell u . ok enough lol.. one parting shot come one people lets be adults and treat each other with respect | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 4:03:41 PM | | Well women have learned the trick so well from all those nonsincere men very well. We figure if you are sincere you will let us know right away if you want us for just self.We would most women that is prefer having only one man that does want her and not have to worry about being unattached.Then all info is only half way there if u let it be.By the way only use that email or number you want to be contacted with.Business sites for personal is not a good idea or reasonable unless you tell the person. It only causes irritations for both of you. Remember communications is important. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:04:22 PM | It's not something I want. It's something I've learned. You get played and lied to a couple of time. You get guarded. If they keep their options opened. Why shouldn't I.
Besides, there are times when you can't be in a reationship, but you enjoy their company.
Sometimes you like someone and its not he right time or space. What are you suppose to do wait around for them?
There's no sense in settling down until or both ready for the sake of posturing.
Never make anyone a priority that makes you an option. | |
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| Why do women date multiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:09:02 PM | | Is it dating more than one man at a time if I have 3 first dates and no second dates in one week? ................yeah, like that is going to happen................ | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:14:35 PM | | I was (what I thought) dating a guy and he stood me up not once but twice and I took a hint. I thought this dude must be talking to other chicks so I will talk to other guys lol. Now I find myself talking to a few guys that I kind of like.... so what do I do?? At this point I'm going with the flow lol.... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:33:47 PM | | I wouldnt date a woman unless i feel that there is a good chance it will develop, im not interested in dating women who are looking to have fan clubs of men rather then a seriuos relationship | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 3:52:55 AM | | just cause u go out on one or two dates doesn't make u a couple, its long process to become a couple, and if u stop meeting and talk to people just because u went out on one or even two date with this other person, u might not meet the person that u really want to be with, just be honest with the people u are seeing , open commucation it can go along ways | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 3:55:37 AM | | madly, but don't you agree that there have been occasions==one or two dates, you REALLY want to see if it will work with that person and no one else seems to measure up? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:52:14 AM | hey outofthedesert if u come across that person u can usualy feel it right away then yes i would only date that one person, its not that i'm playing any girl, i beleave in being
totaly honest with the person i take out | |
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