jf468
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Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 351 | |
| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 9:53:39 AM | | If I was in a committed relationship, then I would only date 1 man. However if I just started dating a man, I would be open to dating other men until I found a man that I really liked. | |
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rusdy
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Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 353 | |
| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:07:04 AM | | Iguess they have more time on there hands than I do.I cant seem to put forward what a women wants to more than one . If I like a women I put my best into the relationship .Is the question about a relationship or just a fling.I dont seem to have flings anymore. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:19:40 AM | Some have posted "as long as they arent sleeping with more than one"....wellll i wanna know why this matters anyway??? If youre just DATING.....and not EXCLUSIVE....its okay for a woman to DATE others, but not F**K others because shes supposed to save that for YOU??
Sucha double standard concept. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:59:15 AM | could be a number of reasons...
Maybe she has mutiple personalities and each guy she is dating only sees that ONE personality.
(((scratchs head & thinks ...is that cheating??)))
My thoughts, off to do thread search. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 12:01:27 PM | Finally after 15 pages someone got it right. Rusdy asked if the question was about relationships or flings. If you are in a relationship you have made some sort of committment. It would not be a relationship if you continued to see others. You would have lied to the person and led them to believe that you were exclusive. You would be having a fling. So, when having flings, no questions should be asked after the other says they are still seeing others. Unless the question is if your fling with them could become a relationship.
Both flings and dating can mean that you are not exclusive. Be sure you understand where the other is. If dating or flings mean having sex with others, and you don't like that, then find another person. Just don't lie to each other. Just goes to show how important communication is and how important maturity is in any relationship.
Dating more than one person at a time is not bad in and of itself, misunderstanding what that means because you have not talked about it, is bad. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 5:34:11 PM | For the same reasons the men that do that do. They have no serious Interest so they keep looking as they cant be alone until they find one they do have real Interest In.
Ie they will see them again after first meeting, they know they dont want them, hence keep looking, but hey all these dates now and no time alone. When they find one they really like .. there will be no want or need to look unless It doesnt work out.
Id rather find someone who Is comfortable with their own company until someone really captures their Imagination personally. I dont do It, and I wont be a number In their line.. as Im not slow enough to think I may end up with him by default 
Besides Its not a romantic story Is it - yes daddy met mum and didnt think much of her.. so kept looking for something special - however couldnt find it, so settled for your mummy. NICE NOT LOL | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 7:19:43 PM | I agree with goodletter. Men date numerous women at once, but we can't do the same? Besides we need a few for when one of them flakes out and stops calling without an explanation!  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:57:26 PM | i think its all about chain reaction, but then again i can only speak for myself and my own experience. i used to be the kind of girl that would only date one guy at a time, but when i did that, the guy i was dating was dating other girls as well... so... whats the point in focusing on ONE guy and making him a priority when the guy youre dating doesnt see you as one? didnt seem fair to me, so i started being the same way (unless asked not to). point blank... he will be a priority for me if he makes me his priority. please all, keep in mind that this is a learned behaviour and i learned it from... MEN!!!!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:16:13 PM | Why do we do it? Simply....because we can. For many years, women waited for a man to pick them because they needed a man. Now that more and more women have obtained a good education and career, their options have opened up and the tables have turned. Why should we wait around for one person that may or may not be the one? Truth be told, when the right man or woman comes along we (as people) recognize that (hopefully) and become focused on cultivating the relationship further with that person. So just be the best of you and you'll give off the right vibe and attract the right person; not just the one that responded to your ad.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 2:55:52 AM | | Why would someone not date multiple people at the same time if none of the relationships are at the commitment stage yet? I have done that and some of the men that I dated also were simultaneously dating other women. It doesn't bother me. Until both parties feel the desire to be committed to only each other I think it is appropriate to date others. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 3:55:33 AM | | Heres a shocker .... Most of these women are probably 'sleeping' with most if not all of these men they are dating. Again its females right . | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:51:28 AM | How about this...Maybe they are not interested into getting into an exclusive relationship before "Mr. Right" comes along, and they just want to enjoy themselves and hope they'll fine "the one" if they date whomever interests her.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:19:34 AM | | Jacko, you r right on the money!! I dated a guy about 1 month --multilpe dates-- then like the wind--gone-- fear of commitent, been hurt before, etc etc--but we have all been there, done that. Someday, one of these ships in the night will stay in port!!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:28:36 AM | Well...I said before...most men aren't going to be comfortable dating women that are dating other men while dating.
Too many headaches.
And there's always the possibility that you (the man) will lose your "exclusivity" in the relationship.
And that's not a good thing.
Women are free to date as many men as they want.
They just shouldn't be disappointed or angry when the men they date don't find this to be appealing or attractive. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 9:02:03 AM | | Personally I don't have a problem with women dating multiple guys at once, but I do have a problem with me dating multiple women at once. It all goes back a long time, I didn't do it then and doesn't feel comfortable doing it now. Somehow I don't feel I'm being honest with them or with myself and that bugs me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 9:17:03 AM | I find it cute....meaning it doesn't work for me....guys/gals who will tell you in DETAIL, about the other men/women they've been seeing.
My perception their attempt to make you JUMP a bit higher in competition and jealousy.
Might work on some gals....and some guys.... hope not!
But...has it a redeeming quality? Oh....maybe... The person might simply be honest....and gee... I've told one...heh....nothing wrong with being friends, and we could all go somewhere as a group some time!
I can always use more friends of BOTH genders! (and and I'm NOT talking of friends with benefits....gross)
(of course this is a side issue of dating multiple people)
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 9:38:38 AM | | Personally I don't have a problem with women dating multiple guys at once, but I do have a problem with me dating multiple women at once. It all goes back a long time, I didn't do it then and doesn't feel comfortable doing it now. Somehow I don't feel I'm being honest with them or with myself and that bugs me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 9:46:45 AM |
Well...I said before...most men aren't going to be comfortable dating women that are dating other men while dating.
Too many headaches.
And there's always the possibility that you (the man) will lose your "exclusivity" in the relationship.
And that's not a good thing.
No, but women have that same risk, and I guess at this point we've come to accept it as a given when first getting to know someone.
I don't advocate dating someone once you decide you're not interested, or keep dating 4 guys for months, but in the first couple dates when you barely know each other, it's unrealistic to expect people not to be talking to/meeting others. To me that's not even dating, that's just getting aquainted. It's not possible to take it personally at that stage unless you're either really sensitive or get attached WAY too quickly.
Personally, it doesn't bother me at all that a guy doesn't revolve around me the first month I know him - I'd find that to be way too intense and I'd think he SHOULD still be looking elsewhere still. Let's face it, he doesn't know enough about me to start planning a future, technically.
Women are free to date as many men as they want.
They just shouldn't be disappointed or angry when the men they date don't find this to be appealing or attractive.
Most dont like the idea that the OTHER person isn't sitting around alone until we decide we want to call/see them, but people have to have lives. All should want to make sure they make an educated decision when dating and also make sure they're not cutting off someone that's well matched for them while entertaining someone they're not meant to be with.
Finally, most people don't divulge this information anyway, it's not really the other person's business when you're still exchanging names and phone numbers. You're shopping around, and you should be assuming people you meet would want to do the same. It's not personal. | |
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