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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 10:17:56 AM |
So why do women date multiple men at once? Why can't you date one guy at a time? It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it...
It's like that joke: Why does a dog lick....ah, never mind...
Because they can! Nothing wrong w/ that. Everyone should live by their own rules, if it hurts your feelings, too bad. Don't date them. Unless two people have made it clear they want to be exclusive w/ one another what's the issue? Insecurity? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 11:26:48 AM | | WOMEN PROBALLY DONT STAY WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU BORE THEM, I DONT HAVE THIS PROBLEM. MAYBE YOU COULD SPEND SOMETIME TRYING TO LEARN HOW TO BE MORE INTERESTING. NEXT TIME YOUR AT DINNER WITH A GIRL AND SHE FALLS ASLEEP, TAKE THIS AS A HINT YOUR WAY TO BORING. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 11:47:47 AM |
Finally, most people don't divulge this information anyway, it's not really the other person's business when you're still exchanging names and phone numbers. You're shopping around, and you should be assuming people you meet would want to do the same. It's not personal.
Perhaps for you it wouldn't be personal.
However,I dated a woman one time...for about a month...and things seemed to be going well...
I went out to get a pizza..and there she was w/ someone else.
I just got the pizza and left w/o saying anything to her.
She called me later that night and said "I thought you knew I was dating other people..."
I didn't...she neglected to tell me.
Needless to say..that was the end of that.
Like I said...too many headaches.
I tell women that I date that I date one at a time...and that's what I looking for in a partner.
If they are down w/ that...cool
If not...I'll just keep looking | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 11:51:42 AM | I date one man at a time.
If I make a date or meet with a man then I dont meet or date another until this one proves to be not 'the one'. That could be after 1 date or two dates but if I've gone out with him 3 times then I must have thought enough of him to not date others and concentrate on finding out more about him.
If that's want he wants to do then that's fine but then he is obviously not that into me and is wasting time for both of us.
I think you know after a few dates whether you would like to see the person again - and if you do then why would you want to see others when you can spend time getting to know this person better?
Just my way of doing things...not everyone has the same opinion. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 2:48:06 PM | | loveableladywanted: How rude you are....just because a woman goes on dates with men does NOT mean she is having sexual relationships with any of them....if you are meeting the types of women who would do that then I would suggest that you re-evaluate the type of women YOU are dating. I, for one, am not a woman who has intimate flings with anyone so when I meet a man and both of us decide we want to make the dating relationship exclusive, then I will stop going on dates with others. Until that time, the men and I that go out on dates will just have fun going out on dates without intimacy. The men can make the choice whether or not that is acceptable to them. If not, then they have the right to not call and to not ask for another date with me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/28/2008 6:54:49 PM | msg. 380 >>>Unless two people have made it clear they want to be exclusive w/ one another what's the issue? Insecurity?
I'm in agreement - not only is the OP's issue insecurity, it's also immaturity. Perhaps the reason a woman would date multiple guys at once is because she doesn't feel a connection with any of them but is looking for one. Or, it's possible a woman is merely casually dating - not looking to have a relationship with anyone but just dating several guy friends to share some enjoyable time with someone other than her female friends. As stated earlier in this thread or in another thread on the same subject - dating is not a mini relationship.. It's a few hours of fact finding. If there is a connection between two people, then the exclusivity conversation is likely to take place.
Exclusivity is for relationships. Dating is for friendships. To me, the progression goes like this: 1. attraction 2. friendship/dating, a time when I get to know if we're compatible 4. connection/chemistry, there's a mutual connection on several levels - once a mutual mental connection is formed, then perhaps 3. relationship, mutual physical exclusivity. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 8:28:53 PM | | Boys and girl are not equal when it comes to dating, lets face it most girls can find a guy but most guys dont always have a girl, look at clubs all guys, 10 to 1. there are more guys single then girls single. how about that really good looking girl that has had hundreds of bfs and if she is single she is only single for a few minutes before hooking up with another bf. Girs date multiple mean becaue they can. Although in my view cau8e girls have so many more options its a way to be rewared continualy, date one one night then the next night go out with somone else make them all feel important and that they are the only ones. Girls can do that kind of shits it the beauyty that screw with guys head. Anways in the end the girl will only pick one guy to settle down with but the funny thing is these hot girls will **** the guys they think are very good looking but none of them want that guy to be the father of their kids, once they want to settle the are looking for income. Frankly be aware girl that have dated a lot, are little players so much experience with men and ****ing all those guys sex no longer is a connection of love. It been lost i atually dont want a girl who has had tons of bfs. A rich land developer at the Atlantic city casinos after admiring a girl with true beauty no make up we got into talking while beting, he told me how to score with woman he said listen this is what you do you go out and spend your money on a a nice car BMW, Mercedis Saab, even getting a pre leased one that is j3 years old will work as good it new enough and the girls conciderd like new, next you establish that your dont speficaly work in a city you work out of town, over seas as a wealthy land develper make sure your job is money. this will ilimante them trying to catch you, next he says **** um and move one to the next one, all they want is money **** em. I have driven shity cars and nice cars, and you would be surprised how much money matters, shit when i had my shity car the fox from vw, i was the same guy nice, some peopel would just ignore you, you look straight at them hello and they literly just dont respond, but with a nice car first off you get complements all the time nice car, guys will almost have more respect for you, and girls will smile pop there tits out and hope you notice. And nothing has changed of me but my car. **** em and forget em words to live by. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 8:47:37 PM | Here are the reasons I date multiple people.
I am a very good ballroom dancer. I have a friend who also loves to ballroom dance.
But...
I love finding things in the trash, flea markets, and garage sales and making them into things. My dancing friend is bored silly by this activity, so I have another friend who absolutely loves to go dumpster diving with me.
But...
I really like renting movies and throwing something on the grill. My dancing friend and my dumpster diving friend aren't really into that, so I have another friend who will sit and watch movies with me for hours.
But...
I enjoy a rousing game of golf, so I have a friend with whom I partner in tournaments, and golfing activities. None of my other friends play golf.
I could go on and on with all the activities.
I was happily and successfully married. If it happens again, I would surely be the most blessed woman alive. If it doesn't, I have a wonderful time with good friends participating in activities we enjoy. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2008 8:20:50 AM | | I am not trying to offend women . I am just stating the obvious. I have found that most women will sleep with men early on , it should not be suprising if some or most of these women are sleeping with multitudes of men or at the very least a couple. Do not twist my words around. I never said all. I believe women have as much right to date many men as possible if there is no commitment, let alone sleep with them. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/30/2008 8:24:21 AM | Dating means DATING - sleeping together is another thing.
And most women do not date multiple men ... or at least I don't. Too confusing and dramatic for me - I like concentrating getting to know that ONE person to give them a fair shot ... even a monkey can see if the spark is there in one or two dates!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 1/30/2008 9:45:05 AM | i only date multiple men when we all know we are not compatible for an exclusive long-term relationship. is this called dating?
one day when i meet someone where there is mutual interest in only dating each other, then i will only date one person. is this called a relationship? | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 6:59:51 PM | lovableladywanted writes:
I have found that most women will sleep with men early on , it should not be suprising if some or most of these women are sleeping with multitudes of men or at the very least a couple.
If most of the women that you meet will sleep with you early on - I believe in your other thread it was 1-2 dates - perhaps you are meeting the kinds of women that would be sleeping around with multitudes of men at the same time . Maybe you might want to rethink the kinds of women you are meeting if you don't like the idea of them sleeping with others.
Personally, I don't know of any women that sleep with more than one man at a time.
HR | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 2/5/2008 9:31:20 PM | | I guess if the guys I meet are boring I will date more than one. If I click with someone I won't. It's about communication, two ppl agree to be exclusive then great. I don't sleep with men I date or even kiss them, so I figure what's it matter if there's no commitment? I'm really just hanging out with different guys, it's not really dating when I think about it. What is dating? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 2/6/2008 7:27:55 AM | AMEN!!! That is dating, at least I thought it was. Why are men so sensitive? Here they were always the 'big talkers' about how they have all their women that they date but again the double standard that we can't have our men that we date? Hmmmm, interesting. Again...if/when there is mutual interest and the discussion occurs about exclusivity then of course dating of multiple people would cease and decist, but until then Enjoy! And of course...we all know 'dating multiple men' does not necessarily mean sleeping with all of them.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 2/6/2008 7:37:43 AM | message 394
Not a matter of being "sensitive"..
It's a matter of being practical...
Unless you aren't bringing much to the party, there's no reason for a guy to date a woman that's dating other people openly.
There are more women than men (in most locations) and the fact increases in our favor as we grow older.
Why do something that you don't have to do?
Also....since younger men don't have the whole "relationship" worked out yet...and there might be conflict if a woman is dating someone and not letting other "beaus" know this fact why would most women look for trouble they don't already have?
A young guy that encounters you on a date w/ another person probably won't avoid the confrontation that could from something like that.
Is that something most women would like?
Drama in public?
Is that something most guys need? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 2/6/2008 7:44:09 AM | I've dated more than one woman at a time before. With the way that my work schedule is and there's if I stuck to one woman at a time I'd only be able to go out once or twice a week. As long as you're not sleeping around and neither are they then I don't see what it hurts. So, they forget some key facts about you. That happens all the time. No one is perfect or has the memory of an elephant so to speak.
I know that some people don't though. I've gotten messages before where a woman I was interested in couldn't date me because she had met someone a couple of days before. It's like it's not fair for me to not get the chance to get to know her in person.
Besides that, what if you're dating someone you just met exclusively even though there's no other committment there while the love of your life gets away?
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Posted: 2/6/2008 5:10:22 PM |
Personally, I don't know of any women that sleep with more than one man at a time.
This is often true (or is it?). Well that depends on how you define "at a time". Guys know this: There are multitudes of woman who date several men simultaneously. If they sleep with you early on (just like happyrebel said) then odds favor that they also sleep with the other men that they are dating. If they date you and do not sleep with you then they only sleep with one guy who isn't YOU!! I call this guy "the backup plan" and virtually every woman has one. But he has more than the post date rendezvous function. He is also the post relationship consultant. Let me explain: Assuming you engage in an exclusive relationship which ends after a few months. The day after the relationship ended (and often before) she will make the call to "the backup plan" for consolidation or rebound romps. Ohh yes, believe it!!!! She might have some real male friends who will act as the shoulder to cry on (with whom she does not sleep -- usually the nice guy), but she also have her boy toy. The key, gentlemen, is to be the backup plan, in other words, the friend with benefits lol!!
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Posted: 2/6/2008 6:00:47 PM | HappyGilmore---Maybe I need to move to the big city - maybe then I'll meet some of these women you write about that have back up men to sleep with in between relationships. Personally I don't know of any of my female friends that have a 'back up plan' and I know I certainly don't. Sometimes I wish I did though-just to change my batteries 
HR | |
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| Here this, cause its a good one.
Posted: 2/6/2008 8:02:55 PM | A year ago, I never would have even considered dating more than one person at a time. I was recently divorced and healing from another painful, if short, breakup, and all I wanted then was someone to date. Some ONE. And, really, I still do. The only thing that made me even consider dating more than one person at a time was THIS WEB SITE! Everyone on here seems to think it's perfectly normal, and, while I am much more comfortable dating one person at a time, it seems it's always feast or famine with me, and so I'm going to get my fill while the gettin' is good! So, basically, the short answer, for me at least, is, I date more than one man at a time because the men I date also date more than one person at a time. I am not going to be exclusive or serious about someone only to have them make a fool of me behind my back! Not to mention, as someone else said, if you have no time for me, then I will find someone who does. If someone wants a relationship, and not just to casually date, then they will make time to be with their SO and they will not date others.
I certainly would prefer to find ONE MAN that is as into me as I am him, wants to spend time with me as much as I do him, and that wants to see ME and ONLY ME....but until I find him, my date card WILL be full. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 2/6/2008 8:32:16 PM | Personally, because I own a Home Business and never go out during the week, as I am to busy. That is the reason I really appreciate POF . Then I get on line in the late evenings and after I chat with someone and feel confident, I make dates for the weekend. Absolutely, I want one Man in my life someday, but until that happens, I intend to keep dating. That's what POF  is here for, right. I have had a different date on several weekends. For instance, one Friday evening I met someone, and Sat. evening another Man and on Sunday another. Wow! am I lucky I had previously chatted with each one on POF, and they all asked me out for thoes eveings. It worked out great for me and they each were nice and told me they were glad they met me. Some call back for a second date and some don't. Until a Man finds me and wants to date me exclusively, I will keep fishing. It's that simple. I hope all the lady's on POF do the same. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 2/6/2008 8:49:34 PM | Most of the women have answered the question pretty much. Why the guys are answering a question directed at women is beyond me. Unless maybe they have a switch they can flip of some kind that goes from Man to Woman
Women dating many different guys is nothing new. A woman is not obligated to fall in love with nor marry the first guy that brings her flowers.
Not all women date multiple men for the same reasons either. Some do so to find the one they really click with and at that point stop dating the other guys. Some have no interest in a LTR and dating multiple guys is more fun for them. Neither approach is 'bad' or 'good', just different.
And for you grown men who have a problem with it, grow up and get over it.  | |
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