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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 2:13:37 AM | from the Opost:
"It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you..."
I agree on that one, it is irritating and a deal breaker IMO, but IRL that may be due to either of 2 reasons:
1. "You" are not that "interesting" to remember personal info about
2. "They" have info retentions problems
 everyone, I forget your names! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:01:59 AM | Why do women date multiple guys at once? I'll tell you why... because it's the smart thing to do in this day and age. Men date multiple women. We all date, until we connect with someone. What are you supposed to do in the meantime? Commit to one person you don't like???
I TOTALLY agree with SPARKINTHEDARK here....regardless of gender. We "meet/date" til we find one that gives us the "spark/click" we ALL search for. ..with HOPES that the other does not think just cause ONE date/meet a committment has came about unless both agree....some of you people out here CAN be so "POSTAL" ( )when other has been honest with you by saying..."just no spark once met in person & good luck with search"... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:25:36 AM | Why do women date multiple guys at once? I'll tell you why... because it's the smart thing to do in this day and age. Men date multiple women. We all date, until we connect with someone. What are you supposed to do in the meantime? Commit to one person you don't like??
Agreed....dont' put all your eggs in one basket, esp. in the INITIAL stages of dating.
Of course, I had not been lucky enough to GET that many women at one time to go out with me, so I'm not much of a casanova (the guy with the little black book). I'm lucky if I can get ONE woman to go out with me, much less 2. lol
It's kind of like being a judge...you date 3 guys at a time, and if the one that's the best strikes your fancy the most... you eliminet the other 2, and stick to the one.
Well i don't believe in sex before marriage. Yeah, right. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:58:06 AM | Whtaguy wrote:
> So why do women date multiple men at once?
> Why can't you date one guy at a time?
Dating one person at time, particularly in the beginning, could seemingly
take forever just doing it one person at a time. Hence the reason for
multiple dating... at least at first. And it's the same for guys, not just
gals. I mean otherwise, we might be senior citizens before we find
the most compatible person! Know what I mean?
CJ | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:28:59 AM |
maybe because guys often control the initial stages of dating? they may or may not call even after saying that they like a woman and having a great date?
Guys control nothing in the dating process. Nip... nada... zip! LOL
They do it because they can! The same reason men do it... because we can!
If there is no MUTUAL discussion of exclusivity then all is fair game.
If she can't keep her facts together and is confusing you with someone else I would suggest that you acknowledge that she is too stupid to breed. call her on her bad behavior and then move on to the next... allowing her to get by with that just tells her you are a doormat.
Merry Christmas! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:15:09 AM |
Guys control nothing in the dating process. Nip... nada... zip! LOL
Maybe women call you day and night and come to your door.. In that case yes, you don't control it. In a more conventional situation, I do believe that the initial stages are in guy's control.. initiative.. whatever you want to call it. Guys do the asking out, calling etc. initially. The woman pretty much can only choose to accept or decline. If he does not call, she has no such choice. If he disappears and resurfaces 3 weeks later like nothing happened (again, this in his control), she could either sit around and wait, or keep meeting other people (her choice) and see if she meets someone who is more consistent. So yes, IMO guys do control the initial stages. Unless of course we are talking about the women who do all the asking out, pursuing, calling a guy themselves, but I gather those are still a minority. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:19:00 AM | ~Variety is the spice of life...{Re: Changing relationships is like changing cell phones}
But even the cell phone companies want to lock you into a contract. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:35:00 AM | guys control the initial stages of dating? ACKKKK!!!!
women ummmm wow....this is not the victorian age for crying out loud. we can call men first, IM them first, email them first, ask them to dinner first....AND pay for it!
if i believe that a man is not willing or able to communicate clearly/honestly with me (and i with him) after meeting for the first time, and our expectations from there, then there won't be dating. can i control that? you betcha! by saying "thank you for your time and conversation, but this won't work for me" or some variation. as for dating more than one person at a time...that's where communication enters...and if you can't get that clear in the beginning (if you're for it or against it)...then you better give it up right then. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:37:38 AM | | I so agree with the poster who mentioned guys disappearing after one or two dates. Are we really expected to sit around waiting to see if you're going to call or even email? I certainly would rather date one guy at a time but unless I've been shown that there's a reason to only date that one guy, I'm going to talk to others. And a date isn't a marriage. I'll go out to have something fun to do. Hopefully I'll meet someoe special. If not I've met someone who maybe I can call a friend. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:46:20 AM | So some women parallel date, some men serial date (1-2 dates and then run), which is the cause here and which is the effect? Ie. do some women parallel date because some men serial date or do some men serial date because some women parallel date? Or is it because some women are too eager to evoke a commitment clause, thus some men flee before they are even asked (??), or some women parallel date because they want to have more option on who and how many to demand commitment from?
And, after all, what does dating entail? Do the women who parallel date sleep with their dates, or do they use some dates for lovers, others for company/activity partners, others for potential "LTR" material?
Or is it simply senseless trying to analyse the "market" in such a partial way, ie without mapping out ALL types of trends in the demands of men and women (that is not easy at all to do, thus give it up and stop analysing sich a complex "dating market"???)? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:48:28 AM | | I don't agree with it, but......not for nothing, men do it too. I know two wrongs do not make a right, but unfortunately it is the way of the world! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:49:42 AM | You can handle a lot of stock without need of a rope ~ ropes can cause great harm ~ and shoud be your last resort. Your too quick with the lariat ~ play position instead.
~dar | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:54:31 AM | | there looking for a better deal all the time . but dont give up any thing to you but use you to get to the next bag of money that al later charles ........ | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:04:37 AM | men were doing multiple or serial dating for eons. So maybe women are finally catching on??? What's good for the goose...So why is it sounds like men are dismayed that a woman does not sit around and wait for him to make up his mind? Rarely anyone even affords another a courtesy of "Thanks, the date was fun, but I don't think I am interested in further", they just disappear. So.. we learn, and you reap what you sow.
As someone above said, if we "click" with one guy and we just wait for him to reappear.. and he is simply serial-dates...repeat...we can be doing this well into our retirement years. Sure there are some people who parallel (or serial) date just for the sake of doing it. Keeping it this way will flush these people out pretty early on. I do think the most are looking to find a person who they will 'click" with MUTUALLY and want the same. Until there's any exclusivity discussed, it's just meeting new people, socializing, and see if there's a connection that warrants going further. I also think that once you meet someone and it feels right mutually, it will get expressed, discussed and there will be no need to continue serial or parallel stuff. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:08:51 AM | Quite simply, because men do. I don't know one man on this site, that I have spoken to, that is just focused on one girl... so why should I?
I, previously, dated only one man at a time, only to find that they didn't view dating like I did... a one-on-one relationship. I even hid my profile, while talking to each man... It was very frustrating when I found he forgot he was married, was dating other people and sometimes even openly discussed his dating dilemmas or plans with other woman or was inconveniently busy on a Saturday night. I wasted a lot of time and sat home quite a few nights... I decided I wouldn't be doing that anymore.
However, when I find the "one" I am searching for or we find each other... you can be guaranteed that he will be the only one...
I am finding that the old saying is true... "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince." So... mathematically and now for my own sanity (the fair is fair/good for the goose/gander mentality) I am just increasing my odds of finding "him".
And those "roses" that can be given on here are pretty telling... as are the "testimonials" women leave. If a man has a rose missing, or both... and they weren't sent to me... what does that say about me... am I second best? That doesn't sit well when he claims to be pursuing me.
And, as to knowing the correct information about you and a girl remembering who a she is talking to... make sure the girl knows your real first name (not just some made-up username) and make yourself unforgettable... What I mean by that is surprise her, be honest, keep your word, and reveal yourself through conversation... not in a high-drama, 20 questions game... simply put, be yourself.
My two pence...
-Laurel Lei | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:12:07 AM | | I don't see anything wrong with dating more than one,I wasted a whole summer on a handful of dates with a woman that would only go out on the weekends she didn't have her kids. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 7:23:08 AM |
dated only one man at a time, only to find that they didn't view dating like I did... a one-on-one relationship. I even hid my profile, while talking to each man...
I wasted a lot of time and sat home quite a few nights...
However, when I find the "one" I am searching for or we find each other... you can be guaranteed that he will be the only one...
Ditto, Ditto, and DITTO!
It's amazing how many men express interest in me while I spend most of my time posting in the "Why are you here on a Saturday night" thread. Talk is talk. Walk the walk. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 10:03:01 AM | Yup.. all of the above, The same reason as men, to see which one is better, variety IS the spice of life,.. whatever you want to put here... 10,000 reasons.. not enough space..
if I had to actually "boil" it down to ONE reason, I'd say ..HUMAN NATURE. We have all these rules, laws, morals, etc. to try & keep us in line, and you STILL can't fight mother nature. You start out the idealist, and slowly shape your opinion from there,.. and come up with just as many varients through your own experiences..  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 12:58:24 PM | annikagirl wrote:
Well i don't believe in sex before marriage so sex doesn't enter into dating for me.
Chastity is its own punishment. | |
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Joined: 12/20/2007
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 3:32:27 PM | Because they can. Online it's a woman's markety. Whether the best of choices are there they have a far superior advance to men..
Don't be upset or jealous of this fact It is what it is
Some would say that if the tables were turn I would do this or the other but they would just be saying because the tables are not turned | |
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