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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/26/2008 9:53:01 PM | 1) Because they think they have the power in relationships (when they really don't)...
2) Because some guys are desperate enough to get laid, that they will do anything to do so.
Sorry to say, so-called female players ONLY exist because most guys are wannabe players. No girl can control a real player. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/27/2008 7:39:36 PM | No girl can control a real player.
So if you can't beat 'em....join 'em!! No PERSON can control another unless they want to be controlled. We women can, however, give the 'playa' a real run for his money and make him think...shoot am i that obvious?? LOL Oh and, we women DO control what exactly the playa gets to playa with...most of the time it's himself. LOL
Short answer, we do we date multiple people...'cuz we can, and as soon as one stands out to captivate all our time and energy we'll continue to do so. Remember, dating does NOT equal f@cking.
Nothing wrong with having fun while you search for the one with whom you'd like to spend majority of your time. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/27/2008 7:53:02 PM | why do women date multiple guys at once .... hmmmm
- they have a masochistic streak?
- or a high level of patience?
- one for the museum, one for extreme sports, one for banter, one for .. lol.
could be a multidude (yes I spelled that wrong  ) of reasons, I suppose. Whatever the reasons are, more power to them. Different strokes for different folks. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:34:55 PM | whtaguy...
I think women date multiple men at once because we've all been there... been exclusive with one guy, gave him our heart and then he lied, cheated, manipulated or conned us. Now, I tell any man I see that I don't plan to be exclusive until or unless we both agree after we've gotten to know each other a little, that we want to go to that step.
By dating more than one person, we can sort of protect our heart a little. Women are emotional creatures, so it's just a way to keep things cool until we're sure we really want to date only one special person.
But, for me, once I've been out with someone a few times, I pretty much know whether there is potential to go somewhere or not, so at that point I would either break it off, or have the "exclusive" talk.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:53:52 PM | | Funny you should ask this question. I met a woman on here, got to know each other really well over the phone and meeting and such. She all of a sudden didnt want to carry it on any further because she was writing to multiple guys and wanted to "explore her options" is how she put it. She said, "you are a great guy, but what if im passing up on an even better one" Well, guess what, she wrote me the other day and said them guys are long gone, and i told her that i am too. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/28/2008 3:19:50 AM | darylr....
"what if I'm passing up on an even better one".... what a horrible thing to say! I think at that point I would have say goodbye and moved on. She was obviously the type who is always looking to "trade up" and addicted to the attention she's getting, instead of looking for something real. Good for you that you didn't play sloppy seconds!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/28/2008 4:00:13 AM | | for me mulyiple dating is almost like committing adultery. Women are caught up in this need for perfection from the opposite sex. They seem to in the fantasitical mind believe that theres a "perfect man" out there. They dont corelate thier discontentment of this imperfection as a problem of themselves. My thing is, if there was such a perfect guy, why would he go out with you? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/28/2008 4:52:26 AM | Adultery? With the early stages of dating where you've been out like twice? That's a bit extreme don't ya think? Hey, if I don't know you well enough yet to decide to seriously date you yet, then I'm not only still single, but I'm still open. Why should I tell another guy I meet and like that I'm taken? Technically, I'm far from it.
If I like you enough after a month or so to really see where it's going (and the talk has happened where we both AGREE not to date others), then I won't want to date anyone else.
My friends and I learned from the best - namely guys we were dating in our teens and early 20s..they all did this, and once we really liked them and decided to wait for them, we'd discover we were like one of three or four he was considering.
Like I said, you get mad at first and take it personally, but it really isn't. Once you realize that someone's looking to find the right one and doesn't want to pass up others who might be better suited for them, you realize it's kind of a smart thing to do.
So now we apply it - and turns out, it does work better. So thanks! I still say that guys want to outwardly act disgusted (some even go so far as to say THEY don't do this to convince us not to) when women do it so that they're the only ones with the advantage. Sorry! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/28/2008 11:54:51 AM | i know quite a few girls that seem quite content on dateing lots of guys. but there is allways something missing, it kinda like there's a voide. i talked to one girl and she said that she never been in love, maybe it's some kinda of insecurity i dont know. maybe they just like the attention . what ever it is i just hope there happy and know the repercussions.* STD's, spot lights on jerry springer, unknown fathers, ect
well too all the girls out there that date lots of guys at once stay safe and be happy | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/28/2008 12:01:19 PM | | Well does every play dum. Why do women date multiple guys at once? It called "Whoring around". Polyanderous, promiscuious. All the same thing. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/28/2008 8:56:15 PM | Kensar wrote:
>>>> Why do women date multiple guys at once? It called "Whoring around". Polyanderous, promiscuious. All the same thing. <<<<<
Are you serious? You believe because a woman is dating a couple different men at once, or leaving herself open to meet and date others, that she's whoring around? I don't know what kind of women you're used to, but this woman isn't out there spreading it around and I take offense to the meer suggestion that just because someone isn't exclusive with only one person, she has to be sleeping with everyone she does go out with.
Pretty insulting statement.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 3/29/2008 7:21:38 AM | Some say its not wise to put all your eggs in one basket and I understand why, Ive had them crushed once too often but, its either in you or it isnt. I think people who date multiple people at once are doing so because of something within.............................. ie; the commitment phobic who doesnt really want to end up with anyone; the person in an unhappy relationship who is just looking for attention; people with low self esteem who overcompensate appearing to love themselves then needing multiple people to confirm this delusion.
The reasons for needing to be exclusive are probably just as complex and equally come from a need within.... Im a one man at a time woman from first date onwards..... I know by the end of the first meeting if I want to see him again and if I do, I dont make arrangments to see anyone else. I would make it clear early on that this was my stand and would expect the same from them, if hes not cool with that then its bye bye. In my experience, mature men in my age group, do want that exclusive arrangment, its to do with egos especially when it becomes sexual.
At the end of the day were all different and its just a case of making it clear at the offset what your comfortable with and what your expectations are, even before you meet you can make that clear without appearing like a potential stalker lol. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:23:31 PM | Has anyone really read the name of this web site? I will split it up so it is easy to read, Plenty of fish . Just for clarification that means if you don't like something about someone and it means enough to you, then move on. Thus the name. It is not something new that we ALL date more then one person at a time. Read carefully now as I said DATE not sleep with, have sex with, Sc*%w. What ever you want to call it. So get over it man and women alike. Dinner with someone tonight and lunch with another tomorrow A movie with someone else on Friday is not being a whore, it is not cheating. It is called playing the field. Do you not drive more then one car before you decide? Do you not look at more the one horse if you are buying a horse. Do you normally buy the first house you look at? How many more do I need to list. Now having said all that if you both agree that it will be a monogamous relationship then that is different. Then it is cheating as you have made a promise and now you are breaking it. But again all you need to do and should do is break up and move on. If you have the promise and it gets broke Trust me it will only happen over and over again. GET out. PLENTY OF FISH. Fine the one that wants you for you and doesn't care to look for a better model. Just in case there is someone out there that is naive enough to think no one is better the they are then all I can say is Dream on. There is always someone that is better looking. Maybe a little more charming, but if that is all it takes to make someone cheat then I say good ridden and I will move on. The grass is always greener until you step on it. Then it turns the same color as it was where you came from. SO until you make that promise I WANT you to date others as well as me. Sleep with them and I am gone. Simple as that. But you will not realize what a great person I am until you have been with the others. If you think you like someone else better then that is ok too. I know I am not the mister right for everyone. So I will continue to enjoy life and take what comes until I do fine my Ms. Right who thinks I (just me the way I am) is her Mr. right. How can it be any different Good luck to all! Remember, If it is meant to be it will be.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/5/2008 3:41:45 AM | Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Well OP......I don't really care ( plus you spelt multiple wrong...dufus)
But, if I had to hazard a guess.....it's because it enables them to weed out the jerks and make a choice in their terms.....hopefully the right choice | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/5/2008 6:39:37 AM |
So why do women date multiple men at once?
Er, because they can?...............
Unless they are looking for a very serious long term relationship, why not? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:33:17 AM | I don't see any problem with dating more than one guy if there is no commitment given. Now, if you are sleeping with more than one, that is a big problem. It can also pose a health hazard, never mind being branded a player. So, that depends on what you mean by dating.
If you have not agreed to exclusive dating, then I think it is acceptable. I find it too territorial to expect that because you have agreed to meet, you both have to stop seeing anyone else. Hey, you are just meeting for the first time. This is something that puzzles me. It is not as if you are going steady before you even meet!
Now if after meeting, both people agree to only see each other, commitment has been made. Then, it becomes an exclusive relationship. Time to date only each other!
What puzzles me at POF is the demands of some guys for me to stop seeing any other guy BEFORE we even meet. "Because if you date someone else while I am dating you, I will kick you to the curb!"
So, I reply, "Hey, we are just meeting for the first time. We are not going steady," I say. "Slow down. We are just trying to find out if we like each other." " Then he says, "But that is what I want!"
That is why I have not agreed to meet some of the guys. First, you decide who you want to meet. Then immediately you are given conditions to leave POF or agree not to meet anyone else or even chat with anyone else? That's jumping the gun and a complete turn off. You bet I will be leery even considering a relationship with such guy, never mind a long term one! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:07:45 PM | dating is dating...it's meeting people of the opposite sex that you don't know...and getting to know them. Relationships build over time. I don't understand why people expect others to be dating only one person at a time?? It's so restrictive!! If your right for each other, you will in time become intimate, and with that monogamous. That's just my view of it. It seems that people just want to have ownership immidiatley...it drives me nuts!!! It's not that I don't understand the feelings behind it, but c'mon you have to use your head!!!!
I just cut and pasted this from another thread I had posted it in. I think it is even more relevant in this thread!!! | |
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