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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:19:13 PM | So why do women date multiple men at once?
Cuz it feeds their egos.
Like everything, there's always the occasional exception.
Why can't you date one guy at a time?
Many can and do. Of those that don't, it's usually because they are scared little girls who require the fake "security" of having a couple fall-back guys. You know, cuz if they were ever single then it would kill them. Plus it feeds their egos - otherwise they might not be able to get out of bed in the morning cuz, you know, most women are so emotionally weak and pathetic.
And of course, there's always the occasional exception.
Italy0219, msg 502:
1. cause you guys started it..
Maybe in your part of the world, but over here it's definitely the other way around. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:33:13 PM |
'cuz we expect to lose 75% of the men we date for various reasons anyway...might as well overbook... You mean like losing a sock in the laundry? Man I hate when that happens. I buy lots of pairs of the same color just in case. Makes it easy to pair up to when pulling them out of the dryer.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:37:57 PM | Singer James
Oh yeah...you've got us...it's because we're weak, and pathetic, and insecure...so insecure we couldn't possibly handle it if a guy we were casually dating, were dating someone else at the same time!!! Yeah...we're really weak...your so right!!!!!!!
Did you ever consider the reason we do it is because while we are unaware that we are wasting our time trying to get to know a shallow minded loser...we're missing out on a truly great MAN that has invited us to get to know him, and all because WE'RE insecure...who woulda' thought it?????? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:59:20 PM | Well, let's go back to high school to figure this out. A girl can go on a date with one boy Friday night, and another boy Saturday night. And the next weekend, go out with two different boys the next weekend. I know, it's shocking! It's called playing the field, and boys can do it, too. Now let's say Suzy really likes Tommy, and wants to go on another date with him -- or even go out with him twice in a row. Does she need to stop dating other boys? Not according to most High School protocols.
Now there may come a time when Suzy wants to date Tommy exclusively, and vice versa. This is called "going steady" -- and often involves the exchange of a piece of jewelry or maybe a letter jacket. Is it okay for Suzy to go out with different boys now? No. Suzy is "pinned", as some call it. Until Tommy or Suzy decide differently and inform the other of the decision, they only date each other.
Next up: love and marriage.
And after that we will discuss where babies come from.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:41:14 PM | sanchezzz, msg 530:
Did you ever consider the reason we do it is because while we are unaware that we are wasting our time trying to get to know a shallow minded loser...we're missing out on a truly great MAN that has invited us to get to know him..
Yea, I did. That's why I said there's always the occasional exception. Way to read and / or comprehend. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:45:49 PM | singer james msg532
Whether you cover your a55 with the old "exception " thing or not, your still insulting a large majority of the female population of which I happen to be one...pfffft...better run into the woods and sharpen your sword there little boy!!! Your going to need it if you want to continue this debate!!! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:08:04 PM | Guys grow up when they see just how far it's gone. The 'little girl next door' never was for real, at least not after college. A man who wants his illusions shattered puts a P.I. on the tail of his significant other.
Kinda puts a damper on all that oral sex women demand though, when the physical facts are looked into. Semen stays in the fallopian tubes for up to a week, even after douching .
It rots and falls slowly with a fishy odor...yummy stuff, that. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:33:07 PM | "I believe that people date multiple people at once because they have low self esteem. "
Some people with low self esteem date multiple people for that reason, but I don't think all people who are multiple dating have low self esteem. Personally I don't see anything wrong with dating as many men as interest me, for as long as they still interest me. I expect after a few dates that some of them will lose their appeal to me, and vice versa. The theory being that the more you get to know about someone, the more, or less, you like them. So I don't think it's a mark of low self esteem for men or women to be dating multiple potential partners.
I would be very skeptical of someone who wanted me "exclusively" early in a relationship. Often, it is one partner wanting to eliminate any competition while they make up their mind whether you are "the one" or not. I think, once we've both decided that there is sufficient probability that we are each other's "one" that is the time to commit exclusively. Until then, as long as you're not sleeping with multiple dates, no harm done, and perhaps a lot of good. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:36:06 PM | selfishness...not caring about feelings of anyone but themselves
to have a week with no guy around must seem like the end of world to some women...i don't know why women can't patiently wait months without a date (when younger and more attractive) or even a year or more when older.
what's the rush? can't have fun without a man's presence?. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:40:57 PM | Ive ran across some females that are sleeping with multiple males a week, besides their boyfriends, etc... Basic biological psychology stipulates that their just to find the best genes, who can provide, and since she's sleeping with mulitple partners, once preggy, she'll get them all, thank God for DNA tests! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:43:33 PM | Forgive me for not reading through all 22 pages of this post, but, from what I did read, I didn't come across a post that said this yet... I'm sure it must be in one of those 22 pages somewhere...
I've been so annoyed at times, when I have made an honest mistake when meeting a guy and had some detail or another wrong.... And have been sharply, or even coyly, answered back, "Wrong guy."
Could it be that we just got confused? Could it be that we just misunderstood, or even jumped to the wrong conclusion...
Why do some guys "get off" in saying... WRONG GUY... (I'm sure there are some women who do it too.)
I'm sorry... but, I'm human.
I make mistakes,
and I get confused sometimes...
Just my 2 cents | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:48:00 PM | sanchezzz, msg 533:
Whether you cover your a55 with the old "exception " thing or not, your still insulting a large majority of the female population
I can't imagine why you'd be insulted unless you are the exact type of woman I was referring to. I guess the truth hurts. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:12:13 AM | It's ok to date. It's not fair to lead people on and/or not communicate. Unfortunately I've met many women (and this doesn't mean men can't be included) who will go by the rule of: if they want to know something they must ask.
The irony here is that sexuality studies have cited men for being more direct about their communication and women not so direct. It's not to say that women are deceptive or ellusive per se. It's more that their communication style, traditionally, is aimed at feelings, sensitivity, and non-confrontation.
Basically it comes down to this: Get to know someone really well before getting deeply involved, and if they start playing games, smack them down, or run away. No one is protected from excessively self-serving personalities. It happens to everyone unfortunately. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/8/2008 11:14:47 AM |
devuchka
'cuz we expect to lose 75% of the men we date for various reasons anyway...might as well overbook...
i like that answer an quite truthful too...
Ya i don't see what the problem is with having a few "backup" plans..just incase 1 doesnt workout,, you can move on to the next instead of wasting time an energy on someone who isnt worth it in the first place..
men do it all the time fooling around an sleeping with mutiple women.. even when they do have a woman at home.. so why can't women do it too.. 2 can play this game.. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/9/2008 4:29:05 PM | singer James539
dissapointing rebuttle...I've been alone for a long time(choice), and I'm probably one of the most decent and self respecting women you'll ever run into...now do you have to be right, or can you be reasonable??? Your original statement wasn't well thought out and very insulting...True or False????? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/9/2008 5:47:01 PM | Easy, because they don't know which one they want to be exclusive with yet. Or no one bothered to ask for exclusivity. Or she could be a man-killer. Or she could just need the validation. Or she's afraid to be single, so she always has to have someone she can call up from the red-shirts.
Lots of reasons, but they all boil down to the fact that one hasn't been the one she wants to be with exclusively or he hasn't asked her yet. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:10:03 PM |
So why do women date multiple men at once? Because we can!
Why can't you date one guy at a time? Because we do not have to. Why shouldn't we? Men do it.
It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it... What does this mean? That we forget who we are talking to, because we date so many men? Well then, you have to be more interesting than all of the others, so you'll not be forgotten.
I believe that people date multiple people at once because they have low self esteem. " Whoever wrote this is wrong. A person's self esteem has nothing to do with having many dates. That is , as long as they are not sleeping with multiple people.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:31:23 PM | I personally multiple dated and it's a confusing issue! Firstly let me point out when I did this I was not sleeping with any of them. If anything hots up with one then bang rest are gone, that was a simpl rule.
However the difficult part is do you tell your date you have another date lined up? If you dont and he sees you out how do you explain it? Also if you dont tell and get found out thats a real tricky one and has happened to me and the guy who saw me was the one I liked and I had so much explaining to do! Also if you dont tell and you end up seeing one of the guys you were multiple dating how far in to the relationship do you reveal it and should you and what is his response 6 months in to relationship when you finally admit it?! He can think your one hell of a cheat and were hiding something not to tell him and it can seriously dent a relationship and cause trust issues.
I stopped multiple dating a bit a go. It got a bit messy for me. I had to sit and think about how I would feel if I had it done across me. If a guy I liked, shared a cheeky kiss with and went home waiting for him to contact me went out with another woman the following evening and never said, or did say how would I feel?If I thought I was seeing someone but he thought we were just going on some dates and it was nothing serious then he would hurt me.
Yes people who multiple date are edging their bets but shouldnt need to. I think people should go out with one at a time and when its not working then your free to date who you want with a clean slate and there are no mix ups! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:57:01 AM |
'cuz we expect to lose 75% of the men we date for various reasons anyway...might as well overbook...
So true...
However the difficult part is do you tell your date you have another date lined up?
Nope, no need to explain while you are dating that there may be others - if he barely knows you hopefully he's aware of that...and could be doing the same.
If you dont and he sees you out how do you explain it?
"Hey, how are you? Are we still on for _________? Ok cool, talk to you later, I gotta get back to that person over there."
Also if you dont tell and get found out thats a real tricky one and has happened to me and the guy who saw me was the one I liked and I had so much explaining to do!
That would only happen if I was leading someone to believe there was no one else from the beginning...
Also if you dont tell and you end up seeing one of the guys you were multiple dating how far in to the relationship do you reveal it and should you and what is his response 6 months in to relationship when you finally admit it?!
My definition of multiple dating doesn't continue months into a relationship. Most usually don't make it past a month if they are serious prospects (hopefully) - unless you're not looking to settle down with anyone, and if that's the case, then yes they should know that.
He can think your one hell of a cheat and were hiding something not to tell him and it can seriously dent a relationship and cause trust issues.
Let's be clear - dating more than one guy isn't ok if you're doing it for half a year or a year and telling them all they are the only one....its more like in the early stages when you first meet someone and you go out with them a few times to determine whether or not they are for you.
You might plan to meet a guy a week from Sunday that you think you might like, but meet another guy Wednesday that you like....you can talk to both without worrying about it since you don't really know if either one of them is long term potential. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:43:14 AM | Does this mean I wasn't "supposed" to meet Tom, Dick AND Harry all at the same time at the same restaurant, and we all 4 have a lovely time "together" ???
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:17:04 PM | Whtaguy....My guess is..a woman may date multiply men because what is out there right now from my experience.....you cant depend on. If a woman is looking for a relationship with one man...then she needs that one man to appear interested....call, show up, stuff like that you know....if he cant manage that, then she needs to keep her options open...and can you blame her???? | |
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