| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:56:26 PM |
One reason I do is because men do it! If you can't beat 'em-join 'em as the saying goes in the game of cat & mouse.
Don't confuse this with sleeping with multiple guys at once.
It is easier to keep one's mind clear, and stay grounded instead of turning into a junior high girl etc if you don't put all your energy,heart, & soul into one person until they do. Been there-done that!....Doesn't work to wear your heart on your sleeve....It sends men running no matter how well you click!!! It's a pain, but it is what it is.
Amen.. Annie.. dats the way it is done...
I once dated a guy who claimed that he only dated one woman at a time.. which was ok for him.. but he was on POF two and three times a day when we were going out.. and I don't see any difference in trolling for women on POF.. and dating others.. because it means he is still looking for the better situation.
It is the way it is.. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:01:56 PM | Personally, I only 'date' one man at a time. I may meet a man and if we don't click, I probably won't date him again. If we click as friends, I will see him again, but won't consider it a date and it won't be on a regular basis.
If I click with a guy, there is mutual attraction and we like each other as people... then he is the guy I will be seeing on a regular basis... at least once a week (I work night shift, so it can be difficult to see each other more than that), but telephone calls during the week give some indication that we like each other's company... BUT, while I may be dating him exclusively, I cannot be sure that he is dating me exclusively until something is stated.
It really doesn't matter what I think, if we are not on the same page and only time, and communication, will tell if we are. Dating is so dam complicated and each person has their own preferences and beliefs. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:13:22 PM | Easy.....'cause we can.
I know I'm repeating, but the obvious next question is: Why do men date multiple women at once? (See my response above to enter the neverending loop.) | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:51:13 PM | | perhaps because no one wants to get serious with a serial dater....male or female...so they never end up attracting the keepers ... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:00:55 AM | | cause most women arent happy with just one guy, cause one guy has money but a small**** another guy has a big****but no money, another guy has a great car, another guy has a great house, another guy has a nice camp, dude they want the best of all worlds haha, unless u a millionaire they gonna be gettin around to get what they want lol | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/26/2008 4:00:02 PM | Throughout history women have seduced the most famous,
wealthy and powerful men in the world by pitting them
against each other.
When you appear to have a harem (going out with 2 or more
partners at a time in a group) your attractiveness increases
exponentially. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/27/2008 3:35:03 PM | | "Multiple guys at once", like on the same date? I had a date with a gal; we were going to the movies... and it turned out I was one of sixteen guys going with her that day. She explained that it was because the sign said "Under 17 Not Admitted." | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:35:45 PM | Without reading the string I would have to say that online dating has destroyed any previous taboos in the dating world. It used to be back when I entered the dating world some 30 years ao, that you dated one person at a time. But, with online it is a whole new ball game, and hey let's be honest this aplies to both men and women. The attitude from both ends is that you're just window shopping and nothing really counts. I have chatted with guys from this site who tell me they have a couple girlfriends and a few friends with benefits. And the irony of it is that if it was the old world rules these guys would likely have been hard pressed to find a date. I am not sure why, I suspect it is that the numbers change as we age and there are like 3 straight women to every straight guy, but all of the sudden those guys with the tape on their glasses start to look good. lol No idea.
Or perhaps it is a standards thing. I know I could have a sting of one night stands but that is not really what I am looking for, whereas, for a guy my age that might be just the ticket to build up a wounded ego following years in a browbeaten relationship. Just a theory.
At any rate, I reiterate, I don't consider online as the way to meet Mr. Right. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:18:00 AM | People love and hate competition at the same time.
When I ran track, (as I applaud my natural talent for speed though was I to push the limits at 46 something would certainly tear), my competition was under scrutiny and an easy win would only come from a solo run. I loved to run and compete while mustering a fierce temporary jealousy and hate that demanded I be in front at finish. But what would I be without competitors of comparable ability?
A good match is not easy to come by and efficiency in locating such is hindered by exclusivity. I don't like to be informed I came in second, or God forbid I was the only one left...and yes you would, you'd date me if I were the last person on earth!
I feel demanding the dating of only one is like cheating. Does dating bring out cat like qualities in men too? You know it does, if you require an edge for victory because of an inadequacy.
I do wish my response here to reflect that dating many goes both ways. I do honestly feel sometimes that one look at my picture and I'm required to commit; during just meeting the talk can elude to the idea of numbers even ever so subtly.
Remeber to have fun I remind myself as I steer us/myself in the direction of leave no wounded by not feeding a sense of exclusivity. May the big head rule!
Sure, when I encounter one I like, she could be taken away by another, but to move to control the outcome with a manipulative idea as eliminating the competition is not a reflection of love for the one I like, and win or lose, that I loved her through freedoms is good on me. 
God, let me be full in an uncertain world! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:35:56 AM | When I first signed up for this "punishment" of online dating, I met quite a few guys within a short period of time. All that did was confuse the hell outta me, when it came to keeping it straight about what/who/when/where/why/how I came to be sitting across the table from a stranger. Along with the added excitement of keeping the nicknames straight.... whoa!
I deleted my profile because I thought there was something seriously wrong with me, maybe the onset of early Alzheimer's! Not the case....whew!
Now, if I'm going to meet someone of interest.....there's only ONE at a time! I don't mind being mentally insane, but who needs to be totally confused all the time as well :) | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:37:00 AM | From my very recent experience of internet dating, it's because I haven't yet met a guy who has asked to see me exclusively. If that happens, and the feelings are mutual and reciprocated, I will date exclusively.
Although having a string of dates is enjoyable (albeit exhausting), I for one would give it up for a satisfying 1-1 commited relationship.
Until that happens, if and when, I shall carry on multiple dating.
I think it's all about finding the right person to commit to and who wants to commit to you too.
Equality in 21st century dating reigns supreme imo.
ps I hope this doesn't initiate a spate of emails to my inbox. I need a rest! Ha! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:41:30 AM | Hey PennyLane!
Those are my exact sentiments too! Talk about confusion! And do /did you have the odd one asking when you you last had sex? How rude!
ps has anyone worked out a system to remembering guys names? I think I just about have, but I do forget too! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:01:55 AM |
James_in_SD wrote: "Multiple guys at once", like on the same date?
Exactly. I call it "group dating". When I have a beautiful woman with me,
I can usually get into clubs that won't let me in when I'm by myself --
but when I have two attractive women on my arms, I can get into any
club I want for free, and a lot more women hit on me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:52:00 AM | I only did this when I first started dating again about five years ago. However, I quickly found out a few things, it's exhausting, it is time consuming, it is rarely worth it and it is hard to keep everyone's details straight.
Presently it is rare that someone peeks my interests, let alone finding two or three people that do, but if I do find someone I will only focus on them. However, I have found it rare that men only focus on one woman at a time. Very rare. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:00:12 AM | ^^^^ I disagree with a previous poster...low self esteem? Seems to me the person with low self esteem probably wouldnt be dating that much?!
Dating a few men at one time is called keeping your options open and trying to find who it is you really want. I dont believe its okay to have sex with them all (esp. at the same time heehee) ... But hanging out with and going on a few dates with a few people is perfectly acceptable. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:02:11 AM |
So why do women date multiple men at once? Why can't you date one guy at a time? It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it...
Hey, if you're a self-respecting guy who doesn't take a backseat to anybody, then don't date womerns who do this. Tell 'em to feck off... problem solved.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:12:58 PM | DJchickie401
Absolutely spot on.
I multiple date and always tell the lady BEFORE the first date. I have had some who have then backed off, which is fine. But I grew sick and tired on concentrating my efforts on one person, maybe online chats, then phone chats, then fix a date, and then get (more often than not) a cancellation of the date because "they've met someone they are going to give it a go with".
I decided that it's a numbers game... but, in order to stop it being confusing, I restrict it to 2 at a time. However, I chat online to several. If one of the 2 I am seeing falls by the wayside (which most do, quite quickly) then I have others I can ask out.
The benefit of this is that I get lots of nice evenings out with ladies and if one of them turns into someone I want to "give it a go with" then I'll be completely exclusive and will also deactivate from this site and any others I am on.
Doing it dishonestly is where it causes a problem.
Anyone who wants to be exclusive from day one is in my opinion trying too hard to find Mr or Mrs Right and is in danger of settling for someone simply because they think that they're all they are going to get. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:42:07 PM | | Unless 2 people are in an exclusive relationship, there is nothing with dating more than 1 person. Even if a woman was dating several men ( or vice versa ) at the same time, there probably wouldn't be mutual interest between her and most of these men after 2-3 dates. | |
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