| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:32:59 PM | yep like the saying goes, don't put all of your eggs in one basket. It's best to date other people at the same time to keep your options open because you'll end up spending all of your time on this person and if they diss you or choose to ignore you, you're back at square one trying to find another profile and corresponding to that person again.
It's not to say that you're necessarily hiding other people from a potential date, but you just don't want to have long periods of waiting time for someone else to respond. If you are seeing or corresponding with other people in addition to a few main people you're interested in, at least you have something to fall back on. But when you're actually in a relationship, then no...don't date other people! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:27:11 AM |
perhaps because no one wants to get serious with a serial dater....male or female...so they never end up attracting the keepers ...
I agree 100%. If a guy isn't a serial dater, he's going to quickly become annoyed while dating a woman is continually unavailable and he'll move on. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 6/30/2008 2:17:11 PM | | It's usually because you are not acting or behaving as their number one guy. They are looking for #1. If you were really into her, and she was really into you, she would make it exclusive. So, keep trying. Maybe someone in the future will be blessed with your presence, because you are going through this process, and when the right one comes around, you will certainly appreciate them. So, this could be blessing in disguise.... a work in progress. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:44:32 AM | | My sentiments exactly - Smilee; I think if a guy is that much into you, he will actually make and remain in regular contact with you whether thro msn or email etc even if not in person on a regular basis; I prefer guys who are keepers rather than serial daters; it's easy to spot the serial daters; they are the ones who are 'elusive', receive texts whilst in your presence etc; if I receive a text whilst in the presence of a guy, if we are enjoying each other's company, or just chatting, I will, more often than not, share the content with them, even if it is from a guyfriend. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:19:49 AM | Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Basically that is easy, and don`t shoot me down before finishing reading this post ladies.
It is for the same reason ladies try out 100`s of shoes in dozen`s of shops when out looking for a new pair of f**k me pumps.
It is the same reason guys standout in the back yard of a fishing tackle shop waving dozens of rods about when all they want is one new one.
The reason, is to be sure you have the best by actively checking out the rest.
Just because you are not the best does not mean you can not have a good friendship, and by having a good friendship puts you closer to the top of some one else`s "best of the rest" list.
This is why I for one go to Plenty Of Fish meets, I get to make friends with women who would not even have me on their dating list. Which puts them and me closer to finding "The Best Of The Rest" | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:35:32 AM | | Women date multiple men for the same reason's men date multiple women, because it is dating. Unless it said to be exclusive then I don't see the problem. A date is a date not a commitment. And if a man was really intrested in a women , he should let her know that. If I become fond of a man who one day act's like Im the world and the next day act's like I died, that tells me with his behavior that he's just not into me. Even when he say's he is. ( people need to be honest ) So the signal's are very mixed. On the part of both gender's . Unfortunately the dating world is a game, and many people can get hurt. But I still believe that the one that I would like to have in my life is out there. He just doesn't know it. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:54:11 AM | I agree with you, I dated one on one for 5 yrs, i t can waste alot of time, you must explore, and keep options open to find the one that you are compatible with.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:06:13 PM | | Why not?..We guys can date multiple woman at a time...Jus be honest about it...I have no problem with woman that date multiple men at a time...Date...I said (Date)...Not intimate, however... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:51:38 PM |
yep like the saying goes, don't put all of your eggs in one basket. It's best to date other people at the same time to keep your options open because you'll end up spending all of your time on this person and if they diss you or choose to ignore you, you're back at square one trying to find another profile and corresponding to that person again.
I don't initially see anything wrong with it. But a few months or more down the line if your still dating them regularly it may give them a false impression. Yes, people should not take it for granted they are in a regular relationship if this happens, thats why you should definitely ask. People who say they want to keep their options open in case the one their seeing does not work out seem a bit needy to me. Like they can't spend time alone between relationships. I prefer to concentrate on one date at a time, and if it does not work out, try someone else. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:02:07 PM | Just like guys it's natures way of selecting the perfect mate,ever notice how much more hooked up chicks notice you?
This means they're not quite satisfied or sure the dude they are with is "The One"
Now if only they could evolve to the point of understanding when us guys do the same........ | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:02:24 PM |
It's best to date other people at the same time to keep your options open...
You know, that's logical, but that actually doesn't always work. I knew a guy who got divorced years ago. About a year later he found himself dating 3 women at the same time. He did this for about a month - I mean, he had no free time left after being with the three of them. One of the women was (in MY opinion) VERY cute, she seemed to be loving, caring, had a wonderful, cheerful personality, etc. You get the picture. However, he ended up staying with the "hottie". And she was HOT, and I'll admit, a pretty nice girl, too.
TODAY, the "hottie" is no longer hot, and after 10 years they fight constantly, have a horrible life (in my opinion), and would separate except I think they both feel that they can't do better than each other. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:13:30 PM | Marilyn ~ what a great screenname!!  ^^^^^ I so agree. Back in the day when I actually did date, I dated more than one person. Why? Because I wanted to.  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:47:20 PM | | Actually I think that it is more mature to take your time and date, figure out what you want (easier said than done) rather than just go for your usual "type" especially if that type really hasn't worked for you in the past. Every person you date will teach you something new about yourself. I say take your time, enjoy life, try your best not to hurt anyone and above all be honest. I see nothing wrong with it if you aren't sleeping with them! When you are ready to settle into a relationship again you will know it. Until then have fun! No I am not a player, but I DO need to see if we can be compatible as friends before I would even consider a relationship. Once the lust burns off you would hope that the person you are with can talk to you for HOURS! | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:57:53 PM | Dating is DATING. No ring, no date, FREE AGENT. Men do it all the time, date multiple women. If a guy wants to be exclusive, he will say so in no uncertain terms. A woman should not shut down all her options without some sort of declaration from him. Puts her at a great disadvantage. Life is short, and putting yourself on hold with no assurances is a huge mistake.
Mind you I am not talking about having sex with multiples. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:13:05 PM | | racer 256 hit it on the nail there Message (see # 612) dating as in spending some time together finding common ground, goals etc. is a wonderful way to get to know someone, multiple dates or not. and the perfect segway into exclusivity. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:18:57 AM | the same reason why people some people cant just drink all coke soda, and have to keep adding everysingle flavor thats on the beverage bar.
they want to taste everything. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 7/10/2008 4:31:02 AM | I could not have hit the nail right on the head the way this person did. I think both men and women are afraid of commitment. This is because as the analogy about shopping at Walmart was made, "Too many choices and very poor quality" of choices create a false illusion that one is really hot and so many people wants us. Then once we realize the "power of choice" we have, we forget to use our brains to truly choose. Therefore, the quality people who are here get over looked. Why? Because they pose a challenge and are a little more resistant than most. If someone is a great catch, as I am if I may say so myself, they don't get a chance because they are not that easy to catch. They take time to get to know and use their smarts and intuition to see if there is possibility there. "Good catch" group members want a good catch and have standards. Players just want another name added to their list of options. While I think it is acceptable for people to have options, I think both the good and not so good catch people use that priviledge in different ways. I think that having options is a good thing. When someone starts telling me they love me and want only me when they have not even met me in person and have only written me twice or three times, I take that as a sign that they are exercising their options potential and want to make sure I don't do the same. So it is a double edge sword. To the person who originated this post I would say, just have fun and go with the flow. BUt above all, be fair and truthful. The main rule of the dating game we must practice is truthfulness!! | |
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