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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:06:09 PM | | Oh I can answer this one easily, b/c we have been trained by the men to be non-exclusive....it is a habit we picked up from the men. I'm very serious. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:31:45 AM | Dating multiple people just means you want more free meals.
What if she buys her own food? Some women pay their own way on dates, you know that right? Well...unless of course you always date the types that expect you to pay for everything. Then I guess yeah, the women YOU date would be looking for free meals.
If that's what you're worried about, then don't date - that way no one will ever take you for anything. You'll be single forever, but it's worth it, right?
If you barely know the woman, expecting her to drop everything else in the first month or so is extreme - especially when you've met her once or twice. Naturally if she's been dating you long enough for it to become serious, that's a different story.
Just as a man who's looking for the right woman for him should date who he's interested in finding out about early on, no matter how many women that is. Should he stop talking to other women cause he's meeting one for the first time? Hell no. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:37:58 AM | LOL. I only date women who pay for my meals and bring me a beer when they are TOLD to do so.. Women date more than one person because they need the cash and on some occasions can not make their mind up and want the nice guy and the bad guy at the same time, because they have yet in this day and age figured out that you can change yourself but, no one can change you... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:47:19 AM | ^^AGAIN, how does dating one OR more than one have to do with a guy paying for anything? Perhaps she just likes company while she takes herself out to eat, and gets bored looking at the same guy twice in one week. It happens.
If all the women you date give you cash, why not date more than one woman? Oh, yeah that might be the same thing huh? lol
Newsflash: not every woman out there needs cash (or anything else) from a man. If this is seriously your impression of women, then I guess you've been dating the wrong ones...or you like to rile people up in forums and stray from topics. I can't decide which.
Just say SOME women, not "women". We are not all alike. The end. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:59:14 AM | | Once again.. here is the answer..women date more than one person for personal and financial gains...if a woman liked one of her dates then she would only date that one person she liked..well at least one would assume that...if she is dating more than one person at a time then she is after more than just friendship....Most of us guys have plenty of friends..,so why is the same excuse always being used over and over to justify dating more than one person for personal gain. I usually give the woman I am dating a goodnight kiss, and find it nasty that she may be giving her multiple dates goodnight kisses also.. nasty..nasty...nasty.. if there is not kiss then it is not a date, it is a waste of time... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 8:53:47 AM | | well my friend. You can thank the feministic movement, men's libidos, Hillary Clinton, etc. for the modern woman. If you aren't looking for a shallow, picky woman that likes to window shop and casual sex flings look elsewhere. Welcome to the freakinl revolution of the modern woman. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:10:52 AM | this is why we men should talk to females, be upfront and ask her if she's seeing someone and if she is or if she's lying trust your gut and dump her. If she's not seeing anyone talk about being exclusive with her.
Cuz I don't want her with them same yesturday lips and tongue that she kissed and made out with other guys that she's been seeing with kissing my today face and mouth. ARE YOU OUT YOUR FLYING MIND! NASTY !! People get dieases from kissing more than one person. I feel sorry for thoses people dating multiple people catching them nasty kissing dieases. Stick to ONE partner your kissing
and I wouldn't want do the same to her unless I want her to kick the $#!t outta me. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:14:50 AM | Its just about variety... us women are awesome at shopping for a reason... we try things out and see what's the right fit. We date several people at the same time because you all have something the other doesn't have and that keeps us interested, but we want to get to know you better to see who is a better fit for us in the long run... You get to experience a variety and array of types and tastes and sizes and features and narrow down or 'weed out' what you don't like until you come down to someone who's really blown your mind, and then you can make a decision to be exclusive and just stick with that person.....
Not trying to be a feminist , but you men do it ALL the time... and it makes you feel good. It also makes us feel good to be coveted items to more than one man, and getting to know the wonderful things and not so wonderful things about you all until we decide, hey, this one's a keeper...time to lure him into my cave of doom!
I don't necessarily think that means you should sleep with all of them and become a clusterf-ck of disease... but if you're using your protection, and you're selective about who to do the deed with... what's the issue? Its all part of the experience, and like I said, you guys do it effortlessly... at least us women give it a bit of a second thought, haha. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:16:18 AM | | I'm too honest with someone I care about to actively pursue more then one male at a time; and I would care about a potential relationship. Not to mention I suck at lying and would probably feel extremely guilty when spending time with the other said perspective relationship. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:25:37 AM | I would never date multiple women at once so I would expect the woman that I am dating to respect that and not date multiple men at once.. As a matter of fact I don't know of anyone in my life that have dated multiple people at the same time.. So I don't even know where the ones that do are coming from...I don't keep company with users and abusers.. that just ain't my style.. hanging out with different ladies and at different times is one thing, but dating more than one is a no go, so I expect the same behavior from women.   | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:29:50 AM | | well what classifies as dating? I figured dating was basically hanging out/getting to know... is there a more serious connotation to dating that I am totally missing? I've just heard it used so loosely... haha.. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:35:17 AM | | queenofeons, if most guys are smart they wouldn't be kissing every single female that they're seeing and vice versa. Let's hope for the good of world that's not happening but dating these days can be pure F^ckery setups ya know. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:35:22 AM | I would never date multiple women
I don't doubt it a bit but I bet it's an issue of opportunity(nonexistent) rather than principles.
I'd be highly surprised( unless your forum persona is completely tongue in cheek) if you can ever get ONE reasonably presentable/normal woman to date you.
Cindy O | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:38:32 AM | My definition of dating is when you are getting in the sack with the person you are with...
Hanging out is hanging out..here is an example if I take a woman that I know who has a boyfriend to the movies.. and then may out for drinks then that is just "hanging out."
Now if I take a woman to the movies and to eat while also getting in between the sheets with her then that is what I call dating. ..at least that is what everyone I know considers dating these days.. I think the definition of dating has been miss defined by many people..Yes at one time it was just about getting to know the person...now it is about getting personal with the person..at least from my perspective. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:40:49 AM | I don't doubt it a bit but I bet it's an issue of opportunity(nonexistent) rather than principles.
I'd be highly surprised( unless your forum persona is completely tongue in cheek) if you can ever get ONE reasonably presentable/normal woman to date you.
Seems he's here for intimate encounters anyway, (yes, that would be the dreaded "fluid exchange" with strangers), so no - not many legitimate women looking for more than that would date him even if he DID have opportunities, which he clearly doesn't. lol
However the opportunity thing is very true. Sure there are plenty of men out there to date, but a slim few to none who I find attractive enough to juggle anyway; I seem to find one every couple of months who I even look back at twice. If there were, I guess this'd be more of a topic. Unfortunately, I can't date men just to kill boredom, so this isn't really a legitimate problem. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:41:42 AM | Not trying to be a feminist , but you men do it ALL the time...
No. We don't. (And it's not because I can't.)
It also makes us feel good to be coveted items to more than one man...
And I think that is the underlying answer to the question. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 10:53:53 AM | Well then. I guess I just don't know why a woman would date multiple guys... I mean when she does this is she informing all the men she is dating that she is doing said action? And why would she not tell the multitude of men she is dating that she is doing so? What if one of the guys she was dating was also dating her best friend or her sister just to get to know them better? After all it is just dating is it not..there is a fine line between hanging out and dating.. People who date kiss..people who hang out..well they just hang out..    | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 12:03:29 PM | I don't see what the big deal is????......when i was single, i dated a variety of different men, and the purpose of that wasn't sexual in nature or to get 'free meals', but to meet people and discover who im compatible with or not......im sure they were doing the same thing, and at that point of dating, neither one of us owes the other anything, especially exclusivity....
It all stops, of course, when you do become exclusive, but in the meantime, what is wrong with getting out there and meeting different people?... often you discover a lot about yourself, and see what makes others tick, as well as what you really want in a potential partner...... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 12:24:45 PM | I still do not a see a reason why one with good intentions and good reasons would date more than one person at a time.. Dating just to get out and meet others means that the poor fellow is sitting there at the table all the while his date is looking for someone else...Adults should already know who they are and what they want...It should not take a multitude of partners to define who a you are. I know several ladies that often date more that one guy and it is never for good intentions...It is for a free meal and a free ride, but what do I know, I only know what I know from experience and from the actions of others...    | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 1:17:45 PM | Bobisherenow, there is nothing deceptive about dating a few people at once when you are single, your examples are tainted by your own personal experiences, and not always the case.....the men i used to date were not 'poor fellows' sitting at the table, while im hungrily distracted by other men around me, i gave my date my undivided attention, but this man is still a stranger to me, and my intentions were not to 'milk' him for a free meal and get whatever i can out of him, that's ridiculous, my intentions were to get to know him in the time we shared together by communicating and learning more about his personality.....
Sometimes there was a connection and we dated again, sometimes there wasn't and vice versa.....and it doesn't take a multitude of partners to define who you are, but sometimes it takes a multitude of dates to discover what you really want and even if you are self-assured, and know what you want, how do you find out if they have all the qualities you seek if you are denying yourself permission to meet other people as well?.... | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 11/20/2008 1:59:48 PM | I'd sometimes date more than one woman. It was about getting to know the available prospects at the time, in order to see who - if any - would become truly special. Sure, some people abuse the dating process - men and women both - but not enough to be of concern to me personally.
I also think that it's fine - in fact, I think it's a great idea! - if someone I'm dating also dates other people, especially if they are still trying to figure out what they are looking for in a person and relationship. Perhaps some people are insecure about the competition, or perhaps can't refocus their attention on someone else in order to date more than one person. I'm looking for someone who is great for me, and I would hope that they'd choose me for the same reasons based on self-knowledge and experience. I really would not want someone to pick me only because I was their only prospect!
Finally, if I had only dated one person at a time, I probably would have missed out on meeting the person who did turn out to be the best match for me. Dating is a screening process, after all - and like it or not - the more people you meet, the more likely it is you'll meet one who is right for you. | |
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